Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Sure, we did some things wrong, but my boyfriend broke up with me for no valid reason
Question: Hi, I’m 22. I’ve been having a hard time because my boyfriend broke up with me for apparently no valid reason. We are both Christians. We almost had sex, we didn’t go all the way, but there were a lot of physical contacts. It was wrong, and we both knew it. We talked about…
Read MoreIs it a sin to be with a man who has a child?
Question: Should I be with a man who already has a child? What does the Bible say about men leaving the mother of their child to be with the women he loves? Is it a sin for me to be with a man who has a child? Answer: You are asking the wrong questions. The…
Read MoreShould I take responsibility for another man’s child?
Question: I have been going out with this girl for about five years now. Just recently she got pregnant with another guy. She confessed to me that she doesn’t love that guy and does not believe she can be happy with him. I later told her if the other guy does not take up his…
Read MoreI would like to take a girl out, but she has had bad experiences with guys. How do I convince her I’m different?
Question: How do you ask out a young lady who is so convinced that guys are all the same — i.e they are liars and cheats in relationships? She is a nice young lady, hardworking with a good character but seems to have been hurt from previous relationships. I know I’m not perfect. But I…
Read MoreShould we move near each other before getting married?
Question: Hello, I need some advice. You see, my girlfriend and I have been friends for a while. We prayed together and made sure we were the ones for each other before we did anything. Our relationship is definitely God-centered. It’s so amazing! But we are in a long-distance relationship. I live in a different…
Read MoreMy boyfriend is worldly and using drugs, but I’m afraid to leave him as he might become worse
Question: Hello. I am a member of the church of Christ. How can I tell my boyfriend of two years that I’m aware he has a drug addiction without pushing him away or over the edge? I don’t fear being alone but fear that if I’m not in his life, he will really turn in…
Read MoreHow can I meet girls?
Question: How can I meet girls? Answer: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22). I’m amazed how many young men I’ve met who put no effort into finding a spouse and then wonder why they remain single. “He who finds a wife …” implies that the man…
Read MoreIs it wrong to talk about sexual things before we are married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have had a long-distance relationship for a while we really love each other. With God’s help and guidance, we plan on getting married in the future. But we occasionally like to talk about kissing and other related activities. We were feeling confident with each other and we even talked about…
Read MoreDo I tell my fiance that I had homosexual sex in my past?
Question: I need your help regarding a situation I have. I am a male in my late twenties. I am going to get married in a few months to my girlfriend of three years. I had a secret, which I am confused about if I should share it with my future wife. I was addicted…
Read MoreMy fiancee kissed another man just months before our wedding
Question: Hello sir, Let me share a great burden in my heart with you. I am only a few months away from my marriage to a lady I have known for just over a year. We have done the family introductions and have a date fixed for our wedding. She came to me last weekend…
Read MoreThings have been going further than they should. I don’t know how to put a stop to them
Question: Hi, I’ve been a Christian for more than three years now. I was a youth leader for the girls, and then became the youth leader for boys and girls. I was also in charge of the children’s ministry. My relationship with God was going great! And I never ever thought this would happen to…
Read MoreI love a girl, but she is from a rich Hindu family and I’m from a lower-middle-class Christian family. How do we get our families to agree to our marriage?
Question: Hi, I truly believe in Christ. I love a girl who is a non-Christian. We love each other so much we want to be united. But she belongs to a rich Hindu family and I am in a lower-middle-class family. How do we convince her parents to approve our marriage? We want both families…
Read MoreMy former girlfriend wants to get back together with me, but I don’t know if I should take the risk
Question: Hi brother Hamilton, I need a bit of help here. I was courting a young lady for the past several years. I made indications that I wanted us to marry and she told me she wanted to wait. Our relationship got strained. I’m not sure because of that issue or because she was busy…
Read MoreHow can I help my boyfriend who has Tourette’s and ADD?
