Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
What should a husband do when his wife refuses to have sex with him?
Question: What does a Christian husband do if his wife refuses to have sex with him for 8 months to a year or more at a time for the last 18 years — even though the husband has done his best to plead and remedy the situation on his part but to no avail? Escort…
Read MoreI kissed a married woman. Does that mean I can never marry in the future?
Question: I have committed a horrible sin. I am single and have never been married. I was baptized a long time ago. I recently passionately kissed a married woman. I knew she was married when this happened. Afterward, when I snapped out of it, I felt horrible. I contacted her the next day, explained that…
Read MoreIt is getting hard not to have sex. I want to marry my boyfriend, but I don’t want to give up my independence. Can we get married so we can have sex, but still live apart?
Question: Didn’t people get married during or soon after puberty in Biblical times? It seems like it would be a lot easier to abstain from premarital sex if people were getting married as teenagers. In our society, people usually get married in their mid to late 20s, 10 or more years after sexual maturity. People…
Read MoreSince I had sex with my girlfriend, does this mean I am married to her?
Question: Hello brother. Thank you for the good web site and for the questions and answers that you have posted. I have a question and a problem that I want you to help me to solve. I have been dating a girl for three years. She has been really close to me and I love…
Read MoreI’ve liked this girl for a long time, but I can’t figure out my feelings as to whether she is the one God wants me to marry
Question: I have a question about marriage and a girl. I have liked this specific girl for going on 6-7 years. Yes, I said 6-7 years, and for some reason, I continue to look at her as the greatest thing in this world. I keep telling myself that I will get over it, but I…
Read MoreEven though we sinned, could this be the woman God wants me to marry?
Question: Hi! I was led to your site from confusion about the laws of lust. My girlfriend and I were confused about whether or not it’s still lust if we have those feelings and urges for each other and only each other. From the similar questions I’ve read, and the answers you provided, I’ve gotten…
Read MoreWe’ve been living together for five years and don’t need a paper to prove our love, but I want to make it right with God. What should I do?
Question: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years. We have lived together for 5. We are not ready for marriage. He and I think we don’t need a piece of paper to prove our love, but I want to make it right with God. Is there a prayer that a pastor…
Read MoreScriptural Marriage, Traditional Customs, and Civil Laws
by Sunday Ayandare via Words of Life, Vol. 15, Nos. 2 and 3. April – Sept. 2007. [This has been adapted. It does not include the many customs and traditions practiced by the Nigerian people that Sunday had included in his writings. James W. Sasser] The subject of what constitutes Scriptural marriage has occasioned a…
Read MoreDoesn’t the Lord require Christians to marry Christians?
Question: You said in “What does a woman do when the Christian men around seem more interested in non-Christian women?” “While being married to a non-Christian often makes it more difficult for a Christian woman to remain faithful, there is no requirement that Christians — male or female — must only marry a Christian.” But…
Read MoreMy marriage for a few months is a disaster. What should I do?
Question: Hi there. I got married several months ago. The night before my marriage was a complete disaster. My husband had too much to drink and he fought with me in front of other people. I felt humiliated but thought it was only wedding stress. Long story short, the wedding and the honeymoon were terrible…
Read MoreMy wife committed adultery. We repaired the marriage, but I still hurt. What can I do?
Question: The letter written to regarding the woman with the adulterous affair really hit home. My wife after 30 years cheated on me with another man. I have forgiven her. She did not tell me, I found out and I have been torn ever since. It has been a year ago. We have restored our…
Read MoreCan you explain levitate marriages?
Question: I need some help with marriage laws in the Old Testament, concerning the death of a brother. Under the Old Law, if a man’s brother died was he to take his dead brother’s wife as his own wife? What if he (the man still alive) was already married? What if the women (of the…
Read MoreI married a woman in name only so she could become a citizen of my country. I have a girlfriend and a child by her. How do I fix this mess?
Question: I have a question. I married someone so that they might become a citizen of my country. I did not do this for money, but because I felt it the right thing to do at the time, although I was aware I might be misusing marriage as God intended. We have never been intimately…
Read MoreHow do I talk to my husband about God?
