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Do I let my son and his live-in girlfriend come for Thanksgiving?
Question: My son is in his late twenties, a college graduate, and in the military. He is very responsible and has had a Christian upbringing. He has just returned from deployment, and his wife has left him. He is now “serious” about someone else and living with her. Now says that he believes this is all…
Read MoreI don’t think I had that great of a need for baptism when I was 13. Should I get baptized again?
Question: Is it a biblical fact that those in the Bible recorded as being baptized are all in the context of being fully matured adults? If yes, is there any significance to this in regards to baptism? I was baptized at the early age of 13. I understood why, so thus I believe all was…
Read MoreWhy do you feel the need to say that other religions are wrong?
Question: Hi, I’m just wondering why do you feel the need to tell everyone else that their religions are wrong? How are you so sure yours is right? You don’t have any more proof then other religions do. I just think it’s ridiculous that you and other people feel it’s up to them to change…
Read MoreI don’t think I’ve said “thank you” enough
Question: I just wanted to drop a note about how much I appreciate the work you’ve done on the La Vista web site. I’ve taken advantage of it many times, but I don’t think I’ve often enough said, “thank you.” I don’t feel like I’ve ever had a moment wasted when I come here for…
Read MoreWho are the daughters of Jerusalem?
Question: Who are the daughters of Jerusalem? Answer: The phrase “daughters of Jerusalem” was first used in the Song of Solomon. These are the ladies of the court, the wives of Solomon’s political marriages, potential brides for future arrangements, as well as the wives of Solomon’s noblemen who attended him at court. Being leading ladies,…
Read MoreAre temporary meetings, such as at a remote military base, really a church?
Question: I have a question about a certain type of assembly that I am not sure is scriptural. During the invitation at the church building tonight, the speaker used Matthew 18:15-20 to distinguish between individual, group, and church. I agreed with the points he made. After the lesson, there was some lively discussion between the…
Read MoreI don’t think a preacher caught in adultery should continue without some disciplinary action
Question: I have been reading your many posts on marriage and relationships. I am somewhat confused in regards to your reply to “If a minister has committed adultery, should he step down even though he has repented of his sin.” It seems that you say that the preacher can continue in his ministerial service without…
Read MoreIf a minister has committed adultery, should he step down even though he has repented of his sin?
Question: What should happen to a minister who has committed adultery for almost a decade with a woman of another congregation who has made their relationship known to the leadership and other members? Hence, the minister has confessed before the congregation that he has sinned and that he repented of his sins and that his…
Read MoreWhy were the laws regarding food changed?
Question: I’m not sure why Jesus changed the law about what is OK to eat. Why did he allow us to eat pork? Answer: To understand why the law changed, you first need to understand why those laws were there in the first place. I would like you to read an article that I wrote…
Read MoreHow do I turn myself around?
Question: I am a 30-year-old single man. I lost my virginity about the age of 15, but the girl couldn’t stay with me as she was a foreigner and had to return home. Having sex with women became a priority in life for me, but I have been single for most of my life and…
Read MoreIt isn’t Christian-like to publish negative things about the Coptic church
Question: A question on the Coptic church has your response being negative of the Coptic church and using Bible verses in the wrong context. That is not Christian-like at all. That verse in Peter stating everyone is a priest was only for the twelve disciples as they were the first twelve priests. Answer: “But you are…
Read MoreHow do I deal with an arrogant leader?
Question: I have a “leader” in our church who always explains that he is not arrogant because he does not hold himself in a higher value than others; however, his actions say otherwise. He will take any chance he gets to show off his biblical knowledge, he will constantly tell people they are wrong, he…
Read MoreMy parents reject religion. How can I become a Christian?
Question: My family wants to stay away from religion, but I want to go toward it. I want to embrace God’s love. I would go to church, but I am too young to drive or walk there. I have asked my parents to go to church, but they said “no.” So I have been secretly…
Read MoreI enjoyed the songbook review, even though I didn’t agree with all of it
Question: Having just read your review of Jeffcoat’s new songbook, I just thought I would drop you a note to say that I thoroughly enjoyed the review. I didn’t agree with all your comments, but I enjoyed them. Answer: I’m glad you found it useful.
