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Should I leave a congregation with no elders for one that has elders?
Question: I worship at a church of Christ that has no elders. There are qualified men who do not desire the office. There is a sound church of Christ nearby that has elders. Am I putting my salvation in jeopardy? Should I move my membership? My desire is to be pleasing to God. Answer: By…
Read MoreMy husband is a drunk and dying. I don’t want to divorce him. Any advice?
Question: My question is that my husband is an alcoholic, to point of now he has cirrhosis of the liver and hepatitis C. He is in the end stages of his liver hardening. I have put my trust in Jesus the Father, for which I am grateful. He has been there for me more times…
Read MoreHow do I become more consistent?
Question: I’ve been disobedient and I want to be closer to God. I want him to bless me. The thing is, I’m a very inconsistent person. Most times, deep down, I don’t feel like reading the Bible, which is horrible. Before when I felt like this I forced myself to read it hoping that the…
Read MoreWouldn’t the Jewish Bible, the Torah, be the most accurate since Jesus was Jewish?
Question: Hi, I have a question” I googled “Which Bible is the most accurate?” and I stumbled upon your page. But my question is wouldn’t the Jewish Bible, the Torah, be the most accurate since Jesus was Jewish? Answer: “Torah” refers to the first five books of the Old Testament, which were written by Moses.…
Read MoreSince sex isn’t discussed, how is a couple to know what is or is not allowed in a marriage?
Question: Hello, While I agree completely with everything you said, I struggle with one thing, not about your answer but about sex in marriage. Sex is not discussed, in a church forum, publicly or privately, whether because of modesty, or embarrassment, etc. But as young couples, who come out of a world of sin and…
Read MoreShould I propose?
Question: I have read some of your answers as regards marriage and making the right choice. I have always prayed to God to give me His perfect will. I have a girl I truly love — we both love each other — and I want to get married to her by God’s grace. How do…
Read MoreCan you help me with some arguments advocating divorce for any reason and remarriage?
Question: Hello, I gave “Are All Divorced Persons Eligible to Remarry?” by Dave Miller at Apologetics Press to my stepfather. He said the author was “narrow”. Before he was baptized he had inquired about his marriage situation and was basically told he is OK. One of the leaders in our congregation actually gave him an article…
Read MoreI have an incurable body odor issue. Why should I continue to live?
Question: My question straight forward and honest is would God send me to hell if I’m tired of living? Let me explain. For many years, I have been dealing with an incurable body odor issue, which causes me to smell of ammonia, regardless of how hygienic I am. This is not a matter of hygiene. …
Read MoreI got baptized for selfish reasons. Do I need to get baptized again?
Question: I was baptized according to the Bible when I was 14. I’m now 20 years old. I have been faithful in the church. However, recently I have been questioning the motive behind my baptism. Now that I look back I knew Jesus had died on the cross for my sins and that when I…
Read MoreMy wife is leaving me after only seven months of marriage. Where does this leave me?
Question: I am 19 years old and recently married my high school sweetheart. Now seven months later she wants a divorce, and it’s not for adultery. Should I refuse to sign for the divorce? And if she continues with the divorce, without my agreement, and later remarries someone else, where does this leave me? Are…
Read MoreI decided to stop having sex with the man I’ve been living with for nearly 15 years. Is that wrong?
Question: I have been with my boyfriend for nearly fifteen years. We live together and have a preteen child. It’s a new year and I decided not to have sex with him until he asks me to marry him. Is that wrong? Is it wrong to sleep in the bed with him, even though I…
Read MoreI married a woman to do the right thing, but now I regret it
Question: To make a long story short, 17 years ago I got a woman pregnant. I was living in one state, she was in another. I was there on a visit and had grown up there. I was not saved at the time. I felt guilty because I knew that the woman would drag my…
Read MoreWe didn’t have a wedding ceremony. Am I married?
Question: My case is the same with Am I married? but the difference is I am a woman. I knew it was wrong, but still, I already committed it with my boyfriend. Maybe I loved him or maybe I was infatuated with him. I don’t know because he’s the first man whom I ever felt something.…
Read MoreHow can I express my anger in a way that is healthy and in a way God would want us to?
