Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Should I quit preaching to find a wife?
Question: I have been a minister now for almost 30 years. My wife left me after nearly 30 years of marriage. However, I need a helpmate. I want to date but all women are scared of dating a preacher. I understand that too. I don’t want to cause a “Black Eye” on the church so…
Read MoreIf you become best friends, isn’t there a danger of the girl not wanting to marry you because she only sees you as a friend or a brother?
Question: I hope that you still use this email address for I have just read something on your website that appears to be contrary to what I have learned from experience. In your article on lust, you state: “Love is built on a relationship between a man and a woman that develops over time. There…
Read MoreHow do I set boundaries with my boyfriend?
Question: I’m a member of the church and have really enjoyed the encouragement from my brothers and sisters that I get here. I found your site a couple of years ago and have referred to it often when I have questions because I appreciate your Bible-based wisdom and advice. Since entering college, I met a…
Read MoreHow far can we go in touching each other?
Question: I have been in a relationship with this girl for quite a few months, and well it’s hard for her to show her emotions toward me through words; she is a feeling person, and I’m one too, but not as much. When we’re alone, we just hug tightly, play with each other’s hair and…
Read MoreAm I distracting my girlfriend from being a Christian?
Question: I have a relationship with my girlfriend. We have been dating for more than a year, and we both are 20. We were not like the kind of teens that have God in our past, not even when we started dating. But, well, she comes from some other relationships that didn’t work at all,…
Read MoreShould I continue dating this guy?
Question: Hi, I have a guy who came from another town and is my best friend. We worked in the same company. We have been together for almost 2 years. We meet almost every day, and our meetings on Saturdays are regular. We spent the whole day together enjoying ourselves. We have such a good…
Read MoreCan you marry someone who is four years different from your age, or who goes to the same church?
Question: Hi, I am in love with this girl at my church. We’re four years apart; however, we decided to be friends and go out later. In the future is it possible to marry her? Is it okay to marry someone that goes to your church? Answer: Let’s see, Abraham was ten years older than…
Read MoreShould I not be so open about my wanting a spiritually strong Christian for a husband?
Question: My marriage is likely to be done the old fashioned way, with an arranged marriage where the parents find a suitable prospect, the guy and girl gets introduced, and then they decide between themselves if the marriage seems likely or not. Well, even though I’ve been a Christian all my life, I should say,…
Read MoreHow do I get over loving a boy who doesn’t love me?
Question: I met this boy at work. Initially, it was OK, but after some time, because of his good nature and politeness, I became attracted to him. I then found out that he had a girlfriend in the past and he loved her very much, but somehow their love did not end up in marriage…
Read MoreHow can a girl get over the disappointment that her boyfriend isn’t a virgin?
Question: How can a virgin get over the disappointment that her boyfriend isn’t a virgin? I am a female in her mid-twenties and a virgin. A childhood friend of mine moved back to the city we grew up in, and we became friends again, attending church and Bible study together. Over several months we became…
Read MoreHow do I go about having a relationship as a Christian?
Question: Hi, I want to start by saying how I appreciate your help to others as seen through your web site. My question is: I recently got saved and have been in secular relationships before. There is this lady in our fellowship group whom I am deeply in love with and would wish to start…
Read MoreMy girlfriend is moving back into a bad situation. What can I do?
Question: OK. This could take a while. I’m with this girl. She is by far, without a doubt, the love of my life. I’ve come a long way. Far enough that I can tell through some of my people they want what I got, though they won’t say that. But it seems I have done…
Read MoreWhat can I do about my boyfriend’s daughter, whom I can’t stand?
Question: My boyfriend and I are both scripturally divorced Christians. He has a daughter who is in her twenties, married, and pregnant with her second child. Her husband travels for his job, and because they are building a house, she and her daughter live with my boyfriend. I try to mind my own business, but…
Read MoreIs this girl the answer to my prayers?
Question: I met the girl online, and we have been talking online for several months now, We haven’t actually met in person but we plan on meeting up next week. We are both Christian, and we have had a few differences of opinion, and arguments. I literally fell in love with this girl before I’ve…
Read MoreShould I continue this relationship?
Question: Hello, I am badly in need of help. Please help me as I have seen your answers to queries on your web site. Here goes my story.. I am a girl who has fallen in love with many guys in the past. When I was in my teens, a guy badly deceived me, and…
Read MoreI’m nervous about meeting a girl I met over the Internet
Question: I met a girl over the Internet about a month ago. We immediately “clicked.” We are both Christian and believe in the same things, such as no sex before marriage, and much more. We have the same interests. I pray every night that the Lord sends me the strength and opportunity to do the…
Read MoreHow much control does a father have?
Question: Hello, I’d first like to thank you for this site. The question-and-answer format is really very good, being able to see the application of biblical principles in terms of case-studies, so to speak. I have enjoyed reading many of them! My question is kind of two-fold in nature, touching on both the topics of…
Read MoreDoes the Bible say anything about ages differences between a man and a woman in marriage?
Question: Does the Bible say anything about a great difference in age between a man and woman who want to marry or who are married? Answer: There was a ten-year difference in Abraham and Sarah’s age. “Then Abraham fell on his face and laughed, and said in his heart, “Shall a child be born to…
Read MoreIs God telling me not to move back?
Question: Hello, I was seeking His voice, and what I have learned about building a relationship with the Lord is that one must communicate and seek Him in order to gain confirmation that one is doing His will. I grew up in one state, but less than ten years ago I encountered a very life-altering…
Read MoreI am in love with a girl at church, but I’m trying to forget about her and I can’t
Question: Hi. I am a son of God, and I love Jesus. I need your help. I love a girl in my church. We both love Jesus. I have prayed to God and cry for help to forget about this love, but it is still in my heart. We used to send text messages about…
Read MoreHow do you get past a break-up?
