Posts Tagged ‘lying’
Is it a lie if he doesn’t know I lied to him?
Question: I have a problem this has been bothering me. I am a Christian. I heard a brother in Christ mention something and I told him that he looked good when I thought that he did not. Should I tell him the truth, even if he did not know that I did not mean it?…
Read MoreDoes Galatians 3:28 support gender diversity?
Question: Hi Mr. Hamilton, I’ve found out that a large number (possibly a majority) of my friends are LGBTQQIAA+. Some are genderqueer, transgender, gay, lesbian, pansexual, and asexual. A very large percentage of my year group is not straight or cisgender. I know that having homosexual sex is wrong. Should I rethink my friendship with…
Read MoreDo I have to be nice to liars and the profane?
Question: Hey Jeffrey, I have a question: I try to be a friendly person all the time, but some people’s personalities I don’t mesh with, or I’m not a big fan of how they do things or treat people. Some people lie all the time and make light of it and one guy constantly curses…
Read MoreWhat do I do with the gifts a guy gave me?
Question: Hello, I am in a dilemma and I was hoping I could get some help. I met a young man briefly recently, but he didn’t know I was married. He had the impression I was only in a relationship with the young man I spoke about, but in the real sense, I was married…
Read MoreIs joking lying?
Question: Hey Jeffrey, I was reading your articles on lying and it got me to thinking about something. Is joking or teasing lying? For instance, if someone asks me what I do for a living and as a joke I say I “push semi-trucks with my hands” for a living as a joke, only then tell…
Read MoreAm I lying if I tell someone “sorry” or “I love you” when I don’t feel it?
Question: I can be very detail-oriented. Sometimes I feel like my words aren’t inaccurate, and I wonder if I should look at it as lying. There are still certain things I don’t know if I should think of as lying. For example, is saying “sorry” as a polite gesture wrong if I don’t feel remorse…
Read MoreIf I promise on something and then break the promise, does God take away what I promised on?
Question: If I were to promise or swear to God (or even to someone else) on something and not go through with the promise, will God take that thing I promised on away from me? For example, I promise or swear on my friendship that I’ll run around the neighborhood. If I don’t go through…
Read MoreShould we have lied about my daughter’s depression?
Question: Is it ever OK to lie? My daughter was disqualified from entering a military group at her college due to behavioral health. She spent days there due to depression. We filled out the medical forms and answered questions honestly for her college. Now my family is upset because they said she needed to play the system and…
Read MoreThey Caused the People to Trust in a Lie
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/TheyCausedThePeopleToTrustInALie.mp3 by Raymond Warfel
Read MoreTo get money, I lied to a man that I’m pregnant with his child
Question: I searched about God and found this site. I am depressed and wondering what I should do. I just need prayers. I just finished college and because I haven’t gotten a job, I met this man who is 60 years old. He started providing for me. He is married to two wives, and he…
Read MoreYou don’t understand the depth of despair transgenders go through
Question: Dear Sir (must be), Your answer is very condescending and full of your own opinions. God will undoubtedly judge you for this, also. Do you know the depths of despair that this person may have gone through just to get to the point where they are willing to ask someone a question like this and you…
Read MoreI was surprised that you accused a person of lying and why are sexual issues talked about so much?
Question: Hi brother Hamilton, I was on your website earlier and I was kind of shocked at a response. For the date of 7/8, you answered/addressed one question about spilling seed. You accused the author of lying in your response which I didn’t understand. Maybe you were having a bad day. It just seemed out…
Read MoreMy fiance got a girl pregnant, is on drugs, is in jail, and lies. What should I do?
Question: Hello, I need advice. My fiance and I have a son together. He went away to drug rehab but lied to people saying he was in school. He got a 17-year-old girl pregnant, but he doesn’t know that I know. He was dating her and once she told him she was pregnant he left…
Read MoreRahab
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Rahab.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Joshua 2:1-24 I. Rahab has given many Bible students difficulty over the years. A. James 2:14-26 – James tells us she was an example of a working faith when she took in the Israelite spies and sent them out secretly. B. Notice that her action was listed as an example similar…
Read MoreI lied to my wife about my adultery. Do I have to tell her?
