Posts Tagged ‘dating’
My father refuses to consent to my marriage because my girlfriend comes from the same clan, though we are only distantly related
Question: Hi, I just read a reply you made to someone about marrying without parental consent. I happen to be in a similar situation right now. I hail from a village in Nigeria where marriage within the same clan is considered taboo irrespective of how distant the relationship is. My fiancee and I are both from…
Read MoreIs the reason my life is going downhill because of my sexual sins with my girlfriend?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for some time now. We sought out advice from our pastor, who suggested we separate to refocus and rededicate our lives to Christ so that if and when reunited we would be better equipped to fight off temptation. We didn’t follow that advice. Instead, we fled.…
Read MoreI found out my girlfriend has been lying to me
Question: I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year, and for about the first 10 months she lied to me that she is a virgin. She always told me that those who lose their virginity before marriage are sinners. I started loving her for her thoughts. She is Christian and I…
Read MoreDoes it matter if the man you are dating is a virgin or not?
Question: Good day, sir, Please, I have always wondered if when an individual starts dating if whether the man is a virgin or not is something to look into. Should a female Christian virgin be worried if her partner isn’t a virgin? I know there’s a lot of emphasis on women staying virgins and not…
Read MoreI had sex with a coworker. I’m afraid my boyfriend will not forgive me. What can I do?
Question: I fornicated. I feel so horrible, especially the fact that it wasn’t with my Christian boyfriend. It was with someone at my job. I don’t know what to do. I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I couldn’t control myself. Now I feel horrible because I haven’t told anyone what I’ve done,…
Read MoreIs my boyfriend the reason for my nightmares?
Question: I had a boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for a while. We were involved in sexual things, but we didn’t have sex. But I had some spiritual issues, and I got delivered, but I went back to it. I had a dream that if I continued with the sins, I wouldn’t be…
Read MoreHow can I have a good marriage when my parents set such a bad example?
Question: I really need your insight into this situation. My parents have been married for over 25 years. However, it pains me to say that nearly 20 out of those 26 years my father has committed adultery continuously, whereas my mother has remained faithful. I must note that they are not Christians in the sense…
Read MoreShould I move on and let this man repair his family?
Question: Good day, sir! I’d like to thank you in advance for reading my letter. I’ve been quite troubled over my current situation and I hope you can offer me some advice. My guy and I have been together for some time now, and I’ve had hopes for an impending engagement. But as of late…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my mother who has shunned my non-Christian boyfriend?
Question: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. He’s a good guy, but he is not a Christian. He is not an atheist and is still sitting on the fence about God. He wasn’t raised going to church and he’s quite open to going and learning when I started…
Read MoreThere is a girl I like, but I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship with her
Question: Good day, Thanks a lot for all the help you offer through this website. I met a girl in the area where I currently work. We live in the same building and we belong to the same group. We have been very close for the past six months and a lot of people even…
Read MoreI’ve become pregnant by a man I’ve been dating for two years, but he won’t leave his other girlfriend
Question: I am a young lady, aged 24 years. I have been dating a man for two years now. When we first met he told me he had a girlfriend and a child, and that he wasn’t happy where he was. We continued with our friendship up until it turned into a relationship. When our…
Read MoreShould I date a man who doesn’t believe baptism is essential to salvation?
Question: Hello, I am so grateful for your advice. Maybe you can help me with something that I have been trying to figure out. I have a friend I met in college last year and remained friends after I moved with my family about three hours away. We talked about God and life and what…
Read MoreShould my girlfriend share an apartment with an unmarried guy?
Question: My girlfriend and I are in a sticky situation and I would like some godly advice on this matter. We are currently in a long-distance relationship because of our education and live a few hours apart. She lives in an apartment with a roommate of hers. Her roommate can no longer afford to pay…
Read MoreShould I wait for this man to marry me?
