Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
What should a woman do who suspects her husband’s prior divorce was not for scriptural reasons like he originally claimed?
Question: I have a very dear friend of mine who is afraid she may be in an unscriptural marriage. We are both members of the Lord’s Church so we both understand what this means. She divorced her first husband due to adultery and remarried her current husband, who is a Christian also, a couple of…
Read MoreI found out the man I’m dating is living with his ex-wife. Should I wait until he moves out before marrying him?
Question: Hi, This man approached me, I had never seen him before and he worked next to the building I worked at. Well, one day, he stopped me and asked me out. I went and we started dating. He told me he was divorced and lived alone. Well, I believed him. Later on in this…
Read MoreIf a person is divorced because of adultery, can he remarry his ex-spouse?
Question: Can a spouse who has been put away for the cause of adultery, be reconciled to the innocent party if the innocent party so desires according to I Corinthians 7:11? Answer: Of course. Jesus’ statement in Matthew 19:9 is an allowance, not a requirement. A person dealing with a spouse who is committing adultery…
Read MoreCan I divorce my husband of 30 years for his fornications that took place before our marriage?
Question: Can I divorce my spouse because of his fornication with other women before our marriage? I was not guilty of the same. It bothers me after all these years and I find it hard to forgive. He says it was not a sin against me, but I feel the pain. And even though we…
Read MoreIs it appropriate for someone who doesn’t have the right to remarry to be dating?
Question: I have a family member who is a Christian and has been unscripturally divorced for a long time. Recently she has been seeing someone who is also supposed to be a Christian and is unscripturally divorced. She claims they are just friends but has referred to their relationship as dating. You and I know…
Read MoreI committed adultery to force my husband to admit to his adultery and then I left him. Would God forgive me of my sin and restore my marriage?
Question: Hello, I am writing to you because it’s been now several years that I sought God in regards to the restoration of my marriage. It’s really difficult to keep believing God wants the marriage restored, and in these “deserts” I feel that there’s still one missing part in my understanding of God’s Word that…
Read MoreIf I divorce my husband, can I marry my lover?
Question: Hi, I’m a Christian and I’m married, but my husband doesn’t love me. He ignores me, he verbally abuses me and does not like to make love before sex, so I’m always bruised and in pain afterward. He says if he shows me love he will have to show love outside too. My guess…
Read MoreShould I divorce my husband for exposing himself?
Question: A neighbor recently approached me and said my husband has been exposing himself to her lately. She brought up three instances; however, I could almost understand how each happened. For example, he would be changing into a bathing suit and not shut the door all the way. Anyway, when I was crying on my…
Read MoreIf there is a question of who committed adultery first, can either get remarried?
Question: I have a friend who married a man whose wife committed adultery as did he. There is a question of who committed adultery first. I told her I do not think it matters who committed adultery first and that her marriage may not be valid because of the adultery in the past marriage. Answer:…
Read MoreI divorced my husband because the preacher said I shouldn’t be married to a non-Christian. What should I do now?
Question: Hello, I have read some of the things you have on here and I love the way you respond and answer people. I have been a member of the church of Christ since I was young — or should I say I was baptized when I was young? I was in and out of…
Read MoreCan I remarry after being divorced by my wife because of my infidelities?
Question: I was married to my wife for over ten years before I finally confessed my affairs. She was devastated and divorced me. We have children whom we share equal custody of. After being divorced for a number of years, she remarried. I am happy that God blessed her with someone who wouldn’t do to…
Read MoreHow can I get my mother to turn away from her sin?
Question: Hello, Your knowledge and answers to my questions have helped me so much. I can’t thank you enough, but I have another one to ask. My mother has been married and divorced five times, and I know most of them are not because of adultery. She is currently with a man who is still…
Read MoreWe have a man who is on his third wife attending services. What do we do?
Question: Hello, I have a question regarding a member of our congregation and what to do. We currently are without elders and as the men of the congregation we have to jointly make decisions. The problem at hand is we have a man who has been coming and going for many years. The reason he…
Read MoreMy wife continued to see another man while we were supposedly working on rebuilding our marriage. What do I do?
