Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
Am I doing right in reconciling with my former husband?
Question: Hi, Thank you in advance for reading and answering this question. I have a problem. I got married about 15 years ago to a man I’d been in love with since I was 17 years old. During the marriage, we had several problems, some physical and emotional abuse, and also I committed adultery with…
Read MoreWhy would someone not like the ESV?
Question: Why would someone not like the ESV? What is wrong with the ESV? I saw “Which Translation Should I Use?” concerning I Corinthians 7:15: “The ESV is the clearest that it is talking about slavery” I Corinthians 7:15 seems to be talking about marriage to me, not slavery. Answer: “But if the unbeliever departs, let him…
Read MoreI know my wife committed adultery after she filed for divorce. Do I have the right to remarry?
Question: I am a member of the church and have been for many years, (although my faith has been weak for the past few years, I have now come back to the Lord. Here is my situation and question: I have struggled with pornography for many years while married. My wife finally divorced me and…
Read MoreHow can I convince my girlfriend’s parents that my past doesn’t matter and that I can marry her?
Question: I hope I can get an answer to a question which is troubling me for many months now. I married a non-believer, but we didn’t live together as such since her parents didn’t approve of it. We only got married legally but not in church or received the blessing of the church. After a…
Read MoreAny advice on how to handle a marriage to a drug addict?
Question: I have been married for over a year now. My husband is a drug addict. When I married him, I didn’t realize the problem existed; it was a whirlwind romance. Marriage probably should have waited. We weren’t together all that long before we got married. I have a young son out of wedlock to a…
Read MoreI asked God if I should leave my marriage. Why doesn’t God answer?
Question: Please help me: I have been looking for help on the Internet. I read the answer you gave to a woman who has a lover and wants to leave her husband. You give her a five-step path to follow. I find myself in the same situation, but I want to add to her question…
Read MoreMy husband and I are fighting and close to divorce. What should we do?
Question: Hello. I have currently been married for not quite a year and I need some advice. My husband and I met when we were in our late teens; as you can see, we were fairly young. After two months he left me to join the army. We were not yet married at this time.…
Read MoreIf you say pornography is not fornication, are you not accepting pornography?
Question: I’m sorry but I strongly disagree with “Is looking at pornography fornication?” Not that I would divorce my future husband if this was the case, but that I would totally support a lady who does because when you’re married to a man, he is the only person who should be able to satisfy you.…
Read MoreIf I divorce my wife, can I get remarried?
Question: Please help me. I came across your web site and your Bible-based answers to many questions seemed right on point with the Word of God. I have asked many pastors about my situation and gotten many different answers. My situation is complex but I will try to get to the point quickly. I have…
Read MoreCan I divorce my husband who has been having children with other women?
Question: I have suffered for 35 years as a submissive wife because I fear the Lord. My husband has left the running of the family to me. Food, education, clothing, homemaking, sickness, etc. He gives me no money but expects to be given money. He has many women in his life including minors. He is…
Read MoreNow that my wife left me for another man, should I give up living for God?
Question: I’ve been divorced over a year and a half. My then-wife started an affair with another man. We were married for almost a decade and been together years longer than that. I discovered the affair, by accident, seven months after the fact via emails and Facebook. How ironic, as these are social web sites…
Read MoreCan I divorce my husband because he refuses to be intimate with me?
Question: I am quite torn as to what to do. My first husband and I divorced because he was very abusive and repeatedly unfaithful. My second marriage is proving to be a nightmare as well. He is cold, cruel, and emotionally abusive. He has not slept in the same bed with me in two years…
Read MoreAre Non-Christians Subject to the Laws of God?
Text: II Thessalonians 1:3-10 I. Without a doubt people make a mess of their lives A. One of the hardest things about studying with people these days is the tangle they create in their families 1. You have people who have married and divorced serval times 2. They have kids by multiple partners, some to whom they never…
Read MoreAre we still committing adultery?
