Who do you think you are telling someone the proper order for finding a spouse?
Question:
Are you for real?
Do things in the proper order: find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, fall in love, get married, and then enjoy sex without the constant worries and sinfulness of uncommitted sex.
Who do you think you are to tell someone what the proper order is? For the record, I just happened to follow this order, but I did have sex many many times before getting married. Before I met my husband, and with him. We were both totally monogamous with each other while having sex which you say is impossible.
Engaging in sex when you are not married is loaded with problems. You run the risk of sexually transmitted diseases because it is highly likely that neither of you are monogamous.
Where are your scientific research journals to back up this assumption? I have had over 15 sexual partners from age 21-28 and have never once had an STD and have never been "emotionally damaged." Keep believing in your false idol who wrote your false book because, guess what, there is no right religion. It's all ridiculous. Go see Religulous before you start spewing hate and lies again. The entire world would be a better place if everyone just admitted what is a fact: there is no "God" that we can say with certainty. Basically we should all become agnostics in order to avoid running into people like you who preach lies and prevent people from making their own just fine choices. You are the one who should feel guilty!
Answer:
"The fool has said in his heart, "There is no God." They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none who does good. The LORD looks down from heaven upon the children of men, to see if there are any who understand, who seek God. They have all turned aside, they have together become corrupt; there is none who does good, no, not one" (Psalm 14:1-3).
Since in your belief system you deny the existence of God, you cannot lay claim to agnosticism, since that system at least acknowledges that deity exists.
It is amusing that you feel superior to people who hold to a proven system of belief that has improved the world for thousands of years. It is even funnier that you use a comedy film as a source -- and no, despite your invitation, I won't bother wasting time viewing this film.
I don't know how much of a reasoned discussion we can have since you doubt my own existence for no other reason than that I hold an opposing view to your own. Of course, you also think that monogamy means that you only have sexual relations with one person at a time instead of the dictionary definition of having only one spouse. It is hard to discuss things with people who redefine words to soothe their own conscience. Too, you make the common mistake of assuming that your personal experience means that the same can happen to everyone. I wonder why you ask for studies when you offer anecdotal evidence instead of studies yourself. At least I offered biblical references as sources. I know you don't accept them, but I'm not seeking your approval anyway.
No, the more I think about it, I don't think it is worth the effort.
"For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even His eternal power and Godhead, so that they are without excuse, because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools" (Romans 1:20-22).
