Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
How do I talk to my husband about God?
Question: How can I talk to my husband about God? He is a very confused soul. He doesn’t believe that the Bible was written by God. He believes that it was written by men. He thinks that religion is overstated and not really worth anything. I don’t really have a good track record with him…
Read MoreShould Christians get counseling?
Question: Does the Christian faith believe in theological counseling? I believe that is what it is called. My boyfriend went through it after his divorce. My boyfriend’s ex-wife was committing numerous adulteries. He received counseling through faith with a minister and not through medicines. Do you think this is a good idea for us to…
Read MoreIs it wrong to self-pleasure while thinking of a spouse?
Question: I am wondering what your opinion is on self-pleasure while thinking of a spouse. It is not adultery because you are married to that person, and I am not sure if lust still applies when you are married. Answer: I know of no argument against it other than if a person uses self-pleasure as…
Read MoreIf my boyfriend and I touched each other’s private areas, does that mean we aren’t virgins? When we were younger, we pretended to get married. It felt real. Does that mean we are married?
Question: I’ve read a couple of responses that you have given to other people and I find them very helpful. This site is just the site that I’ve been looking for to help me with my situation. I have a couple of questions and I was wondering if you could help me out. I’m presently engaged…
Read MoreWhy Marriages Fail
by Jefferson David Tant via Vanguard, December 1982 The failure of marriage has become the American way of life — a significant change from former generations. In 1870, one of 34 marriages ended in divorce. By 1900, the rate had risen to one in twelve, increasing to one in five by 1940. According to an article…
Read MoreWhen a Man Has Taken a New Wife
by Bryan Matthew Dockens To ensure the longevity of marriage, newlyweds should take serious measures to protect their relationship. Enjoy Your Honeymoon Did you know the concept of a honeymoon originated with God? Of course, He never called it that, but notice: “When a man has taken a new wife, he shall not go out…
Read MoreHow can one be a good wife when it is obvious her husband doesn’t care?
Question: I beg your pardon for bothering you with this question, but I am at a complete loss as to who to ask. I have been studying and researching how to be a good or better Christian wife and none of the resources I have found really reflect my problem. My husband and I were…
Read MoreIf I marry the girl I love, I will be rebelling against my parents. What do I do?
Question: I have some bad news. Over the past month, I had tried to convince my parents that the girl I love was the right one for me but all was in vain. And, yes, I would have gone ahead and heeded your advice, but the culture I belong to is very conservative wherein it…
Read MoreHow do I handle my verbally abusive husband?
Question: I have been married for several years and about the same time, I became a member of the Lord’s church. I am in a situation where I am not sure what to do as a Christian. The whole time I have been a Christian I have fallen many times, but every time I try…
Read MoreI am convinced I do not really deserve happiness. Am I being rational?
Question: I have been struggling with some problems recently. I was baptized into Christ three years ago, and have been married for several years. My wife was baptized into Christ while in high school, but sadly did not maintain an attitude of repentance, and was involved in inappropriate relationships with two of her boyfriends before…
Read MoreThe Spiritual Unity of Marriage
by Gary R. Beauchamp via The Sower, Vol. 53, No. 2, March/April 2008. The night I knew my wife and I were destined for a life together was when we sat alone in a car and solemnly vowed that the most important goal in our lives was first to go to Heaven, and secondly, to…
Read MoreMy parents don’t think the girl I want to marry is good looking enough. What should I do?
Question: I’m 24 years old and a Christian by faith. I fell in love with a girl at my workplace. She, too, is a Christian. I thought my parents would accept her, but on the contrary, they did not. My parents have not even allowed me to speak my mind. I feel terrible within. After…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has sickle cell anemia and I’m a carrier. Should we marry?
Question: I’m 19 this year and my boyfriend is 24. We’ve been together for almost a year now and are in a long-distance relationship. He has spoken to me about marriage, but we are in a difficult situation. He has sickle cell meaning his genotype is SS and my genotype is AS and because of…
Read MoreAm I restricted to only marrying the boy I first had sex with?
