Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Am I being covetous thinking about a girl who turned me down?
Question: Last year, I met a wonderful girl who has been on my mind almost constantly since I first saw her. In addition to being incredibly beautiful in every physical way, she also has a very sweet demeanor — one of those personalities that just lights up the room. Sadly, I was never able to…
Read MoreWhat more can I tell my ex-boyfriend to convince him of the truth?
Question: I currently attend a church of Christ. The reason I’m contacting you is that my now ex-boyfriend attends a Baptist church. He recently broke up with me because of religious differences. I would not attend his services because I believe that they are worshipping incorrectly. He didn’t think our relationship would work because of…
Read MoreI took some pictures from my boyfriend, and he pushed me into a wall trying to get them back. Should I be concerned that he might be violent?
Question: I need some advice on a situation that just recently happened to me. I went to visit my boyfriend on Sunday night. At first, we were getting along, laughing and joking. Then I saw a picture of him and his ex-friend, about five of them. I walked toward them and took the pictures. He…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I have broken up so many times, I don’t know what to do. I love him, but I’m confused and need some help
Question: My friend told me to send you an e-mail because you really helped her out, and she thought that you could help me. I have been in a relationship with this boy for 7 months now. We have broken up so many times I lost count. We have been through a lot together making…
Read MoreWe have strong feelings for each other, but how do we know if we are made for each other?
Question: My problem is that I love a person, well, we both love each other, but he is a year younger than me; I’m 20 and he is 19. We indulged in sexual touching, but soon we realized that we were sinning. We do not do it anymore. We seriously are repentant about our past…
Read MoreWhat is the difference between courtship and dating?
Question: What is the difference between courtship and dating? I don’t see any difference. Answer: Dating in American culture is when a boy and girl see each other regularly and go out on outings together, one-on-one. The purpose is to get to know each other and to decide if each wants the other as a…
Read MoreHow do I find a girlfriend in the United States?
Question: I am a 20-year-old boy. I don’t have any girlfriend and I want to find a nice girl, say between 18 and 45 years of age, from the United States of America or another American country. So what should I do to find her? Answer: Let me first warn you, there are a number…
Read MoreYou May NOW Kiss the Bride
by Cindy Dunagan via Focus Magazine, No. 98, April 2008. Sexual purity. What virtue is more difficult to instill in our teenagers than purity of heart? No one needs to tell you we are living in an ultra-sexualized culture where your teenagers will be continually surrounded by sexual temptation. This roaring lion (I Peter 5:8-9) is…
Read MoreIf my boyfriend and I touched each other’s private areas, does that mean we aren’t virgins? When we were younger, we pretended to get married. It felt real. Does that mean we are married?
Question: I’ve read a couple of responses that you have given to other people and I find them very helpful. This site is just the site that I’ve been looking for to help me with my situation. I have a couple of questions and I was wondering if you could help me out. I’m presently engaged…
Read MoreCan thinking about a girl constantly be idolatry?
Question: Could you help me understand what idolatry is according to the Bible? I know it seems like a simple concept, but I have heard so much conflicting information on the subject. For example, I heard one preacher complaining that being devoted to American Idol constituted idolatry (how about that?). Another said that following celebrities…
Read MoreI’m not certain if this girl is the one for me. What do you do in such a situation?
Question: I attended a singing night at a congregation and I met a young woman. She is a member of the Lord’s church. Her mom attends when she is not working. Her grandmother is faithful in attendance. She became very interested in me and I was interested in her too because I finally found someone…
Read MoreIf I marry the girl I love, I will be rebelling against my parents. What do I do?
Question: I have some bad news. Over the past month, I had tried to convince my parents that the girl I love was the right one for me but all was in vain. And, yes, I would have gone ahead and heeded your advice, but the culture I belong to is very conservative wherein it…
Read MoreWhere in the Bible can I learn more about dating?
Question: Which books of the Bible would you recommend me to read when it comes to dating? I do not know how to deal or talk with girls at all. My ex told me that I do not know what I am doing when it comes to dating. I have not been taught by my…
Read MoreMy parents don’t think the girl I want to marry is good looking enough. What should I do?
