Can I have sex with a woman who is willing and cannot get pregnant?
Question: I got married to an unfaithful woman. I guess having it her way counts as unfaithfulness? My dad and others where we were living did not want us together as she: Had 16 boyfriends before me Did not pay her rent or telephone bills Had a lot of medical problems that she told me…
Read MoreSheep in the Pit — What Do You Do?
by Eric M. Hamilton via A Whisper After the Fire Is it possible to come across a situation where the right thing to do would be to let something evil happen? Or would the wrong thing to do be to let a good thing happen? It may seem ridiculous that questions like that should even be…
Read MoreThe A.D. 70 Doctrine
by Tommy Thornhill I sincerely believe “The A.D. 70 Doctrine” to be another in a long line of perverted gospels that has plagued the Lord’s church since I began preaching in May 1953. As a young preacher, I never dreamed that disgruntled and false brethren could dream up so many false doctrines. Since that time…
Read MoreTwo Women
by Linda Maydell Sally Sally (not her real name) had just heard the gospel, and she realized that she was not saved! Sally really wanted to be baptized. However, what troubled her was that she first needed to repent (make a commitment in her heart to stop sinning). She knew if she were baptized without…
Read MoreWhat do we do about the children’s father who doesn’t care for them well when he has them?
Question: I need your help. My fiancé and I are members of the church of Christ. We are dealing with a test right now. My fiancé’s ex-husband isn’t a Christian. The kids live with her, but they get to see him on the weekends. He likes to pawn them off on other people when he…
Read MoreI am no longer committing sexual sins, but should I get myself checked or just trust God to answer my prayers?
Question: I was one of those Christians that if you were to ask me if I died today would I go to heaven, I would say yes. But I was still in fornication, drinking, etc. And I would of went to hell thinking I was living right. I’ve let go of all of that and…
Read MoreAre we not to ask God for what we want to have?
Question: I thought prayer is about telling God about everything, such as how your day went, what you want to achieve, what you hope for, etc. But now I see that it is not actually that. For example, on one of the questions, I see that asking something that is only for your pleasure is…
Read MoreHow do I put Ezekiel 3:18-21 into practice?
Question: Hello again. I have gotten baptized, making a move to a more sound church, and have helped those closest to me in some Christian matters. However, I am still wondering how to live out Ezekiel 3:18-21 when I see so many people out in public that I don’t really know sinning. I especially don’t…
Read MoreWas the spirit that came to Saul at En Dor a fallen angel?
Question: Hi, Reading through your questions in 2011, on 01/13 you speak about the spirit who visited Saul. What was the spirit? I’ve often wondered myself and having checked various sites on the web, many actually favor a fallen angel. Why is that? What does the Bible account actually say? Answer: “And Saul perceived that it…
Read MoreNo More Men
Source: “‘Men’ edited out of law in Washington state,” Omaha World-Herald, page 4A, 4 February 2013. Lawmakers in Washington are removing all references to men from their laws. Dairymen are now called dairy farmers, freshmen are now first-year students, and penmanship is now handwriting. The claim by Sally Clark, one of the instigators, is “But language…
Read MoreHow do we decide how much to give once we are married?
Question: I am a member of the church of Christ. I’m a firm believer in giving 10% even if we aren’t commanded. My fiancé gives less since she doesn’t make as much as I do. My question is: Once we get married should we continue giving individual offerings? Another question is: When the Jews gave…
Read MoreI feel like a failure because I didn’t go to college when I had the chance
Question: Dear Mr. Hamilton, I happened to come across your church’s website and decided to write to you in hopes of finding an answer. For more than a year now, I have been struggling to find my calling in this world. I know everyone has a different calling in the world, yet I feel that…
Read MoreWhat can I do? My ex-husband is about to marry his mistress
Question: I need your help. My ex-husband is marrying his mistress. According to the church, they are “shacking up” and need to be right by God. They getting married is the right thing to do, according to their church. I have departed from my husband (he divorced me), hoping we someday he will see his…
Read MoreBy What Authority Do You Do These Things?
