How long do I try to make my marriage work?
Question: Hello, My husband and I have been separated off and on for over a year and a half now. We were still sexually involved, although he has been involved with other women during this time until I contracted a sexually transmitted disease from him. Each attempt to reconcile our marriage has been unsuccessful due…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My husband starting to use drugs again
Question: I have been married for over 30 years. We own our own business and work very hard. My husband and I have weathered many storms in our marriage. He has cheated on me, drinks a lot, does drugs, lied, and was verbally abusive to me. We have worked so many problems out with each…
Read MoreShould a man who committed the same sin many times and is still fighting against it be in a leadership position?
Question: Should a man who committed the same sin many times and is still fighting against it be in a leadership position? Answer: Preachers are involved in helping people out of their sins. Elders are involved in keeping people faithful to the gospel. Given that Jesus said, “And why do you look at the speck…
Read MoreMy husband has stopped having sex or being affectionate with me. What do I do?
Question: Good evening. My husband and I are in the Lord’s church but are suffering and I just don’t know what to do. He has a very strong addiction to his electronics, his cell phone, Xbox, and iPad. He spends all day every day on them for years now watching every sport known to man…
Read MoreIs masturbating okay if you are thinking about your husband only?
Question: Is masturbating okay if you are thinking about your husband only? Answer: I think he would enjoy it more if you shared sex with him. Question: True, but what if he is not available? Does the Bible speak against it? Answer: No. There is nothing stated against it in the Scriptures, so long as it is not…
Read MoreWhen you forgive someone are you required to continue talking to them?
Question: When you forgive a Christian brother or sister who hurt you are we required to continue to talk and be friends with them like old times, like nothing ever happened? Or can we forgive and move on? Answer: “And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors” (Matthew 6:12). “And be kind to one another,…
Read MoreDeath of a Fig Tree
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/DeathOfAFigTree.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton I. Matthew 21:18-22 A. I get uncomfortable reading this passage. 1. Here is a fig tree, that happens to lack figs when Jesus walks by. 2. Then Jesus kills it B. The disciples are caught up in amazement that by simply speaking, Jesus killed a fig tree. 1. But why destroy a tree to make this…
Read MoreI feel guilty that I didn’t tell my boyfriend that a year ago I kissed my ex-boyfriend
Question: I have been together with my current boyfriend for two years now. During our first six months together, there was one night I was out drinking with some friends when my ex, by surprise, was also there at the same place, and he sat at our table. We got to chat for a while…
Read MoreI refer my students to your website
Question: Good morning, Sir, Just a short email to say thank you for the well-researched, well-written scriptural articles on your website. I volunteer as a Bible instructor and, as such, I have referred many of my students for guidance in the Holy Word of God to the wonderful articles on your website. Thank you for…
Read MoreHow can I be sure I repented?
Question: Hi Jeff, Hope you are well. I wrote to you a few years back regarding repentance. I was reading some articles on your page tonight and came across another article “Should we refuse to study with someone who is in an adulterous marriage?” In your answer to the inquirer, you give an example of…
Read More“Why Blood?” is simple, clear, and concise. Thanks!
Question: Great outline: “Why Blood?” Simple, clear, and concise. Thanks! Answer: I’m glad you found it useful.
Read MoreYour website is helping me grow
Question: Hi minister, I feel blessed to write to you. Spiritually I will grow, and the church where I serve will grow as well. You will not believe this, but I have been using your notes and visiting your website for some time and it makes me happy. I wish I could develop to your…
Read MoreIs having kids marriage?
Question: Hello, Well, I have a question that really bothers my spirit. I am currently attending church weekly and am really trying to devote my life to Him. I am in a dilemma. Before I fully gave my life to God, I was with a woman whom I kind of loved but not all the…
Read MoreI find myself repeatedly committing fornication when I know it is wrong
Question: I am a baptized member of the church of Christ. I am in need of your advice. I am 25 years of age. I have been in a relationship for some months. Within a few months, we engaged in sinful physical activities (sex) afterward I felt bad. In each episode, I felt so ashamed…
Read MoreDoes burning sage release negative energy?
