Did my sins prior to my marriage cause my husband to commit adultery after our marriage?
Question:
I was at church yesterday and the topic was "Root Causes of Sin." My marriage didn't start well. Prior to getting married, I fornicated with another man. When I found out that my ex-husband was having an affair, he said he had affairs because of what happened prior to our marriage. Now that I've heard a sermon on the "root causes of sin," is my ex-husband right that the adultery that he committed is, at the root, my fault? I'm confused.
Thank you.
Answer:
"The soul who sins shall die. The son shall not bear the guilt of the father, nor the father bear the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself" (Ezekiel 18:20).
The choice to sin is the individual's decision and, therefore, the individual's responsibility. Your husband may have been upset by your past sins, but that doesn't excuse his choice. No one made him sin. He chose to sin and his reasoning was pitiful at best.
