Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
I feel I will commit adultery if I divorce my husband
Question: I grew up in the church and was baptized. I got married and my husband was baptized as well after we were married a couple of years later. My husband left me, well abandoned me, and does not go to the church anymore. I have been studying Scriptures. I want to file for divorce,…
Read MoreCan my daughter be forgiven of her adultery?
Question: My daughter went abroad to seek for better income for her family. She left her husband and children with me. But as the years went by, she revealed that she is living with another man, and they already have a child. Her kids never knew about the situation, but her husband did. He tried…
Read MoreDid Jesus ever require someone to quit a marriage or walk away from family?
Question: He was married and his wife was going to leave him for a man who just got out of prison. He begged her to not leave. He figured they had sex but was not certain. She reluctantly came back to him. Several years later, his drinking and mental abuse plus he cheated caused her…
Read MoreHow do I deal with a husband who wants a divorce just to be alone?
Question: I have a question. I have been with my husband for many years. We both believe in God, but he has not been wanting to pray with me lately. He also has been speaking about divorce. I don’t want one. I asked him why does he want a divorce and he said he just…
Read MoreCan a marriage be annulled?
Question: Hello, I was curious to get your thoughts on remarriage. Would a first marriage still be a valid, permanent, or real in God’s eyes if: People do it while on drugs or are drunk and then later, had it annulled, without consummating the marriage and remarried later in life? Would God still consider them…
Read MoreIs a marriage valid if it was only done to gain citizenship?
Question: If a man was married for 3 years only because he wanted to come to the USA and then divorced can he remarry? The marriage in his eyes was only for US citizenship. Answer: What is missing is a respect for the marriage covenant (Malachi 2:13-16). A covenant is a special vow before God…
Read MoreI thought my husband repented after his affair, but he divorced me anyway
Question: I emailed a few years back regarding my husband’s while in another country in which an outside kid was born from the short fling. I didn’t find out about it until after he returned and the kid was born. At the time he attended services as we’re both members. I decided to forgive him…
Read MoreMy husband wasn’t honest with me before our marriage
Question: I married and discovered my husband was unable to perform his marital duties. He knew but did not disclose it. Further, he said he had a job but was laid off months prior. I made every attempt to live by the law. When I discovered he still wasn’t working, had emptied the 401k, and…
Read MoreAre all marriages spiritually binding?
Question: Hello, I attend a church of Christ, and my boyfriend of several years was baptized about a few years ago. We broke up last year for several months due to some differences but have since decided to be back together. My boyfriend is in the military and during the time we were broken up,…
Read MoreWhat does a wife do when she finds out her husband lied about committing adultery against his former wife?
Question: This question is in reference to a friend. She grew up in the church, and she was baptized. She entered into a marriage with someone, but her spouse committed adultery against her. My friend remarried sometime later and was under the assumption that she was entering into a scriptural marriage. Her new spouse had…
Read MoreI want out of my marriage
Question: Good morning, I have serious problems with my marriage. I’m married to a pastor, who was a man of God. Recently I have found out that he has been searching for pornography with his phone. He also flirted with women on social media. It has been going on for a long time. I confronted…
Read MoreRespecting Silence
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/RespectingSilence.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Mark 10:46-52 I. What do you do when witnesses to an event give two different sets of details? A. Matthew 28:1-7 mentions an angel rolling away the stone blocking the entrance and sitting upon the stone. The angel talks to the women when they get to the tomb. B. Mark 16:1-7…
Read MoreShould my friend leave her husband so she can worship the Christ?
Question: Dear Brother, Greetings in the name of Jesus Christ. This question is regarding my colleague. She was born in a Hindu family but accepted Jesus in her youth. Her parents did not allow her to marry a Christian, so she married a Hindu, concealing the fact that she was a Christian. Her husband did…
Read MoreCan you please explain why Mark and Luke don’t contradict Matthew about remarriage?