Question: Hello. Is it a sin to burn sage to get rid of negative energy? I have heard that it has been used for this purpose and is considered a “holy herb” in some Christian churches but even though they say it has been used for thousands of years it seems fishy to me like…
Read MoreWhen was the church in Smyrna established?
Question: Brother Hamilton, Our local fellowship of congregations has been impacted by the doctrine of Preterism, with a number of problems caused by one individual in particular who has garnered a small but aggressive group of followers holding to Max King’s teachings. In an article on your site, “70 A.D. ‘ism and the Date of…
Read MoreI’m haunted by the bad I’ve done. What should I do?
Question: So I have done some really bad things in the past that I feel bad about. Nobody knows I done these things. I asked for forgiveness but still felt really bad yesterday. I was listening to the Bible, and I started crying really bad. I want to move on with my life, but I…
Read MoreDo I need to turn myself in for crimes I did before I became a Christian?
Question: Hello, I have a question. In the past, I have broken laws like jaywalking and stealing when I was a kid. I have repented of this long ago, but now I am worried. Am I legally obligated to report myself? I know we are supposed to submit to laws. Also in the past, this…
Read MoreI want to convert to Christianity but I’m too young to leave my Muslim home
Question: Dear Sir, I’m convinced that Christianity is the true religion. Your website was really helpful and informative. I would like to convert to Christianity, but I’m just 15 years old and raised a Muslim. As you might know if a Muslim converts to another religion he has to face a lot of criticism from…
Read MoreAnd Just Whose Fault Is It?
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/AndJustWhoseFaultIsIt.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Romans 9:14-24 I. I received a note that I found disgusting A. A woman complained that her husband wasn’t giving her the affection she deserved, so she kicked her husband out and brought in a boyfriend. 1. That sin doesn’t justify sin apparently doesn’t matter to her – Romans 3:8 B. What…
Read MoreIs changing your mind a sin?
Question: I was wondering if it’s counted as a lie when I change my mind. This has been a problem for me lately. Let’s say I tell my wife “I’m having an egg sandwich for lunch” and then make a hamburger, is that lying? If I tell myself that I will not drink coffee ever…
Read MoreIf Jesus is God, how come he doesn’t know when the world will end?
Question: If Jesus is completely God, then how come the Bible says that not the son, nor the angels in heaven, but only the Father knows of the second coming? I don’t remember the verse but you probably recognize which one I’m talking about. Answer: “But of that day and hour no one knows, not…
Read MoreShould a parent visit a child who is now unfaithful?
Question: A parent has a child who is unfaithful and living in another state. Is it wrong based on Ephesians 5:11 to visit that child and spend weeks or months in the same house? Answer: If the child is a fallen Christian, then “But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named…
Read MoreI vowed to give up my sins, but I keep falling. Will God hold this against me?
Question: Good day minister, I greet you in the name of God. I have this issue bothering me. I have fasted, prayed, and asked for God’s mercy, but it still comes to my mind once in a while. It might sound foolish, but I am not going to lie to you, sir. Some time ago,…
Read MoreWhat is a church homecoming?
Question: What is a church homecoming? What can I say about it for a service? Answer: The Bible doesn’t talk about churches having “homecomings.” This is a man-made event and has no business being a part of a church’s activities. “And in vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men” (Matthew 15:9).
Read MoreHow can you distinguish between the real and the make-believe?
Question: Alright, how do we know that religion, in general, is not just our mind playing tricks on us? This has been bothering me badly now. I didn’t know if you had an answer or not. For example, I had terrible anxiety problems. I was convinced that my house was haunted. I started hearing things…
Read MoreIs it bad to have a month’s worth of food and water set aside, just in case?
Question: Since I have joined the Lord’s church I feel I can’t be myself around my brothers and sisters. I am a bit of a geek and for years have educated myself on eating healthy, striving to eat organic foods only, avoiding things that I know are harmful to the body, preparing for an economical…
Read MoreDo I have grounds for divorce?
