Posts Tagged ‘lying’
I confessed that I committed fornication before my marriage, but I lied about the details. What should I do?
Question: Hello Sir, I have done something terrible! Like others searching through your questions and answers section, I cheated on my wife while she was my fiance. The guilt of cheating and the guilt of cheating with this specific type of person is eating me away! I have always been close to the Lord and…
Read MoreI lied to my boyfriend about having oral sex with another man. What do I do now?
Question: Good evening, sir, I was reading information from your website. I have a little problem and need your help. My boyfriend is always busy with work, and I have complained several times. Unfortunately, I ended up cheating on him by engaging in kissing and oral sex. I apologized to my boyfriend but couldn’t go…
Read MoreWhat was the first lie told in the Bible?
Question: What was the first lie told in the Bible? Was it the serpent talking to Eve? Answer: Yes, it was. God had said, “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you…
Read MoreWhat if a government gives false reasons for going to war?
Question: I am wondering what the Bible says concerning going to war for unjustified reasons? What if a country deceives its people and claims reasons for going to war, but there is evidence that does not justify war? How do Christians and Christians in the military handle this type of situation? Answer: A government’s authority,…
Read MoreIs it a lie to friend someone on Facebook that you don’t know?
Question: Hi there, Please tell me, if we have sent friend requests to people on Facebook that we had never met before and do not know that is like lying then what? Will we keep sinning by lying as long as we leave the friend requests stand to the persons we have sent to the…
Read MoreIf you say one thing in a joking manner, but then do the opposite, is it still a lie just because the other person missed the joke?
Question: I was wondering about lying. Let’s say my wife tells me just want to look at my hobby and my response is no, but I say it in a very playful way — a way that she knows that I am playing and that I really mean that yes I was wanting to look…
Read MoreMy wife asked me if I thought about cheating on her. I didn’t handle it well. What should I do?
Question: I’m a fairly new Christian. My wife asked me if I’d thought about cheating on her. I had sadly committed adultery at heart, but I told her I hadn’t thought about it. I had lied. I have repented of this, and am on constant guard to keep those thoughts out, but should I tell…
Read MoreI feel obsessed to correct any inaccuracies in what I say. Is this a problem?
Question: What should you do if you were talking to someone and you think you might have said something or explained something wrong? Couldn’t this be considered lying even if you didn’t purposely do it? And wouldn’t that mean that you should explain it better so you tell the truth? I think I get at…
Read MoreIs it wrong to report less than what something costs so as to pay less tax?
Question: I have some questions. Part of my job is running an importing business for my small shop. My supplier asked if she can lower the invoice price to make my tax smaller. Is this a sin? The people at the customs office offered me a cheaper solution to the taxes I pay. Instead of…
Read MoreIf you tell a lie to someone you barely know, will you go to hell?
Question: Well, I don’t know why, but I said I hated the Bible. Right after I said that I got worried and started to say I didn’t mean it! I feel so horrible and scared. The second is that if I lied to someone I barely knew, will God forgive me? Can I move on…
Read MoreSeeing Only What You Want to See
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/SeeingOnlyWhatYouWantToSee.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Psalms 50 I. I would like to share a portion of a letter I received: “I am in love with this girl who loved me too. We loved each other so crazily but at one point I realized that she had been lying to me for no reason to…
Read MoreWhy was Abram rewarded for lying to Pharaoh?
Question: I just read Genesis 12:1-20 and I’m a little perplexed by it. Abram bent the truth concerning Sarai by getting her to say she was his sister rather than his wife when they came into Egypt. I know she was his half-sister by his father, but it was still a lie. So why was…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend, telling her I was a virgin when I am not. What should I do?
Question: My girlfriend and I recently talked a bit about our past relationships, and the subject of being virgins slowly came up. Although I have tried my best to live a good Christian life, there came a point where under pressure I lost my virginity. It only occurred once and never again afterward. I realized…
Read MoreIs it wrong to leave out some of my employment history on a resume?