Question: I’m 19 years old and my boyfriend is 20. Our situation is really complicated, so I’m going to tell you about our past. Most of our relationship was before I gave my life to Christ. Let me start by saying he has Tourettes and ADD. When I first met him he was very lustful.…
Read MoreShould I dump my boyfriend because he keeps pushing for sex?
Question: I’ve been dating this guy for over six months now. When we first met, he seemed very dedicated to God. I loved the way he always spoke about God and seemed to have God first over everything. We even use to fast together! We started dating, but only saw each other once a month…
Read MoreIs it wrong to find your own mate?
Question: Hi, I am extremely thankful for your guidance in my spiritual life. But until we die, we have to keep fighting Satan. Things could have been gone easily, but they are not. I was brought up in a very reserved family. I am not comfortable talking freely to my parents. My parents are planning…
Read MoreIs touching your girlfriend wrong in God’s eyes?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating each other for a while now. She’s a very serious Christian and she’s trying to keep herself as clean as possible, so every time I try to touch her she gets mad. I wonder if touching is a wrong thing in God’s eyes. Answer: You didn’t say where you…
Read MoreMy boyfriend was convicted of statutory rape and in the trial, I learned he had sex with other women. Should I continue our relationship?
Question: My boyfriend of four years was convicted of statutory rape, a one-time incident. This is his only criminal record. In the course of the trial, I discovered that he committed infidelity with several women. Of course, this is devastating. He has repented and promised God that he will never have sex except with his…
Read MoreHow do I keep myself from wanting to have sex with my new boyfriend?
Question: Hi, My sister gave me this email because I am having a few problems. Actually, I have been having problems all of high school. One question I have for you is: What does being scared of God look like? How can you be scared of God? I am scared of what will happen to…
Read MoreI’m interested in a woman, but she is worldly and I don’t know if I should discuss the Bible with her or not
Question: Hi Jeffrey, I have a question for you regarding a situation with a female co-worker of mine that I have taken interest in. I’m trying to seek your advice on what you think I should do regarding this situation. The situation is that I have an interest in this woman, but her values are…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my boyfriend’s parents if we get married?
Question: Good morning, I have a question regarding my boyfriend and me and his parents. Both his parents have gotten divorced and remarried. His mother and her husband still attend worship. I don’t think his father does. We are a part of the Lord’s church. How is he supposed to interact with his parents (socially…
Read MoreShould I end our engagement even though we’ve sinned?
Question: Hello, I am a 25 years old woman. I met my fiance about five years ago as a friend. Eventually, the friendship turned out to be a much-committed relationship. He proposed to me for marriage. We have been engaged for several years. We have been postponing marriage due to other issues with our families.…
Read MoreCan a man be faithful in marriage after having a promiscuous past?
Question: In my years, I have heard many little stories about men who have sex with as many women as possible before marriage, but when he is married, changes and remains faithful. Some men call it “getting it out your system.” However, I have never met a man who was faithful to his wife after…
Read MoreIs it a problem to marry a man of a different belief than your own?
Question: I’m 22 years old. The first time I was involved in sexual sin with a guy, I thought I would marry, but it didn’t work out. I have a different boyfriend now, and we have slept together a lot of times. But I decided I couldn’t continue this life of sin, and I decided…
Read MoreI was involved in fornication with my boyfriend who is a preacher. We broke up, but how do I straighten out this mess that I got involved in?
Question: My boyfriend of 17 months and I recently broke up. There are many factors that contributed to our decision to end the relationship, but one of the biggest concerns was the distance and the inability or unwillingness for one of us to move in the near future. We still talk and deeply care about…
Read MoreDo you have other studies for young adults?
Question: Hello Mr. Hamilton, I just wanted to personally thank you for loading your Bible studies and documents online so that young couples, such as me and my boyfriend, can access them. My boyfriend and I have really been on a strong track to strengthen both our relationship and our spiritual relationship with Christ. We…
Read MoreTwo Women
by Linda Maydell Sally Sally (not her real name) had just heard the gospel, and she realized that she was not saved! Sally really wanted to be baptized. However, what troubled her was that she first needed to repent (make a commitment in her heart to stop sinning). She knew if she were baptized without…
Read MoreI’m interested in a girl, but she is planning to teach in another country for a year
Question: I found another godly girl who is absolutely amazing. We teach each other about Christ. I really like this girl and I’m excited about what God has in store for her future as a teacher. Her dream is to teach in China when she graduates. She wants to teach for a year and seems…
Read MoreWhat should a woman do who wants to get married but her boyfriend wants to wait another five years?