Question: I’m 24 years old and a Christian by faith. I fell in love with a girl at my workplace. She, too, is a Christian. I thought my parents would accept her, but on the contrary, they did not. My parents have not even allowed me to speak my mind. I feel terrible within. After…
Read MoreIf I’m Christian and my boyfriend is of a different religion, then is it wrong for us to date?
Question: I wanted to ask you a question that kind of plays an important part in my life. If I’m Christian and my boyfriend is Seventh-Day Adventist, then is it wrong for us to date? My parents think so, but I see no harm in it. I’m a little confused and need some clearing up on this subject. Answer: To…
Read MoreWhat does a woman do when the Christian men around seem more interested in non-Christian women?
Question: Your site is nice and good for learning for the Christians. You are doing a good job. May the Lord strengthen you to do more. I am very happy to come across your web site while I was searching for a hymn, “God Give Us Christian Homes,” and I have read some of the questions…
Read MoreChoosing a Companion
by Bill Hall A happy home is being with a wise choice of a marriage partner. We, therefore, submit the following questions as a guide for our young people as they seek out their companion for life. 1. Is this person eligible for marriage? There are those who have a right to marry according to the laws…
Read MoreWho do you think you are telling someone the proper order for finding a spouse?
Question: Are you for real? Do things in the proper order: find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, fall in love, get married, and then enjoy sex without the constant worries and sinfulness of uncommitted sex. Who do you think you are to tell someone what the proper order is? For the…
Read MoreI regret breaking up with my boyfriend. What should I do?
Question: Many thanks for the comprehensive answers that you give to our questions. I had been dating my boyfriend for some time, but then I ended the relationship for some reasons and I told him my reasons. The reasons were a bit petty, but I still ended the relationship. Now I feel like I made…
Read MoreMy girlfriend isn’t a Christian and I don’t know what to do
Question: I have been dating my girlfriend for almost two months. We have now run into some problems with each other. I will admit that she is not a Christian. I wanted to try and bring her to Christ. Her parents are divorced and her mom has a man living with her. My girlfriend calls…
Read MoreIs Jeremiah 16:2 telling me not to marry the woman I love?
Question: I am a believer in Nigeria. I have this question, I want you to seek the face of God and give me the interpretation. I have a lady friend, whom I truly love and she loves me. She is my neighbor. We have known each other for two years now, but we became friends…
Read MoreHow do I find someone to marry?
Question: I read your on-line article on Christian marriage and it really inspired me. I realize now that I want to return to my roots and find a Christian lady to marry, with whom I can worship God. Help me find someone. Answer: Since there are several articles on marriage on this site, I’m not…
Read MoreHow do you know if someone likes you?
Question: I am a senior in college. There is a girl that I like who just started attending school here whom I am trying to get to know. It seemed she liked me in the beginning, but it seems she doesn’t really like me as much now. It seems she is trying to avoid me now. I’ve…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t want to get married yet because he’ll be dropped from his dad’s insurance. What should I do?
Question: Ok, my fiance and I have been living together for almost six months now. We are not married. For a while I let myself get away from God and I didn’t care if we were living together unmarried. I’m trying to get closer to God and receive forgiveness for my sins. I know the…
Read MoreDoes God send us signs?
Question: I am curious to know whether God sends signs to us. For example, a man has an interest in a woman he has never met but seen at school or someplace. He tries to look for signs to see if she has any interest. He later finds out that she’s a Christian, and finds…
Read MoreShould physical features be considered when dating or choosing a mate?
Question: First, thank you for this site and your willingness to answer some tough questions in a biblical manner. I don’t know how to ask this without seeming to be lustful, but I want to be honest. Is it wrong for a male to consider or even enjoy certain physical characteristics (i.e. large breasts) of…
Read MoreWe keep going over our boundaries. How do we prevent pre-marital sex in college?