Question: Hello, I read at your site the many questions and the answers you gave were based on the Bible which was beautiful to see. I wanted to tell you something. Over fifteen years ago, I made a choice not to have sex with a man until I get married. I met a man who…
Read MoreI can’t settle on who I want to marry
Question: Thank you so much for creating this platform, God bless you. I graduated from college a few years ago. I have tried to work in some organizations, but yet to be fulfilled. Presently, I am still looking for a good job to sustain my living. I am the firstborn of my family. I have…
Read MoreI love my girlfriend, but she won’t stop talking to her prior boyfriend who is also her cousin
Question: My girlfriend and I are in a strong relationship for about an year or so. I love her so much and she loves me. But there is a little problem that’s growing bigger in my mind and occupies a large part of my mind. The problem is she has been with a couple of…
Read MoreDid God send my boyfriend a sign that we should break up?
Question: Hi there, Recently at church, I met this man who right from the start was different from all the other guys I know. He had a deep passion for Christ and was so excited about getting to know him more. His excitement was contagious and I found that through hanging out with him and…
Read MoreI’ve sinned with a girl, but our parents won’t let us marry
Question: I was deeply in love with a girl. She is a Hindu and I’m a Christian. We were deeply in love and lost control of our love. We had intercourse and oral sex. We learned that our parents are not willing to let us marry and live happy lives. In anger, I sexually harassed…
Read MoreI don’t know what else to do. If my boyfriend doesn’t come back, I think I will kill myself
Question: I am 22 years and am a final year college student. I don’t know much about this site and when I googled I got this link. I am writing this email seeking help. First I am a Hindu, but I believe in Christ. I want something that convinces me and makes me believe that…
Read MoreIs my boyfriend cheating on me or am I just being hormonal?
Question: Hi, I’m having trouble figuring out if I’m being paranoid, or if my soon-to-be husband is cheating on me. I’m 8 months pregnant. I had an episode of angina several days ago. My doctor said it was caused by excessive stress and it could happen again. Now my fiance is being careful with his…
Read MoreI’m not happy about my girlfriend’s past and I’m afraid it might happen again
Question: I have been with my girlfriend for about a year. We have known each other for about five years. I’m not happy about her past, and it scares me if she will ever do it again. She had a boyfriend for four years, but it wasn’t a really nice relationship. He treated her badly…
Read MoreI feel the Lord doesn’t want me to be happy because He has not sent me a wife
Question: I feel like the Lord does not want me to be happy because He has not sent me the right woman yet that I want to marry. I am already 34 years old and I have a very good job and a lot of good things going on. It just seems like women only…
Read MoreIs it OK to ask a girl for a date who is seeing someone else?
Question: Hi There was a discussion in which I’d like you to help out. Suppose one is interested in a certain lady who happens to be in a relationship with someone else. Is it OK to try to ‘displace’ the other gentleman? After all the two aren’t married, so technically she doesn’t ‘belong’ to him.…
Read MoreHow do I handle marrying a Hindu?
Question: I am a Christian, baptized when I was 16 years old. I used to live with my parents and I never used to eat anything offered to idols or entered temples. Four years later I thought food won’t hurt us nor would going to temples hurt our faith in God. The only thing I…
Read MoreI can’t find anyone to marry
Question: Dear Minister, I’ve prayed, I’ve fasted, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I can talk to anyone at church, so I need some help. I’m 31, I’m single and I have no children. I’m so frustrated because everyone I know is in relationships or they have kids. My unsaved…
Read MoreI love a Muslim man, but we won’t be seeing each other much. What do you think?
Question: Hi, I’m 20 years old and, though baptized as a Catholic and brought up as one. I have never really practiced it. Because of problems and issues while growing up, I lost faith and resented God. But that has changed and though not baptized as a Christian, I would like to consider myself as…
Read MoreMy long-time girlfriend told me she won’t be marrying me. What do I do?
Question: Hello Sir, I am 23. I met a girl about a year before we entered college. She was a believer, which was what attracted me to talk with her, as my dad was ungodly and my mom tried hard to bring me to Christ. Thus, I was never exposed to powerful messages or deeper…
Read MoreI lied about my virginity to keep my boyfriend. What do I do now?