Read MoreHow can you forgive someone if you don’t trust them?
Question: I’m really having a hard time with Christianity right now. Things keep getting more confusing to me, which makes me want to give up. We were discussing forgiveness in class Sunday and scenarios we brought up stating how hard it would be to forgive someone and how the relationship may not be the same…
Read MoreDid I mess myself up with gay pornography?
Question: I’m a 27-year-old male. I never kissed or made out with a woman because: I’m scared of rejection, I went to a boys’ school, I went to varsity, until last year, that had mostly black people, and I’m only attracted to white women, I realized during puberty that I’m attracted to men also and…
Read MoreWhy do guys keep leaving me?
Question: If a person walks away from you, and you haven’t done anything wrong in the relationship, should you let them walk away? My reasoning behind this question is that the men I meet keeping walking away from me. This was before I was saved and it is still happening now after I was saved.…
Read MoreWhat is needed to use the material on your site?
Question: Hello. I am a preacher with a Christian Church. Some time ago, I had a professor from a Bible college point me to some articles on your web site. I have found several articles to be very helpful. I was writing to see what it would take to receive permission to print a couple…
Read MoreWhat is the difference between a preacher and a teacher?
Question: I’ve been wondering about this one for some time now, but still can’t quite figure it. For all the similarities that one can see between “preaching” and “teaching” (and besides things like audience involvement), what is the real difference between the two? Focus? Delivery? Approach? I’m always thankful to God for your help. Answer:…
Read MoreHow can I go back to being the happy-go-lucky person I used to be?
Question: I have gone from the a motivated, enthusiastic, happy go lucky person to a depressed, fearful wretch and cannot seem to recover. I know you will tell me to seek professional help, which I am. I see a doctor and am on medication. I search the Internet and read the Bible every day. What…
Read MoreHow do I know if God wants me to marry this girl or what career I should take?
Question: Hi, I have been reading the questions and answers on your web site since shortly after being baptized into the Church of Christ and really appreciate the insightful and godly answers you are able to give. I was just reading your answer to, “If a person doesn’t follow God’s specific will for his life,…
Read MoreWhat if your wife told you she was HIV positive after the marriage?
Question: A friend of mine and I discussed your book “Preparation for a Lifetime” and asked me this question: “If on the night after your wedding your wife tells you that she’s HIV positive, what would you do”? I was dumbfounded for some time but later gave my own opinion anyway. What is your own…
Read MoreI know God won’t forgive me
Question: You said to a person on your website: “But if you didn’t reject those thoughts, but instead focused on them and considered them, perhaps even wondering if you could get away with it, then you have stopped resisting Satan and giving in to sin. That is what lust is, wanting something really badly even…
Read MoreShould we give testimonies in church?
Question: What is meant by a testimony? I’ve seen so many sharing their testimonies in churches. Can we share the testimonies like that? One brother asked me to share my testimony in their church. What can I say? Answer: To give testimony really means to give evidence that something is true. In many denominations, giving…
Read MoreWhy do people ask questions about me when I visit a church?
Question: In “Should people be checked out before accepting them in a congregation?”, a person wrote about ‘checking out’ new people to the congregation before accepting them. While I understand the logic behind making sure they accept the true church and follow the Lord, I have experienced that type of probing and questioning that is…
Read MoreI don’t mind that you disagree with the Salvation Army, just don’t write about it
Question: I love the Lord with all my heart. In my life, I have been on an adventure with Jesus. I am not perfect (who is?), but I try every day to live a life as a servant of Jesus. I am really hurt that you would advise Christians not to give to the Salvation…
Read MoreWhy didn’t Jesus let the unclean spirits say who he was?
Question: There are some parts in the Bible, where it says “Jesus cast out demons, but did not let them talk, because they knew who He was.” Why would He do that? I mean, if people heard demons saying that Jesus is Lord, they’d believe, and it’d be good, wouldn’t it? Why He didn’t let…
Read MoreCan a woman only become spiritually mature in marriage?