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/ByWhatAuthorityDoYouDoTheseThings.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Matthew 21:23-27 I. The Book of Judges discusses the ups and downs of the children of Israel in following God. A. It quickly becomes apparent that there are more downs than ups. B. Most telling though is how the book ends – Judges 21:25 C. Here was a society that didn’t follow…
Read MoreDoes it bother you that kids are killing themselves because you teach against homosexuality?
Question: Hi, I’ve been reading various parts of your website and have a question for you. I’m wondering how you feel about young people killing themselves when their churches condemn their gayness and, no matter how much they try, they cannot change to straight. You seem to say in one place that homosexuality is mostly…
Read MorePlease remove your homophobic statements
Question: Please remove your homophobic statements and blasphemy against the new world order from your website. Answer: I’m glad to hear that the truth and free speech bother you. I hope it will continue to do so. “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires,…
Read MoreGiving and Taking a Rebuke
by Lance Blackburn Rebuke – to admonish, charge, convict; a stern correction Rebuking is a vital part of the Christian’s life This is true of giving and receiving rebukes Jesus often rebuked His disciples: Mark 8:33; Luke 9:55 Paul commanded Timothy and Titus to rebuke: I Timothy 5:20; II Timothy 4:2; Titus 1:13; 2:15 Wisdom…
Read MoreWhat do you say to a person who couldn’t marry because of the financial costs from the loss of insurance?
Question: I was listening to a conversation between two people describing the situation of a new believer, a woman with many physical problems and high medical bills. The woman has been living with the father of her children for 30 years. They are not married because his insurance would never accept her, so in order…
Read MoreHow do I choose a college?
Question: How do I know if I’m on the path God wants me to be on? I’ve been praying every night for a sign of where to go and what to pursue. I’ve looked into other colleges before but they’ve never worked out. It doesn’t surprise me though, I never prayed about any of them.…
Read MoreWhat do you do about a couple who disrupts the services of the church?
Question: What do you do with a brother who walks disorderly and who threatens others and his wife disrupts every service? If this couple is allowed to stay everyone else will leave as some have already. Can you offer any suggestions? We are to the point where we are planning on calling the police to…
Read MoreWhere does homophobia come from?
Question: Good morning, sir. Thanks for giving an answer to all those who ask and share difficult questions of life. I need an explanation on homophobia. How does it originate? What is it? What are its manifestations? How can one deal with it? Answer: Homophobia originates with the promoters of homosexuality to explain away why…
Read MoreI repented of my adultery, but my wife is still planning to divorce me. What do I do?
Question: My wife and I had a marriage that was in shambles. Instead of turning to the Lord, we continually relied upon ourselves. Our communication was bad, our respect for each other was low, and our intimate life was terrible to non-existent. Over the years I ended up having multiple affairs. Just last month I…
Read MoreWhat does it mean that God declared the seventh day holy?
Question: God blessed the seventh day. When God blessed the animals and human beings He said “Be fruitful and multiply.” Can this mean that God also said the same thing when God blessed the seventh day? Also, what does it mean that God has declared the seventh day holy? Answer: “Bless” means in this context…
Read MoreThe bishop at my church has been sexually harassing my wife
Question: Dear Minister, I came across your website, and really like your level of maturity in the way you are advising men in such intricate cases. First, please explain to me what was the context of I Corinthians 7:1? Secondly, my bishop, for a long time has maintained coarse jesting with women in our assembly.…
Read MoreWhat would you say to a young teenager who “sometimes feels weak” because he lost his mother?
Question: Hello, By way of counseling, what would you say to a young teenager who “sometimes feels weak” because he lost his mum? Answer: Life is filled with difficulties. You can either let them overwhelm you or you can overcome them. God allows Satan to bring difficulties into our lives because people can rise to…
Read MoreIf you charged for use of your website, I’d be broke
Question: Thank you! If you charged for use of your website, I’d be broke. Answer: “Did I commit sin in humbling myself that you might be exalted, because I preached the gospel of God to you free of charge?” (II Corinthians 11:7). I’m glad to be of service.
Read MoreAm I responsible for my boyfriend turning from Christ?