Question: I was really having trouble ever since I had sex before marriage. I asked for forgiveness and I was terrified that I would not be forgiven, but tonight I went to church. I’m so happy to have learned and re-learned all of the things I have and I want to do right. I told…
Read MoreOnly in the Lord
by Bob Buchanon Would you please explain the phrase “in the Lord” found in I Corinthians 7:39? Does this mean that if the widow chooses to remarry, she would only be allowed to marry one who is a Christian or “in the Lord”? The phrase “in the Lord” is prepositional and must modify either a…
Read MoreChoosing a Companion
by Bill Hall A happy home is being with a wise choice of a marriage partner. We, therefore, submit the following questions as a guide for our young people as they seek out their companion for life. 1. Is this person eligible for marriage? There are those who have a right to marry according to the laws…
Read MoreSince I’ve had sex before, so that means I joined with those prior girls and I can’t marry?
Question: I was checking out your web site, and La Vista Church of Christ seems like a legitimate, non-liberal church of Christ. I am a 20-year-old Christian. I know it may seem strange to get an email from a random individual, but I had a question regarding pre-marital sex that I guess I’m embarrassed to…
Read MoreThe Necessity of Fidelity in Marriage
by Don Alexander via Truth Magazine, Vol. 52, No. 9, September 2008. Behaviors reflect one’s values and priorities. Our most important live relationships suffer when our behaviors and words do not arise from a sense of fidelity and trustworthiness. The Psalmist cried out, “Help, Lord, for the godly are no more; the faithful have vanished from…
Read MoreMaturity and Marriage
by Bill Walton When we talk about “maturity” there are different ways in which people can be mature and different ways in which they can be immature. It is possible for a physical giant to be an emotional dwarf. It is possible for a grown man to be as immature as a 13-year-old boy. It…
Read MoreWould masturbation be unacceptable between a husband and wife as a part of sexual intercourse?
Question: Hi, My husband and I have been married for a year now and really love God. I just wanted to find out what type of sex is acceptable in a marriage? Would masturbation be unacceptable in God’s eyes even if it was done during sexual intercourse? Hope to hear from you soon! I want…
Read MoreA prophet told my fiance not to marry me. What do I do?
Question: Sir, I am a Christian and I am passing through hell. I had a fiancee whom I’m planning to marry, but recently her prophet called her to tell her to quit the seven-year relationship. He said the marriage is not safe because I’m going to die very soon as a result of a covenant…
Read MoreMy girlfriend and I will get married, but we can’t afford it right now
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. We’re both into our church, and we have grown up with religion as a big part of it. We aren’t married, mostly because we don’t have the money to get married, but we are truly in love with each other. Also, we have…
Read MoreIs It Wrong to Have Romantic Feelings?
by Clem Thurman via Gospel Minutes, Vol. 58, No. 40, Oct. 2, 2009 “And Jehovah God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make for him a help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18). God intended that man should have a mate, a woman, and that that woman should have a…
Read MoreDo I need to renew my vows with my current husband since my former husband has died?
Question: I have spoken to several sound brethren who are elders and ministers in churches of Christ in regard to marriage, divorce, and remarriage. This is the situation that I addressed to them concerning myself: I was in a previous marriage with a man for twelve years. The man I was married to had a…
Read MoreI Don’t Love Her Any More
by Greg Gwin A forty-year-old man, suffering through the classic “mid-life crisis,” sat down to talk to a preacher about his problems. He explained how his marriage of 20 years was no longer satisfying or fulfilling. Finally, he reached the ‘bottom line.’ “I just don’t love her anymore”, he said. “What can I do?” After…
Read MoreHow to Save Your Marriage
by Rick Lanning in The Elgin Hills Examiner, Vol. 3, Nos. 11,12, Nov/Dec. 2008. It’s simple, really. I do not have to write a large volume, followed by a sequel, on all the details of establishing a good marriage. Although the shelves are stocked full of wonderful books on this subject (and I have spent a…
Read MoreI’ve committed adultery and I don’t know where to begin picking up the pieces of my shattered marriage
Question: I am a young wife who has committed adultery and I am unsure where to go from here. I have told my husband and we are trying to work through all of this, but I still feel like my husband and I are not meant to be together. I have just finished The Proper Care…
Read MoreIs Jeremiah 16:2 telling me not to marry the woman I love?
