Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
How do I let go of the guilt of having committed adultery?
Question: I was friends with a married man. It was all very innocent until one day. I met his wife and children, and they were all so lovely. He dropped me off at home, and it just happened. I can’t believe that I allowed myself to accept a married man in my bed. I am…
Read MoreWill I be condemned for running off with another man?
Question: I have been feeling very convicted. I find myself questioning my salvation. I have been married for over five years and have decided to leave my husband for a man I met playing an online game. I know I am in the wrong. I have no doubts. My husband claims he loves me, and…
Read MoreHow do I straighten out the mess I’m in?
Question: Hi, I have a big problem and I need some guidance, please. It’s a long story, so please bear with me. I grew up in a church of Christ and got baptized when I was younger. I did not really have a full understanding; I think I may need to redo it. I have…
Read MoreMy husband says he wants to divorce me in order to have a polygamous marriage. What do I do?
Question: I am a Christian. I am writing because my husband wants a divorce. He has stated to me that he believes that he should be able to have more than one wife and live under one roof with them. I really think that he doesn’t believe that, but he just wants to be able…
Read MoreCan I have sex with a woman who is willing and cannot get pregnant?
Question: I got married to an unfaithful woman. I guess having it her way counts as unfaithfulness? My dad and others where we were living did not want us together as she: Had 16 boyfriends before me Did not pay her rent or telephone bills Had a lot of medical problems that she told me…
Read MoreWhat can I do? My ex-husband is about to marry his mistress
Question: I need your help. My ex-husband is marrying his mistress. According to the church, they are “shacking up” and need to be right by God. They getting married is the right thing to do, according to their church. I have departed from my husband (he divorced me), hoping we someday he will see his…
Read MoreI repented of my adultery, but my wife is still planning to divorce me. What do I do?
Question: My wife and I had a marriage that was in shambles. Instead of turning to the Lord, we continually relied upon ourselves. Our communication was bad, our respect for each other was low, and our intimate life was terrible to non-existent. Over the years I ended up having multiple affairs. Just last month I…
Read MoreI’m trying to forgive my wife for the adultery she committed, but I’m finding it hard to forget
Question: Good evening, sir, I was told about your website and that you can help me with some questions I have about my marriage. I have been married for less than ten years. Well, last year my wife was seeing another guy from work. I found her messages when she was texting him. I confronted…
Read MoreMy friend is committing adultery. Must I say something?
Question: I need a clear answer. Did I commit sin if I have known from the beginning my friend has committed adultery and still dating someone? She still married, still living in the same house together with her husband and kids. Her husband is nice, old, and busy at work all the time. I also…
Read MoreI’ve been involved in acts of lewdness with a married man while leading a church. What do I do?
Question: I am born again and have been upholding purity and faithfulness to God. I did not have any dealings with men because I told myself I was waiting for the guy that God has destined for me. I would stick to that and really serve God to the fullest. I lead praise and worship…
Read MoreI ruined my husband’s reputation with my family. How do I repair it?
Question: Good morning my brother, I’m a believer and married. I have a problem that does not allow me to sleep. For the past three years my husband cheated on me with a woman I forgave him because I love my husband. He is a good husband apart from his mistake. I believe it happened because…
Read MoreMy husband is into porn and I suspect seeing prostitutes. What do I do?
Question: Hello, I am in dire need of biblical advice concerning my marriage. I have been married for almost two years but we have been separated for most of that time. I found out that my husband was watching porn several months into our marriage. Of course, he said he had only done it a…
Read MoreEver since I committed adultery and lost my marriage, it seems like I’ve been stuck
Question: I am in my late forties. I had cheated on my ex-wife, she asked me for a divorce, and I gave it to her. I regret what I’ve done, since then nothing has gone good for me. I’ve repented and asked God for forgiveness. I have had so many jobs and can’t find a…
Read MoreI’m trying to hold my marriage together, but my wife won’t stay at home
Question: My wife has been inconsistently living at home. It’s been one excuse after the other. We have been divorced once before because she committed adultery. I fear God’s judgment on my head and know that I am no perfect person myself. Although I have never physically committed adultery, I have in my heart. I…
Read MoreI didn’t want to start the year with lies so I told my husband about my past affair. How can I save my marriage?
