Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
Why does my wife despise me?
Question: I desperately need godly counsel concerning my marriage. Let me start out by setting up the scenario first. I met my wife at church when I was a teenager. We were friends for the first few years, then started dating, and then got engaged. She is the only woman I have ever dated or…
Read MoreShould we move near each other before getting married?
Question: Hello, I need some advice. You see, my girlfriend and I have been friends for a while. We prayed together and made sure we were the ones for each other before we did anything. Our relationship is definitely God-centered. It’s so amazing! But we are in a long-distance relationship. I live in a different…
Read MoreMust you marry in the church you attend?
Question: Is it compulsory to marry in the church you attend? Why? Answer: Marriage has existed from the time the world was created (Genesis 2:24). It is not defined by any church or denomination. It was given to all of mankind and existed long before the church. Where a couple gets married makes no difference.…
Read MoreTraditional Marriage
by Doy Moyer What bothers me about “traditional” marriage is the terminology in the debate. There is nothing wrong with tradition. Tradition is something established that is handed down through time, and certainly, marriage is that. It is something that is customary, and marriage is surely that, too. But when we place something in the…
Read MoreWhat can a wife do to improve her marriage?
Question: I have been asked to do a drama for the ladies! I have been researching your web site. I have read your notes on Solomon, the glue in a marriage, and lots of other things. Could I ask you to please give me some more information on how men truly desire to be treated in marriage?…
Read MoreIs it wrong to find your own mate?
Question: Hi, I am extremely thankful for your guidance in my spiritual life. But until we die, we have to keep fighting Satan. Things could have been gone easily, but they are not. I was brought up in a very reserved family. I am not comfortable talking freely to my parents. My parents are planning…
Read MoreMy wife is abusive and I cannot live with her anymore. What do I do?
Question: My wife of over thirty years and I have been working on serious relational issues for a long time. She was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive over most of those years, and counselors have suggested she has some light form of paranoia and other mental issues. I tend to think there is a stronger…
Read MoreI married a man, not realizing what he was like or what his past was. What do I do?
Question: I got married several years ago to someone that I really didn’t know. We met in the fall and married the following summer. It was one of the most foolish things that I have done, and have regretted it every single day. I believed he was a Christian. He lied about who he was…
Read MoreDo you need her parent’s blessing before marrying?
Question: Hi, I am 22, Christian, (raised and worshiping in a non-denominational church of Christ, actually), and have a bit of a conundrum. I apologize for the lengthy staging here. I met the girl I want to marry. She is a baptized Christian, also 22, but was raised in a stricter sect of the Mennonites.…
Read MoreIs it sinful to not want to have children?
Question: I was wondering if it’s sinful for a woman not to ever want to have children? Answer: A person has the right to choose to get married or not. That choice comes with consequences since sex is only allowed within a marriage. “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is…
Read MoreMy husband has gotten involved in drugs and gambling. What do I do?
Question: My husband and I have been married for twenty years. We have four children together. Two of them are grown with their own families now, but two of them are still at home. During the first part of our marriage, my husband was a wonderful father and husband but for the past seven years,…
Read MoreWe want to marry, but we can’t afford to lose benefits
Question: What does a very obedient Christian couple do when they are living together and willfully obeying God and not having sex, who desperately want to be married but cannot due to one of them being on SSI? The other person cannot support the other person and that money that is given every month, even…
Read MoreIf someone wasn’t in a good mental state when getting married, is the marriage still valid?
Question: If someone was diagnosed with depression, and post-traumatic stress, and were put on meds like Zoloft and Lyrica for chronic pain, and the meds made them crazy, are they really responsible for their actions? If someone got married in that kind of mental state is that marriage still valid in the eyes of God?…
Read MoreIs it a problem to marry a man of a different belief than your own?
Question: I’m 22 years old. The first time I was involved in sexual sin with a guy, I thought I would marry, but it didn’t work out. I have a different boyfriend now, and we have slept together a lot of times. But I decided I couldn’t continue this life of sin, and I decided…
Read MoreTwo Women
by Linda Maydell Sally Sally (not her real name) had just heard the gospel, and she realized that she was not saved! Sally really wanted to be baptized. However, what troubled her was that she first needed to repent (make a commitment in her heart to stop sinning). She knew if she were baptized without…
Read MoreWhat do you say to a person who couldn’t marry because of the financial costs from the loss of insurance?
Question: I was listening to a conversation between two people describing the situation of a new believer, a woman with many physical problems and high medical bills. The woman has been living with the father of her children for 30 years. They are not married because his insurance would never accept her, so in order…
Read MoreIs the law of marriage and divorce that Jesus taught for the church or universal?
Question: My wife last husband wanted to divorce her on irreconcilable differences. He changed his mind and said to her he wanted to work things out, she refused and wanted to proceed with the divorce because of the abuse and adultery, he also had another child outside their marriage. They proceeded with the divorce under…
Read MoreIs it useless to pray for a wife?
Question: When it comes to marriage, I know that we are the ones who chose who we are with. I know that God did not make nor designed a special person for you and there are millions of people on the planet with which we can possibly be happy. So is praying for a wife…
Read MoreNow that my husband has died, can I marry the man I committed adultery with?
Question: I have committed adultery against my husband. He has since died. If I marry the man that I committed adultery with, am I free to marry him? He is single. He knew I was married at the time this happened. Is he an adulterer? If we decide to marry will God recognize and accept…
Read MoreThis teaching on Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing!
Question: This teaching on the Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing! My husband and I have been married for six years and are going through some challenges sexually. Where can I find more teachings broken down just like this one but on other subjects? Answer: The entire website contains information on a wide variety of topics,…
Read MoreI encourage you to remove “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage” from your website
Question: The article by Mark Broyles, “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage,” on your website is spreading a myth – short of being able to mind-control your spouse, there is no way to prevent an affair. One’s partner can do anything they choose to do. I encourage you to remove the article. It’s poor to see shoddy theology…
Read MoreIs Paul talking only about unequal yoking in II Corinthians 6:14?
