Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
My mother told me my father has been having affairs for a long time. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I would firstly like to thank you for answering so many questions as your website has indeed helped me in many of my battles with my walk with Christ. Just a little background: I am a 20-year-old Christian who happened to stumble onto your website several years ago. It’s amazing how God could…
Read MoreI committed adultery to force my husband to admit to his adultery and then I left him. Would God forgive me of my sin and restore my marriage?
Question: Hello, I am writing to you because it’s been now several years that I sought God in regards to the restoration of my marriage. It’s really difficult to keep believing God wants the marriage restored, and in these “deserts” I feel that there’s still one missing part in my understanding of God’s Word that…
Read MoreWhy was David condemned for having sex with Bathsheba when he already had multiple women?
Question: Hello, This is a question that came to mind in response to a post about King David. King David had the daughter of Saul and also the widow of the rich man as his wives. My question is why was he only condemned for adultery after he had sex with Bathsheba? He had already…
Read MoreIf a man looks admiringly at a woman without thoughts of sex, is that adultery?
Question: If, for example, I’m married and look at a woman, married or not admire her clothes or the way she looks after herself and not thinking of taking her to bed or doing anything to her is that committing adultery? Answer: “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for…
Read MoreAffair-Proofing Your Marriage
by Mark Broyles via Biblical Insights, Vol. 7, No. 1, January 2007 The prevalence of infidelity in marriage is staggering. If it was only a problem in the lives of those apart from God it would still be discouraging, but the truth is that the amount of marriages among our brethren that have been rocked by…
Read MoreIf I divorce my husband, can I marry my lover?
Question: Hi, I’m a Christian and I’m married, but my husband doesn’t love me. He ignores me, he verbally abuses me and does not like to make love before sex, so I’m always bruised and in pain afterward. He says if he shows me love he will have to show love outside too. My guess…
Read MoreDo I need to tell my husband all the details about my past affair?
Question: I been married for about twenty years. Several years ago I had an affair with a man that went on for a few years. I gave myself to this man: mind, soul, and body. My husband found out, but I lied about the sex. He is asking me again. Should I tell him I…
Read MoreHow can I know that my husband has repented of his adulteries?
Question: Hello, I have been married for over ten years, and I just discovered last month that my husband has been visiting prostitutes and massage parlors the whole time. The news was quite devastating because I never saw it coming. I saw him as a totally different man and not able to carry out adultery…
Read MoreCan I remarry after being divorced by my wife because of my infidelities?
Question: I was married to my wife for over ten years before I finally confessed my affairs. She was devastated and divorced me. We have children whom we share equal custody of. After being divorced for a number of years, she remarried. I am happy that God blessed her with someone who wouldn’t do to…
Read MoreHow can I save my marriage?
Question: I have been with my husband for several years and we have children together. Throughout our whole relationship, it has been nothing but an extremely rocky road. I recently found an old friend and was talking to him on the phone through text messages and also on the phone. I told my husband that…
Read MoreHow can I get my mother to turn away from her sin?
Question: Hello, Your knowledge and answers to my questions have helped me so much. I can’t thank you enough, but I have another one to ask. My mother has been married and divorced five times, and I know most of them are not because of adultery. She is currently with a man who is still…
Read MoreWe have a man who is on his third wife attending services. What do we do?
Question: Hello, I have a question regarding a member of our congregation and what to do. We currently are without elders and as the men of the congregation we have to jointly make decisions. The problem at hand is we have a man who has been coming and going for many years. The reason he…
Read MoreMy wife continued to see another man while we were supposedly working on rebuilding our marriage. What do I do?
Question: I wish I had better news for you. After nearly a year of counseling, talking, and working on our marriage (so I thought), I have discovered that my wife never really gave up the other man. They began communicating only two months after the last attempt at reconciliation. Just as last time, she is…
Read MoreShould I let my mom and her boyfriend stay at my house while they are visiting?
