Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
My wife is having an affair and wants a divorce. What do I need to do?
Question: Hello, My wife and I have been married for 15 years. For over five years I have been dealing with jealousy issues because of flirting and her having emotional-type affairs with other men. I felt like my masculinity was in question and if I said the way she was acting bothered me, it seemed…
Read MoreI want to divorce my husband because I don’t find him sexually appealing
Question: I am a girl from India. Here 70% of the marriages are arranged by parents from the same caste and community. I am a person who listens to what my heart says. I am also a physical kind of person, which means I usually get attracted to smart and cute guys. Nature is also…
Read MoreShould I attend weddings of those who have been living together or had been divorced?
Question: Hello, My question is about weddings that take place after a couple has been living together for a year or two – sometimes longer. They have a child or maybe are expecting a child, then somewhere along the line decide to get married. They have a big wedding, white dress, bridesmaids all the trimmings…
Read MoreHow do I talk to family members who are committing fornication?
Question: I have a question regarding two people getting married. Someone in my family was once married and got divorced. In Matthew 5:31-32 it says that one can’t divorce her husband or his wife except for sexual immorality. This family member did not divorce her husband for sexual immorality but for another reason. She wants…
Read MoreI’m trying to figure out if my marriage is causing me to be an adulterer
Question: Hello, I am a 46-year old baptized, unconfirmed, non-practicing Roman Catholic. My wife is a 43-year old unbaptized divorcée. My wife previously married a non-practicing Catholic in a civil ceremony many years ago. A short time after their marriage, she had a one-night stand. Sometime later her husband became physically abusive. She stayed with…
Read MoreMy husband left me and I’m barely making my income last each month. Is it wrong if I don’t give as much?
Question: Dear Brother in Christ: I cannot first say how thankful to God I am for blessing you with the spiritual wisdom and knowledge to provide biblical answers for our questions, and for rightly dividing the word of truth. First, I am a member of the body of Christ, and I am recently separated (not…
Read MoreWould God forgive me if I left my husband for another man?
Question: I am on my second marriage. Neither my first husband nor myself was faithful during our marriage. I cheated first. My husband now and I have been on ends for about two years, but I believe he has remained faithful. I encountered several men during that time. I gave my life back to Christ…
Read MoreHow can there be adultery after divorce ends a marriage?
Question: You said on your website: “When one partner in a marriage commits adultery, the innocent party has the option to divorce the unrepentant adulterer and may marry someone else if he or she so chooses. The adulterer remains bound by the terms of his marriage covenant. Anyone marriage enters into will be adulterous so long as…
Read MoreShould I divorce my husband for gambling away our money?
Question: I really need advice. My husband will not stop gambling no matter what I say. He gambles every single penny we have. He gambles every single day if he has the money. He will not pay any bills and all the income he gets goes toward gambling. He even takes our son, who is…
Read MoreShould I stay with my husband or give my children a safe and stable home?
Question: Hello, I am in need of advice. My husband and I have been married for two years. We have two sons together and I have an older son from a previous relationship. My husband is my first husband and I’m his first wife. He has been addicted to crack for years now. The day…
Read MoreI was told I would marry the perfect lady, now I’ve been kicked out of my own flat
Question: Hi Jeffrey, Many years ago God told me at a revival that I’d meet my wife — a perfect lady — and that I would have a very good future. I was a young man in my twenties and that was 10 years ago. Several years ago I met my wife at a church…
Read MoreMy wife has refused to have sex with me for years and I’m weakening
Question: Hello, I feel very ashamed to even write this, but I’ve been doing Google searches and scouring the Internet for answers. I would normally just ask a pastor from church, but I have a learning disorder or mental disability and everyone just writes me off as strange or stupid. Even pastors don’t want to take the time to…
Read MoreSex was never fun and I stopped having sex with my husband. Can I divorce him?
Question: I just read your article, Can a man divorce his wife for not having sex with him? I am a reborn child of God and married. We have children together. We haven’t had sexual relations since my smallest kid. I refuse because: We had, and still have, a lot of problems together with bad arguments, fights,…
Read MoreMy husband threw me out of the house and divorced me, leaving me and one of my children homeless. What do you suggest I do?
