Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Is living together, but not sleeping together, a sin?
Question: I’ve just got back from my youth group after having a discussion about living together before getting married. I’ve searched your articles and I don’t think they quite answer the question “Is living together before marriage a sin?” We actually want to know is living together, but not sleeping together, before getting married a…
Read MoreShould I, as a Baptist, be in a relationship with a Catholic?
Question: I am a Baptist in a relationship with a Catholic. I don’t agree with a lot that her family does and it seems like I am an outcast because of my religion. Is there any advice that you can give me or links to where I can read on how to survive this? I…
Read MoreHow can I handle infatuation?
Question: I am a male and 24 years old. I have been having trouble with infatuating over women I find attractive. I’ve struggled with this for a good majority of my life, where I’ll infatuate over one woman for a period of time and then it will fade, and then another woman will come along.…
Read MoreHow can I show my brother that it is wrong to sleep with a woman even though you aren’t having sex?
Question: Hello! I have a question that I need some help with. My brother and his girlfriend have recently committed to a life of celibacy; however, this is after they have had sexual relations for over a year. Though I am grateful for their decision to cancel that out of their life and follow our…
Read MoreIs it wrong to date someone you find unattractive and whose spiritual views you don’t like?
Question: My male friend and I have been platonic friends for over 5 years. He’s 13 years older than me. Two years ago he expressed an interest in dating me. I resisted because he is not my type physically or spiritually. He doesn’t see the need to attend church, read the Bible, or abstain from…
Read MoreIs it right to marry a non-Christian if she is willing to convert?
Question: Is it right to marry a non-Christian girl if she is willing to convert? And can we marry a girl who is divorced? Answer: It is not wrong for a Christian to be married to a non-Christian. “For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the…
Read MoreHow do I get my boyfriend to be honest with me instead of hiding things like his occasional drug use?
Question: My boyfriend used to be a heavy drug addict and he says he is clean, even though I find him lying to me and hiding his occasional drug use from me. I can’t ever talk to him about anything because he gets mad and tells me to grow up and keeps on lying. How…
Read MoreShould my girlfriend see a guy who has been flirting with her?
Question: My girlfriend has been friends with a guy for around the same length of time that I’ve known her. Recently, he said that he wanted to travel across the country to visit her. What makes us unsure if this is right or not is that for around a year, he flirted with her, even…
Read MoreMy parents don’t like my boyfriend. What should I do?
Question: I have been in a relationship for 10 months, planning on marriage soon. My boyfriend and I are saved. We are from churches that are different from each other. My parents do not like him for reasons I see as critical and a bit judgmental. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 36. Many…
Read MoreI’ve stopped having sex with my girlfriend, but now my parents are trying to force us to break up. What do I do?
Question: Hi! I’ve talked to you before about my girlfriend, how we had sex out of wedlock, and about her being of another religion. Well, we haven’t done it again since I talked to you and I’m going to repent, be baptized, and change my ways for good. But the problem is my parents found…
Read MoreIs it wrong to enter into a relationship at the age of 19?
Question: I want to know if it is wrong for a Christian girl to enter into a relationship at 19 years of age without having sex. Answer: Much depends on your definition of “relationship” and “sex.” These days these words are so loosely defined that just about anything goes. If you talking about dating a…
Read MoreWhat does the Bible teach about dating and choosing a life partner?
Question: Greetings kind sir. I’m a 19-year-old college student and I have never had any girlfriend in all my life. Well, I had a girl in the past with whom I had a mutual understanding but, nevertheless, she was not my girlfriend. Right now, I have been emotionally attached to a girl of about 16…
Read MoreShould I tell my boyfriend about my promiscuous past?
Question: I have started dating a very godly man. While I am now a devoted Christian who will not get into any physical relationship until marriage, I did have sex in the past. You have no idea how much I regret my past and wish I could undo it but I am only thankful for…
Read MoreHow will I know that this is the girl God wants me to marry?
Question: I believe that if the girl has come to my heart by the Spirit, then God will take care of all the situation ahead. So I am asking God to reveal His plan’s for my life. I haven’t opened the issue to her yet. What I thought was I would fast for 21 days…
Read MoreShould I attend my girlfriend’s church if I think it teaches false doctrine?
Question: I’m going to see my girlfriend and I’m kind of in a bad predicament because she wants me to go to worship service with her on Sunday, but she is Pentecostal and they teach false doctrine. Is it ok for me to go so I can show her what is doctrinally wrong with her…
Read MoreWhat do you think about a woman who smokes pot while pregnant?
Question: I’m interested in a girl, interested enough to get serious about her. She’s pregnant with another boy’s baby (he dumped her), but that’s all right with me, I’ve made similar mistakes. But she smokes — mostly cigarettes, but sometimes pot. I’m not certain, but I really like her. What do you think? Answer: While…
Read MoreHow can a nine-year-old get a girl?
Question: How can a nine-year-old get a girl? Answer: Water balloons work really well if your aim is good, and if you catch her by surprise, you might get a little way down the street before she clobbers you.
Read MoreAre engagements required before a marriage can take place?
Question: I see the Scripture and proof that sex does not make the marriage and that there is fornication without marriages being made in the act. However, I was reading the other day and came across a person who said that we are to let the Bible define marriage. He pointed out that God’s definition in the…
Read MoreDo you think God created one special person for you?
Question: Hello, I am sure you get this question all of the time, but do you think God really created that one special person for you? Or, are you just out on a playing field and whoever you meet you meet? I know I have a girl who I am very fond of, but sadly…
Read MoreI wanted you to know your website helped me a lot
Question: I was just reading the section of your website Growing Up in the Lord, chapter 7. I am a 15-year-old male and have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now and things have started to go further than I want them to go. It is very difficult to stop from going any further,…
Read MoreIs loving each other at the age of 17 right or wrong?
