Posts Tagged ‘rebukes’
Is it good to talk about why you object to sins when others react in hostility?
Question: Mr. Hamilton, First and foremost, thank you and the La Vista Church of Christ for the great Christian example you have set. I too am part of the churches of Christ (Romans 16:16). My question to you is how should I conduct online teachings? Just recently, I’ve started visiting sites speaking against things, such as…
Read MoreYou shouldn’t tell people they sinned when they admit it
Question: To whom it may concern: I have read a few of your questions and answers, as well as layouts of certain topics in worshipping God, and several sins. Everything is very insightful and I appreciate it that you answer straight from the Bible. However, in general, you are very judgmental and do not allow…
Read MoreDoesn’t the Bible say that sins should not be hidden but exposed?
Question: Sir, This is in regards to Am I not able to get pregnant because I didn’t tell my husband about my adultery years ago? My writing to you is that there is nowhere in Scripture that God encourages secrecy when it comes to sin. In fact, Scripture does the opposite, in which it shows…
Read MoreHow do you handle inappropriate talk in a youth Bible study?
Question: I just graduated from high school and started hanging out with my sister’s friends who are the college-age people in our church. Most of them are on our youth staff. They meet together in what they call a Bible study, but we did not touch a Bible once. It seemed like the whole time…
Read MoreI was involved in fornication with my boyfriend who is a preacher. We broke up, but how do I straighten out this mess that I got involved in?
Question: My boyfriend of 17 months and I recently broke up. There are many factors that contributed to our decision to end the relationship, but one of the biggest concerns was the distance and the inability or unwillingness for one of us to move in the near future. We still talk and deeply care about…
Read MoreGiving and Taking a Rebuke
by Lance Blackburn Rebuke – to admonish, charge, convict; a stern correction Rebuking is a vital part of the Christian’s life This is true of giving and receiving rebukes Jesus often rebuked His disciples: Mark 8:33; Luke 9:55 Paul commanded Timothy and Titus to rebuke: I Timothy 5:20; II Timothy 4:2; Titus 1:13; 2:15 Wisdom…
Read MoreMy friend is committing adultery. Must I say something?
Question: I need a clear answer. Did I commit sin if I have known from the beginning my friend has committed adultery and still dating someone? She still married, still living in the same house together with her husband and kids. Her husband is nice, old, and busy at work all the time. I also…
Read MoreDo I have to tell everyone they are in sin?
Question: Should I be trying to correct every little act of unrighteousness? Perhaps “little” isn’t the right word. In my school, so many people are sinning and frequently too. How useful could I be trying to convert everyone that I see? I don’t see how I could teach and develop a relationship with everyone around…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a child to correct his parents?
Question: Hi. Your website has been very helpful and I hope that you keep it up. Thank you for putting all the time into it as well. I am a 16-year-old male (I am saying this so you understand how I am thinking) and of late I have been taking Christianity much more seriously. As…
Read MoreShould I confront my friend about his language?
Question: There’s a friend I have who was recently baptized. He was taught about baptism, and we left him alone, and he eventually made the choice without any pushing of any sort. He knows cursing is wrong, and he doesn’t curse around me. Well, he does euphemistically. But that’s a huge improvement from what he used to…
Read MoreDo I talk to my former daughter-in-law about her sins, even if it may mean I’ll lose access to my grandchildren?
Question: My former daughter-in-law divorced my son after affairs with other men. Both my son and she are members of the church. The man she is currently involved with lives in another state, as does my son. She recently told me she has him stay in her home when he visits her. This past weekend,…
Read MoreCan a woman correct a man who is sinning directly?
Question: Can a woman follow the teaching in Matthew 18:15-17 and go directly to a brother if she has is bothered by a fault or trespass of his, or must she go to the men of the congregation to approach him? It seems to me the passage applies to all Christians not just men and…
Read MoreDid I do something wrong in telling my ex-girlfriend that her behavior wasn’t good?
Question: My ex-girlfriend and I met a few weeks ago and discussed things and we made peace in following Matthew 18:15. We didn’t get back together, that wasn’t my interest; I just wanted to be Christian brother and sister again so we could help each other spiritually. After she added me back on Facebook I…
Read MoreIs it ever OK to tell someone they are going to Hell if they don’t repent?
