Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
Am I still in adultery?
Question: I need some advice about my situation. There is a lot that has happened, but I’m going to try to summarize to keep it short. Several years ago I had sex with a girl who was barely married a few months before to a guy (I’ll call him “J”). We kept on in it,…
Read MoreHow can looking at pornography be adultery, especially since I’m not married?
Question: I have looked up some information on your site and found some to be helpful, but I can’t help but wonder still. It is said that looking at porn is a sin and it says that anyone who looks upon someone with lust commits adultery. But isn’t that term only for married people? I’ll…
Read MoreCan two non-Christians, involved in adultery, be baptized?
Question: I want to hear about your views on this particular topic. There’s this man who is married with kids. He had some problems with his wife — she being aggressive and abusive. He met another woman while he was still married to his wife and had sexual relations with her. He eventually divorced his…
Read MoreCan we make things right after our adultery?
Question: Hello, I would like your advice on a matter that concerns me. I’m a young single woman who fell in love with a guy who was married. I’m not a Christian, but he is. He has children as well. When we first met he was married at the time, but his wife was abusive,…
Read MoreHow do I handle what is quickly becoming an adulterous office affair?
Question: Hi, I have a major problem which can turn out to be a potential extramarital affair I know is wrong, but I have nobody to turn to and I don’t know what to do. I am not sure if this is the right website for this. My apologies in advance if my content may…
Read MoreCan the adulterer marry again and that marriage be acceptable to God?
Question: Hello and God bless, I have some questions that I hope you can address. I am a born-again Christian who has suffered through a divorce. This divorce was not my desire, as I absolutely believe in marriage vows and the concept “until death do us part.” I want always to make the right choices,…
Read MoreWhy can’t my sister get baptized?
Question: In a second marriage where a non-Christian is wanting to become a Christian but was divorced for reasons other than adultery, is the sin the adultery or the remarriage? I am asking this in the context of repenting. Do you repent of the adultery in this second marriage or repent of the divorce and remarriage and…
Read MoreI have committed so many sexual sins, especially lust. How do I get forgiveness?
Question: Hello, I am a Christian by birth. I believe in Jesus and God; however, my faith is questionable at times, especially when things go wrong or when there is a delay in getting answers, etc. I fear God, but the irony is that I have committed adultery and I have also aborted a child…
Read MoreWhy don’t I feel forgiven?
Question: I accepted Christ when I was in my twenties. Like most, I have had times when I was close to God, and times when I was not. I have struggled with a sex and porn addiction since I was a teenager. I am doing well with it for the last few months and have…
Read MoreShould I divorce? Can I remarry?
Question: I am in need of your assistance, please. Your insight and views would be most appreciated with regards to my current situation. I will try and keep things as brief as possible yet provide you with as much detail as I possibly can, too. When I met my husband, he was separated from his…
Read MoreWhat is included in porneia?
Question: Hi! I have been studying sex and the Bible. What I am really confused about is that the Bible does not mention oral sex or mutual masturbation. It only mentions anal sex and vaginal sex. Thus, how are oral sex and mutual masturbation a sin? How is it sexual intercourse? In Greek, porneia means…
Read MoreCounterfeit Sexuality: Sexuality as Reduced to Animal Impulse
by Ethan R. Longhenry Few topics prove as sensitive and yet as controversial as sexuality. The topic generates a lot of interest; sadly, few conversations regarding sexuality prove very profitable. Most people understand their sexuality according to the terms of their culture and the world; few challenge the perspective and the narrative they are told regarding…
Read MoreMy husband knows I cheated, but should I tell him the details?
Question: Several years ago, I cheated on my husband with a couple of different men. Intercourse did not occur with any of them, but other things did. A year ago, I told my husband that I had cheated back then, and whom I had cheated with. My confession was based on my own prompting, lead…
Read MoreMy wife divorced me. Did I cause her to commit adultery because I allowed the divorce to happen?