Question: Hello, I committed adultery a few months ago, but I just told my husband because I didn’t want to bring the new year in with lies and deceit. My question is what can I do or say to make things work? I know I was wrong, but I want my marriage. I know it…
Read MoreHow do I find peace when I’m reminded that another woman stole my husband away?
Question: Every holiday season my former spouse’s wife sends holiday greeting cards to my daughter. I don’t understand why she feels the need to send photos of my former spouse and herself (along with their toddler) to her. I put the greeting cards up and display them, for it is my daughter’s father and her…
Read MoreCan I remarry after both my husband and I have committed adultery?
Question: Hello. I need your help and guidance. I’m currently in the process of a divorce, which has been going on for two years now. My ex-husband and I were very young when we decided to live together. I was 16 and he was 17. I admit that I latched onto him because I wanted…
Read MoreNow that my husband has died, can I marry the man I committed adultery with?
Question: I have committed adultery against my husband. He has since died. If I marry the man that I committed adultery with, am I free to marry him? He is single. He knew I was married at the time this happened. Is he an adulterer? If we decide to marry will God recognize and accept…
Read MoreI encourage you to remove “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage” from your website
Question: The article by Mark Broyles, “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage,” on your website is spreading a myth – short of being able to mind-control your spouse, there is no way to prevent an affair. One’s partner can do anything they choose to do. I encourage you to remove the article. It’s poor to see shoddy theology…
Read MoreHow long does it take to get over finding out your husband committed adultery?
Question: I could use help. My husband confessed he had a one-night stand while in another country. He told me six months later after he has been back, so it’s been a month now since I’ve known and it’s been horrible. I’m trying but then I have these moments when I want questions to be…
Read MoreAdultery: An Outdated Crime?
Source: Ethan Bronner, “Adultery: Ancient crime still on many states’ books,” The New York Times, reported in the Omaha World-Herald, 15 November 2012. The core of Mr. Bronner’s article is that adultery laws are no longer enforced and have been removed from half the state’s books. The reason most other states have not removed the laws is…
Read MoreWhen a person doesn’t know the wrong you did, is confession required?
Question: I have committed adultery many times during the past 30 years of my marriage and in many instances lied to cover up my absence. During the last year or two, I have earnestly started to read the bible and now feel extremely guilty about my past poor behaviors. Since I have become more familiar…
Read MoreShould I tell my ex-wife I cheated on her?
Question: I feel really bad. I’m with my ex-wife whom I was married to for over ten years. I went out with some buddies and got drunk. I made a mistake and cheated on her with a one-night stand. Does the Bible say tell the Lord and repent or does it say I have to…
Read MoreMy boyfriend committed adultery and is now divorced. Am I doomed if I marry him?
Question: This is hard for me to come out and ask this, and I need this answer because I think my salvation is very important. I’m young and I mean 21. I have not been married and met a man. We have been together for about two years. He loves me very much, and I…
Read MoreI just found out my husband committed adultery while he was overseas
Question: I’ve been married for about five years. My husband just returned from another country after being there for a year. We had rough spots, and while he was there, he started drinking and partying a lot, which he said he did to pass the time. I stayed in my country with our kids and…
Read MoreIs it wrong to divorce my wife if she moves out?
Question: I found out less than six months ago that my wife of two years was seeing another man. My wife and I had been together for over five years before I asked her to marry me. Before we were married she was in a short relationship with her boss who is married with kids. …
Read MoreAm I an exception to the rule? Has God forgiven me?
Question: I needed some guidance for a particular situation I have put myself in. To be blunt, it is on the hot topic of adultery. Now before anyone judges me for my horrible sin, let me give you some background. I have been raised in an amazing Christian family and grew up in a wonderful…
Read MoreHow could I, as a Christian, have committed adultery when I knew it was wrong?