Question: Is loving each other at the age of 17 right or wrong? Answer: Your question is too vague for me to give you a good answer. You have a love for your parents from the time you are a small child, and that is certainly right. People are quite capable of falling in love…
Read MoreProblems with dating and job search
Question: Hi, Well, thanks for all the information on dating and marriage you sent to me a couple of weeks ago. Sadly, I won’t need it anymore. My girlfriend and I broke up. Not by my choice, but her parents, family and all disapproved of me because I was jobless and haven’t had luck getting…
Read MoreCould you help me explain to my girlfriend that speaking in tongues has ended?
Question: I have a big problem and if you could answer this, I would greatly appreciate it. My girlfriend thinks she can speak in tongues and she claims her whole church was doing so today, but I know this is not so and I told her it wasn’t true. I feel that unless I straighten…
Read MoreAny suggestions regarding dating?
Question: Hello again! Well, we have become more serious; not official “dating” boyfriend and girlfriend, or courting, or however you say it, but we are committed to each other. In the sense that we aren’t going to date anyone else besides each other. We do hang out alone a lot; there are people in the…
Read MoreHow can you talk to someone who constantly twists the Bible?
Question: I attend a Church of Christ but my fiance practices Calvinism. He doesn’t refer to it like that, but the beliefs are the same. He and his brother are very into this religion. They get everything from a website. They believe the church age is over and that it is a sin to attend.…
Read MoreI’m getting interested in a girl, do you have any advice?
Question: Hello, I was wondering: one of my good friends is a woman (I am 22, she’s 18). The relationship is developing into a good friendship, and probably going to lead to learning the Bible more together and practicing what is said in the Bible, such as evangelism, repentance, praying, and the like. We are…
Read MoreWe’re thinking about getting married, so how do I get him to be honest with himself?
Question: Hello. I want to thank you so much for the information because it helped me out a lot. I have one problem: telling him that he is not a virgin. Every time I try to tell him it bothers him to talk about it because he knew it was wrong and stuff. I know that…
Read MoreWhy do boys act as they do?
Question: I really enjoy your web site. I have been studying it for quite a while and it all sounds scripturally correct. I have been asked at church to teach a girls’ teenage class about peer pressure and have been concerned about how to answer some of the questions the girls have asked of me.…
Read MoreAm I no longer a virgin if my boyfriend touched certain areas?
Question: Please, I need your help. I have never had sex. I am a proud 22-year-old virgin and I plan to stay that way until I am married. See the problem is I have a boyfriend now and, well, he likes to touch certain areas. I just want to know is it possible that he…
Read MoreAm I on the right track for finding a spouse?
Question: I know the kind of man I want to marry and I am ready for marriage. I am not dating anyone because I will be leaving the country to study overseas, but I want the person I want to marry to come from that country I am going to study. I am fasting and…
Read MoreHow can a young man stay focused?
Question: I am interested in getting your thoughts on being focused on the goal. It is hard when you see so much of the things you want in life, that at times you feel as though that it is not meant for you. My situation appears to be going nowhere. I feel that the more…
Read MoreWhen is it appropriate to start kissing?
Question: When is an appropriate age to start kissing from a biblical standpoint or is there one? Answer: Most people start at infancy. Okay, okay, I know that isn’t what you meant, but it does point out that it isn’t the kiss that is critical to the answer, but the intent of the kiss. The…
Read MoreIs living with your fiancee all right if you seriously intend to get married?
Question: If you are living with your fiance due to complications and financial necessity and it’s for a short period of time (6-8 months) and you are engaged and have a wedding date set and are in the process of making wedding arrangements (e.g wedding invitations have been sent); would it still be viewed as…
Read MoreWhat do you do when you and your girlfriend don’t agree about religion?
Question: I misstated my question. She is the one who believes in having sex after marriage. Sorry for my previous question. We have not been physically involved for a while because of her proclaimed faith (AME). She really believes she is saved. We have come to an impasse and now we are both becoming frustrated.…
Read MoreMy girlfriend wants me in her bed, but I know it is wrong. What do I do?
Question: I am troubled by certain things in my life. As a young man, it is a challenge to deal with young women because I am in somewhat of a relationship (although we are not physically active) it is still a struggle. Even though I am not active physically, I am tempted daily. I desire…
Read MoreCan you be certain that the one you are marrying will remain a faithful Christian?
Question: I have another question concerning a young Christian couple marrying. What if a young person was baptized and convinced their boyfriend or girlfriend to become a Christian, subsequently got married, but eventually, they stop attending church? It appears that they only became Christians to marry. It disheartens me because people, including myself, allow feelings…
Read MoreShould the man always make the first move in a relationship?
Question: I am now in a community where most men at my age are married; only one is single. I think he is a very good person, I don’t dress immodestly like I used to. I think physical attraction would not be important for a man seeing a good woman, although, yes it is a…
Read MoreShould I continue a relationship with someone of a different religion?
Question: I am involved with a young lady who is of a different denomination (AME). We’ve had a relationship for four years and have yet to make any decision on our future. She is convinced she saved but does not want to attend the Church of Christ because it is boring or does not appeal…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been seeing prostitutes. What should I do?
Question: My boyfriend, unbeknownst to me, went to the Philippines, met and slept with several prostitutes and is bringing one to the U.S. I am so hurt by this and I do not understand his behavior. Thank you for helping me. He keeps her picture by his bed but hides it when I am there.…
Read MoreIs oral sex before marriage ok?
Question: Is oral sex before marriage ok? Answer: When people want to justify a behavior that deep down inside themselves they know they shouldn’t do, they will redefine terms that cast their actions into a better light. I’ve noticed in recent years that people, young people especially, are making the definition of sex more specific…
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