Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
Is Jeremiah 16:2 telling me not to marry the woman I love?
Question: I am a believer in Nigeria. I have this question, I want you to seek the face of God and give me the interpretation. I have a lady friend, whom I truly love and she loves me. She is my neighbor. We have known each other for two years now, but we became friends…
Read MoreA Defense of Marriage
DefenseOfMarriage(1)DefenseOfMarriage(2) by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Ecclesiastes 9:2-9 I. A recent article in Newsweek was brought to my attention. It is the cover story, called “Our Mutual Joy” by Lisa Miller, published 12/15/2008. [https://www.newsweek.com/gay-marriage-our-mutual-joy-83287] A. It claims that those who use the Bible to oppose gay marriages are dishonest. B. The article itself is a hodge-podge of…
Read MoreShould I leave my controlling husband?
Question: Before I married my husband he had set up a living trust which stated that all his earthly possessions at the time of his death will go to his family members other than his wife. As we got married I did not know about it. He then has asked me to quit my job…
Read MoreMy wife and I are drifting apart and I don’t know what to do
Question: I am not too good at asking for help, but here goes. My wife and I have been together for four years and married for about two years. We were sexually active the whole time. She and I have had two children. The first one died a few days after birth. The second one…
Read MoreMarriage’s Glue
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Glue is amazing stuff. You can take something that is broken or doesn’t hold tightly together and spread some of this liquid in the cracks. Sometime later the glue dries and what was broken is now held together, often more strongly than it was held before. So if glue is so…
Read MoreIf two people commit fornication, should they be forced to marry?
Question: I was wondering if we today should apply this law in the Old Testament. “And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to…
Read MoreCreation: Necessary Biblical Inferences
by C.G. “Colly” Caldwell via Truth Magazine, Vol. 52, No. 5, May 2008. The points we bring to your attention in this article are clearly taught in Scripture. They are, however, also necessarily inferred or implied by the very fact of Divine Creation. When one by faith accepts that Almighty God created all things other than…
Read MoreA Biblical View of Marriage and Homosexuality
by Doy Moyer Christians should be able to define clearly what the Bible teaches are marriage and sexuality, particularly in a cultural climate that increasingly defends homosexuality. This is really about what the Bible teaches, so let’s walk through this a little. Before looking at the biblical case, we need to consider a foundational disjunction.…
Read MoreHow do I find someone to marry?
Question: I read your on-line article on Christian marriage and it really inspired me. I realize now that I want to return to my roots and find a Christian lady to marry, with whom I can worship God. Help me find someone. Answer: Since there are several articles on marriage on this site, I’m not…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t want to get married yet because he’ll be dropped from his dad’s insurance. What should I do?
Question: Ok, my fiance and I have been living together for almost six months now. We are not married. For a while I let myself get away from God and I didn’t care if we were living together unmarried. I’m trying to get closer to God and receive forgiveness for my sins. I know the…
Read MoreDoes God condemn marriages to non-Christians?
Question: My question is about marriage. I am married to a non-Christian. Is this marriage regulated by God, but not approved by God because I did not marry in the Lord? Does this mean that I am living in sin until my husband obeys the gospel? Answer: I Corinthians 7 deals with questions about marriages…
Read MoreWhat are the requirements for joining the church there and what are the requirements for getting married there?
Question: My fiance and I are looking for a Church of Christ to join in your area. We were wondering if you could give us some information about requirements for joining your congregation and also any rules, regulations, and information about getting married in your church as we’re looking to get married next year. Thank…
Read MoreIs there a passage that says to marry a partner of your youth?
Question: Is there a scripture in the Bible that says you should marry a partner of your youth? Answer: No, but there are passages which state acknowledge that most people marry when they are relatively young. “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth” (Proverbs 5:18). “Yet you say, “For…
Read MoreWhat can I do? My wife and I are drifting apart
Question: It has been almost a year since I first wrote to you about my thoughts on divorcing my wife. We have one child together. A lot has happened since then! I moved out of my house for two reasons: 1) because I had already planned to and 2) because my wife took out an…
Read MoreIf a person is married under false pretenses, is it still a valid marriage?