Question: I must question slightly your discourse about II Corinthians and marriage. I am pleased that you do not recommend anyone marry an unbeliever. And you are correct that many will ignore that advice. The part I question is that you read something into the scripture that isn’t there and have overlooked your own quote of…
Read MoreHow do I handle a husband with a drinking problem?
Question: Hi, I am a member of the Lord’s church, as well as my husband. We have been married for about five years with a couple of kids. When we first move to where we currently live, we both attended church; fast forward a year later, he started hanging out with friends who drank, and…
Read MoreIf a guy is drunk at his wedding, is he really married?
Question: My “soulmate” had gotten himself in a messy situation about ten years ago. We had been dating but had split due to distance. While I was gone he started seeing another girl (at the time he was 18) whom he slept with. When I returned, however, he told me that it was me he…
Read MoreWhat do we do if he can’t afford the dowry (Lobola)?
Question: I have been dating this man for the past three years, and I love him so much. We grew up together in the church but we started dating when I was in my early twenties. He was supposed to pay a dowry (lobola) but he lost his job. This happened again this year, but…
Read MoreIf I dream a woman wanted me, does it not mean we are married?
Question: I was in a dream one night and saw a lady in my church trying to sleep with me. I ran away from her but she was desperate. Her younger brother, with her in that dream, was asking me why I don’t want to marry his sister. Physically, she was not the one I…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been cheating on me, but now he wants to get married and I don’t know if I should
Question: How do I continue with the father of my two children, with whom I’ve been in a relationship for 13 years and just found out he might be the father of a baby whose mother is the person I found him cheating on me with two years ago? Do I believe his story about…
Read MoreMy husband doesn’t tell me anything until the last moment
Question: I was searching for questions and answers regarding marriage online, and I found your site very interesting. I am a Christian too, and I have a question. My husband and I have been married for over ten years. My husband is good in so many aspects, but in communication with me, he is not…
Read MoreIs it necessary for a Christian to marry a non-Christian?
Question: I am a member of the church of Christ, but I have a question. Is it acceptable for a boy or girl to have a girl or boyfriend? And is it necessary for a member of the church of Christ to marry someone who is not in the church of Christ? Answer: Much depends…
Read MoreIs it wrong to marry a person of a different nationality?
Question: My family believes that it is a sin to marry a person who is not of the same nationality as you. As an example, they believe that is wrong to marry someone who is Mexican, Italian, Indian, etc. Being white, they also believe that it is a sin to marry someone that is black. …
Read MoreWe want to get married, but we can’t even afford rings
Question: My partner and I want to get married so badly, but we don’t have money for anything, not even rings. I have a six-month-old baby with my partner and refuse any longer to sleep with him until we are married because the truth about how the children of God should live has been revealed…
Read MoreIf a man married three times, but his wives are all now dead, can he marry again?
Question: If a man had three spouses, he divorced his first wife for adultery and he married an adulterer, divorced her for unknown reasons, and married a woman who was not an adulterer and divorced her to go back to his second wife, and all three spouses die, is it OK for the man to…
Read MoreI’m in an abusive relationship and I don’t know what to do
Question: I need help trying to discern God’s will for my life and the life of my family. I am prayerfully hoping that you will be able to help me with how to go about making this decision. I have been married for nearly twenty years and have several children. I don’t know how much…
Read MoreI think the government is corrupt, so can I get married without the government being involved?
Question: Hello, My girlfriend and I would like to marry outside of the state due to the condition of the corruption and anti-God position of the government and states. I know the Scripture indicates to obey the laws of the land, and I always have attempted to abide by them to the best of my…
Read MoreMy fiance and I engaged in foreplay. How do we answer the church if we are asked, knowing this will mean we cannot be wed in the church?
Question: How do we answer the church if I and my fiancé are asked if we have had sex before marriage when we have engaged in the foreplay of sexual activities? Knowing we cannot be wed in the church if we say yes, though we didn’t do the real act. Answer: First, there is no…
Read MoreHow long do I try to make my marriage work?
Question: Hello, My husband and I have been separated off and on for over a year and a half now. We were still sexually involved, although he has been involved with other women during this time until I contracted a sexually transmitted disease from him. Each attempt to reconcile our marriage has been unsuccessful due…
Read MoreMy husband has stopped having sex or being affectionate with me. What do I do?
Question: Good evening. My husband and I are in the Lord’s church but are suffering and I just don’t know what to do. He has a very strong addiction to his electronics, his cell phone, Xbox, and iPad. He spends all day every day on them for years now watching every sport known to man…
Read MoreIs having kids marriage?
Question: Hello, Well, I have a question that really bothers my spirit. I am currently attending church weekly and am really trying to devote my life to Him. I am in a dilemma. Before I fully gave my life to God, I was with a woman whom I kind of loved but not all the…
Read MoreI just learned my wife had a sexual encounter before we met
Question: My wife of over forty years just told me when she was 16 years old and her boyfriend was 18 years old, they fooled around. He played with her until climax, and she also played with him but not to climax. They never had intercourse. Just before breaking up, they were at her parents’…
Read MoreBefore becoming a Christian, I committed fornication many times. My preacher says I need to wait before getting married. Isn’t it better to marry now?
Question: Greetings in the name of Jesus Christ. I write this e-mail with great shame over myself. I committed fornication with a girl who was not my girlfriend and got her pregnant. The girl whom I got pregnant knew that I already had a girlfriend whom I was planning to marry and had already paid…
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