Question: Hello, I would like to wish you a very happy New Year. This year, I want to focus even more on becoming a better Christian and learning what God requires of us. My question is in regards to anger. Sometimes, like all humans, I get angry in life. The causes for the anger vary…
Read MoreCan I baptize myself?
Question: Hi, Thanks for a good website I have learned a lot from reading questions and answers! Is it possible to support your website financially? I want to ask if you would pray for me so I can get out of my sin. As a person, I used to be confident, but I’m not that…
Read MoreI had sex before with a different woman. Does that mean I’m committing adultery with the woman I am with?
Question: Please. Please, I have many things I have to ask. A woman took my virginity, but it was only for a night. I’m with a different woman now and have been with her for five years. Is that adultery? Answer: Fornication is when you have sex with someone you are not married to. Thus,…
Read MoreCan a person go to heaven who doesn’t accept God but believes He exists and is good?
Question: Do you think a person who doesn’t accept God but believes He exists can go to heaven if he is a good guy and help others? Answer: You are asking if a person partially obeys God, picking which commands he would like to follow while ignoring the rest of what God said, can he…
Read MoreI think my parents are in an unscriptural marriage. How do I handle this?
Question: Hello, I’ve been in the Lord’s church for 11 years now. My stepfather and mother were baptized a few years after I was. This is my mom’s first marriage (I was born out of wedlock) and my stepfather’s fourth. I’m not sure why he was previously divorced but logic and probability tell me they…
Read MoreShould videos of the gospels being portrayed be used in Bible Class?
Question: Is it unscriptural to use videos in Bible class? Recently, we decided to temporarily have Bible class for our Sunday evening services in order to watch and discuss the movie “The Gospel According to Matthew.” The movie acts out the events of the book of Matthew and uses the words of the book of…
Read MoreWhat is the blasphemy of the Holy Spirit?
Question: I don’t understand this blasphemy against the Holy Spirit. I know it’s not hating or cursing God. I know that in Bible we have examples like when Jesus healed a man and the Pharisees claimed that he use the devil’s power. Still, 2000 years later, people still fear this sin, and no one claims…
Read MoreAm I going to hell?
Question: Hello there, My questions are a little silly but I want to ask you: How bad am I in Jesus’ eyes? Considering the short summary, am I going to hell? I’ll tell you about myself so you can understand the questions. I am 18 years old non-Christian boy who lives a normal life with…
Read MoreYour piece on the use of mechanical instruments in worship was confusing
Question: I read your piece and reasoning on the use of mechanical instruments in worship and could not make any sense of what you were trying to talk about. It sounded like it was written by a Jehovah’s Witness. To say it was confusing would be an understatement and we all know who the author…
Read MoreDo I need to tell my husband about my sinful past?
Question: Hi, I am married, and I wanted to know if I need to tell my husband all my past sexual sins before we met. I was baptized this year and I’m realizing a lot of things I used to do were very sinful. I’m feeling overwhelmed. I didn’t grow up in a Christian home.…
Read MoreMy friend’s wife has attacked him with a knife. She is now seeing another man. Can he remarry?
Question: I found your website to be so accurate to the teaching of the Bible. While so many churches twist the Word of God, your advice is exactly to the point of the teachings of Jesus. I have a friend who is in a situation. My friend was in a relationship with a Christian woman…
Read MoreMy husband lives with another woman and doesn’t support me or our children. What should I do?
Question: I have been married for ten years, and they have children. Throughout the marriage, my husband has been in one affair after another. From the beginning of our marriage he cheated; in addition to abandoning me and the children for days and sometimes weeks on end, going so far as to bring his mistress…
Read MoreMy wife told me she had sex before we were married, and I can’t let it go
Question: We have been married for nearly 40 years. About two years ago, in an argument over needing to enjoy each other in bed while we can because someday we want to be able to, somehow things I didn’t know came out. When we started dating, my wife played the organ in a Baptist church.…
Read MoreIs it bad to date an older person?