Question: I have heard it expressed before by a past preacher in a church of Christ that he did not consider single women to be mature in Christ. The implication being that all women must marry if they are to obtain maturity spiritually. This perplexes me and I find myself coming back to his statement…
Read MoreAm I spoiling my youngest children?
Question: I am nearly sixty and a widower. My wife gave birth early to a set of twins, but she didn’t survive the delivery. I was left with children ranging from 10 years of age to sickly premeies. The twins survived and will be 13 soon. They are intelligent; spoiled brats to be honest! I…
Read MoreIs it wrong to sell or prescribe emergency contraceptives?
Question: I desire to be a pharmacist and being that I already work for a pharmacy as a pharmacy technician, I supply the medical stations with medications. I was wondering what your thoughts were in regards to supplying the medication Plan B that helps to prevent pregnancy from occurring. Am I in the wrong by…
Read MoreIs it wrong to fantasize about my wife when she refuses to have sex with me?
Question: Is it wrong to fantasize about my wife? My wife and has refused to have sex with me for over five years now. She considers me a best friend and the father of our children but not much else. She is not a Christian, so she has no concern for what the scriptures teach…
Read MoreIs the use of sex toys sinful?
Question: Are sexual toys, or other things to excite sex, sinful? For example, if a woman isn’t being pleased by her spouse, could she use sex toys to provide her the pleasure she desires (and vice versa for the husband)? What about sex toys being used by singles? Answer: I can’t think of any passage…
Read MoreHow does a parent prepare himself for the need to punish?
Question: I have read many of the answers you have given about spanking and while I disagree or am uncomfortable with using anything other than a hand for it, I have seen the positive effects of spanking being part of several punishment options for parents with my friends and their children. I now have my…
Read MoreHow do I get an Ifa priestess’ curse off of me?
Question: Hello, I recently read the outline that’s entitled “Is Witchcraft Real?” I’m desperately in need of spiritual help. A curse has been placed on my mother and I. None of the events that have been taking place in our lives are rational. I’m not sure if you’ve heard of the Ifa religion, but someone that…
Read MoreWould it be wrong to major in dance?
Question: Hello. I’ve danced since I was young. I mean artful dance like ballet, lyrical, contemporary, and such. I’ve been a Christian since the age of 12. I am not in college, but I wanted to ask would a major in dance be bad? Is it a sin? Answer: See: “Dancing in the Bible” to…
Read MoreWhy did Paul say Sinai was in Arabia?
Question: I am a great admirer of your well-studied responses. I wanted to ask about a comment from the question; “Could Israel crossed the Red Sea on the eastern side of the Sinai Peninsula?” In your response, you said, “Typically people wish to claim that Mount Sinai was on the Arabian Peninsula.” In Galatians 4:25…
Read MoreWhat religion did the Arabs follow prior to Islam?
Question: I’d like to know what religion, if any, did the current Muslims have before Mohammad came. Since they are sons of Ishmael, were they following Judaism? Answer: Judaism is the following of the Law of Moses, which was given exclusively to the sons of Israel. “And Moses called all Israel, and said to them:…
Read MoreI think Satan can bring a thought to your mind
Question: Yes, Satan can put thoughts in a man’s mind. Look at the Scripture. I disagree with what you answered to “Can Satan put bad thoughts into your head?” “And Satan stood up against Israel, and provoked David to number Israel” (I Chronicles 21:1). ” But Peter said, Ananias, why hath Satan filled thine heart…
Read MoreIt doesn’t seem that Hebrews 10:25 is the right verse to explain why children’s church is wrong
Question: Hello. I’m responding to the article “Parallel Worship” by Bob Berard. I have my own misgivings about children’s church and junior church, which is why I began searching for articles. However, Berard immediately puts himself on the wrong footing by claiming that such groupings for kids “violate the injunction of Hebrews 10:25 ‘not to…
Read MoreDoes the mother church interpret the Bible for Catholics?
Question: I am Catholic and was asked why Catholics need the Mother Church as the guardian and interpreter of the Bible. So the church interprets the Bible for you, right? How would one best respond to this? Answer: That is what Roman Catholicism teaches. See: “Roman Catholic Quotes Regarding the Bible.” Since the teachings of…
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