Question: Is it ever okay to tell an unfaithful Christian, “You are going to Hell if you do not repent of your sins and come back to the church?” Answer: People have a tendency to want to make rules to simplify decisions, but sometimes rules can’t cover every situation. Generally, we aim for gentle, polite persuasion…
Read MoreHow do I tell family and friends they are living in sin?
Question: How do I know what to say when telling people that they’re living in sin, like my family and friends? I’m scared that whatever I say will not even be listened to and then it’s just going to be a squabble afterward. But I know, obviously, it is more important to warn them about…
Read MoreHow can I get my mother to turn away from her sin?
Question: Hello, Your knowledge and answers to my questions have helped me so much. I can’t thank you enough, but I have another one to ask. My mother has been married and divorced five times, and I know most of them are not because of adultery. She is currently with a man who is still…
Read MoreYou should be offering a forgiving hand to sinners instead of just throwing Scripture at them
Question: Regarding your website, especially your article, really upset me. You are no greater than I. I am not greater than you. We are both servants who should be humbled by the grace of God not acting like the mighty priests who exalt themselves in the Old Testament. You should be offering a forgiving hand…
Read MoreWas it wrong of me to tell my friend that he didn’t deserve his girlfriend?
Question: Greetings, I use this site a lot and I really appreciate your helpful, biblical answers and guidance. I would humbly like to ask if you can help me deal with an issue that has happened to a close friend of mine. My best friend is currently engaged to his girlfriend of several years. and…
Read MoreI missed an opportunity to tell someone that their life is not right with God. What do I do now?
Question: My wife ran into an old friend at a store, and they were talking. Her friend talked of how she and her fiance were living together, and my wife said something that kind of approved it. Her friend was also cussing. I walked away and sat in the car. I’m afraid because I didn’t…
Read MoreHow do you love a neighbor who doesn’t want you in their life?
Question: I’ve lost my way. How do I get my life right with God again? I was raised up to believe in God and I still do. Right now I believe that I have lost my spiritual compass along with my relationship with God. One thing I will never forget from God’s word is “to…
Read MoreWhat should be done if a visiting speaker starts teaching falsely?
Question: If an elder at a congregation puts a visiting speaker in the pulpit who has no business being there, and you have a lot of visitors in the audience, what should the preacher do or say about that? I might add that the elder’s knowledge is nowhere close to where it should be to…
Read MoreFaithful Wounds
by Zeke Flores “Faithful are the wounds of a friend …” (Proverbs 27:6). I enjoy being in the company of insightful people with a lighthearted sense of humor. Who doesn’t like a jovial conversation just for the sake of having a few laughs? I also like serious discussions about current events, politics, moral issues, and…
Read MoreYou should apologize for your answer!
Question: I saw your response, “Since the church isn’t the building, you can’t make rules about how the building is used,” to an older woman who “dared” to say what is in her heart. What disrespect you showed her! Do you really believe she was open to your answer? Did you show her the wrong in her…
Read MoreShould I confront my friend’s pastor?
Question: I’ve been arguing with a girl at school. She calls herself a Christian. She recently invited me and my friend to go to her church. So my friend asked her if there’s a female preacher there, she said yes. She asked if women speak there, she said yes. Later that day, they were arguing if…
Read MoreYou shouldn’t mention names or say why groups are wrong
Question: I was doing a study and happened upon your web site. I read a few of your articles and also checked out your Facebook page. I figured it would be more appropriate to email me you than to post on your Facebook my concerns on your Facebook. I agree you do have some interesting…
Read MoreYou didn’t tell the man in adultery how much God loves him
Question: Hello, I came across your letter from the man who was within a day of divorcing his wife when suddenly he got the idea to see what the Bible had to say about his choices. I was bothered by what you left out of your letter, if in fact what I read was all that was…
Read MorePearls From Proverbs: Frankness Finds Favor
by Irvin Himmel Via Guardian of Truth XXXI: 4, p. 108, February 19, 1987 “He that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favor than he that flattereth with the tongue” (Proverbs 28:23). Although there are people who do not care what others think about them, most of us desire the esteem and goodwill of our acquaintances.…
Read MoreWhy warn a person against blaspheming the Holy Spirit if he won’t seek forgiveness anyway?