Question: She ended our relationship. The root of most of our problems was the observations I’d make about her behavior. I’d suggest more Christ-like ways to dress and react to situations fairly often. She didn’t like it. As we got closer I felt more able to really level with her on Christian things and as…
Read MoreDid God send me this girl?
Question: I am not really that outgoing. I once thought I would be hopeless in finding a girl who I truly loved without something bad happening. Many bad things have happened in my life, most of the time they seem to happen just at the moment when I am happy, and they find a way to destroy…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend, telling her I was a virgin when I am not. What should I do?
Question: My girlfriend and I recently talked a bit about our past relationships, and the subject of being virgins slowly came up. Although I have tried my best to live a good Christian life, there came a point where under pressure I lost my virginity. It only occurred once and never again afterward. I realized…
Read MoreAs a couple, we seem to be arguing too much
Question: What advice would you give a Christian couple dealing with a long-distance relationship for a while? We’ve had several arguments over the phone, and it seems like things aren’t going well and might not get better. I feel like there’s something going wrong that can be helped with scriptural advice, but I have no…
Read MoreI love my girlfriend, but she does a lot of bad things. I want to follow God. What should I do?
Question: Hi, I have a question about what I should do with my girlfriend. She’s the love of my life, and I can’t imagine ever being without her, but ever since I got real serious about God, things she does bothers me so much more. She smokes weed and cigarettes, she dranks, she cusses up…
Read MoreWhy does my boyfriend seem so contradictory?
Question: My boyfriend and I met through a mutual friend several months ago. We both are very involved in church. He leads a youth group at a local high school, along with other ministries in our community. This attracted us to each other and was a major conversation starter when we started hanging out. We…
Read MoreI’ve messed up my relationships. What do I do?
Question: I have lost confidence in myself. I thought because I re-gave my life to Christ that I would not fall the next day. But I did a few weeks after trying to give my ex a second chance. I cheated. Before I met my ex I was pretty clear with males and not interested…
Read MoreIs it a sin to love a girl who is underaged?
Question: Is it wrong to be in love with an under-aged girl? Even to believe that you are made for each other and you can’t imagine life without her? God has recently called me, and I’m leaving so much of what’s in my life behind. I can’t imagine a life without her. I see her…
Read MoreWhy can’t I find a wife?
Question: I have spent so much time trying to find a good faithful wife. I cannot find one. I have searched for so long. I’ve tried online dating sites. I’ve tried everything. I’ve dated a number of girls and none of them wanted to marry me. I have tried so hard to be the right example and do…
Read MoreIs it wrong to love a non-Christian?
Question: I am 20 years old, and I have a boyfriend. We both really love each other. Although he is not a Christian, I can’t leave him. Is it wrong to love a non-Christian? We both sometimes end up having dry sex. He says it’s not a sin because we truly love each other. I…
Read MoreShould I heed the words of a prophet in regard to who I marry?
Question: Good day. I found your web site after I googled the phrase ‘prophets telling you whom to marry’. I was rather intrigued by the answers I found on your web site and decided to send you an email to ask for your advice. I have been going out with a young man for six years. That…
Read MoreShould I apologize or move on?
Question: I’m 19 and I was in a relationship with a girl. I love her so much, but I do not know if she is the right girl for me. I believed that God sent me this girl because no matter what happened, we stayed together for more a year now. Last night we broke…
Read MoreMy boyfriend says he regrets his past fornications, but he is pushing to have sex with me. How do I get him to change?
Question: I am a 22-year old girl who is just in love with a 26-year-old boy. We belong to different casts but the same religion. We share a good emotional connection, and as a person, I know he is a good one. He loves me and wants to marry me. However, in his past life…
Read MoreWaiting for sex is difficult, but your web page got me to hold on to my purity
Question: Hi! I just read Waiting for the Proper Time and I think it is wonderful information. I try my best to stay pure and have been in a relationship for almost a year now. I love him and he loves me, and I do want sex, but I will refrain because I know when we…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I try hard, but we always end up in sexual situations. What should we do?
Question: My boyfriend and I are both Christians. We both try very hard to follow and do God’s will and word. So when I told him that I didn’t want to have sex till we were married, he was all right with it. Even though we have had sex before, I was at the point…
Read MoreIs it possible to step back after you think you are going too far?
Question: I’ve been reading this site and you give such meaningful advice to people, so I wanted to ask a question of my own: Is it possible to take a leap backward after you feel like you and your boyfriend have gone too far physically? We haven’t had any sexual contact, but I’m afraid that…
Read MoreI found a woman whom I really like, but she says she isn’t interested in me. What do I do?
Question: Hi. I’m wondering if you can please help me with a struggle I’ve had regarding a desire for a particular woman. There is a young Christian woman who I really like, but she had told me a while ago that she doesn’t have a romantic interest in me. Since then we’ve remained friends, but…
Read MoreHow can I restrain myself from doing foreplay with my girlfriend?
Question: How can I restrain myself from doing foreplay with my girlfriend? Answer: “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The simple answer is to keep your hands off of her body. Rather than thinking about your desire…
Read MoreRed, yellow, or green light?
Question: I love your site. I sent the link to my girlfriend. We are not romantically involved; we just only touch the upper part of our bodies, and we keep our clothes on. I asked the pastor where I go to church and he told me that it is a good question, but if she…
Read MoreWhen should I tell my girlfriend that I’m not a virgin?
Question: Hello. I have been looking over your site and have been blessed by it very much. I was looking for a question but couldn’t find it, so I thought I would ask myself. I know that going into details about my sinful past with my current girlfriend isn’t necessary, but I do feel I…
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