Question: How can I talk to my husband about God? He is a very confused soul. He doesn’t believe that the Bible was written by God. He believes that it was written by men. He thinks that religion is overstated and not really worth anything. I don’t really have a good track record with him…
Read MoreShould Christians get counseling?
Question: Does the Christian faith believe in theological counseling? I believe that is what it is called. My boyfriend went through it after his divorce. My boyfriend’s ex-wife was committing numerous adulteries. He received counseling through faith with a minister and not through medicines. Do you think this is a good idea for us to…
Read MoreIs it wrong to self-pleasure while thinking of a spouse?
Question: I am wondering what your opinion is on self-pleasure while thinking of a spouse. It is not adultery because you are married to that person, and I am not sure if lust still applies when you are married. Answer: I know of no argument against it other than if a person uses self-pleasure as…
Read MoreIf my boyfriend and I touched each other’s private areas, does that mean we aren’t virgins? When we were younger, we pretended to get married. It felt real. Does that mean we are married?
Question: I’ve read a couple of responses that you have given to other people and I find them very helpful. This site is just the site that I’ve been looking for to help me with my situation. I have a couple of questions and I was wondering if you could help me out. I’m presently engaged…
Read MoreWhy Marriages Fail
by Jefferson David Tant via Vanguard, December 1982 The failure of marriage has become the American way of life — a significant change from former generations. In 1870, one of 34 marriages ended in divorce. By 1900, the rate had risen to one in twelve, increasing to one in five by 1940. According to an article…
Read MoreWhen a Man Has Taken a New Wife
by Bryan Matthew Dockens To ensure the longevity of marriage, newlyweds should take serious measures to protect their relationship. Enjoy Your Honeymoon Did you know the concept of a honeymoon originated with God? Of course, He never called it that, but notice: “When a man has taken a new wife, he shall not go out…
Read MoreHow can one be a good wife when it is obvious her husband doesn’t care?
Question: I beg your pardon for bothering you with this question, but I am at a complete loss as to who to ask. I have been studying and researching how to be a good or better Christian wife and none of the resources I have found really reflect my problem. My husband and I were…
Read MoreIf I marry the girl I love, I will be rebelling against my parents. What do I do?
Question: I have some bad news. Over the past month, I had tried to convince my parents that the girl I love was the right one for me but all was in vain. And, yes, I would have gone ahead and heeded your advice, but the culture I belong to is very conservative wherein it…
Read MoreHow do I handle my verbally abusive husband?
Question: I have been married for several years and about the same time, I became a member of the Lord’s church. I am in a situation where I am not sure what to do as a Christian. The whole time I have been a Christian I have fallen many times, but every time I try…
Read MoreI am convinced I do not really deserve happiness. Am I being rational?
Question: I have been struggling with some problems recently. I was baptized into Christ three years ago, and have been married for several years. My wife was baptized into Christ while in high school, but sadly did not maintain an attitude of repentance, and was involved in inappropriate relationships with two of her boyfriends before…
Read MoreThe Spiritual Unity of Marriage
by Gary R. Beauchamp via The Sower, Vol. 53, No. 2, March/April 2008. The night I knew my wife and I were destined for a life together was when we sat alone in a car and solemnly vowed that the most important goal in our lives was first to go to Heaven, and secondly, to…
Read MoreMy parents don’t think the girl I want to marry is good looking enough. What should I do?
Question: I’m 24 years old and a Christian by faith. I fell in love with a girl at my workplace. She, too, is a Christian. I thought my parents would accept her, but on the contrary, they did not. My parents have not even allowed me to speak my mind. I feel terrible within. After…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has sickle cell anemia and I’m a carrier. Should we marry?
Question: I’m 19 this year and my boyfriend is 24. We’ve been together for almost a year now and are in a long-distance relationship. He has spoken to me about marriage, but we are in a difficult situation. He has sickle cell meaning his genotype is SS and my genotype is AS and because of…
Read MoreAm I restricted to only marrying the boy I first had sex with?