Question: I am a university student. I have a problem regarding sex before marriage. I want to have a healthy relationship with God and also have God be happy with my healthy relationship with my girlfriend. We try not to have sex even though we have done it. We pray for forgiveness each the time…
Read MoreIs it proper to talk about the details of sex with your intended before marriage?
Question: Hey, I have a quick question for you. I want to know your view on this. OK, well, you know how it is when you have a girlfriend and you have temptations from sexual desires. I love her so much and everything. I want to express my love for her. We talk about marriage…
Read MoreI’m so confused. My boyfriend and I broke up, but now he called me and wanted phone sex with his ex-girlfriend on the phone. I hung up, but what do I do?
Question: My relationship with my boyfriend is crumbling. We don’t live in the same state. We’ve never met face-to-face. But I’ve known him for over a year and I’m in love with him, but he is cutting me off. Officially we broke up, but I don’t want it to be permanent. I do not think…
Read MoreShould I wait until after my schooling to get married?
Question: Hello, I am in seminary in my first year. I’m 20 years old and I have been dating my girlfriend for 1 year and 3 months. We both want to get married, but my father believes that it is too early to get married because I need to focus my life in the seminary.…
Read MoreDid I love him too much?
Question: I just turned 21 years old and I have been through a lot. Life has not always been easy for me. I want to be saved and do the right things to make it in heaven. I am a Christian. Lately, I have been reading the bible on my own because I want to know and love God and Jesus better. However,…
Read MoreDid my girlfriend and I sin by trying foreplay even though we will be married next year?
Question: Hello, I and my girlfriend tried foreplay a couple of times, but we have not had sex. She is not just my girlfriend, she is almost my wife. I will marry her next year; this will surely happen. Also, I didn’t have any sexual experiences before. I have gone through all the chapters in your…
Read MoreWhere does God promise a husband?
Question: If one is expected to wait for sex until marriage, where does God promise a husband? I’m tired of waiting for 37 years. I just had to fend off a married, now divorced, minister. He is still in the pulpit. He was separated, which I understood was meant for restoration. We have nothing in…
Read MoreShould I keep denying boys a chance to walk with me?
Question: I commend your site, it really gives people a lot of spiritual help. Thanks! This just happened three days ago. A friend of mine asked to meet me at school to hand me a souvenir from a place he went with his family. We did meet, and after thanking him for his gift he…
Read MoreMy girlfriend’s past is making me uncomfortable. Should I break up with her?
Question: I was so close today to cutting ties with my girlfriend. Each day something happens and I get more tired of her antics. Yesterday, we didn’t talk all day because my friend was coming over in the morning and in the evening I was leaving to go to an event that was an hour…
Read MoreMy pastor says God told her that I shouldn’t marry my fiance. What do I do?
Question: Hi! I am 19 years old and I have been a Christian all my life. I am a Pentecostal. I have fallen in love with a man the same age as me and we both agree it’s better that we get engaged and seek the Lord in everything we do rather than falling into…
Read MoreI think my girlfriend is making a mistaking in finding a new place to live. What can I do?
Question: I’m curious to hear your two cents on this situation I’m stuck in right now. So here’s the story: Since my girlfriend and her daughter live over two hours away, she’s looking to move closer since it’s very hard for us to see each other. We only do that about once a month, twice if…
Read MoreHow can I help break an impasse between two young people?
Question: I would, please, like to know your thoughts about a particular courting problem with which I am involved. The problem is concerning two young friends of mine, a young lady and a young man. They’re both serious disciples of Jesus, as are their respective families. They and their respective families each attend a different congregation. Up to the present time, the only way…
Read MoreDid I commit a deadly sin by having sex with my girlfriend, even though I know I’m going to marry her?
Question: Please help. I am a Christian and I have been in a celibate relationship with the person I love for 3-1/2 months now. We have told each other many times that we love each other and would do anything for each other many times. We have also said that we want to marry and…
Read MoreIs kissing and fondling my boyfriend fornication?
Question: My boyfriend and I indulge in kissing and fondling only. Could this be fornication? Answer: The Bible states that sexual touching is not right prior to marriage. “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The reason is…
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