Question: Hello, My mom and her boyfriend are coming to see me for a few days for the first time, and, although my mom says she believes, prays every night for forgiveness, and goes to church she will not take what I say seriously about she is living in sin by sleeping and living with…
Read MoreI’m committing adultery, but we are in love. I know it is wrong, but what do I do?
Question: I need your help urgently, please! I am a Christian in faith and believe and accepted the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. I’m not actively serving God although I do pray from time to time and ask His forgiveness. My problem is this: I am dating a Muslim woman in secret. She is…
Read MoreAm I forgiven after being divorced for adultery?
Question: I always thought my husband had cheated on me while we were married but could not prove it. We didn’t have a great marriage. He always treated me like he was ashamed of me. He had a good job and made comments all the time about my lack of intelligence and not being well…
Read MoreWhy would God want me to live with a man who cheats, is irresponsible, and uses weed?
Question: My husband cheats, doesn’t pay the bills, brings women into my kids and my home that I pay for, and takes the money I have left after bills for weed. If God loves me, why would He want me to live like this? I can’t even drive myself in my car to work. A…
Read MoreAm I an adulteress because I married a man who had committed adultery in his past?
Question: I recently found your site and was very confused about the topic of adultery when it applied to my current situation. I hadn’t thought that adultery would apply to me as I have never had an affair within my marriage or even had relations with anyone else besides my husband. However, an article on…
Read MoreMy husband was deported and I’ve been committing adultery with another man. What do I do?
Question: I was born in a Christian household. I am ashamed of my sin for that very same reason. My mother had me with a man I don’t even know. I found this out when I was 20 years old. I always believed the man that raised me was my biological father. My life was…
Read MoreWhat does it mean that a man is reduced to a piece of bread?
Question: In Proverbs 6:26, what does reducing a man to a piece of bread mean? Does this mean the appearance of a relationship, friendship, and love is so shallow that the reality is the man is viewed as nothing more than an object by which to make money? All thoughts of the man as a…
Read MoreWhat are all the types of sexual sins?
Question: What are all the types of sexual sins? Answer: “Truly, this only I have found: That God made man upright, But they have sought out many schemes” (Ecclesiastes 7:29). One of the problems with coming up with lists of possible sins is that men are too inventive in coming up with new ways to…
Read MoreWhat do you advise concerning a woman who left her husband because of his adultery, but did not divorce him, and later lived in adultery herself?
Question: Question: I have a bizarre situation. I met a woman, not a member of the church of Christ, who married an atheist when she was young at the urging of her grandmother to avoid fornication. However, she was not tutored properly about Christ’s teachings on marriage. Some years down the line she became privy…
Read MoreWill God bless our attempts to restore our marriage?
Question: I thank God for directing me to your website. I have been married for nearly a decade and have had two failed pregnancies. During the marriage, my husband started using crack, had huge gambling debts, and, I believe, fornication and spending time out of the family home. I stayed with my husband because I…
Read MoreMy husband blames me for his adulteries and our divorce. How do I move past this?
Question: I’m really torn about my divorce. My husband left me for another woman, divorced me, and married her. I’m still crushed after several years. Our marriage started out poorly. We had pre-marital sex and I even had an abortion. A few months before we got married, I had sex with another man. He found…
Read MoreCan a woman remarry if she divorced her husband because of his adultery, but didn’t move out immediately?
Question: I know a young woman who was repeatedly cheated on by her spouse. Yet, she forgave him after the first couple of times for the sake of the family. Later in the marriage, she suspected he was still cheating on her and had sex with a young woman with who he said he never…
Read MoreI was baptized while my boyfriend and I were separated. I have since moved back in with him, but I’m told this is wrong. What do I do?
Question: Hello, I am a member of the church of Christ. I was baptized while I was pregnant with my child. At the time my boyfriend and I were separated. But as time went on, I moved back in, against the advice of a fellow member. Although I knew it was not what the Bible…
Read MoreI had several affairs, but now my husband is suggesting that we have a threesome. How should I handle this?
Question: I have been married to my husband for about ten years. Over the last year or so I lost my way in life and in our marriage. I had multiple affairs, and my husband found out about one of them. Over the course of a few months, I lied to him and tried to…
Read MoreCan a wife be divorced for fornication if she gave her husband an STD?