Question: Does the Bible mention false marriages or are all marriages valid? This year alone, three women who escaped from Michigan prisons more than thirty years ago have been captured and returned to Michigan. One woman who has received a lot of attention moved to California, changed her name, got married, raised a family, and…
Read MoreWhat do you think people did before marriage was invented?
Question: I think you should revaluate your teaching kids that they should wait until marriage to have sex. There’s nothing wrong with it! I’ve been having sex with my girlfriend for years. Besides what do you think people did before marriage was invented? Answer: The actual letter was vastly more rude and crude. I was…
Read MoreI already made the decision to wait until marriage to have sex, but your article made it seem even more sensible to wait
Question: Thanks for writing the article on waiting: “Waiting for the Proper Time.” I’m 18 and I’ve already made the decision to wait to have sex before marriage, but this article provided encouragement and also made it seem more sensible to wait. People at college are asking me why I’m waiting, and now I can…
Read MoreIs it a sin to choose to remain single?
Question: Is it a sin if a Christian chooses not to get married for his or her whole life? Answer: Getting married has always been an option and never a requirement. The apostle Paul never married and when persecution raised its ugly head on the horizon, he urged other Christians, if they were able, to…
Read MoreHow do you help someone who is being abused, but who doesn’t want help?
Question: How can I help someone who is being physically abused when they don’t want to be helped? I tried calling the cops in the past before with a former neighbor of mine. This woman was abused by her husband every day for over two years and acted as if no one had hurt her.…
Read MoreWhat Bible Passage Teaches Monogamy?
by George Hutto via Tidings, Vol. 23, No. 7, July 2008. Monogamy is the marital rule of having only one spouse. Polygamists say that a person can have more than one spouse at the time, such as the Muslim practice. The teaching of the Bible on this subject will be considered in a moment, but…
Read MoreShould I leave my unloving husband?
Question: I have been married for ten years now and I feel more like roommates than husband and wife. The problem is that my husband is not an affectionate person, never really has been. I just kept thinking he would change. The only time I get any contact from my husband is when we are…
Read MoreShould I wait until after my schooling to get married?
Question: Hello, I am in seminary in my first year. I’m 20 years old and I have been dating my girlfriend for 1 year and 3 months. We both want to get married, but my father believes that it is too early to get married because I need to focus my life in the seminary.…
Read MoreHow can I get my non-Christian husband interested in the church?
Question: First, I want to say I really enjoy this web site. I am a sister in Christ and have been most of my life. I happened to marry a non-Christian man. I would like to say to any of the sisters, or brothers, out there that are searching for a husband or wife, to…
Read MoreWhat does it mean for a husband to not honor his wife?
Question: “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered” (I Peter 3:7). I have some questions about this verse: If a husband is not honoring his wife, does that…
Read MoreWhy did God require the Israelites to leave their non-Jewish spouses?
Question: Could you explain why Moses gave the certificate of divorce? What I mean to say is when was it that God’s people were required to leave their non-Jewish spouses? What were the reasons for this? I am looking to use it for an example of commitment and covenants, such as marriage. Even if you…
Read MoreWhere does God promise a husband?
Question: If one is expected to wait for sex until marriage, where does God promise a husband? I’m tired of waiting for 37 years. I just had to fend off a married, now divorced, minister. He is still in the pulpit. He was separated, which I understood was meant for restoration. We have nothing in…
Read MoreWhy are congregations requiring preachers to be married?
