Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
Can a woman divorce her husband because he hid the fact that he was impotent?
Question: What can the church do in a situation where a sister says she has been deceived by a brother who is impotent? He concealed the matter until he had married the sister. Can the sister marry another person since she desires children and was misled? Answer: The short answer is, “no.” She married the…
Read MoreMy husband cheated a lot and I finally divorced him. What will be my punishment?
Question: Hi, I’m having a serious married problem: my husband cheats a lot. We have children together. He would sleep out as if he doing a good thing and does seem to care about how I feel. I took him to family court for counseling. He was upset because he thinks he’s a grown man…
Read MoreMatthew was written for the Jews, so the law on marriage and divorce only applies to the Jews
Question: I was taught that you have to look at who’s talking and who they are talking to. In Matthew 19, Jesus was talking to the Jews, and the Law of Moses was given to the Jews and not the Gentiles, even though Matthew is a New Testament book, so the law on marriage and…
Read MoreThe wife of the man I want to marry is preventing his divorce
Question: I am an orphan, and I was walking close to God. I yearned for a life partner to serve God with but the one who came my way was a man studying to be a pastor who lied to me. He said that he was only one year younger than me and that he…
Read MoreYour responses offer no grace
Question: Regarding: Can I remarry because my wife left the church and left me? Sorry, but your responses offer no grace. I think you fail to understand Scripture properly. There are zero logical reasons why a man must remain bound to loneliness because his rebellious wife left him. Another unhumble Pharisee with no real hope…
Read MoreThe Church in Crisis
by Edward O. Bragwell, Sr. I have a sermon titled “Crises in the Jerusalem Church” that I preach from time to time. It is based on notes that I took on a sermon I heard brother Clinton Hamilton preach many years ago. It points to several crises faced by the first congregation of Christians ever.…
Read MoreCan parents annul their daughter’s marriage?
Question: Please Minister, Can it be right for a parent to annul the marriage of their daughter based on disrespectful behavior shown toward them by their son-in-law? Can a married woman divorce her husband based on the same reason? Answer: A marriage covenant is between a husband and wife (Matthew 19:4-6). Parents are not a…
Read MoreShould I give her another chance?
Question: Sir, I have written you before about my divorce and you responded, and I appreciate that. I am a member of the church of Christ and have been for many years. I listen to sermons on your website daily for at least 2-3 hours per day and really enjoy them. You are a very…
Read MoreWhere should I go from here? I’m an alcoholic, my wife has left me, and I doubt my baptism
Question: To start off, I was baptized at the church of Christ I attended. Before that time I was getting really bad into drugs, and my drinking was off the charts. I don’t remember what I knew of Christ, just that I needed to be baptized to enter Heaven. I managed to give up drugs…
Read MoreCan a divorced, single Christian serve in the church?
Question: These days it seems as if many couples, including Christians, do not give their marriages a chance and their marriages end quickly because they are not willing to give up their stubborn ways. My husband and I have been married a long time and went through a lot of struggles, especially our first year…
Read MoreSelfishness and Marriage
by J. R. Bronger Divorce! This word used to call to mind “breaking up a home,” and with it trauma, unhappiness, and all manner of problems. Today, however, it is so commonplace that it rarely raises an eyebrow. There is no need to overwhelm you with statistics in order to prove that nearly half of…
Read MoreYour website led me back to Christ after twenty years
Question: I wanted to send a personal email and thank you for your teachings on your website. I was a member of the church of Christ my entire life. In my middle 20s, I was briefly married and divorced with the cause not being adultery. My ex-spouse went to prison for a felonious crime. I…
Read MoreIf a person is divorced for fornication, does that mean he cannot reconcile with his former spouse?
Question: Hi Jeff, I talked about the subject of divorce and remarriage with a preacher. I listened to what he said carefully but couldn’t prove him wrong. I don’t want to let my biases get in the way, but we’re not in agreement. I told him I won’t preach on the subject in the pulpit…
Read MoreWhy is the last phrase in Matthew 19:9 missing in some translations?