Question: I often struggle with discerning what might be God’s conviction over sin and what might be me worrying excessively. Recently, I filled out a job application that asked for a separate sheet for additional employment that was “relevant to the position” I was applying for. I held many, many jobs during college, some for…
Read MoreIf I don’t tell my wife I sinned, isn’t that lying?
Question: Hello. I’ve been reading through many of the posts on your site regarding adultery and lying. I have found much of it to be very helpful, but I am struggling with some of what you advise. In several of the posts on adultery, you advise the person who committed adultery that it would be best to…
Read MoreHow can I get to heaven if I’ve told a lie?
Question: I was pondering this question. Jesus states that those who are liars, murderers, etc. will not inherit the kingdom of God. In Revelation, it states “And nothing unclean and no one who practices abomination and lying, shall ever come into it, but only those whose names are written in the Lamb’s book of life.”…
Read MoreIs all lying bad?
Question: This question is about lying. Is lying in all views, such as white lies or small lies, a sin? Is there such a thing as using a lie to help someone? I can’t think of a good example now, but I do hope you know what I mean. There are also lies about even…
Read MoreLittle Lies
by Rusty Miller “Buy truth, and do not sell it” (Proverbs 23:23). Of all the things God desires most, none has suffered more in recent times than honesty. The lie is no longer something to be scorned; in fact, “everybody lies” is the most common excuse heard when someone is actually caught in a lie.…
Read MoreThe Worse Lies
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/WorseLies.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Isaiah 59:1-15 I. In describing Israel’s plight, God lists out the sins in which they had been involved in Isaiah 59:1-15 A. Repeatedly through this passage lies and a lack of truth is brought up B. Lies are sinful, but more so, sinners lie 1. How does the addict attempt to avoid…
Read MoreWho are those who love and practice a lie?
Question: In Revelation 22:15, John seems to be saying one last time who will enter the kingdom and who will not. All the other things I understand, but the last part when he says those who love and practice a lie is somewhat unclear to me. I understand the general meaning and how that relates…
Read MoreMy friend is planning to commit fraud. What should I do?
Question: I have an ethical problem. I recently became aware of a friend planning on committing what is basically insurance fraud with his car due to his financial situation and his car having so many issues. I know when and how he plans on having his vehicle “stolen” and stripped as well as what insurance…
Read MoreIf a person says “If I’m lying, may I go to hell” and then lies, will God forgive them if they repent?
Question: I can’t really remember if I have ever done this, but I am kind of sure I have. I hope I never said this, but if someone says to a person: “If I am lying, may I go to hell,” and then they lie, will they go to hell even if they repent? Answer: I…
Read MoreI lied in my earlier note to satisfy a spanking fetish
Question: The following email conversation was made up, on my part. I have had a fetish of spanking since I was 4 years old as far as I can remember. I recently had a memory restored to me of being spanked at 1 1/2 years old. I established some dysfunctional associations to spanking and in my…
Read MoreThough my husband is divorcing me in order to marry another woman, he is telling everyone that I’m the one who committed adultery. How can I defend myself?
Question: My husband of 25 years has recently left me for another woman. He admits, to me, that he committed adultery with this woman and wants to marry her. OK, I’ll have to work through that. The problem is that he has told all of our extended family, none of whom live in this state,…
Read MoreI married a woman in name only so she could become a citizen of my country. I have a girlfriend and a child by her. How do I fix this mess?
Question: I have a question. I married someone so that they might become a citizen of my country. I did not do this for money, but because I felt it the right thing to do at the time, although I was aware I might be misusing marriage as God intended. We have never been intimately…
Read MoreI’m carrying about so much guilt. I hide it from my parents, but am I wrong for doing so?
Question: For some time, I have carried guilt for many things; guilt which I am not often able to suppress. I am a fifteen-year-old girl and my life hasn’t exactly been a box of roses. Within the first three years of my life, I was fed lies by my aunt, by my mother, and I…
Read MoreWhy were the Israelites not to use diverse weights?
Question: In Proverbs 20:10 it reads, “Divers weights, and divers measures, both of them are alike abomination to the Lord.” This is also stated in Proverbs 20:23 with a reference to Deuteronomy 25:13 which reads, “Thou shalt not have in thy bag divers weights, a great and a small.” I know that “divers” means many…
Read MoreIf a person is married under false pretenses, is it still a valid marriage?