Question: Can you please explain why Mark and Luke don’t contradict Matthew about remarriage? Matthew records the porneia exception, but Mark and Luke reject all exceptions. Answer: You are making an assumption that because something is not mentioned that it is a rejection. That is not true. All you can know is that it wasn’t…
Read MoreCan a woman divorce her husband because he hid the fact that he was impotent?
Question: What can the church do in a situation where a sister says she has been deceived by a brother who is impotent? He concealed the matter until he had married the sister. Can the sister marry another person since she desires children and was misled? Answer: The short answer is, “no.” She married the…
Read MoreMy husband cheated a lot and I finally divorced him. What will be my punishment?
Question: Hi, I’m having a serious married problem: my husband cheats a lot. We have children together. He would sleep out as if he doing a good thing and does seem to care about how I feel. I took him to family court for counseling. He was upset because he thinks he’s a grown man…
Read MoreMatthew was written for the Jews, so the law on marriage and divorce only applies to the Jews
Question: I was taught that you have to look at who’s talking and who they are talking to. In Matthew 19, Jesus was talking to the Jews, and the Law of Moses was given to the Jews and not the Gentiles, even though Matthew is a New Testament book, so the law on marriage and…
Read MoreThe wife of the man I want to marry is preventing his divorce
Question: I am an orphan, and I was walking close to God. I yearned for a life partner to serve God with but the one who came my way was a man studying to be a pastor who lied to me. He said that he was only one year younger than me and that he…
Read MoreYour responses offer no grace
Question: Regarding: Can I remarry because my wife left the church and left me? Sorry, but your responses offer no grace. I think you fail to understand Scripture properly. There are zero logical reasons why a man must remain bound to loneliness because his rebellious wife left him. Another unhumble Pharisee with no real hope…
Read MoreThe Church in Crisis
by Edward O. Bragwell, Sr. I have a sermon titled “Crises in the Jerusalem Church” that I preach from time to time. It is based on notes that I took on a sermon I heard brother Clinton Hamilton preach many years ago. It points to several crises faced by the first congregation of Christians ever.…
Read MoreCan parents annul their daughter’s marriage?
Question: Please Minister, Can it be right for a parent to annul the marriage of their daughter based on disrespectful behavior shown toward them by their son-in-law? Can a married woman divorce her husband based on the same reason? Answer: A marriage covenant is between a husband and wife (Matthew 19:4-6). Parents are not a…
Read MoreShould I give her another chance?
Question: Sir, I have written you before about my divorce and you responded, and I appreciate that. I am a member of the church of Christ and have been for many years. I listen to sermons on your website daily for at least 2-3 hours per day and really enjoy them. You are a very…
Read MoreWhere should I go from here? I’m an alcoholic, my wife has left me, and I doubt my baptism
Question: To start off, I was baptized at the church of Christ I attended. Before that time I was getting really bad into drugs, and my drinking was off the charts. I don’t remember what I knew of Christ, just that I needed to be baptized to enter Heaven. I managed to give up drugs…
Read MoreCan a divorced, single Christian serve in the church?
Question: These days it seems as if many couples, including Christians, do not give their marriages a chance and their marriages end quickly because they are not willing to give up their stubborn ways. My husband and I have been married a long time and went through a lot of struggles, especially our first year…
Read MoreSelfishness and Marriage
by J. R. Bronger Divorce! This word used to call to mind “breaking up a home,” and with it trauma, unhappiness, and all manner of problems. Today, however, it is so commonplace that it rarely raises an eyebrow. There is no need to overwhelm you with statistics in order to prove that nearly half of…
Read MoreYour website led me back to Christ after twenty years
Question: I wanted to send a personal email and thank you for your teachings on your website. I was a member of the church of Christ my entire life. In my middle 20s, I was briefly married and divorced with the cause not being adultery. My ex-spouse went to prison for a felonious crime. I…
Read MoreIf a person is divorced for fornication, does that mean he cannot reconcile with his former spouse?