Question: Good evening sir, Please, do you think it’s OK for me to love someone who is about 6-7 years older than me? I’m just 19 and I’m really confused. Most of my friends aren’t in support of it, and I’m really lost. Should I just forget this guy? Answer: Abraham married Sarah, who was…
Read MoreI think I love a man who is a player
Question: Hi there. I’m really lost in love. I’m a Christian and I’ve been searching for love for a long time. I’ve been used for sex so many times. I’ve been in relationships based on sex. I don’t know why I attract these types of guys. I really do want to settle down and have…
Read MoreYou have absolutely no idea what you are talking about
Question: You have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. I was reading your answer to “Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it doesn’t lead to sex?” and I have never seen such a garbage answer. You are simply throwing your own interpretation of the Bible at people as if…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been pushing for things to go further, I resisted for a while, but recently I caved
Question: Hi, I want to ask for advice and for you to share the word of God with me. I am a sinner and I am repented of my rebellious ways. I have committed fornication with my first and current boyfriend. I have been a Christian for two years and was a Catholic since my…
Read MoreOur son is getting into trouble and we don’t what else to do
Question: My 17-year-old son has some issues. My wife and I have raised him in the church since he was a baby. We thought we taught him well until he became 15. At 15, he seemed to forget everything that we taught him. He secretly became involved with a 23-year-old for several months who went…
Read MoreMy boyfriend just broke up with me and I don’t know why
Question: Hello, My boyfriend of two years recently broke up with me a week before Christmas. When I asked him why, he could not give me an exact answer. I’m still in love with him and he requested that we “take a break” which I don’t know what that means. I know that I should…
Read MoreWhat is Chrislam?
Question: What is Chrislam? Is it a widely accepted religion? Are followers of this faith allowed to marry anyone either Christian or Muslim? I have seen usually people with Christian family backgrounds adapted to this theory, but how is it possible that you travel in two ships together? Answer: You cannot. Christianity and Islam are…
Read MoreWhat advice would you give to someone who can’t seem to love herself?
Question: What does it mean when the relationships you have with others always failed? What advice would you give to someone who can’t seem to love herself? Answer: I hate to sound trite, but consistent failure means you are going about it the wrong way. Often we convince ourselves that if we do the same…
Read MoreI just committed fornication, again
Question: Good morning minister, At this very moment, as I am writing you, I’ve just committed fornication. I have sinned greatly. My eyes are full of tears. I’m ashamed to even ask God for His forgiveness again. I am struggling with this sinful act. I’m a Christian. I pray. I read my Bible. But because…
Read MoreShould I break up with my boyfriend now, or wait until next spring?
Question: Hi, I read one of your articles on your site, and I wanted to ask a similar question concerning my non-believing boyfriend. I never had intentions of going out with a non-believer, and I’m not sure of how things turned out this way. I never intended this to happen, but somehow it happened. He’s…
Read MoreDo I marry the woman from my church or the woman I never met but have talked to for 10 years?
Question: There is one woman that I love since I met her last ten years ago, though we could never meet outside. It’s like love at first sight. I don’t know why I fell for her, we’ve never been together, except chatting online, since she works in another country. I even couldn’t get a chance…
Read MoreHow can I know if I am meant to get married?
Question: Hello, I have a question regarding marriage. I like very much the idea of adopting, I am 22 years old right now, but I can’t wait to adopt! I know, I know, I must first secure a good home for the children to come; that is why I am studying both a career and…
Read MoreI haven’t been good. I came down with diabetes. I had sex when I was drunk. Why did this have to happen?
Question: I am 19 and have been through a lot in my life. When I was two my parents were divorced. Between the ages of around 5 to 12, I was allergic to corn. My family had been very close to God and at that time I grew up in the church and wanted to…
Read MoreIs having members quote memory verses during worship proper?
Question: Good day, Brother Jeff, During our worship on Sunday, we sing (Ephesians 5:19); we have teachings from the Bible (or a Bible study part), since we have not allotted a day for our Bible study but only on Sunday; we pray; we have the “collection of the saints” (I Corinthians 16:1-2); and the Lord’s…
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