Do I keep fighting for my daughter?
Question:
Firstly, thank you for your ministry. Your doctrine is thoroughly biblical, honors God, and gives Him the glory. God is surely using you to help others through His word so may God continue to bless it and you.
A brief summary of my situation and then my question. I will attempt to keep this concise.
I am a born-again believer. I was divorced by my spouse after seven years of marriage. She initially confessed to being a born-again believer. Her father is a pastor. After our first child was born, she turned to astrology, martial arts, and away from Jesus. She then committed adultery with another woman. She proclaimed to be a homosexual and forced me to agree to a divorce after my every attempt to get us marriage counseling. Initially, she agreed to 50/50 joint custody of our daughter. She warned me that I was not to teach our daughter that her homosexual lifestyle was wrong or there would be consequences.
Despite her choices, I began raising our daughter to follow Jesus and His word. My ex-spouse then met a woman social worker whom she began a romantic relationship with. They began scheming ways to get sole custody. They started taking me to family court with false accusations and erroneous charges. They spent every waking minute sabotaging my parenting time, speaking poorly of me to my daughter, and making trouble at her school. The Lord did help me during three long years of battling five motions to change parenting time. Their plans continued to fail. But it was still wreaking havoc on me financially, my family, and my daughter. But God kept urging me to fight to keep her father and Christian influence in her life.
Finally, it all came to an end when they convinced my daughter to make false accusations of sexual abuse against me. It worked. The state removed her immediately, never to return her. I then went through a year-long Dependency and Neglect case through DHS with the promise of reunification. In the end, it was a setup by the gal, social workers, mother, and partner to frame me. Eventually, I was charged with a felony, jailed, released, and sent to trial. I passed a polygraph 100 percent, passed an evaluation to determine risks, and passed that. None of it was enough to convince anyone of my innocence. This entire time, they continued to use a therapist to brainwash my daughter and implant false memories into her. She continued to add to the allegations. Her mother even added to the allegations that I had abused her when we were married. The authorities believed it all without any evidence whatsoever. I had an ankle monitor on for 16 months and despite what evidence we produced of my innocence, the DA refused and insisted on a trial. Just a month before trial, the DA gave me what my attorneys claimed was an unprecedented plea deal. I refused it three times. My ex-spouse, her partner, DHS, and my daughter all testified against me at trial. She was clearly transformed by the LGBT cult at 11 years old. Darkness was in her eyes, vitriol on her lips, and malice in her heart. She is on the transgender track. She spoke blasphemous words against our Lord and Savior on that witness stand and lied up and down about me. In the end, God delivered me from this impossible mess by shining the light on the truth and exposing the evil. The jury delivered a unanimous verdict of not guilty.
I had initially filed an appeal in family court to overturn the ruling of awarding my ex with sole custody because it was wrong. With the appeal hearing coming up, my questions are these:
- Do I continue to pursue my daughter if the ruling for parenting time is reversed or do I cut her off? I have prayed for discernment in making the right decision, but ultimately I don't know what to do anymore.
- Should I relocate out of state after what the state did to me? Jesus does say to flee persecution.
- How should I be praying?
I have learned to trust in God fully and now see how true His word really is. But it came at a high price as I lost my daughter to evil. I don't understand the reason for this. In the end, I was trying to follow God's guidance to the best of my ability and do the right thing by Him. I'm devastated that I ended up losing. It has changed my life -- for the better and worse. I miss my daughter so much and have shed a lot of tears. Her salvation was more important to me than gold. But I love Jesus more.
Thank you for reading this and answering my questions.
Answer:
That there is this much evil in the world is heartrending. Jesus did warn, "Blessed are those who have been persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward in heaven is great; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you" (Matthew 5:10-12).
It appears that your daughter was told so many lies that she has come to accept them as truth. There is a point when it becomes nearly impossible to reverse the damage unless the person is willing to consider that he has been lied to. What I would suggest is asking your daughter, when she isn't around her mother and other people, if she misses her father and if she would like to spend time with you.
- If she rejects you, then tell her that when the day comes that she realizes how much you have always loved her to come and see you. Assure her that you will never stop loving her but that you won't force her to be with you. In other words, you'll have to take on the role of the father in the story of the prodigal son in Luke 15.
- If she wants out of the nightmare that she is in, then fight with everything you have and keep your daughter informed about what you are doing on her behalf.
If your daughter decides for the moment to stay with the lies, then moving to another state is a good choice. Unfortunately, I've known several people who have had to do this because of false allegations. Sadly, the country as a whole has forgotten that people are innocent until proven guilty.
Justice will eventually come. God doesn't tolerate people who corrupt the innocent (Matthew 18:5-7).
Pray to our Father that He has mercy on your daughter. Pray that He provides her with ways to escape the nightmare she is trapped within. And pray that if she does leave it, that you will have the wisdom and patience to help her.