Question: My wife announced to me two years ago that she was done with our marriage and that she intended to file for divorce. To my knowledge, no adultery had been committed by either party at that time (certainly not by me). I initially fought to save our marriage. I suggested counseling and other solutions…
Read MoreShould I stay intimate with my separated husband now that he has a new girlfriend?
Question: My unbelieving husband and I have been separated for the last two years, but we have remained intimate throughout this time. However, I am now certain he has a girlfriend and continues to want to be intimate with me. Should I stop sleeping with him, or am I required to continue on because we are still…
Read MoreMy husband and I lived a very sinful life, but now we want to change. Is our marriage still valid? Will God forgive us?
Question: I need your advice, please? My husband and I recently started reading the Bible. We were both members of our families’ churches, growing up, and had a Christian wedding. We seemed to have stopped praying along the way and stop going to church ended up with the wrong group of friends, drinking, and doing…
Read MoreCan the adulterer remarry after his original spouse dies?
Question: If a person, scripturally married, commits adultery and ends up divorced, can the one who committed the adultery remarry if the one who was innocent dies? Answer: “For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is…
Read MoreMy husband repented of his adultery, but he still works with the woman. What do I do?
Question: My husband committed adultery. He tried so hard to hide it and, honestly, if God didn’t declare that it was time for him to be exposed, it would still be going on right now. I do believe him when he says he’s repented, and he’s truly sorry. I have forgiven him with all my…
Read MoreDo I have to divorce my husband in order to be baptized?
Question: I was married to a man who would not make love, have sex, or be intimate with me. He said he preferred to masturbate and fantasize about my sister, neighbors, and the neighbor’s mother. This greatly distressed me. He was also abusive, holding a gun up to my head threatening to kill me. He was…
Read MoreCan a person who married a person who had no right to marry, divorce, and marry someone else?
Question: If a man marries a woman who was not supposed to remarry because she and her husband had committed adultery, can the man in the second marriage divorce her because of her continued adulteries during the second marriage and be able to marry again? Answer: When a person marries someone who has no right…
Read MoreDoes Matthew 5:28 only apply to lusting after a married woman?
Question: I am a Christian and worship in a congregation of the Church of Christ. I would like to ask you something, that has been vexing me for some time, and I know the general and most common answers but I would truly applicate your reply. We as a rule tend to take the most…
Read MoreBecause of my husband’s adultery, I committed adultery and then divorced him. Is my second marriage legitimate?
Question: I am desperate for your help. I am struggling in marriage. I am a Christian and my husband is not, but first, let me give you background information. I lost my virginity when I was 17 after I became engaged to my future husband. We were married for almost a decade. He cheated on…
Read MoreHow do we get our marriage back to the way it used to be before my wife’s affair?
Question: I hope you have some insight. Since her affair, my wife and I have been both very committed to making our marriage what it should be. We have been reading the Bible, meeting with counselors, meeting with our pastor, etc. I am very confident in her commitment and mine. I have been focusing on my…
Read MoreShould I take back my adulterous wife?
Question: I recently discovered my wife of nearly ten years has been involved in an extra-marital affair for about a year. It came as a complete shock to me because of my complete faith in our commitment to each other. I was terribly mistaken in my trust. We have been seeing a counselor and many…
Read MoreI committed adultery, divorced my husband, and married another man. What should I do?
Question: I married in my twenties. We remained married for almost twenty years. I was the one who committed adultery and decided to leave my husband and pursue a life alone. However, I met a man, fell in love, and I divorced my husband and remarried. I am a born again Christian and knew I…
Read MoreCan I remarry if I have committed adultery with my first husband?
Question: Can I remarry if I have committed adultery with my first husband, and if not, what should I do to get it right with God? Answer: You are asking the wrong question. “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her…
Read MoreHow can adultery be an ongoing sin?
Question: I’ve read a lot of information on marriage and remarriage. I see the stand is being taken that God does not honor divorce; hence, will not honor a second marriage unless for the woman it was because of adultery. I would like to know your thoughts on the story of King David and his…
Read MoreI committed adultery before the divorce was final. Do I still have a right to remarry?