Question: I was married for over ten years and left my spouse to be with my current spouse. My current spouse was married and left his spouse to be with me. That was over fifteen years ago. We have no children. I was a Christian in a verbally abusive marriage with my ex and I…
Read MoreIs it wrong to hire a preacher who has been divorced?
Question: There’s a congregation in town that just hired a young preacher who is divorced and it wasn’t for adultery. This was told to me by a sister who knew them well. Is it okay for them to hire a preacher who is in this circumstance? Answer: Neither you nor I know what happened. According to the…
Read MoreI think my husband is being unfaithful. What should I do?
Question: My husband and I had a lot of issues to deal with prior to our marriage. He grew up in the church but had fallen away for years after he left our country. He returned after many years and I met him in a Bible school. I thought that he was trying really hard…
Read MoreMy husband continues to use drugs. Should I tell him to leave?
Question: Hi! I was wondering if someone could give me some insight on a problem I’m having. My husband and I have been married for over a year and have an infant child. Our little boy was planned and no surprise. When we married, my husband was a minor and a “recovering” drug addict, and…
Read MoreCan only the husband initiate a divorce?
Question: I would like to say that I have found that your article on “Is divorce a sin?” is very well explained and thought out. I have been studying marriage, divorce, and remarriage for some time with other believers and you and I have come to the same conclusion – for the most part. If…
Read MoreShould I leave my marriage?
Question: I happen to find your web site on the Internet. I have a problem with the man I stay with. I was staying with my mom a few years ago and had one of his children. I had agreed into a traditional negotiation between our two families, his and mine. He had to pay…
Read MoreIs it wrong to break up a wrongful second marriage?
Question: If a non-Christian divorces his wife for reasons other than marital unfaithfulness, then remarries, then joins the Church, should his second marriage be broken up? I ask the question because I’m considering doing an internship with a church that disfellowshipped another church presumably because they would not break up the second marriages. It is…
Read MoreIs every divorce that is not for fornication a sin?
Question: “How it is possible for a requirement that if a woman divorces her husband, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband (a command by the Lord according to Paul) if the only allowed cause for divorce is fornication which gives by implication the non-fornicator the right to remarry?” Paul is repeating…
Read MoreI’m sorry for the adultery I’ve done, but my wife is leaving me and I don’t know what to do
Question: I have been married for a few years. My wife and I have several children. About two months ago she filed for divorce, and it’s destroying me. I’m searching for God. I spoke to the Lord now and prayed that He may give me a word. He did: Proverbs chapters 2 to 5. I…
Read MoreAre prenuptial agreements biblical?
Question: What is or is not biblical regarding a pre-marital agreement for handling money and possessions in the event of a separation or divorce? Answer: “And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a…
Read MoreWhat are some proper activities for a divorced woman?
Question: I am a divorced Catholic. After 40 years of what I thought was a good marriage, my husband abandoned me for another woman. I stay within all the guidelines of the Catholic church and feel ‘safe’ with activities within the church. I still act in every way as married since I don’t have an annulment, and I…
Read MoreCould the one person God intended for me be someone who is already married?
Question: I have a question about God and His choice for a spouse: Is it true that there one person He has chosen for each of us? If this is true, would the person he has chosen for me be married, and would I meet him while I was married? My current partner and I…
Read MoreWhat are my options after being divorced for having an affair?
Question: Hello. I am a brother in Christ, have been for over thirty years, it hasn’t been easy. Now I am divorced after having an affair. I still love the woman I had the affair with and she truly loves me. I believe because of my martial unfaithfulness my wife is free of me and…
Read MoreDoes a wife have to stay with a hurtful and abusive husband?
Question: I don’t know what to do. I am a member of the church and I know that I have to be submissive to my husband, but he does some things that aren’t very nice. He only wants oral and anal sex. He says that I have to do it because the Bible commands it.…
Read MoreHow could a woman in an adulterous marriage have the right to remarry after a divorce?