Question: I recently left our nearly 50-year marriage, moved to another state, and am starting my life over. He sexually abused me for most of our marriage. It consisted of forcing me to read a pornographic “book” he put together by pasting images on notebook pages with his own captions. The theme was always me…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a younger woman to teach older women?
Question: We have been in several small congregations and my wife has been asked to lead woman’s classes or has started one where there wasn’t one. The problem is that she feels a little strange about it because she is a young woman teaching older women some twice her age and Titus 2:3-4 says it…
Read MoreI can’t make up my mind between my husband and my lover
Question: Hi I hope you may be able to help. I’m a born-again Christian for the last 10 years. Here is my anguish: I met my husband when we were both near 20 years of age. At the time of meeting him, I was going through an awful time dealing with a nasty father and…
Read MoreShould we break up because we haven’t been able to restrain ourselves?
Question: Hi, My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months. We are both sophomores at a Christian university and met here at the beginning of our freshman year. In our relationship though, we have been having trouble with sexual sin. We have never “gone all the way” and had sex, we’ve just…
Read MoreCan I ask why you have not answered some of my questions?
Question: I understand that you have a life, but can I ask why you have not answered some of my questions? I think they are important. Answer: There is one of me. That’s it. There is no staff here. I hold down a full-time job as a preacher plus work two part-time jobs to make…
Read MoreWhere does the Bible say that God’s patience is long but not endless?
Question: Sir, Kindly let me know where exactly it is written in the Holy Bible that God’s patience is long but not endless? I am very eager to know the exact book, chapter, and verse in the Holy Bible. Answer: “And the LORD passed before him and proclaimed, “The LORD, the LORD God, merciful and…
Read MoreShould I tell my husband I have herpes?
Question: Hi I am a Christian in the Lord’s Church and been baptized since I was 14. However, during my Army days, when I was in my early 20’s, I strayed and committed sin. While in the world, I contracted an STD (herpes). I was only 23 at the time and that was the worst…
Read MoreWhat if a church doesn’t have studies during the week?
Question: Hi brother, I hope you are still holding fast to Him. I have just moved to a place where there’s a small congregation of about nine members, who don’t meet during the week, only on Sundays. I have asked them to meet at least twice a week but to no avail. What is your…
Read MoreIsn’t filing for a 501(c)(3) exemption making a covenant with the people of the land?
Question: Exodus 34:12 reads in the NASB: “Watch yourself that you make no covenant with the inhabitants of the land into which you are going, lest it becomes a snare in your midst.” Without expending too much on the passage in Exodus 34:12, I am trying to determine the extent that verse 12 covers. By…
Read MoreI feel so guilty because we broke down and had sex. Should I leave the man I love
Question: My boyfriend and I are strong believers. We started a relationship less than six months ago and put a strong principle that there would be no sex. In the last two weeks, the principle got broken when we got carried away in love and had sex. Right now I feel too guilty although we…
Read MoreIf a congregation retains an elder who is a widower, should we leave?
Question: We’re conducting a class in which we’re going over the basics of Christianity and just last night, we started discussing the qualifications of elders and deacons. I almost fell out of my seat when our minister stated it’s OK for an elder to keep on serving after his wife dies or passes on. Both…
Read MoreDid God just make the world look like it evolved to test our faith?
Question: Dear Sir, I am a Christian and I have wondered for a while now after I saw a documentary on how the world was created. It explains that water came from meteors, live came from a mixture of chemicals, and it explains this in a very graphic way, answering quite a few of my…
Read MoreAre the baptisms in the New Testament Spirit baptisms or water baptisms?
Question: I have been studying with a co-worker of mine and apparently, we are getting nowhere fast. Our discussions consist of mostly the importance of baptism. He knows the Gospel and believes that it is vital to believe in it for salvation’s sake, but he doesn’t believe that baptism is an essential part, only that…
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