Posts Tagged ‘abuse’
Do I keep fighting for my daughter?
Question: Firstly, thank you for your ministry. Your doctrine is thoroughly biblical, honors God, and gives Him the glory. God is surely using you to help others through His word so may God continue to bless it and you. A brief summary of my situation and then my question. I will attempt to keep this…
Read MoreWhen does discipline become abuse?
Question: When does discipline cross the line and become abuse? My cousin hit her son in the chest with a closed fist as a form of discipline. It was her non-dominant hand and not with full force. Admittedly, her son has behavior issues and didn’t seem too fazed by my cousin’s actions aside from holding…
Read MoreWhat do I do about my abusive father-in-law?
Question: Good morning! I’m writing you today because I have a question. My father-in-law is a preacher at a church of Christ here. I’ve known him for over 5 years now. I am really close to my sister-in-law and mother-in-law so they have told me some things that concern me and I don’t know what…
Read MoreYou should have trained counselors to answer questions about abuse
Question: [The original question was left unedited since the author feels qualified to comment on other people’s educational background.] I think the way you handled a question by someone who was abused who asked if they were still a virgin was awful. You need to train or have Christian counsellors answer those questions as no…
Read MoreDid I sin by not talking to my stepfather?
Question: Hi, My stepfather passed away unexpectedly and I feel extremely guilty for not reaching out beforehand and trying to save his soul. He “raised” me, but love from my stepfather was never shown. I don’t remember him ever telling me he loved me and only twice telling me he was proud of me. I…
Read MoreWhat do I do about my abusive husband?
Question: Sir, good morning. I am in my mid-twenties. I married a guy from the same church I attend. He, also, is in his mid-twenties. He is a very short-tempered man. I have completed my master’s and he is completed high school. He trained to teach the Bible. He is a song leader and a…
Read MoreChildren Are Special
by Doy Moyer According to Jesus, children are special and need to be protected. In Mark 9:36-37, we read this: And he took a child and put him in the midst of them, and taking him in his arms, he said to them, “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, and whoever…
Read MoreAm I wrong not to report an incident?
Question: I am a mandated reporter and a former co-worker told me of an instance where she was kicked in the stomach while pregnant. She told me that she hit the patient back. The thing is that being a mandated reporter my opinion and logic don’t matter. However, she just told me a few days…
Read MoreHow should the problem of child abuse be handled?
Question: There exist two families: A and B. Family A could not conceive a child, so the wife of Mr. A adopted two daughters of Mrs. B, who happened to be her younger sister. Mr. B, the father of the adopted daughters, isn’t responsible at all. He neglected all his children whom he had with…
Read MoreHow do I grow as a Christian? How do I handle my abusive father?
Question: I’m 18 years old. I’m new to religion and seeking wise words and maybe some answers to where to start. I have a girlfriend who, after a while, convinced me to become religious. She lives far away, so she can’t really teach me much. There is also a small language barrier because what she…
Read MoreMy husband committed adultery repeatedly, then I too fell into sin and was beaten for it. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I have been in a relationship with my now-husband for over five years. About a year into the relationship, we moved in together. A few months later he proposed and sent his family to my family to ask for my hand in marriage as according to our culture. I accepted but nothing has…
Read MoreWill God understand that I have trouble loving people?
Question: I am really messed up. I was subjected to severe sexual, emotional, and physical abuse as a child. I do not love myself, do not really like myself. As I age, I keep more and more to myself, only doing shopping as needed, and going to church. I was baptized about 36 years ago…
Read MoreI decided to leave my abusive father, but my mother doesn’t want me to go
Question: My father is an abusive person: verbally and physically. My mum is a very fragile person with a warm heart. The problem is my father has been giving me a hard time for too long. Right now I am 21 and I still have not finished my education. That is why I am still…
Read MoreMy wife embarrassed me in public and I ended up slapping her
Question: I just came across this ministry column. I read a few emails and responses and I need your help too. Recently my wife provoked me badly in front of my friends, screaming and asking for ‘her’ car keys. Keys to a car we recently acquired together and which has caused us many arguments since…
Read MoreI left an abusive marriage. Can I date and remarry?
Question: I divorced a man who hit my son and hit me. His pastor says that I am not allowed to ever remarry and if I date and remarry I will burn in the Lake of fire and hear his words for all eternity in my mind in Hell. My ex-husband did not have sex…
Read MoreHow do I help my mother who is being abused by my father?
Question: Hello sir, I am 23 and recently finished my schooling. My dad denies Christ, but my mom is a believer. My dad is short-tempered. From the beginning, my mom was treated by him as a servant. He used to beat her, use abusive words over her — sometimes in front of other people, too.…
Read MoreMy friend’s wife has attacked him with a knife. She is now seeing another man. Can he remarry?
Question: I found your website to be so accurate to the teaching of the Bible. While so many churches twist the Word of God, your advice is exactly to the point of the teachings of Jesus. I have a friend who is in a situation. My friend was in a relationship with a Christian woman…
Read MoreSince I blamed God for my miserable childhood and left God, is it possible to return and be saved?
Question: I’ve had a lot of anger toward God. When I was a child I was molested by a family member who lived in our house. My father was an alcoholic (he got help when I was in high school) who would abuse my mother, threaten to kill her and try to kill my mother…
Read MoreHow do I help a girl who has abusive parents?
Question: Hi Mr. Hamilton! I’ve written to you before and I greatly appreciate your site, which I visit almost daily. I know you’re busy, so I’ll try to keep this somewhat brief (I am greatly sorry for the length). I’m also going to try and present an objective account, though it is from my perspective,…
Read MoreI find myself wanting to go back to a man who hasn’t been good to me
Question: Hi, I just came across this site. It seems very helpful, but I need some answers myself. I am really struggling. I have been through a recent breakup because the guy was always breaking up with me and then coming back wanting everything to be fine. In trying times in our relationship, he would…
Read MoreMy wife is abusive and I cannot live with her anymore. What do I do?
