A prophet told my fiance not to marry me. What do I do?
Question:
Sir,
I am a Christian and I am passing through hell. I had a fiancee whom I'm planning to marry, but recently her prophet called her to tell her to quit the seven-year relationship. He said the marriage is not safe because I'm going to die very soon as a result of a covenant that my mother has put me into and it is a covenant of death. He said if care is not taken, she might be killed in my stead. I have been praying that God would remove the covenant. But, sir, I made a mistake with her. As a result of frustration, I fornicated with her. Will God still help me and forgive me?
Sir, join me in this spiritual battle. I am presently on 35 days of fasting.
Answer:
There are so many wrong ideas given in your note that it is hard to know where to start. It appears that the people you are mixed up with have blended pagan ideas and called them Christian.
Let's start with the most basic. Paul stated that prophecy would come to an end. "Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away" (I Corinthians 13:8-10). The perfect is referring to the perfect law of liberty in Christ (James 1:25). The spiritual gifts were a temporary measure in place until the New Testament could be written. Once the law was recorded, the temporary measures would end. "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things" (I Corinthians 13:11).
Since prophecy is no longer in the world, the man claiming to be a prophet is a fraud. The things he is claiming are merely lies. I'm sure you've seen this in the past. He might have gotten a few statements about the future correct, but he has missed a lot of things. That is important to notice because a prophet isn't supposed to be speaking his own words, but God's. God knows the future perfectly. If a prophet were speaking for God, he would never be wrong. "And if you say in your heart, 'How shall we know the word which the LORD has not spoken?' - when a prophet speaks in the name of the LORD, if the thing does not happen or come to pass, that is the thing which the LORD has not spoken; the prophet has spoken it presumptuously; you shall not be afraid of him" (Deuteronomy 18:21-22). The fact that you are not likely to be dying soon will be strong evidence of this man's falseness.
Now, this covenant business is silly as well. Covenants are a form of contracts. One person cannot put someone else under a covenant without their agreement. Your mother could not have put you into a covenant. And a covenant is something witnessed by God. God doesn't accept covenants for immoral purposes. And a covenant involving an innocent person's death would definitely be immoral.
Now, though you claim to be a Christian, you haven't been acting like one. "But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints" (Ephesians 5:3). You didn't say what the frustration was over, but if you were impatient for sex, you should have married this woman. "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (I Corinthians 7:8-9).
Can God forgive you? Of course! "'Do I have any pleasure at all that the wicked should die?' says the Lord GOD, 'and not that he should turn from his ways and live?'" (Ezekiel 18:23). But it means you have to change your ways. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God" (I Corinthians 6:9-11). Fasting isn't going to buy God's forgiveness. You have to submit your life to God. You have to live your life as God directs. "This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin" (I John 1:5-7).
Question:
Thanks, sir.
Though my pastor is presently chastising me because I've disappointed God and him. The guilt is increasing every day, as is the fear of pregnancy. Fornication was the worse sin I think I could commit. My pastor said I should go to God first, but, sir, I'm not sure if He has forgiven me and I doubt His help. Please tell me what to do. How can I recover my relationship with God and His plans for my life? Sir, I am scared.
Answer:
I showed you from God's own word that He forgives even fornication. I cannot force you to believe God. If you can't believe this, then you'll never make it to heaven. "But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him" (Hebrews 11:6). It isn't God who is stopping you. Your own doubts are holding you back. "But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways" (James 1:6-8). So, quit feeling sorry for yourself and start acting like a man.
Of course, you are guilty of sin. You've done numerous things wrong, including putting your penis where it did not belong. Your memory of the fact that you've sinned will not go away. Nor should the shame of the fact that you sinned be forgotten. It is people who are not ashamed of their sins who have problems. "Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? No! They were not at all ashamed; Nor did they know how to blush. Therefore they shall fall among those who fall; At the time I punish them, They shall be cast down," says the LORD" (Jeremiah 6:15).
But forgiveness is understanding that despite your sins and the fact that you are not worthy to be called a child of God, still, God loved you and no longer holds that sin against you. It isn't the past that matters. It is the future!
"Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in Him, not having my own righteousness, which is from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which is from God by faith; that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection, and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death, if, by any means, I may attain to the resurrection from the dead. Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:8-14).
Question:
Sir,
Thanks for the seasoned counseling. I believe God has forgiven me, but many things are happening to me. Today, just two hours ago, my fiancee told me that her mother begged her to break the relationship with me. Her grandmother told her mother that somebody told her that our coming together is not safe. Her brother, who claims to be a prophet, said the same thing. But in this state of confusion, she prayed and saw my late dad in a revelation and he told her that she never allowed him to enjoy me and he had cursed us never to get married. Sir, the matter is somehow hot in their house. I told her to let us pray. If God says we should separate, I will release her from my heart. Please tell me what to do. Have I made the right decision?
Answer:
I cannot tell you if you made the right decision since you didn't say what you decided. What I do see is a lot of foolishness. It appears your fiancee's family is completely against your marriage, but they are unwilling to say it, so they are blaming God and imaginary visions on their opposition. It appears your fiancee has been persuaded by their arguments and has accepted their lies. Lies because these "messages" are not coming from God, and her nightmare concerning your father is only a dream at best and at worse a made-up story.
What I would recommend is that you tell this woman that you want to marry a woman who loves you more than her family and less than she loves God. If she is unwilling to accept you as you are, then you need to move on.
Please learn a lesson from this. Bedding a woman is not the way to find a wife. You tied yourself to a woman who doesn't love you with her whole heart. Find a woman who is willing to commit the rest of her life to you and you to her. Marry and then have sex and children. That is God's way.