Question: Does the Bible mention false marriages or are all marriages valid? This year alone, three women who escaped from Michigan prisons more than thirty years ago have been captured and returned to Michigan. One woman who has received a lot of attention moved to California, changed her name, got married, raised a family, and…
Read MoreIs it acceptable to lie about being in a communist country to teach the gospel?
Question: Hello! I was just reading your message about lying. I will start out by saying that I am a firm believer that lying is a sin! And maybe this question will sound like I’m a bit of an oxymoron, but here goes. If you were in a situation, like missions work in a place…
Read MoreGreat sermon on the subject of lying!
Question: Greetings in the name of the Lord Jesus. Great sermon on the subject of lying! May the Lord continue to bless you in the knowledge of His word, for the edification of the body of Christ. Answer: Thank you for your kind words.
Read MoreHow do I get my boyfriend to be honest with me instead of hiding things like his occasional drug use?
Question: My boyfriend used to be a heavy drug addict and he says he is clean, even though I find him lying to me and hiding his occasional drug use from me. I can’t ever talk to him about anything because he gets mad and tells me to grow up and keeps on lying. How…
Read MoreHow can I make my 17-year-old daughter understand lying makes me distrust her?
Question: How can I make my child understand that lying makes me distrust everything she says? She really thinks it’s OK to lie and when she is confronted, she just lies more. I’ve tried everything from extreme punishment to ignoring the problem. I’m afraid one day she will end up in prison. Please advise me.…
Read MoreWhy would a boy take pictures of me?
Question: Why would a tenth-grade student in English as a Second Language class want a picture of me? He actually took two pictures of me. Do you think I should trick him into giving me the camera and erase the photo from his camera? Can you answer me back? I don’t even know him so…
Read MoreDoesn’t Rahab’s example prove that lying is acceptable in some situations?
Question: Doesn’t Rahab’s example prove that lying is acceptable in some situations? Answer: We know: That we cannot do evil that good may come from it (Romans 3:8). The Lord did not commend Rahab for lying (Hebrews 11:31; James 2:25). We are told not to lie (Colossians 3:9). That all liars will be eternally condemned…
Read MoreDidn’t God tell someone to lie in I Kings 22?
Question: I appreciate your response. For me, I Kings 22:22 is abundantly clear. I found it among a few other examples, most of which were less conclusive. For example, where God sent strong delusion, which isn’t specifically a lie. A tangential issue is where God repented for installing a certain king. Some would say that…
Read MoreIf God told Satan to lie, then isn’t it OK for us to lie?
Question: If the Old Testament, even once, shows us that God told Satan to lie to a woman, would that be OK? If not, better read that book more closely. I’ll bet that it shows that very clearly. Once, that should be OK, let’s consider the original language, let’s dance around, let’s tell him that…
Read MoreThou Shalt Not …
Text: Romans 13:8-10 I. In continuing our series on understanding the Ten Commandments, I would like for us to focus our attention on the commands which begin “You shall not …” – Exodus 20:13-17 A. The repeating of a phrase, in this case “you shall not”, causes one to pay attention to the words. It sets…
Read MoreShould I go ahead and spank my son?
Question: How are you doing? I wrote to you about three years ago about our two sons. Well, now the oldest is 16 and just received his license. Our youngest son is 11. We had implemented spanking and following God’s word on the matter. After the first couple of years of talking and seeking your…
Read MoreShould we tell our children not to mention to other people that they get spanked?
Question: I have greatly enjoyed all the information and insights that you share on this page. My husband and I are raising three sons. We use spanking as one of our disciplinary tools with the boys, especially for the 3 Ds – deliberate disobedience, disrespect, and dishonesty. Recently one of my sons was in some…
Read MoreMy fifteen-year-old lies so she can do what she wants
Question: My 15-year-old lies to me. I believe she does so in order to do what she wants. She shows a deliberate disrespectful presence. I have set boundaries for Internet usage and she has violated that boundary by talking to people she does not know, lying, and telling me they go to school with her.…
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