Question: I have read the stuff on blasphemy on your site, but I don’t read it in the Bible that it says a blasphemous person refuses to come to God. If that is true, why would the passages on blasphemy against the Spirit be in there? If a person won’t seek forgiveness why the warning? I…
Read MoreWhy do you feel the need to say that other religions are wrong?
Question: Hi, I’m just wondering why do you feel the need to tell everyone else that their religions are wrong? How are you so sure yours is right? You don’t have any more proof then other religions do. I just think it’s ridiculous that you and other people feel it’s up to them to change…
Read MoreIt isn’t Christian-like to publish negative things about the Coptic church
Question: A question on the Coptic church has your response being negative of the Coptic church and using Bible verses in the wrong context. That is not Christian-like at all. That verse in Peter stating everyone is a priest was only for the twelve disciples as they were the first twelve priests. Answer: “But you are…
Read MoreHow do I reach a friend who is sinning?
Question: Hi, I don’t know if these are the kinds of questions you answer, but I might as well ask. I have just started high school, and already I am seeing and hearing about a lot of bad things going on (smoking, drugs, drinking, sex, cursing, etc.). I try as hard as I can to…
Read MoreYeah, Yeah, I’ve Heard It Before!
by Zeke Flores While at the dentist’s office some time ago for a routine cleaning, the hygienist asked if I had been flossing, just as she did each and every time I went. I mumbled something about “Not as much as I should” (It’s hard to speak intelligibly when someone has a sharp instrument in…
Read MoreWhen Our Loved Ones Lose Their Moral Compass
by Matt Adams Have you ever tried to use a compass or navigated using a map? With technology advancing as it has, most of us now wouldn’t choose artifacts such as a compass or a map as our primary tool for navigation. However, a compass is a very simple tool and requires that you know…
Read MoreShould it be acceptable for a preacher to reprimand an individual in front of the church?
Question: Should it be acceptable for a preacher to reprimand an individual in front of the church? Answer: “Now when Peter had come to Antioch, I withstood him to his face, because he was to be blamed; for before certain men came from James, he would eat with the Gentiles; but when they came, he withdrew…
Read MoreIs my soul in jeopardy if I don’t talk to a Christian about his smoking?
Question: Is my soul in jeopardy if I don’t address the issue of a known smoker that attends the church where I attend? He was baptized years ago and partakes of the Lord’s Supper. By not addressing the issue with him, am I now out of Christ? Also, if a preacher baptizes a known smoker who…
Read MoreWhen I see someone sinning, is it wrong not to say anything?
Question: After reading Leviticus 19:17, which commands us to rebuke our neighbor, I was surprised and a little worried. You see, sometimes I am afraid that, if I rebuke someone, they will either mock me or think of me as sanctimonious and thus be reluctant to befriend me or be eager to point out my…
Read MoreShouldn’t you balance your rebukes regarding fornication with love?
Question: I was just reading one of your answers to a question relating to a couple who were attempting intercourse. While the Bible is very clear about what is moral and right concerning intercourse, I found the response lacking some balance in support and love. The word of God is a two-edged sword so is…
Read MoreShould I talk with a brother who is wearing a Masonic ring?
Question: I noticed that a brother in Christ wore a Masonic ring. I mentioned it to one of the elders. We talked a short time and he agreed it’s a religion. He did not ask, neither did I tell, who he was. Am I to talk with the brother or leave it alone? Answer: It…
Read MoreElihu’s Discipline and Correction of Job
by Pat Gates via Our Hope Online Job 34 Elihu’s Charge Against Job Speaks without knowledge Words without wisdom Answers like a wicked man Is rebellious and multiplies his words against God “Job speaks without knowledge, His words are without wisdom. Oh, that Job were tried to the utmost, Because his answers are like those of…
Read MoreCan We Have Too Much “Positive” Preaching?
by Greg Gwin We readily acknowledge the importance of positive preaching. Brethren need the “comfort of the Scriptures” (Romans 15:4). Paul sent Tychicus to the Ephesians so that he could “comfort your hearts.” Timothy was dispatched to Philippi (Philippians 2:9) and Thessalonica (I Thessalonians 3:2) in order to comfort the brethren. Clearly, this kind of…
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