Question: Your web site is teaching me so much. The Word is so powerful. I am really trying to get a good understanding of where I need to be. My husband committed adultery and I filed for divorce and ultimately divorced him. However, my divorce was not final before I got into another sexual relationship…
Read MoreCan I marry again after divorcing my husband for adultery, even though I once committed adultery years ago?
Question: My husband was grossly involved with and even addicted to pornography. His obsession with porn went beyond the normal curiosity that people have with it. We separated for a year. I had an affair out of foolishness and retaliation because he refused to put away the pornography. I repented and never had another affair.…
Read MoreWhat is the difference between fornication and adultery?
Question: Please enlighten me as to what the difference is between fornication and adultery. A few of us had quite a discussion about it after our midweek services this evening. Answer: The Greek word translated as fornication, or sexual immorality, is porneia. The Greek word translated as adultery is moicheia. In classical Greek, porneia was used to refer to…
Read MoreI know my wife committed adultery after she filed for divorce. Do I have the right to remarry?
Question: I am a member of the church and have been for many years, (although my faith has been weak for the past few years, I have now come back to the Lord. Here is my situation and question: I have struggled with pornography for many years while married. My wife finally divorced me and…
Read MoreI’ve messed up my relationships. What do I do?
Question: I have lost confidence in myself. I thought because I re-gave my life to Christ that I would not fall the next day. But I did a few weeks after trying to give my ex a second chance. I cheated. Before I met my ex I was pretty clear with males and not interested…
Read MoreI asked God if I should leave my marriage. Why doesn’t God answer?
Question: Please help me: I have been looking for help on the Internet. I read the answer you gave to a woman who has a lover and wants to leave her husband. You give her a five-step path to follow. I find myself in the same situation, but I want to add to her question…
Read MoreMy husband and I are fighting and close to divorce. What should we do?
Question: Hello. I have currently been married for not quite a year and I need some advice. My husband and I met when we were in our late teens; as you can see, we were fairly young. After two months he left me to join the army. We were not yet married at this time.…
Read MoreYou didn’t tell the man in adultery how much God loves him
Question: Hello, I came across your letter from the man who was within a day of divorcing his wife when suddenly he got the idea to see what the Bible had to say about his choices. I was bothered by what you left out of your letter, if in fact what I read was all that was…
Read MoreCan I divorce my husband who has been having children with other women?
Question: I have suffered for 35 years as a submissive wife because I fear the Lord. My husband has left the running of the family to me. Food, education, clothing, homemaking, sickness, etc. He gives me no money but expects to be given money. He has many women in his life including minors. He is…
Read MoreIf I don’t tell my wife I sinned, isn’t that lying?
Question: Hello. I’ve been reading through many of the posts on your site regarding adultery and lying. I have found much of it to be very helpful, but I am struggling with some of what you advise. In several of the posts on adultery, you advise the person who committed adultery that it would be best to…
Read MoreWhy do people tolerate adultery in the name of “forgiveness?”
Question: I came upon your web site while trying to find answers regarding repentance for adultery, divorce, and the actions taken by so-called “Christians” thereafter. My husband left our nearly twenty-year marriage for another woman last year. We seemed to have a good marriage and he lied about any situations that caused suspicion during the…
Read MoreNow that my wife left me for another man, should I give up living for God?
Question: I’ve been divorced over a year and a half. My then-wife started an affair with another man. We were married for almost a decade and been together years longer than that. I discovered the affair, by accident, seven months after the fact via emails and Facebook. How ironic, as these are social web sites…
Read MoreI committed adultery and had a child. How do I hold on to my marriage and be responsible for the child I brought into this world?
Question: I have been reading some of the articles on your site and I couldn’t wait to post my question to you too. I am married with one child, the first and second years of our marriage life was so good. I love my wife very much. Things began to change after two years of…
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