Question: If a husband suspects his wife of cheating but never caught her, nor did she ever admit to it even after giving her husband an STD. Can the husband divorce his wife and remarry? Answer: Generally getting a sexually transmitted disease from your spouse would be evidence that the spouse had been having sex…
Read MoreI am so miserable. I need help
Question: Hi, I can’t find an answer, and I need guidance, I can’t find my path I feel like I am walking in the same place don’t go forward. A little background: My mom and dad divorced when I was an older child. My dad drank heavily and abused my mom mentally and verbally. He…
Read MoreIt’s all my fault, but I can’t stop seeing my old boyfriend
Question: Hi, I am a Christian in a church in my country where my mother was pastor. I feel all frustrated, and I know I am the sole cause. I’ve been dating a guy for the past two years. We were supposed to get married but unfortunately, things didn’t work out properly because of family…
Read MoreDo I need to confess my adultery to my wife?
Question: I was looking for an answer to my question, and I ran across your church’s web site. I am a troubled person. I need wisdom, and I find it difficult to find direction. I know I am to search Scripture, but honestly, I believe I’m still in the place where I can only be fed…
Read MoreI committed adultery, divorced my husband, and married my lover. Am I still in adultery?
Question: My first husband committed adultery in our relationship through pornography. I also committed adultery against him, divorced him, and married the man I committed adultery with. The man I committed adultery with left his spouse to marry me also. My first husband died a few years ago, which I think has left me no…
Read MoreMy husband left me for another woman. Do I have to forgive him?
Question: My husband left me for another woman. After returning back from an overseas assignment, we got into an argument which left me hospitalized. We are both saved Christians (he was saved in our marriage). Even though he says that he didn’t leave his kids but the marriage and me. He filed for divorce and…
Read MoreAs I grow in the Lord, I find I am struggling with my past and current sins
Question: Hello, my brother in Christ, I have been a member of the church for a number of years. I have been a faithful brother since that time and have grown tremendously over the years. As I continue to grow in the Lord, I am struggling with some things of the past, my current state,…
Read MoreIf a brother had an affair for five years and says he repented, should he be used in service to God?
Question: A brother had a five-year affair. His wife didn’t know about the affair. He says he has repented. Can he work in the worship service and be one of the spiritual leaders? What does he need to do? Answer: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins…
Read MoreAm I considered an adulteress because I left my husband for another man?
Question: I married when I was still a teenager. During the first few months, things started changing. He is in the military and deployed. I convinced him beforehand that maybe we should have a one night stand with other people since he kept turning me down but then watched porn. While he was gone I…
Read MoreWhile waiting for my divorce to be final, I made out with a woman. Do I have a right to remarry?
Question: My wife cheated on me last year and I gave her the opportunity to return to me and keep our family together, but she did not want this. She is still seeing the other man. I filed for divorce roughly nine months ago, but the divorce is not final yet. Recently, I went on…
Read MoreMy husband admitted to being a homosexual. I didn’t divorce him because of the expense. Now I’m with another man. Does that mean we cannot have sex?
Question: After nearly twenty years of marriage, my husband told me he was gay, has always been gay, and had been participating in homosexual acts. Our marriage had been a troubling one from the beginning. We were young, not well prepared for our first child. There was mental abuse and physical abuse. I strayed outside…
Read MoreIt is complex, but is my third marriage adulterous?
Question: I have a question for you. It involves a complex matter, but I trust your biblical response after having read your web page. I am married currently and was also married twice before this marriage. I have since repented and grieved over all of my wickedness when I saw biblically what I had been.…
Read MoreWhy did Jesus allow divorce when the Law had a death penalty for adultery?
Question: I’m trying to figure out how to reconcile a couple of Jesus’ statements in the Sermon on the Mount. First Jesus said, “Whoever then annuls one of the least of these commandments, and teaches others to do the same, shall be called least in the kingdom of heaven; but whoever keeps and teaches them,…
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