Question: Hello, I have a difficult situation that I need help with. I’m a member of the Lord’s church, the church of Christ. My husband and I divorced two years ago and we have several children together, one of which my husband is not the biological father, but he raised my child since he was…
Read MoreIf my wife divorces me and then marries again, does that free me to marry again?
Question: I have always believed that man’s written divorce means nothing to God. And you reinforce my thinking when you mention that God is the one who decides when the marriage covenant ends. Doesn’t this mean that even though she wants a divorce (by man’s laws), and I do not, that we are still married…
Read MoreMy husband is a drunk and dying. I don’t want to divorce him. Any advice?
Question: My question is that my husband is an alcoholic, to point of now he has cirrhosis of the liver and hepatitis C. He is in the end stages of his liver hardening. I have put my trust in Jesus the Father, for which I am grateful. He has been there for me more times…
Read MoreCan you help me with some arguments advocating divorce for any reason and remarriage?
Question: Hello, I gave “Are All Divorced Persons Eligible to Remarry?” by Dave Miller at Apologetics Press to my stepfather. He said the author was “narrow”. Before he was baptized he had inquired about his marriage situation and was basically told he is OK. One of the leaders in our congregation actually gave him an article…
Read MoreMy wife is leaving me after only seven months of marriage. Where does this leave me?
Question: I am 19 years old and recently married my high school sweetheart. Now seven months later she wants a divorce, and it’s not for adultery. Should I refuse to sign for the divorce? And if she continues with the divorce, without my agreement, and later remarries someone else, where does this leave me? Are…
Read MoreWhat is “Sexual Immorality” in Matthew 19:9?
by Kyle Butt, M.A. via Apologetics Press Copied by permission. From Genesis to Revelation, the Bible repeatedly stresses the fact that God designed the institution of marriage (Genesis 2:22-25). He has, from the beginning of human history, given very specific ideas about what composes a divinely approved marriage (Matthew 19:1-4), consisting of one man and one woman.…
Read MoreI think my parents are in an unscriptural marriage. How do I handle this?
Question: Hello, I’ve been in the Lord’s church for 11 years now. My stepfather and mother were baptized a few years after I was. This is my mom’s first marriage (I was born out of wedlock) and my stepfather’s fourth. I’m not sure why he was previously divorced but logic and probability tell me they…
Read MoreMy friend’s wife has attacked him with a knife. She is now seeing another man. Can he remarry?
Question: I found your website to be so accurate to the teaching of the Bible. While so many churches twist the Word of God, your advice is exactly to the point of the teachings of Jesus. I have a friend who is in a situation. My friend was in a relationship with a Christian woman…
Read MoreMy husband lives with another woman and doesn’t support me or our children. What should I do?
Question: I have been married for ten years, and they have children. Throughout the marriage, my husband has been in one affair after another. From the beginning of our marriage he cheated; in addition to abandoning me and the children for days and sometimes weeks on end, going so far as to bring his mistress…
Read MoreDivorce … For Any Reason?
by Jason Longstreth “Some Pharisees came to Jesus testing and asking, ‘Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?'” (Matthew 19:3). I’m sure we have all read this question before. This verse (and the verses surrounding it) has been the center of many religious debates over the years.…
Read MoreCan a wife return to her first husband after marrying another man?
Question: Dear Brother Hamilton, Based on my research, there appear to be almost as many interpretations among biblical scholars of what “defiled” means in Deut. 24:4 as there are interpretations of the exception clause in Matt. 19:9. However, I don’t see why it should be an issue because it was in the Old Testament, which…
Read MoreI was engaged to a woman, but I married the woman I got pregnant. Now she refuses to divorce me
Question: Kindly advise me on what to do. I got a lady impregnated. When she told me, I said if that be the case then she has to keep it, but she refused. She insisted that she would abort it. I disagreed with her, but she insisted on aborting it. She demanded money at that…
Read MoreAm I sinning by not contesting my wife’s desire for a divorce?