Question: I have noticed on some web sites where congregations list qualifications for their new preachers. Most of them require their preachers to be married, which is absurd! Where in the Bible does it say that a preacher must be married to preach? I can’t find it and I’ve searched. What about I Corinthians 7:8 when Paul is…
Read MoreWould This Marriage Work?
by Bobby Duncan For some time the late brother G. C. Brewer wrote a series of articles in the Gospel Advocate in answer to questions received from readers of that journal. A number of these articles were published in 1941 in a book entitled Contending for the Faith. As would be expected, some of those…
Read MoreMy pastor says God told her that I shouldn’t marry my fiance. What do I do?
Question: Hi! I am 19 years old and I have been a Christian all my life. I am a Pentecostal. I have fallen in love with a man the same age as me and we both agree it’s better that we get engaged and seek the Lord in everything we do rather than falling into…
Read MoreWhoso Findeth a Wife Findeth a Good Thing, and Obtaineth Favour of the LORD
by Sally Anne Perz Text: Proverbs 18:22 Next to God, the most important person in a wife’s life is her husband. Often wives are guilty of holding their husbands to their own expectations and standards or comparing them to other men. Learn what kind of a man you are married to—and remember that you were…
Read MoreThank you for the great marriage study information
Question: Brother, I just wanted to thank you for the great marriage study information on the La Vista website. My fiance and I have read through much of it before deciding to get engaged. Answer: Thank you very much for your kind words. It is nice to know that the work is being used profitably. You and…
Read MoreIs it wrong to marry a person from a different race?
Question: I would really appreciate it if you could answer my question: Is it wrong to marry a person from a different race group? Answer: In the Bible, the concept of race doesn’t exist. There are nationalities, but God states that all of mankind is one race. That is because all of us descend from…
Read MoreWhat more should I do to be worthy of forgiveness? I committed fornication just before my marriage
Question: Hi, I was baptized in a local church of Christ a few weeks before I and my wife got married. But before our wedding day, we had sex (by the way she’s not yet a believer of Christ). I knew in my heart before we even had sex that it was wrong, but I…
Read MoreWhat can I do about my mother-in-law’s interference?
Question: I am feeling unhappy with my wife’s mother yet again. Why can’t she allow my wife and me to live our lives as a married couple? Yesterday, the three of us went to a family get-together. My wife had a seizure and her mother took control of the recovery of my wife. I am…
Read MoreA Question about Dowries
Question: I have a question bothering me and this issue is about tearing apart one of our congregations here in Nigeria. Please, is parental consent considered to be marriage; that is, the cohabitation of a man and a woman without the payment of a bride price or dowry? Since examples in the Bible state Christ…
Read MoreMy non-Christian wife led me to stop attending worship, but I’m trying to come back. Do you have any advice?
Question: Hi! I am a strong Christian husband married to a non-Christian wife. I realize I can’t change her or make her do anything. Only God can change her. I do have to admit that it really hurts me because before we got married she went to church with me. After we got married, she…
Read MoreMy husband supposedly stopped viewing pornography, but he has stopped sleeping with me. How can I trust him?
Question: My husband used porn. He says he quit over a year ago but still can’t, or won’t, have sex with me or even try. We averaged sex two or three times a month for the first couple of years of marriage; then it dwindled to once or twice a year. We’ll be celebrating our…
Read MoreMy marriage is not what it should be and I fear I’m losing my husband. What should I do?
Question: I have been reading your responses to the questions of others and appreciate the biblical approach you have taken, such that I feel comfortable in consulting you myself. From the outset, I will say that I’ve learned of your web site because my husband has sought your guidance about our marriage in times past. …
Read MoreIs my marriage before a justice of the peace legitimate?
Question: Please help me. I am a spiritual person who believes in God and Jesus and the Holy Spirit. My husband does not. That is OK. The problem is that we were not married before God nor did we invite him to our union in any way. We were married by the justice of the peace…
Read MoreShould I, as a Baptist, be in a relationship with a Catholic?
Question: I am a Baptist in a relationship with a Catholic. I don’t agree with a lot that her family does and it seems like I am an outcast because of my religion. Is there any advice that you can give me or links to where I can read on how to survive this? I…
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