Question: I wish I had better news for you. After nearly a year of counseling, talking, and working on our marriage (so I thought), I have discovered that my wife never really gave up the other man. They began communicating only two months after the last attempt at reconciliation. Just as last time, she is…
Read MoreShould I divorce my husband who goes off to live with other women?
Question: Hello, I am a member of the church of Christ. I had, before getting married, struggled with understanding the gospel, the church and mainly just had sin blocking my way for a long time. I began dating early and at 15 became promiscuous. Shortly after flunking out of college, I started dating a guy…
Read MoreWhy do you have a double standard in regards to divorce and remarriage?
Question: I notice that members of the churches of Christ, who have been divorced and remarried, say they have a biblical divorce caused by fornication, no questions asked, but you all judge others in different churches as having an unbiblical divorce and marriage. Why the double standard? Please don’t insult me by saying you don’t…
Read MoreWhy is it so confusing to know whether I should return to my first or second husband?
Question: Hello, I am in my thirties and a mother with children. I am in my second marriage for several years. Long story short, the father of my kids and I met when I was a teenager. We started dating and I several children by the time I was in my twenties. When I was…
Read MoreAm I forgiven after being divorced for adultery?
Question: I always thought my husband had cheated on me while we were married but could not prove it. We didn’t have a great marriage. He always treated me like he was ashamed of me. He had a good job and made comments all the time about my lack of intelligence and not being well…
Read MoreWhy would God want me to live with a man who cheats, is irresponsible, and uses weed?
Question: My husband cheats, doesn’t pay the bills, brings women into my kids and my home that I pay for, and takes the money I have left after bills for weed. If God loves me, why would He want me to live like this? I can’t even drive myself in my car to work. A…
Read MoreAm I an adulteress because I married a man who had committed adultery in his past?
Question: I recently found your site and was very confused about the topic of adultery when it applied to my current situation. I hadn’t thought that adultery would apply to me as I have never had an affair within my marriage or even had relations with anyone else besides my husband. However, an article on…
Read MoreWhy does Matthew mention the exception to divorce but Mark and Luke don’t?
Question: Why is the exception clause “except it be for fornication” in Matthew 19:8 regarding the teaching of Jesus on divorce and remarriage not included in Mark’s account of this teaching (Mark 10:2-10) or in Luke’s account (Luke 16:18)? Answer: Each gospel account was written to different audiences with different purposes. None give a complete…
Read MoreWhat do you advise concerning a woman who left her husband because of his adultery, but did not divorce him, and later lived in adultery herself?
Question: Question: I have a bizarre situation. I met a woman, not a member of the church of Christ, who married an atheist when she was young at the urging of her grandmother to avoid fornication. However, she was not tutored properly about Christ’s teachings on marriage. Some years down the line she became privy…
Read MoreMy husband blames me for his adulteries and our divorce. How do I move past this?
Question: I’m really torn about my divorce. My husband left me for another woman, divorced me, and married her. I’m still crushed after several years. Our marriage started out poorly. We had pre-marital sex and I even had an abortion. A few months before we got married, I had sex with another man. He found…
Read MoreCan a woman remarry if she divorced her husband because of his adultery, but didn’t move out immediately?
Question: I know a young woman who was repeatedly cheated on by her spouse. Yet, she forgave him after the first couple of times for the sake of the family. Later in the marriage, she suspected he was still cheating on her and had sex with a young woman with who he said he never…
Read MoreDoes this mean I must end my marriage?
Question: I have a multitude of questions that seem to be troubling me: I have been married to my wife for many years now and we have a child. She was previously married and divorced but not for any adulterous or fornication reasons. It was due to drug addiction on behalf of the former husband. …
Read MoreI married a friend as a whim, being young and foolish. That marriage ended. Do I have the right to remarry?
Question: Years ago I married a friend of mine without much reason — just being foolish and young; and not really understanding the truth, the importance, and the value of marriage. I wasn’t a Christian at the time and had no knowledge or understanding of what the word of God said about marriage. If I…
Read MoreCan a wife be divorced for fornication if she gave her husband an STD?