Question: Hi Jeff, I talked about the subject of divorce and remarriage with a preacher. I listened to what he said carefully but couldn’t prove him wrong. I don’t want to let my biases get in the way, but we’re not in agreement. I told him I won’t preach on the subject in the pulpit…
Read MoreWhy is the last phrase in Matthew 19:9 missing in some translations?
Question: In Matthew 19:9, I can’t find the phrase “and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery” in my translation. Answer: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9 NKJV). “And I say…
Read MoreIf a man marries someone who lies about her right to marry, is he an adulterer for the rest of his life?
Question: Dear Jeff, I would so greatly appreciate hearing from you. I have read the material on your website regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage. But I have a special situation I feel unable to sort through regarding a very dear brother in Christ. He was deceived by his first wife. She lied about why she…
Read MoreI moved out after my wife committed adultery a second time, but I don’t know what to do next
Question: Dear Sir, Here is my problem: I have been married for almost twenty years and dated for five years prior to getting married. We were both virgins when we got married, but we did do things that were not right, such as petting and mutual masturbation at times. I have separated from my wife…
Read MoreMy ex-boyfriend married someone else but wants to come back to me. What should I do?
Question: I have never been married, but I do have children. (I know — not good.) My child’s father and I broke up and a few weeks later he married the girl with whom he had cheated on me. After nearly a year of no communication, he reached out to me. We discovered that we…
Read MoreI am miserable after my divorce
Question: I recently got a divorce, not by my choosing, but because of my actions — I cheated on my wife on numerous occasions. I am also a recovering drug addict. I can’t honestly say how many times I left her all alone at the house with our children. I put her through misery, not…
Read MoreI found out that the man I married was already married two years prior
Question: After my marriage to a boy, I came to know that he is already married to a girl two years before my marriage. In my country, marriage is a big deal in a girl’s life. I haven’t made any decisions regarding what I’ll do as I am already married to him. Please give me…
Read MoreDid my mother die in sin?
Question: I want to make clear why this is so important for me. It would be either way when it comes to a mother, but given how much I owe her, it is especially concerning for me. I apologize if it’s a bit long. I was born in Texas (raised there too). My mom raised…
Read MorePermitted Does Not Equate to Desired
by Doy Moyer There is a difference between what God permitted to happen subsequent to sin entering the world and what God desired from the beginning and ultimately makes right in Christ. Jesus illustrates this point: “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has…
Read MoreWhat if someone didn’t realize they were divorced because of their spouse’s adultery?
Question: Many years ago a couple got married and after a short time the husband had a “secret affair” and for obvious reasons did not tell her about it. He just said their marriage was a mistake and he didn’t love her and divorced her. Some years later Betty married another man, Tom, and they…
Read MoreMy mother promised to divorce my drug-using, adulterous dad, but now she’s changed her mind
Question: Hi, I’m a 15-year-old member of the church. My father has gone into drugs and adulterous relationships. My mother promised me that she would get a divorce and that she thought it was best. I have prayed and studied about this matter for literally weeks. My father has now tried to return to our…
Read MoreIs an engaged couple bound to each other just as if they are married?
Question: Hi I read an article on your website that gave me the impression that you are a God-fearing man who wants to make choices based on God’s words. I am troubled with a problem, and I need advice. I got engaged some time ago, but my fiancee left me. The Bible tells that Joseph,…
Read MoreCan I remarry if I encouraged my wife to see other men before I became a Christian?
Question: Before I was a believer I had encouraged my wife to have sex with another man in the twisted idea that it would bring a spark back into our poor sex life. In essence, I was encouraging her to become a “swinger”. Well, she eventually did just that but also fell in love with…
Read MoreMy husband left me and I’m not certain if I should divorce him
Question: I met my husband 21 years ago. We never married until last year. We have two children 9 and 11. When I met him, we had a great seven years, after that things went downhill, we left each other several times and then we had our first son, he left me when I was…
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