Question: I was baptized at 18. I know I honestly wanted to live for God and to commit myself to Him. Fast forward to age 25 when I got married and only shortly after getting married I found myself actively participating in an adulterous sexual relationship. I knew it was wrong I even told the…
Read MoreMy wife divorced me after she had an affair, and I can’t help thinking it was all my fault
Question: I found your website searching online and I have a question to ask! My wife of 15 years divorced me recently. I’m just lost and devastated. From the start, I was verbally abusive and on a few occasions had pushed her. The fact is: I was abusive and that’s a fact. I hurt inside…
Read MoreI’m pregnant after committing adultery and I don’t know what to do
Question: I’m 34 years. I was recently baptized because I love Jesus and I want to live a holy life. There is this one sin that I have prayed for several times asking God to help me to walk away from this sin. I slept with a born-again guy unintentionally. It just happened because he…
Read MoreHow long do I try to make my marriage work?
Question: Hello, My husband and I have been separated off and on for over a year and a half now. We were still sexually involved, although he has been involved with other women during this time until I contracted a sexually transmitted disease from him. Each attempt to reconcile our marriage has been unsuccessful due…
Read MoreI can’t make up my mind between my husband and my lover
Question: Hi I hope you may be able to help. I’m a born-again Christian for the last 10 years. Here is my anguish: I met my husband when we were both near 20 years of age. At the time of meeting him, I was going through an awful time dealing with a nasty father and…
Read MoreThe Awful Aftermath of Adultery
by Jonathan Perz How rampant is the sin of adultery? While an exact number is hard to pinpoint, on the low end of most surveys, approximately 25% of all married individuals will commit adultery during the course of their marriage. This is not just a minor problem, it qualifies as an epidemic, and Christians are…
Read MoreDid my sins prior to my marriage cause my husband to commit adultery after our marriage?
Question: I was at church yesterday and the topic was “Root Causes of Sin.” My marriage didn’t start well. Prior to getting married, I fornicated with another man. When I found out that my ex-husband was having an affair, he said he had affairs because of what happened prior to our marriage. Now that I’ve heard a sermon on the…
Read MoreHow do we deal with our son who committed adultery?
Question: I am a Christian. I try to follow the Bible best to my ability. I am a member of a conservative church of Christ. My question is about my son. He grew up in church and was baptized before he joined the service. He is no longer faithful. He married and has a child.…
Read MoreIf a person is divorced because of adultery, can he remarry his ex-spouse?
Question: Can a spouse who has been put away for the cause of adultery, be reconciled to the innocent party if the innocent party so desires according to I Corinthians 7:11? Answer: Of course. Jesus’ statement in Matthew 19:9 is an allowance, not a requirement. A person dealing with a spouse who is committing adultery…
Read MoreI knew it was wrong, but I committed adultery. Will God forgive me?
Question: Hi, I’ve been a Christian for eight years. I read my Bible and know what to do and what not to do in regards to being a Christian. Recently I committed adultery for the first time in my entire life. I’m feeling bad and guilty of such an act. Since then I have been…
Read MoreWhen my boyfriend proposed to me, he said that he had a child when he was a teenager. If I marry him, will that make me an adulteress?
Question: Hi, We are two people in love and about to marry. He proposed to me but before I gave him an answer, he said, “I have a child by my ex-girlfriend. It was a mistake. I did it when I was a teenager, but now I love you and I will never do that…
Read MoreI’ve made a mess out of my life. Can you give me some insight into straightening it out?
Question: I became a member of the church about ten years ago. I later married someone I was unequally yoked with. She had a daughter from a previous relationship. In less than six months, it became an abusive situation for me. It came to the point where I felt disgusted to lay next to her.…
Read MoreI was having an affair of the heart with a married woman. I broke it off, but later heard she committed adultery with another man. Am I guilty for causing her to sin?
Question: Hello, I had an affair with a married woman. Our affair went on for about a year. I liked her a lot. I kissed her but never had sex with her. Later I understood that I was wrong and must not do this as I knew her husband very well. So, I left the…
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