Question: If a husband suspects his wife of cheating but never caught her, nor did she ever admit to it even after giving her husband an STD. Can the husband divorce his wife and remarry? Answer: Generally getting a sexually transmitted disease from your spouse would be evidence that the spouse had been having sex…
Read MoreMy ex-mother-in-law made my husband divorce me
Question: Hello, I’m a minister of the gospel as well as my “ex-husband.” He and his mother — yes, his mother — divorced me about several years ago. He and his parents lived together before we were married, and we never had to an opportunity to live with each other. His father died last year…
Read MoreShould I date a woman who divorced her husband because of his infidelity?
Question: There is a young woman who I’m interested in. Last year she divorced her husband because she found out through the woman he slept with and her friends that her husband was cheating on her. She said he also later confessed to her about sleeping around and that’s when she decided to file for…
Read MoreIs sex sinful when you are separated?
Question: I’ve looked over all the answers in the divorce section and haven’t been able to find an answer to my question. My husband and I are currently separated because he is going through a midlife crisis of sorts. He is unhappy and unfulfilled and is searching for something to fill his void. I believe…
Read MoreI became a Christian just before the divorce was final. Do I need to go back to my ex-husband?
Question: My husband cheated on me and I forgave him. I wanted to make our marriage work, but after I forgave him, he continued to sleep around with the same woman. Once I found out from this woman and my close friends, I decided enough was enough. I filed for divorce. About a month before…
Read MoreCan a husband divorce his wife ten years after forgiving her of an affair?
Question: I want to help my sister in Christ. Situation: A woman cheats on her husband. Husband says he forgives her and stays with her for 10 years after the adultery. Over the 10 years, the husband never really gets over the infidelity. He eventually files for divorce and divorces his wife of almost 20…
Read MoreI committed adultery, divorced my husband, and married my lover. Am I still in adultery?
Question: My first husband committed adultery in our relationship through pornography. I also committed adultery against him, divorced him, and married the man I committed adultery with. The man I committed adultery with left his spouse to marry me also. My first husband died a few years ago, which I think has left me no…
Read MoreIf I left my wife because she had an affair years ago, does that allow for remarriage?
Question: Hi, I’m glad I found this site. I am hoping I can get some unbiased answers to some questions I have concerning situations in my life and the church. I did not attend church growing up. After college, I met a member of the church of Christ. I dated her and eventually married her.…
Read MoreAs I grow in the Lord, I find I am struggling with my past and current sins
Question: Hello, my brother in Christ, I have been a member of the church for a number of years. I have been a faithful brother since that time and have grown tremendously over the years. As I continue to grow in the Lord, I am struggling with some things of the past, my current state,…
Read MoreHow can it be wrong for a divorced couple to have sex since God doesn’t recognize their divorce?
Question: Hello please enlighten me further: God does not recognize divorce, only our court systems. God sees it still as one flesh under the arranged covenant. But I am confused. What’s the consequence of sexual activity between the husband and wife under God’s arrangement? Surely this is not deemed fornication, having sex before marriage, since…
Read MoreWhile waiting for my divorce to be final, I made out with a woman. Do I have a right to remarry?
Question: My wife cheated on me last year and I gave her the opportunity to return to me and keep our family together, but she did not want this. She is still seeing the other man. I filed for divorce roughly nine months ago, but the divorce is not final yet. Recently, I went on…
Read MoreMy husband admitted to being a homosexual. I didn’t divorce him because of the expense. Now I’m with another man. Does that mean we cannot have sex?
Question: After nearly twenty years of marriage, my husband told me he was gay, has always been gay, and had been participating in homosexual acts. Our marriage had been a troubling one from the beginning. We were young, not well prepared for our first child. There was mental abuse and physical abuse. I strayed outside…
Read MoreIs it wrong to date a man, even though I can’t remarry?
Question: I left my husband in a situation where “the grass looked greener on the other side” situation. My husband was not a Christian. The man I’m now with is a Christian and treats me much better than my husband did. This being said, is it still wrong to even date this new man? Even…
Read MoreShould I divorce my husband?
Question: I am married with two children and one on the way. I recently discovered that my husband was having an affair with another woman. I am questioning if divorce is the right decision. My husband flirts with females online and I have found inappropriate pictures of various females in his phone as well as…
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