Question: Hi, I am writing this email to ask a serious question about my life. I’m a Christian. I have been married for three years. But I had a problem with sex “addiction” (I’m not that sure if it’s or not). I am highly drawn to girls since I was young just to have sex…
Read MoreI found out my girlfriend has been lying to me
Question: I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year, and for about the first 10 months she lied to me that she is a virgin. She always told me that those who lose their virginity before marriage are sinners. I started loving her for her thoughts. She is Christian and I…
Read MoreI find myself not caring like I used to
Question: Hello, I’m a 16-year-old girl. I received Christ as my personal Saviour for about 2 or 3 years now. But recently something has been bugging me. I feel as if my conscience has left or something. It sounds crazy or stupid, but I find that I have to force myself to feel guilty or…
Read MoreDo you have to tell everyone you lied to that you lied in order to repent?
Question: Does the Bible say that if you lie, you have to tell whoever you lied to that you did? I am wondering because I have been obsessing over something that is probably stupid to obsess over. Anyway, it was a long time ago, and I don’t even know for sure if I did lie,…
Read MoreIf we were married in a courthouse, does God consider us married? Also, how do I stop lying?
Question: Hi, I have a question for you. My wife is Catholic. We have been married for over a year. She and I were married in a ceremony at the local courthouse; however, we were never married by either a priest or minister. I love her and don’t want her to suffer spiritually. Does God…
Read MoreI lied about my virginity to keep my boyfriend. What do I do now?
Question: I have been in a relationship before, but it didn’t end well. My heart was broken from that moment. I felt miserable. But this nice Christian guy came into my life. He is very nice and he takes me to church. I started to know more and more about God. God healed all the…
Read MoreWhat is the best way to avoid lying?
Question: Is it true that Jesus said in Revelation 21:8 that all liars will go to hell? If so, what is the best way for a Christian parent to avoid lying about things like Santa, birthday presents, or surprise parties? Or if a suicidal friend makes you promise not to tell someone that they are…
Read MoreHow do I correct a lie that I’ve told for years?
Question: I lied for several years about something, and the substance of the lie is probably known by many people in college. It was just something to help my image; however, I recognize sin is sin. It is likely not criminal or anything of a serious kind. Do I need to confess to everyone, some…
Read MoreShould I admit I lied about seeing another guy while with my boyfriend?
Question: I was only dating the guy I am engaged to now and had developed feelings for another guy I met in college. I could never pinpoint the reason why we met, but he liked me too, even though I was (and still am) madly in love with my boyfriend. The college guy and I…
Read MoreShould we break up so my boyfriend’s parents don’t think he converts because of me?
Question: Hi, I just came across your website and you had really good advice especially about relationships. I hope you can give me some advice on my problem. I met my boyfriend during university life three years ago and during that time he wasn’t a Christian. I knew it was wrong for me to even…
Read MoreIs a person responsible for the lies an aunt may have made when she was three?
Question: Hi, A person immigrated to this country over thirty years ago as a child (age 3). The aunt of the person might have told immigration that the child was her natural child instead of revealing that the child had been adopted. Is the child responsible to God for this matter or is it just…
Read MoreI told my wife I had inappropriate conversations with a woman, but I didn’t mention I had sex with her. My wife thinks I’m lying. Must I tell her everything?
Question: I’ve confessed to my wife for having inappropriate conversations with a woman in church five years ago. Now what I haven’t told her is that I had a sexual relationship with her. She has asked if I kissed or had sex with her and I chose not to answer her. I’ve asked for forgiveness…
Read MoreGod Cannot Lie
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/GodCannotLie.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: I Kings 22:1-28 I. Heathen men molded their concept of their gods into their own image – Romans 1:22-23 A. We can read stories of the Greek gods and in their interaction with men they often lied and cheated to accomplish their goals. 1. The Greeks saw their gods as just…
Read MoreI found out someone I trusted had lied to me. What do I do?
