Does this mean that if you have sex before you’re married it’s a sin?

Question: I accidentally discovered your site and found some interesting topics and I came across the topic of pregnancy. My question is is there a right time where you can conceive? Because my girlfriend and I have tried three or four times but she never got pregnant. We want to have a child. I’ve seen…

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What do you think people did before marriage was invented?

Question: I think you should revaluate your teaching kids that they should wait until marriage to have sex. There’s nothing wrong with it! I’ve been having sex with my girlfriend for years. Besides what do you think people did before marriage was invented? Answer: The actual letter was vastly more rude and crude. I was…

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Will fasting show God that I want to change?

Question: I am a twenty-year-old girl who recently back-slid heavily from our Father’s ways. I thought that I was really sorry that last time I committed the sin of fortification and drunkenness and would stay away from it; however, it is proven not to be that way, and recently I committed those sins, several times,…

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What types of touching are forbidden?

Question: I was just wondering, in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship what is considered “too far?” I’m referring to touching breasts, genital touching, oral sex, and the like. Is touching OK if all clothing is still on? Is seeing one’s undergarments a sin? For me, personally, all forms of sex are sex and are forbidden, but touching…

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Did I love him too much?

Question: I just turned 21 years old and I have been through a lot. Life has not always been easy for me. I want to be saved and do the right things to make it in heaven. I am a Christian. Lately, I have been reading the bible on my own because I want to know and love God and Jesus better. However,…

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Where does the Bible specifically say sex outside of marriage is wrong?

Question: I just read your article. Why is it that all you preachers say sex outside of marriage is sexual immorality? The Greek word porneia means harlotry or idolatry. So how is it that Leviticus 18 states “sexual immorality” and sex outside of marriage is not listed? Where does it specifically say in the Bible…

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You should stop bullying people about sexual sins

Question: Preaching fire and brimstone to young, confused and naive children when they turn to you for advice and help in what is surely a very scary time is despicable. I suggest in the future you direct their questions to reliable medical sites that might actually help them with their problems rather than scare them…

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Why do you say that sex without being married is a sin?

Question: Hi! I’m a 21-year-old girl from Iceland and I found this site by accident as I was looking for answers on the Internet about the chance of getting pregnant when using withdrawal as contraception. I found the answer here and want to thank you for a good explanation. I have a boyfriend and we are…

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How do I deal with bitterness against the two fathers of my two daughters?

Question: I would like to know how I can deal with bitterness arising from raising my children alone when their fathers just don’t show any interest. I have two daughters, one from before my marriage, and one out of wedlock. I’m divorced now, but both my children’s fathers refuse to take any interest in them,…

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Why Sex Without Being Married is a Sin

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/WhySexWithoutBeingMarriedIsASin.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: II Corinthians 12:19-21 I.         I received the following note: “Hi! I’m a 21 year old girl from Iceland, and I found this site by accident as I was looking for answers on the Internet about … contraception. I found the answer here and want to thank you for a good…

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How do I tell someone they are sinning?

Question: I have a slight problem that I don’t think I know how to fix, and this is concerning one of my family members.  He has been having sex with his girlfriend for a while now, and one day I stumble on to it (don’t ask me how and they don’t know I know). Well,…

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Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it doesn’t lead to sex?

Question: Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it most definitely does not lead to sex? Answer: A “hand job” is slang for mutual masturbation; using the hand to stimulate the genitals. Saying that it does not lead to sex is a misnomer. It would be more accurate to state that in…

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Is kissing and fondling my boyfriend fornication?

Question: My boyfriend and I indulge in kissing and fondling only. Could this be fornication? Answer: The Bible states that sexual touching is not right prior to marriage. “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The reason is…

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Is living together, but not sleeping together, a sin?

Question: I’ve just got back from my youth group after having a discussion about living together before getting married. I’ve searched your articles and I don’t think they quite answer the question “Is living together before marriage a sin?” We actually want to know is living together, but not sleeping together, before getting married a…

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Can a short handjob make you pregnant?

Question: Hello! My boyfriend and I were laying on the couch talking and just relaxing. I gave him a hand job for about 4 minutes; he did not ejaculate or pre-cum. I had my pants on also. Are there any odds of my getting pregnant? This was also four days after my period ended. I…

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I Will Take Sickness Away from the Midst of You

by Bryan Matthew Dockens The Almighty told Israel, “So you shall serve the Lord your God, and He will bless your bread and your water. And I will take sickness away from the midst of you” (Exodus 23:25). Although the Old Testament has been done away with, having been replaced by the New Covenant, it…

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Will God forgive me if I continue to sin?

Question: I would like to know if God will forgive me if I sin? What if I asked for His forgiveness, but there are times that I am still doing the bad things, such as sleeping with my fiance though we are not yet married? There are times I realize that I have done something…

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Is it a sin to have sex with my ex-husband?

Question: Is it a sin if you are having intercourse with your ex-husband? The reason for divorce is adultery. He has a girlfriend but denies it. He is a born again Christian. I still love him but he never speaks about making up, we only have intercourse. Is this biblically wrong? Answer: “Marriage is honorable…

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Is it Acceptable to Live Together Before Marriage?

by Richard Mansel via Forthright Magazine When we become Christians, our perspective changes from the will of the flesh to the will of the Father in heaven. The old ways of pleasure cease to be the guiding light of our days. We have a higher calling based on new criteria. Men make their decisions based on…

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Can you get an STD from anal sex without a condom?

Question: I have a quick and silly question, but I want to be safe. I’m not a virgin but the girl I’m seeing is. I’ve had sexual intercourse with two other girls who are clean. Now my question is if I’m having anal intercourse with my girlfriend at the moment, is it necessary to use…

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Should you bleed more after sex?

Question: I just had sex with my boyfriend and I’m having my period, but afterward, it seemed like I bled a lot. Does this mean that he popped my cherry or is it standard? Answer: What it means is that you have sinned and placed your soul in jeopardy. By your own statement you had…

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