Question: I have read through your articles and thoroughly enjoyed them, and even taken a few sermons and re-worked them into sermons that I preached here. However, when I came across an answer to a question you made concerning divorce and remarriage, I was a bit taken aback because of you being “totally on” scripture when…
Read MoreWhy do we cite Matthew regarding divorce since Jesus lived under the Old Law?
Question: As I understand Matthew 19:9 and Matthew 5:32 concerning divorce, Jesus is answering the Pharisees (Jews) as they were tempting him on this question. His answer was the same as the law that they were under (except for fornication). Such as in the case that Joseph thought Mary was in. Why do we in the church today…
Read MoreDo I have to live near my ex-wife for my son’s sake?
Question: My wife had an affair and would not come back to me. We got a divorce. We have a child together. I am not a people-person in general, and all I want is to be by myself. I don’t want anyone around me or even calling me. I just want to be left alone,…
Read MoreShould I work things out with my husband whom I divorced for committing adultery?
Question: I divorced my husband for committing adultery and he is now trying to contact me. He has been with the other woman for three years. I am not sure if they married or not. How would God view me if I attempt to work things out with him? Answer: “And I say to you,…
Read MoreHow can a church accept an improperly divorced couple?
Question: Your Bible answers make so much sense and I have been wanting to ask this question. It might be long, but I need to be detailed. OK, here goes. This is the truth as I know it. You can answer it as though you believe what I am telling you as the truth, please. There is a married…
Read MoreSince my husband returned from overseas, he hasn’t come home. He wants a divorce. Does this mean I can’t remarry?
Question: I hope this email finds you in great strength and faith. I spoke with you months ago about my marriage to a man who had just left to go overseas with the Air Force. He has come back home and hasn’t made any attempt to see or talk to me. So I definitely want…
Read MoreCan my wife or I remarry after the divorce?
Question: My story: My wife and I are Christians. A few years ago my wife had an affair. I forgave her. But since that time I have been the spouse who has pretty much carried the relationship. I suggested counseling and suggested a closer walk with God. I notified my spouse that she needed to…
Read MoreI married a man who was divorced because of his adultery. Is our marriage ok?
Question: What do you do if you are a Christian, have a second marriage, and realize only too late that it was not the will of God? My spouse was a called man of God, but he committed adultery in his first marriage. He is no longer preaching, and I am not the other woman. I came…
Read MoreCan I have sex with my ex-husband before our reconciliation?
Question: My husband divorced me, but not for biblical reasons. We are working on restoration. Neither of us has had an adulterous relationship. My question is can we have a sexual relationship before remarrying each other through the court? Answer: “Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is…
Read MoreI’ve been married three times. How do I straighten out my life?
Question: I am a woman who has had an affair. I am really feeling convicted about many things when it comes to fixing the mess I have made of my life. I have been married three times. I got pregnant when I was 17 and married the father of my child. That marriage lasted for…
Read MoreWhat do you think about the Catholic view of divorce?
Question: I read your web site today concerning divorce and the Bible. Clearly, God considers divorce a serious matter, possibly a sin. However, for years Catholics had strict rules about divorce and remarriage. It seems that Catholics were unfairly targeted as being too unforgiving or strict when it came to the laws of marriage. Actually,…
Read MoreIf we had committed fornication, would God judge us and force us to divorce?
Question: Of late, I have been pouring over the articles on the La Vista church website. I came across a number of articles that have left me a bit confused. I wonder if my girlfriend and I can still get married even though we committed fornication. According to “Why Sex Outside of Marriage is Wrong,”…
Read MoreWhen is a divorce final?
Question: When is a divorce final? If a man or a woman discontinues the marriage, is the divorce final in God’s eyes? Or is it not final until the courts decide the outcome? Answer: God didn’t establish details for what constitutes a marriage beyond the fact that a covenant creates it (Malachi 2:14). The terms…
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