Question: Sir, I have a friend whom I trusted so much. I always told her the truth, and I was very open with her. But yesterday I found out that she was lying to me about something she told me before. I am so heartbroken presently, and I don’t know how to get over it.…
Read MoreI lied to my preacher about having committed fornication. Do I have to tell him?
Question: Hi, I started a relationship with a man about a month ago. One thing led to another and we had sex. I felt bad about it and asked for God’s forgiveness, but didn’t break it off with him. A few days ago I got a call from my pastor stating someone was at a…
Read MoreWe Lost the Surprise Somewhere
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton I remember watching Mayberry RFD and related shows most of my childhood. Poor ignorant Gomer Pyle who worked as an auto mechanic was a notable character. But I can still recall my shock when I found out that Jim Nabors, who played Gomer, could sing — not casually, but with a…
Read MoreMy husband says he wants to divorce me in order to have a polygamous marriage. What do I do?
Question: I am a Christian. I am writing because my husband wants a divorce. He has stated to me that he believes that he should be able to have more than one wife and live under one roof with them. I really think that he doesn’t believe that, but he just wants to be able…
Read MoreI didn’t want to start the year with lies so I told my husband about my past affair. How can I save my marriage?
Question: Hello, I committed adultery a few months ago, but I just told my husband because I didn’t want to bring the new year in with lies and deceit. My question is what can I do or say to make things work? I know I was wrong, but I want my marriage. I know it…
Read MoreI told my fiance the truth and he left me. Now, what do I do?
Question: I was going through your website and came across a testimony of how God restored a relationship. I am going through the same phase in life right now, and I need your guidance and advice. I was supposed to get married in a few months but everything got called off because of my lie.…
Read MoreI just found out my girlfriend lied about being a virgin. I forgave her, but I find it difficult to forget
Question: I am a 22-year-old guy and have been dating a lady for the past two years. Two days ago she notified me that she lost her virginity three years ago. To me, this came as a deep shock in that I had trusted her and had asked her if she had had sex before,…
Read MoreCan there be such a thing as a good lie?
Question: Good day, This issue of lying has been bothering me for quite some time now, and I felt I couldn’t keep it to myself. Jesus said in Revelation 21:8 that all liars will go to hell. Are there good lies? For example, if I am faced with a threatening situation in which a man…
Read MoreMy fiance and I engaged in foreplay. How do we answer the church if we are asked, knowing this will mean we cannot be wed in the church?
Question: How do we answer the church if I and my fiancé are asked if we have had sex before marriage when we have engaged in the foreplay of sexual activities? Knowing we cannot be wed in the church if we say yes, though we didn’t do the real act. Answer: First, there is no…
Read MoreI feel guilty that I didn’t tell my boyfriend that a year ago I kissed my ex-boyfriend
Question: I have been together with my current boyfriend for two years now. During our first six months together, there was one night I was out drinking with some friends when my ex, by surprise, was also there at the same place, and he sat at our table. We got to chat for a while…
Read MoreIs changing your mind a sin?
Question: I was wondering if it’s counted as a lie when I change my mind. This has been a problem for me lately. Let’s say I tell my wife “I’m having an egg sandwich for lunch” and then make a hamburger, is that lying? If I tell myself that I will not drink coffee ever…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend about being a virgin and it has been bothering me. What do I do?
Question: I have something that’s been bothering me lately, and I have to get it out somewhere. I started dating this girl four years ago for two years. While we were dating we were completely in love and agreed that we wouldn’t have sex until marriage. After we broke up my loneliness pressured me into…
Read MoreDo I need to tell my husband all the details about my past affair?
Question: I been married for about twenty years. Several years ago I had an affair with a man that went on for a few years. I gave myself to this man: mind, soul, and body. My husband found out, but I lied about the sex. He is asking me again. Should I tell him I…
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