Question: I was really having trouble ever since I had sex before marriage. I asked for forgiveness and I was terrified that I would not be forgiven, but tonight I went to church. I’m so happy to have learned and re-learned all of the things I have and I want to do right. I told…
Read MoreOnly in the Lord
by Bob Buchanon Would you please explain the phrase “in the Lord” found in I Corinthians 7:39? Does this mean that if the widow chooses to remarry, she would only be allowed to marry one who is a Christian or “in the Lord”? The phrase “in the Lord” is prepositional and must modify either a…
Read MoreChoosing a Companion
by Bill Hall A happy home is being with a wise choice of a marriage partner. We, therefore, submit the following questions as a guide for our young people as they seek out their companion for life. 1. Is this person eligible for marriage? There are those who have a right to marry according to the laws…
Read MoreSince I’ve had sex before, so that means I joined with those prior girls and I can’t marry?
Question: I was checking out your web site, and La Vista Church of Christ seems like a legitimate, non-liberal church of Christ. I am a 20-year-old Christian. I know it may seem strange to get an email from a random individual, but I had a question regarding pre-marital sex that I guess I’m embarrassed to…
Read MoreThe Necessity of Fidelity in Marriage
by Don Alexander via Truth Magazine, Vol. 52, No. 9, September 2008. Behaviors reflect one’s values and priorities. Our most important live relationships suffer when our behaviors and words do not arise from a sense of fidelity and trustworthiness. The Psalmist cried out, “Help, Lord, for the godly are no more; the faithful have vanished from…
Read MoreMaturity and Marriage
by Bill Walton When we talk about “maturity” there are different ways in which people can be mature and different ways in which they can be immature. It is possible for a physical giant to be an emotional dwarf. It is possible for a grown man to be as immature as a 13-year-old boy. It…
Read MoreWould masturbation be unacceptable between a husband and wife as a part of sexual intercourse?
Question: Hi, My husband and I have been married for a year now and really love God. I just wanted to find out what type of sex is acceptable in a marriage? Would masturbation be unacceptable in God’s eyes even if it was done during sexual intercourse? Hope to hear from you soon! I want…
Read MoreA prophet told my fiance not to marry me. What do I do?
Question: Sir, I am a Christian and I am passing through hell. I had a fiancee whom I’m planning to marry, but recently her prophet called her to tell her to quit the seven-year relationship. He said the marriage is not safe because I’m going to die very soon as a result of a covenant…
Read MoreMy girlfriend and I will get married, but we can’t afford it right now
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. We’re both into our church, and we have grown up with religion as a big part of it. We aren’t married, mostly because we don’t have the money to get married, but we are truly in love with each other. Also, we have…
Read MoreIs It Wrong to Have Romantic Feelings?
by Clem Thurman via Gospel Minutes, Vol. 58, No. 40, Oct. 2, 2009 “And Jehovah God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make for him a help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18). God intended that man should have a mate, a woman, and that that woman should have a…
Read MoreDo I need to renew my vows with my current husband since my former husband has died?
Question: I have spoken to several sound brethren who are elders and ministers in churches of Christ in regard to marriage, divorce, and remarriage. This is the situation that I addressed to them concerning myself: I was in a previous marriage with a man for twelve years. The man I was married to had a…
Read MoreI Don’t Love Her Anymore
by Greg Gwin A forty-year-old man, suffering through the classic “mid-life crisis,” sat down to talk to a preacher about his problems. He explained how his marriage of 20 years was no longer satisfying or fulfilling. Finally, he reached the ‘bottom line.’ “I just don’t love her anymore”, he said. “What can I do?” After…
Read MoreHow to Save Your Marriage
by Rick Lanning in The Elgin Hills Examiner, Vol. 3, Nos. 11,12, Nov/Dec. 2008. It’s simple, really. I do not have to write a large volume, followed by a sequel, on all the details of establishing a good marriage. Although the shelves are stocked full of wonderful books on this subject (and I have spent a…
Read MoreI’ve committed adultery and I don’t know where to begin picking up the pieces of my shattered marriage
Question: I am a young wife who has committed adultery and I am unsure where to go from here. I have told my husband and we are trying to work through all of this, but I still feel like my husband and I are not meant to be together. I have just finished The Proper Care…
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