Question: I am a believer in Nigeria. I have this question, I want you to seek the face of God and give me the interpretation. I have a lady friend, whom I truly love and she loves me. She is my neighbor. We have known each other for two years now, but we became friends…
Read MoreA Defense of Marriage
DefenseOfMarriage(1)DefenseOfMarriage(2) by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Ecclesiastes 9:2-9 I. A recent article in Newsweek was brought to my attention. It is the cover story, called “Our Mutual Joy” by Lisa Miller, published 12/15/2008. [https://www.newsweek.com/gay-marriage-our-mutual-joy-83287] A. It claims that those who use the Bible to oppose gay marriages are dishonest. B. The article itself is a hodge-podge of…
Read MoreShould I leave my controlling husband?
Question: Before I married my husband he had set up a living trust which stated that all his earthly possessions at the time of his death will go to his family members other than his wife. As we got married I did not know about it. He then has asked me to quit my job…
Read MoreMy wife and I are drifting apart and I don’t know what to do
Question: I am not too good at asking for help, but here goes. My wife and I have been together for four years and married for about two years. We were sexually active the whole time. She and I have had two children. The first one died a few days after birth. The second one…
Read MoreMarriage’s Glue
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Glue is amazing stuff. You can take something that is broken or doesn’t hold tightly together and spread some of this liquid in the cracks. Sometime later the glue dries and what was broken is now held together, often more strongly than it was held before. So if glue is so…
Read MoreIf two people commit fornication, should they be forced to marry?
Question: I was wondering if we today should apply this law in the Old Testament. “And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to…
Read MoreCreation: Necessary Biblical Inferences
by C.G. “Colly” Caldwell via Truth Magazine, Vol. 52, No. 5, May 2008. The points we bring to your attention in this article are clearly taught in Scripture. They are, however, also necessarily inferred or implied by the very fact of Divine Creation. When one by faith accepts that Almighty God created all things other than…
Read MoreA Biblical View of Marriage and Homosexuality
by Doy Moyer Christians should be able to define clearly what the Bible teaches are marriage and sexuality, particularly in a cultural climate that increasingly defends homosexuality. This is really about what the Bible teaches, so let’s walk through this a little. Before looking at the biblical case, we need to consider a foundational disjunction.…
Read MoreHow do I find someone to marry?
Question: I read your on-line article on Christian marriage and it really inspired me. I realize now that I want to return to my roots and find a Christian lady to marry, with whom I can worship God. Help me find someone. Answer: Since there are several articles on marriage on this site, I’m not…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t want to get married yet because he’ll be dropped from his dad’s insurance. What should I do?
Question: Ok, my fiance and I have been living together for almost six months now. We are not married. For a while I let myself get away from God and I didn’t care if we were living together unmarried. I’m trying to get closer to God and receive forgiveness for my sins. I know the…
Read MoreDoes God condemn marriages to non-Christians?
Question: My question is about marriage. I am married to a non-Christian. Is this marriage regulated by God, but not approved by God because I did not marry in the Lord? Does this mean that I am living in sin until my husband obeys the gospel? Answer: I Corinthians 7 deals with questions about marriages…
Read MoreWhat are the requirements for joining the church there and what are the requirements for getting married there?
Question: My fiance and I are looking for a Church of Christ to join in your area. We were wondering if you could give us some information about requirements for joining your congregation and also any rules, regulations, and information about getting married in your church as we’re looking to get married next year. Thank…
Read MoreIs there a passage that says to marry a partner of your youth?
Question: Is there a scripture in the Bible that says you should marry a partner of your youth? Answer: No, but there are passages which state acknowledge that most people marry when they are relatively young. “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth” (Proverbs 5:18). “Yet you say, “For…
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