Question: In Matthew 19:9, I can’t find the phrase “and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery” in my translation. Answer: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9 NKJV). “And I say…
Read MoreIf a man marries someone who lies about her right to marry, is he an adulterer for the rest of his life?
Question: Dear Jeff, I would so greatly appreciate hearing from you. I have read the material on your website regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage. But I have a special situation I feel unable to sort through regarding a very dear brother in Christ. He was deceived by his first wife. She lied about why she…
Read MoreI moved out after my wife committed adultery a second time, but I don’t know what to do next
Question: Dear Sir, Here is my problem: I have been married for almost twenty years and dated for five years prior to getting married. We were both virgins when we got married, but we did do things that were not right, such as petting and mutual masturbation at times. I have separated from my wife…
Read MoreMy ex-boyfriend married someone else but wants to come back to me. What should I do?
Question: I have never been married, but I do have children. (I know — not good.) My child’s father and I broke up and a few weeks later he married the girl with whom he had cheated on me. After nearly a year of no communication, he reached out to me. We discovered that we…
Read MoreI am miserable after my divorce
Question: I recently got a divorce, not by my choosing, but because of my actions — I cheated on my wife on numerous occasions. I am also a recovering drug addict. I can’t honestly say how many times I left her all alone at the house with our children. I put her through misery, not…
Read MoreI found out that the man I married was already married two years prior
Question: After my marriage to a boy, I came to know that he is already married to a girl two years before my marriage. In my country, marriage is a big deal in a girl’s life. I haven’t made any decisions regarding what I’ll do as I am already married to him. Please give me…
Read MoreDid my mother die in sin?
Question: I want to make clear why this is so important for me. It would be either way when it comes to a mother, but given how much I owe her, it is especially concerning for me. I apologize if it’s a bit long. I was born in Texas (raised there too). My mom raised…
Read MorePermitted Does Not Equate to Desired
by Doy Moyer There is a difference between what God permitted to happen subsequent to sin entering the world and what God desired from the beginning and ultimately makes right in Christ. Jesus illustrates this point: “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has…
Read MoreWhat if someone didn’t realize they were divorced because of their spouse’s adultery?
Question: Many years ago a couple got married and after a short time the husband had a “secret affair” and for obvious reasons did not tell her about it. He just said their marriage was a mistake and he didn’t love her and divorced her. Some years later Betty married another man, Tom, and they…
Read MoreMy mother promised to divorce my drug-using, adulterous dad, but now she’s changed her mind
Question: Hi, I’m a 15-year-old member of the church. My father has gone into drugs and adulterous relationships. My mother promised me that she would get a divorce and that she thought it was best. I have prayed and studied about this matter for literally weeks. My father has now tried to return to our…
Read MoreIs an engaged couple bound to each other just as if they are married?
Question: Hi I read an article on your website that gave me the impression that you are a God-fearing man who wants to make choices based on God’s words. I am troubled with a problem, and I need advice. I got engaged some time ago, but my fiancee left me. The Bible tells that Joseph,…
Read MoreCan I remarry if I encouraged my wife to see other men before I became a Christian?
Question: Before I was a believer I had encouraged my wife to have sex with another man in the twisted idea that it would bring a spark back into our poor sex life. In essence, I was encouraging her to become a “swinger”. Well, she eventually did just that but also fell in love with…
Read MoreMy husband left me and I’m not certain if I should divorce him
Question: I met my husband 21 years ago. We never married until last year. We have two children 9 and 11. When I met him, we had a great seven years, after that things went downhill, we left each other several times and then we had our first son, he left me when I was…
Read MoreMy husband left me for another woman and is doing well. Where are my benefits?
Question: Dear Minister, I need guidance. My former husband, who left me for another woman, is doing well financially. I feel so jealous and I don’t want to feel this way. The feelings of unfairness that she (now his wife) benefits from all the sacrifices that I made for the family. She is reaping what…
Read MoreWhat do I do about my drug-using husband?
