Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
Should I marry the father of my children?
Question: Hello, I am the mother of three children. Their father left us to go and look for green pastures (I mean daily bread) in another country. He promised to come back and we would marry since we lived in sin for a long time. Due to poverty, we couldn’t afford the marriage ceremony and…
Read MoreMy wife is always complaining. How can I help her?
Question: Hello! I am coming here with a question in regards to my marriage. My wife and I are newlyweds, just a few months into our marriage. However, at the moment things seem to be flipping upside down! My wife is a severely depressed person, and, as a result, we are fighting a lot. I…
Read MoreI don’t think I can wait to get married
Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than three years. Purity is draining me and I’ve suggested we get married as soon as possible. You said this in an answer to a question: “One of the interesting things I’ve learned in life is that if you look at the hard numbers, no one…
Read MoreAre we already married because we committed fornication? What happens to the baby that was conceived?
Question: Praise the Lord! I have a fiancee. We were both born-again Christians, but we fell into the sin of sex. Due to that sin, my fiancee is now pregnant. Initially, some advised us to have an abortion, but we didn’t do that because we knew it was a sin. We asked for forgiveness from…
Read MoreIs voluntary celibacy desired by Christ?
Question: Hi, I perused your site and was looking at your posts about celibacy with which I agree that forced celibacy should not be imposed. Yet, the vow of chastity is a vow that is a gift that is to be honored and revered among persons undertaking this path in their life. Chastity is a…
Read MoreWisdom in Picking a Mate
Text: Genesis 2:18-24 I. The importance of selecting who you will marry A. Marriage is intended by God to be a lifetime commitment – Matthew 19:3-6 B. God hates divorce – Malachi 2:13-16 C. God law has marriage lasting the life of the parties involved – Romans 7:2-3 D. It is God’s intention that the time be spent happily…
Read MoreWe aren’t able to meet the terms necessary for a traditional wedding
Question: Hi, I just have a quick question: I am a lady of 31 years and my boyfriend is 32 years old. We are both working and studying. I am Zulu and he is Venda. Our cultures are not the same. The Vendas pay a lobola, but the Zulu people just have a union of…
Read MoreDoes our fornication mean our marriage will never be blessed, even if we repent?
Question: Hello, Recently an event happened to me and I’ve been looking everywhere to find a solution, including browsing the Internet. Then I landed on your website, which is very useful. I had a girlfriend, and we were really close until recently. We meet each other last year, and I fell in love with her.…
Read MoreIs paying lobola equivalent to marriage?
Question: Greetings, I would like to know if lobola (bride price) is equivalent to marriage with regards to sexual relations. I have recently paid lobola (bride price) but not the full amount, I am saving money and will pay the full price next and then get married. My curiosity is: Is it ok still sinful…
Read MoreAm I really married since the marriage traditions in my community are contrary to God’s laws?
Question: Dear Brother, Thank you for the important site you have created in order to answer those questions that affect Christians’ lives. I live in a community where people are influenced by traditional superstition and idolatry. I found out that our tradition of marriage is as far as heaven from earth compared to the laws…
Read MoreIf I marry, I will lose the income from my husband’s death benefits. What do I do?
Question: I am a widow and I have a young son. My husband passed away several years ago. I connected with an old friend from high school who was going through a divorce at the time and we seemed to hit it off and were there for each other during each other times of need.…
Read MoreYour sermon on marriage really helped me
Question: I hope you’re doing great. I just wanted to give you a quick thanks for your sermon on marriages. It gave me much information regarding the statistics on marriage and how society has taken away its wonderful purpose. It also helped solidify my understanding of how marriage is a tight union between two persons.…
Read MoreMy husband has been bewitched into abandoning his family
Question: Hi, I want to know what the Bible says about my husband. He abandoned me with three small kids. He doesn’t want to see them or support them. He hates us and believes that he will be blessed without us. I sought prayer and found out that he is bewitched by his parents and…
Read MoreShould I marry my atheist boyfriend?
Question: I was with this guy for over a year. We were friends and then started having sex and dating. He is an atheist. I am not. We broke up a month ago but still talk online a lot. We are still friends. He still claims he loves and still talks about wanting to be…
Read MoreMy parents don’t want me to marry the woman I’ve chosen
Question: I am very sad and confused right now. Please, I need help. I have a lady I am in love with, and she is in love with me. I told my parent about her, and they decided to consult some prophets. Based on the prophets’ visions they said I should not marry. They are…
Read MoreIs my marriage vow valid since I did not marry out of love but out of fear?
Question: I married my brother’s widow after God spoke to several pastors and the widow herself that I must marry her. She has four children. The problem with this marriage is that my wife has a lot of feelings and I don’t have any. When we want to have sex, I must think of anything that…
Read MoreDo I need to disclose my savings to my fiancee?
Question: Once again I come with a question that I hope you can assist me with. I’m on the verge of marriage, we have been going to counseling, and I wanted to know what advice you can give about the financial status of a married couple. I discussed with my fiancée about being open, and…
Read MoreWe’ve been together for seven years and have a child together. Isn’t that as good as being married?
Question: Hi, I have a question about sex before marriage. My girlfriend and I have been together for seven years, and we have a child together. She has gone off and on for years to church and I never. We have had our share of problems and are working together to be better people. She…
Read MoreWhat is the biblical definition of marriage?
Question: What is the biblical definition of marriage according to both the Old and New Testaments? Answer: Marriage is a special covenant entered into between a man and a woman for the purpose of establishing a new family. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his…
Read MoreIf we get married in a church, does it mean we are not married until we get married again civilly?