Question: Good day, My wife and I are married for over ten years and have beautiful kids together. We are both reborn Christians. She filed for divorce recently due to my abusive and aggressive behavior when we disagree sometimes. I agree that I said things to her and my kids about a month ago that…
Read MoreMy husband has cheated on me with ten women that I know of. What do I do?
Question: I have been in a relationship with my husband since I was a teenager. We have been together for over seven years and married for more than five years. We have several children together. After I was a month pregnant with my last child, I found out that there was a possibility that he…
Read MoreI found out the woman I was interested in is still married, what should I do?
Question: I guess this really is not a question. But I read a question you answered and it was a similar question I had. I met a woman who has an almost-four-year-old son. She said she was divorced, but as time went along I found out that she really wasn’t yet. This upset me, based…
Read MoreDoes a person in an adulterous marriage have to get divorced first before he can be baptized?
Question: The following scenario has been presented to me by another person for my thoughts and guidance on it: I have a tough situation. A man I’ve known most of my life was baptized the other day. This man was in adultery. The church went ahead and baptized him. I don’t know all the details…
Read MoreThe Anti-Divorce Jesus
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Read MoreIf a couple divorce, and then reconcile, do they need to remarry?
Question: A married couple divorces, within a short time they reconcile, (in God’s eyes the wife would have been wrong, she repented and made it right with God and the church). This all happened many years ago, but they just never formally remarried, and the state in which they live it is legal for either…
Read MoreMy husband is living with another woman, should I divorce him?
Question: I am a member of the church of Christ. I am now battling with the decision to divorce my husband. I don’t know what to do. My husband and I have been married for about five years. He got baptized while we dated. I was born and raised in the church, but he never…
Read MoreCan you remarry after a separation of seven years?
Question: I don’t doubt God’s forgiveness, but can a person remarry when he is separated from his spouse for over seven years? The marriage was not annulled nor have they divorced yet. Do both commit adultery if they have a new partner? Answer: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual…
Read MoreSince my husband committed adultery in the past, can I remarry even though I’ve been sleeping with a man before I divorced my husband?
Question: I was married at 20 years old. Two months after our marriage my husband admitted to making out with another woman and asked for a divorce. I dismissed his request as being childish and continued with the marriage. After a year of marriage, he admitted to making out with another woman plus he was…
Read MoreI’ve been living with a man while my divorce was going through, but now he is reluctant to marry me
Question: Hi, We have lived together for 7 years. We probably would’ve been married long ago, but I was going through a divorce for 6 of those years, and hospitalized due to medical illnesses for about a year or something like that, on and off. We are utterly and completely in love but don’t have…
Read MoreIf we straighten out ending our past marriages, would we still be in adultery?
Question: I have seen you talking about adultery on a website answering questions. I myself have the same issue. I’m living with my boyfriend of five years, and we have a child together. He is married to another woman, but they have been separated for ten years and he has not been able to afford a…
Read MoreSince my divorce, my children no longer believe in God. What can I do?
Question: Hello, Several years ago my wife became involved in a charismatic group and my marriage fell apart. As I dealt with this situation over the years, I see the effects on my children from what has happened. They were preteens and teenagers when the divorce happened. Throughout all of that time, I have made…
Read MoreMy wife just told me she filed for divorce. What can I do?
Question: Hi, My wife left for summer break with my two kids. Three weeks later I noticed that she was acting weird with me, so I had a long conversation with her. I found out she file for divorce and that she is not coming back. We have been married for three years but have…
Read MoreMy husband, who is an addict, left me. What do I do?
Question: I read the answer you gave regarding the woman who was still bitter as her husband left and she was still angry toward her mother-in-law although she had passed away. I wonder about my own situation and how your answers here apply. My husband left me and my two infants. Shortly after we married…
Read MoreI moved in with another woman before my divorce is final. Am I able to marry her?
Question: Dear brother, I am a member of the church of Christ and have been almost all my life. I married when I was 19 to my high school sweetheart. We were having some problems with money because I lost my job and things got hard, so one day she decide to leave me. Well,…
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