Question: My wife of over thirty years and I have been working on serious relational issues for a long time. She was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive over most of those years, and counselors have suggested she has some light form of paranoia and other mental issues. I tend to think there is a stronger…
Read MoreDo I have to have my abusive step-father in my life and in my daughter’s life?
Question: Hello, I hope you can give me some good advice. I am a father of a young girl. My mom divorced my stepdad when I was a young teenager. He gave all of us a pretty hard life, my mom, my brothers, and sisters who are his kids. I am the only one who…
Read MoreI’m in an abusive relationship and I don’t know what to do
Question: I need help trying to discern God’s will for my life and the life of my family. I am prayerfully hoping that you will be able to help me with how to go about making this decision. I have been married for nearly twenty years and have several children. I don’t know how much…
Read MoreMy wife divorced me after she had an affair, and I can’t help thinking it was all my fault
Question: I found your website searching online and I have a question to ask! My wife of 15 years divorced me recently. I’m just lost and devastated. From the start, I was verbally abusive and on a few occasions had pushed her. The fact is: I was abusive and that’s a fact. I hurt inside…
Read MoreI was sexually abused as a teen and now suffer from ADD related to those events. How do I change?
Question: I was physically, emotionally, and sexually abused by my stepfather from the age of 13 until 16. I became pregnant by him at the age of 15 and had his child when I was 16. He continued his abuse towards me even after. I finally got the urge to report it, even if it…
Read MoreDoesn’t telling children to obey their parents enable abusers?
Question: I completely disagree that you would teach obeying parents to children or people at your church. Honor does not mean “obey” and if a child or adult is being abused by their parent, they should not obey. You may want to rephrase your messages on your website unless you are enabling abusers within your congregation. Answer: See: Do…
Read MoreMy father is abusive and I’m afraid to leave my mother to go to college. What should I do?
Question: My mom says that my dad has changed dramatically since they had first married. I don’t know how he was before because I wasn’t born, but I can’t imagine that he was anything like how he is now. He is easily irritable, violent, and constantly demeans her. He also tries to control everyone in…
Read MoreIs it OK to divorce because of violence?
Question: Hello, My husband and I married less than a year ago. We are both young. Of course, when it happened I felt so happy and felt as if my life was complete, until recently. My husband and I get along for the most part, but the thing is when we argue we get into…
Read MoreHow can you live with yourself?
Question: I came across your site on accident, and to be honest, I am absolutely appalled. I am currently a third-year student, working towards my B.A. in Social Work, and I am astounded at your ignorance. I work with abused children every day, and to see you condoning behavior that destroys a child makes me…
Read MoreThere is so much happening and my marriage is falling apart. What do I do?
Question: I’m lost and my life is so out of place. I’m married, and we have eight kids: my husband had two by his first wife, and I had one by my first marriage. We have one together. My dad past away with cancer. He had four kids who live with us. About four years…
Read MoreMy husband continues to use drugs. Should I tell him to leave?
Question: Hi! I was wondering if someone could give me some insight on a problem I’m having. My husband and I have been married for over a year and have an infant child. Our little boy was planned and no surprise. When we married, my husband was a minor and a “recovering” drug addict, and…
Read MoreDoes a wife have to stay with a hurtful and abusive husband?
Question: I don’t know what to do. I am a member of the church and I know that I have to be submissive to my husband, but he does some things that aren’t very nice. He only wants oral and anal sex. He says that I have to do it because the Bible commands it.…
Read MoreHow do I help my aunt who has been in a long abusive relationship?
Question: My aunt has been married for a very long time and has been verbally and emotionally abused for the majority of her marriage. She has one daughter who also was verbally and emotionally abused by her father growing up. My uncle has cheated on my aunt numerous times that we know of. Still, my…
Read MoreShould I tell my daughters about the abuse I suffered in the church they attend?
Question: I was in a church for 12 years. I left because I was abused there. My two daughters are still there. I am afraid for them. I do not want them trained in this way. Should I tell them the truth? Answer: In some ways, it is hard for me to answer because the…
Read MoreWas it wrong to leave a marriage when my ex-husband had tried to kill my son and me?
Question: Was I wrong to leave the marriage? My ex-husband tried to kill my son and me. He told me that he was a baptized Christian. Then he said he was Catholic. After that, he said he did not believe in God at all and cursed His name many times. I have since remarried, but…
Read MoreHow can you teach parents about spanking when my own parents abused me as a child?
Question: I recently came across this article on your website, about spanking young children as a form of punishment: Two and Three-Year-Olds: Raising Godly Children in a Wicked World. I was absolutely appalled by it. Thanks to articles like yours, many children in “God-fearing” homes are severely physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually abused when their parents…
Read MoreHow do I handle my verbally abusive husband?
Question: I have been married for several years and about the same time, I became a member of the Lord’s church. I am in a situation where I am not sure what to do as a Christian. The whole time I have been a Christian I have fallen many times, but every time I try…
Read MoreIs it a sin to divorce someone because they were violent?
Question: Today I was researching on why people divorce each other and found your web site giving sound counsel to many. I do also have a question regarding marriage violence. I have a friend who had to flee home because her husband was violent, he had beaten her in front of her daughters. He had…
Read MoreHow do you help someone who is being abused, but who doesn’t want help?
Question: How can I help someone who is being physically abused when they don’t want to be helped? I tried calling the cops in the past before with a former neighbor of mine. This woman was abused by her husband every day for over two years and acted as if no one had hurt her.…
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