Question: Hello, I’m from a different country than my boyfriend I will marry my boyfriend later this year. We are getting married with a fiance visa, but seems like the civil wedding has to be in his country first, so we are just going to get married in my country in a church wedding. Our…
Read MoreI love two girls, but I don’t know who I should marry
Question: Please help me. I am in my early twenties. I have been in a relationship for three years, but we did not have sex. Later when I moved away from the girl for my higher studies. I fell in love with another girl, who is not a Christian. I did not break up with…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a couple to decide not to have children?
Question: I have read several articles about Christian couples who choose not to have children. One article called it moral rebellion to willingly choose not to have children, while others of course say that God calls people to do other things that may not involve children. I know when God created man and woman, he…
Read MoreCan a couple, who committed fornication, manage to have a good marriage?
Question: Hello, First of all, thank you for your site. It seems to have good advice on many issues. I have read your article “Dealing with the Effects of Pre-Marital Sex.” I have a question relating to the article, but which is not covered directly in the article: How should a couple, who are planning…
Read MoreCan I marry my brother’s ex-girlfriend? (2)
Question: Dear Sir, I appreciate your website and how deep and rich your answers to pertinent questions have helped to shape people’s lives. I have been dating a lady who was once dating my younger brother. They were both in the same church, and they dated as believers with the consciousness to keep the relationship…
Read MoreShould we marry without her parents’ blessing?
Question: Hi, I am facing a heartbreaking situation right now. I met my fiancee two years ago and I happily discovered we have the same vision: being totally consecrated to the Lord. She is a very good and spiritual person to me and we understand each other very well. When we met, we were in…
Read MoreShould I marry the woman my brother once slept with?
Question: First of all may God bless you for this site. I committed fornication for the first time when I was at the age of 21 years. Since then I have not been able to control myself from fornication. I always have regretted doing it. I want to stop it, but I can’t. The more…
Read MoreMy girlfriend won’t get married in my church and I won’t get married in her church
Question: Hello, I have a question and need further advice. My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years and have been living together for 6 years. I have recently gotten saved. I was raised Catholic but have converted to Christianity. When I had found out about sexual immorality and it not being right…
Read MoreIs it a sin to marry a woman who has committed adultery?
Question: Is it a sin to marry a woman who has committed adultery? She is not married and I’m willing to forgive her and start afresh with her. Answer: Technically, you have nothing to forgive her. When she committed adultery, she sinned against God, against the man’s wife, and against herself. “Flee sexual immorality. Every…
Read MoreI am concerned about whether I should marry my fiancée
Question: Good day sir, I found this address online and I wish to seek your advice toward my growing life. I use to have a fiancee. We both planned to spend the rest of our life together but I kept feeling it was not working. Why? This is simply because it is my prayer to…
Read MoreMy wife embarrassed me in public and I ended up slapping her
Question: I just came across this ministry column. I read a few emails and responses and I need your help too. Recently my wife provoked me badly in front of my friends, screaming and asking for ‘her’ car keys. Keys to a car we recently acquired together and which has caused us many arguments since…
Read MoreMy father refuses to consent to my marriage because my girlfriend comes from the same clan, though we are only distantly related
Question: Hi, I just read a reply you made to someone about marrying without parental consent. I happen to be in a similar situation right now. I hail from a village in Nigeria where marriage within the same clan is considered taboo irrespective of how distant the relationship is. My fiancee and I are both from…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a husband to lust for his wife?
Question: Dear Minister, My wife and I have grown distant over the years because she has had many anger issues, substance abuse problems, and trouble with the law. We have several beautiful children and have been married for almost 20 years. Even though she committed adultery on me several years ago, I still love her.…
Read MoreI need to testify against my alcoholic husband. What do I do?
Question: Hello, I came across your website and thought I would tell you my situation and get your perspective on it. I’ve been married for a little over five years. My husband is an alcoholic. He can go for months without a drink, then once he does, he’s usually off and running to do drugs.…
Read MoreHow can I have a good marriage when my parents set such a bad example?
Question: I really need your insight into this situation. My parents have been married for over 25 years. However, it pains me to say that nearly 20 out of those 26 years my father has committed adultery continuously, whereas my mother has remained faithful. I must note that they are not Christians in the sense…
Read MoreIs my husband justified in finding another woman because I am a stay-at-home mom?
Question: My husband lost his job and because of a hard time finding work in the state that we lived in, he ended up staying with a relative in another state. During that time he decided to get involved with another woman. We have a young daughter, and I am a stay-at-home mom. My husband…
Read MoreWhat can I do about my bitter and angry wife?
Question: Dear Minister, Is it OK for my wife to be bitter, hate me, and punish me regularly, but then says she forgives as a Christian? Over five years ago, “out of nowhere,” my wife had a sex affair because she was “mad at me,” when I had done nothing to her to provoke any…
Read MoreWhat can I do? My husband seems to have no desire for sex
Question: Hello, I am a woman and my question is regarding sexual lust and perversion; therefore, you can understand my asking you and not my home pastor, especially when most churches still regard women who struggle with these sorts of issues with a certain type of disdain. As were most females with my issues you…
Read MoreWhat do I do? The girl I got pregnant wants me to marry her
Question: I had a girl I loved so much. I visited her parents and relatives and visited mine too. We agreed to marry, but before the marriage, it was found out that I had impregnated her. I left her silently and married another girl. I did this because I am a church officer. I was…
Read MoreI can’t settle on who I want to marry
Question: Thank you so much for creating this platform, God bless you. I graduated from college a few years ago. I have tried to work in some organizations, but yet to be fulfilled. Presently, I am still looking for a good job to sustain my living. I am the firstborn of my family. I have…
Read MoreShould I marry the girl I’ve been having sex with?
Question: God bless you, I am struggling with a decision. I have a girlfriend whom I have been with three years already. She is a very nice girl, her parents have raised her very well. She is respectful, not selfish, very polite, and not sloppy in terms of doing what a young 21 year old…
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