Question: I have been in a relationship before, but it didn’t end well. My heart was broken from that moment. I felt miserable. But this nice Christian guy came into my life. He is very nice and he takes me to church. I started to know more and more about God. God healed all the…
Read MoreIs it bad that I left my boyfriend because we don’t believe the same things?
Question: Good day sir, I have this guilt that keeps haunting me. I started having pre-marital sex which eventually led to me getting pregnant. Because I come from a religious family, I decided to have an abortion so that I didn’t bring shame, disgrace, and pain to my family. I know it wasn’t the right…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my mother trying to break up me and my girlfriend?
Question: We recently moved in with my mom. She has been trying to break me and my girlfriend up by saying things to her behind my back. I’m trying to get an apartment, but I have to wait until a month and a half from now to get it. I tell my girlfriend to be…
Read MoreHow can I be a good friend to a guy that has lots of problems with drugs and drinking?
Question: Hi, So long story short, I was led into the life of a guy with a lot of problems (drugs and drinking). I got to know him as a friend and he expressed how much he would like to change. I started talking to him more and he attended church with me. He wasn’t perfect after…
Read MoreYour answer was complete, accurate, no holds barred real, and yet still encouraging
Question: In response to the 22-year-old guy with the 28-year-old girlfriend, I just want to say that I so love and appreciate the way you answered that gentlemen’s question. It was complete, accurate, no holds barred real, and yet still encouraging and God and Bible filled. I wanted to pass along this encouragement to the writer…
Read MoreHow do I assure my girlfriend that I’m the right man for her, despite what her prophet said?
Question: I’m a 28 years old guy who is dating a 22 years old girl, who just graduated with her bachelor’s degree. We have been dating for nine months. I’m a Christian. We don’t attend the same church. At the moment she is not getting along with me and she is considering terminating our relationship…
Read MoreI’m interested in a girl, but I don’t know if she is a Christian or not
Question: I do a lot of theatre in my area and a few months ago I did a show. During this show, I met a girl. She and I had to wait with each other for our cues in the same hallway during one song, so we talked a little there during rehearsals. On opening…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My boyfriend says he won’t give up sex
Question: I didn’t explore the website, but a particular question and answer on the site really are starting to plant a seed in my life. I understand that sex before marriage is wrong. I’ve sought an opinion on my situation from a lot of online sites and I never got a response. My boyfriend and…
Read MoreWhat Do You Do For Fun?
by Jim McGuiggan in The Irish Papers A young man tried to talk a young lady into sexual intercourse but she wouldn’t hear tell of it. Then he offered her booze she wouldn’t touch. A little later he wanted to share some marijuana with her but she turned that down, too. By this time he was…
Read MoreI want to marry a godly man, but I seem far from it
Question: Hello and praise the Lord! I normally don’t do this but I am in need of help. First I am a born-again believer and have been living for God for over a decade. My issue is this: I gave my life to Christ early twenties and from that point on I vowed to save…
Read MoreDid I make a mistake telling him I am not letting him go?
Question: Hi! I have a huge problem, I am dating a guy with a kid. He doesn’t live with the kid; he says he has issues with the mom. At first, I didn’t mind dating him, but now it’s bothering me a lot. He goes to see the baby and sleeps in the same room…
Read MoreMy mother threatens not to attend my wedding if I marry my Catholic boyfriend
Question: Hi, I am a 20-year-old daughter and student, currently living with my mother. I have a brother whose age isn’t far different than mine. My parents divorced when we were little, and my mother gained custody of both of us. We’ve been living together since. She is a proud mother with a good constant…
Read MoreIs it wrong for my boyfriend to stay in my room while having financial trouble?
Question: I’m in a serious relationship. My man is having some financial and accommodation issues. My parents and I decided to assist him until he can stand on his feet. We brought him in to stay with us. We sleep in the same room, but we are not having sex. I want to know if…
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