Question: Hi, First of all, I’d like to thank you for the great work you are doing for the church. May God bless the work of your hands. I have a pressing question: A friend who is 27 is in a relationship with a 29-year-old man. She tells me she is ready to get married…
Read MoreI know we did things wrong, but how can I get my boyfriend back?
Question: Hello, I really wanted your opinion on my relationship. My boyfriend and I had dated for almost two years. He broke up with me about a week ago. I am devastated. I always thought that he and I could get through anything. I admit we argued a lot, mostly on my account, but this…
Read MoreDo I leave the girl I’ve been having sex with to go back to my old girlfriend?
Question: Hi, To make the long story short, my girlfriend and I were both Christians and we did sex, almost thrice every week. But now I feel guilty and convicted that we should stop doing fornication. Due to this sin, I think I lost my love and feelings for her and I think I’m longing…
Read MoreI want to marry a Christian, but there is a girl who attends a different religion whom I’m interested in. What do I do?
Question: I grew up in the church my entire life. My dad is a preacher. I say all of that to give you a quick background. I have been dating a girl for about a month now and have really started to like her. The thing is, when she was 17 she got pregnant and…
Read MoreI love my boyfriend, but he keeps hounding me about wanting to have sex
Question: I have been on and off with my boyfriend due to the fact that he isn’t God-fearing. I love him so much and want him to be the one I marry, but I asked God for a God-fearing man. My relationship with God has strengthened so much. I realize I can’t live or conform…
Read MoreShould a prospective spouse meet his or her future in-laws before the marriage?
Question: Does the Bible encourage an engaged couple to travel together to places abroad, so that the lady can meet his family, as they reside in different countries? They still don’t belong to each other and temptations are more likely to arise, even in just being boyfriend and girlfriend. Would it be safe to travel…
Read MoreMy boyfriend texted me to end our engagement on Christmas day
Question: Good day, My ex and I recently broke up. He ended it through text on Christmas day. He said things were not working out, even after I sacrificed to move down by him and live in his rented apartment. He was supposed to move out but said he will in January. I was uncomfortable…
Read MoreI told my fiance the truth and he left me. Now, what do I do?
Question: I was going through your website and came across a testimony of how God restored a relationship. I am going through the same phase in life right now, and I need your guidance and advice. I was supposed to get married in a few months but everything got called off because of my lie.…
Read MoreIs it useless to pray for a wife?
Question: When it comes to marriage, I know that we are the ones who chose who we are with. I know that God did not make nor designed a special person for you and there are millions of people on the planet with which we can possibly be happy. So is praying for a wife…
Read MoreMy boyfriend is handicapped and his life is controlled by his grandmother. I don’t know if I should continue dating him or not
Question: I have been dating this man from church for about half a year now. Our original getting together was through his uncle inviting me over to meet him. I have to mention that he is the victim of a drunk driver over a decade ago. Because of this, he is physically and mentally handicapped. …
Read MoreMy girlfriend has been raped in the past and every time we get intimate, her fears come back. I don’t know what to do.
Question: So here is my ultimate dilemma in life: I am currently following God’s lead to pursue this amazing woman. She is just incredible to me and she means the world. She is several years older than I am. We both are Christians — she was saved when she was 19, me since I was…
Read MoreMy girlfriend’s past keeps haunting me and it makes me angry. What do I do from here?
Question: Lately, the past between my girlfriend and I have been randomly haunting me when I least expect it. I would ask my friends for their input, but I don’t feel that they would give me the answer I seek without being bias. I wanted to go to my church and confess these thoughts; however,…
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