Question: How do I deal with my husband who is on drugs and has a low-income job? He says he doesn’t have enough money to pay the bills, but he has money to buy drugs, cigarettes and God knows what else. I have four wonderful children. We don’t have much money to support our children…
Read MoreI need to testify against my alcoholic husband. What do I do?
Question: Hello, I came across your website and thought I would tell you my situation and get your perspective on it. I’ve been married for a little over five years. My husband is an alcoholic. He can go for months without a drink, then once he does, he’s usually off and running to do drugs.…
Read MoreHow can I have a good marriage when my parents set such a bad example?
Question: I really need your insight into this situation. My parents have been married for over 25 years. However, it pains me to say that nearly 20 out of those 26 years my father has committed adultery continuously, whereas my mother has remained faithful. I must note that they are not Christians in the sense…
Read MoreShould I move on and let this man repair his family?
Question: Good day, sir! I’d like to thank you in advance for reading my letter. I’ve been quite troubled over my current situation and I hope you can offer me some advice. My guy and I have been together for some time now, and I’ve had hopes for an impending engagement. But as of late…
Read MoreYou will be accountable for what you said!
Question: Dear Sir, I am married to a victim of the Church of Christ. She has escaped, yet her dad remains a preacher. Sometimes I surf around your site and others to remind myself just how real the lies are but also pray for the victims who believe this garbage. You said: “Loneliness as a…
Read MoreIs my husband justified in finding another woman because I am a stay-at-home mom?
Question: My husband lost his job and because of a hard time finding work in the state that we lived in, he ended up staying with a relative in another state. During that time he decided to get involved with another woman. We have a young daughter, and I am a stay-at-home mom. My husband…
Read MoreWhy is I Corinthians 7:27 translated differently?
Question: My question is, 23 different bibles all say the same thing. They specifically say “divorced from your wife” no problem there. Yet there are 7 different biles that also say the same thing. Instead of saying divorced from your wife they say ” if you are unmarried” here’s the problem with the word “unmarried”. Does it literally mean that…
Read MoreIf I had an affair with another man while separated from my husband, could I marry the man I had the affair with?
Question: I separated from my husband because of his cheating and in the process met a man who was separated from his wife. I had an emotional and sexual relationship with him. I’m confused about if I’m committing adultery and if God will bless our union. He is divorcing his wife who was married previously.…
Read MoreMixed Marriages (Hamilton)
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton While Israel was in captivity due to their many sins, the people lived among the foreign nations for so long that they became lax in following God’s commands. A major factor contributing to this came from their mixed marriages – Israelites marrying foreigners who brought their religious practices into the union.…
Read MoreI left an abusive marriage. Can I date and remarry?
Question: I divorced a man who hit my son and hit me. His pastor says that I am not allowed to ever remarry and if I date and remarry I will burn in the Lake of fire and hear his words for all eternity in my mind in Hell. My ex-husband did not have sex…
Read MoreDoes Matthew 19:9 only refer to fornication prior to marriage?
Question: Hi, I am confused about your definition of porneia in Mathew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9. In your answer to the question “My wife is leaving me after only seven months of marriage. Where does this leave me?” you said that: “One of the reasons for the divorce has to be because the other person…
Read MoreMy wife is having an affair and wants a divorce. What do I need to do?
Question: Hello, My wife and I have been married for 15 years. For over five years I have been dealing with jealousy issues because of flirting and her having emotional-type affairs with other men. I felt like my masculinity was in question and if I said the way she was acting bothered me, it seemed…
Read MoreI want to divorce my husband because I don’t find him sexually appealing
Question: I am a girl from India. Here 70% of the marriages are arranged by parents from the same caste and community. I am a person who listens to what my heart says. I am also a physical kind of person, which means I usually get attracted to smart and cute guys. Nature is also…
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