Question: When I was about 17, I moved congregations with my family, and shortly thereafter their gospel meeting was upcoming. During that week a boy was invited and a few weeks later he obeyed the gospel. Honestly, over time I knew he was trouble, but I guess I just ignored it– but then about a…
Read MoreWhat do I say to a young woman who thinks that if she doesn’t intend to have sex then when it happens she hasn’t sinned?
Question: Hello, A young adult I know has become a Christian when she was 15 years old and is now nearly 20. She lives her life in fornication with various sexual partners. She has been struggling with this sin since she was a preteen. Her excuse is that it’s a struggle and that it’s not…
Read MoreWhy did my uncle die young? How can we know he is OK?
Question: I have recently lost my uncle due to a short illness. He was only in his thirties. When I read your website it only refers to people dying young as wicked. This confuses me as my uncle was a very good man at heart. Yes, he was not a saint but he had a…
Read MoreIs there any certain prayer of forgiveness for fornication?
Question: Hi, I’m a Catholic. I’m in need of advice! I’ve committed fornication with a girl I’m in a relationship with! I prayed to God for forgiveness! Is there any certain prayer of forgiveness to pray for the sinful acts I’ve done? I don’t want to turn my back on God again. I only want…
Read MoreI can’t seem to get my parents interested in true Christianity
Question: Hello, I could really use some advice. I am wanting to make a move to one of the churches that you recommended, but my parents don’t share my enthusiasm about trying to follow Christ’s teachings accurately. Less than half an hour ago my mom told me she would rather finish a movie than read…
Read MoreI’m trying to forgive my wife for the adultery she committed, but I’m finding it hard to forget
Question: Good evening, sir, I was told about your website and that you can help me with some questions I have about my marriage. I have been married for less than ten years. Well, last year my wife was seeing another guy from work. I found her messages when she was texting him. I confronted…
Read MoreI was removed from leadership because I behaved badly with my boyfriend
Question: Hello, I’m currently going through a hard time right now. l guess I just need someone to encourage me. My ex-boyfriend and I went too far. We went out earlier, but it didn’t last very long. I broke up with him, but not because I had an issue with him. It was mostly because…
Read MoreWhat intimacies are allowed or not allowed to engaged couples?
Question: My girlfriend and I are very grateful to the Lord for the love and gift we are to each other. We love the Lord and want to honor Him and His law for us as an unmarried but betrothed couple. We are committed to saving sex for marriage. I am searching deeper into His…
Read MoreAre Christians only allowed to talk to Christians?
Question: Hello, Does the Bible say that we’re not allowed to talk to anyone who’s not a Christian? If so, what happens if a Christian does talk to someone who’s not a Christian? Thanks! Answer: I’m scratching my head trying to figure out where such an idea could possibly come from. It would be impossible…
Read MoreWhy do I feel like I’m failing?
Question: Hi, Before I go any further, a little about myself. Almost two years ago I broke up from my first relationship that lasted about a year and a half. I admit I committed fornication, but when I realized it was a sin, I thought it was too late and God would not forgive me.…
Read MoreI’m interested in a girl, but she is planning to teach in another country for a year
Question: I found another godly girl who is absolutely amazing. We teach each other about Christ. I really like this girl and I’m excited about what God has in store for her future as a teacher. Her dream is to teach in China when she graduates. She wants to teach for a year and seems…
Read MoreWhat should a woman do who wants to get married but her boyfriend wants to wait another five years?
Question: Hi, First of all, I’d like to thank you for the great work you are doing for the church. May God bless the work of your hands. I have a pressing question: A friend who is 27 is in a relationship with a 29-year-old man. She tells me she is ready to get married…
Read MoreThe Prudent Person
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/PrudentPerson.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: I Thessalonians 5:1-10 I. The Hebrew word arum refers to a clever or crafty person. A. In a negative way it refers to a person who deceives or tricks another person, such as the serpent in the Garden – Genesis 3:1 B. But it can also refer to the person to…
Read MoreI know we did things wrong, but how can I get my boyfriend back?
Question: Hello, I really wanted your opinion on my relationship. My boyfriend and I had dated for almost two years. He broke up with me about a week ago. I am devastated. I always thought that he and I could get through anything. I admit we argued a lot, mostly on my account, but this…
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