Posts Tagged ‘parents’
How do we treat an adult child living in our house who stole from us?
Question: When an adult child of ours, living in our house steals, and we confront them, how do we treat them at the time of the confrontation and afterward whether they are in the house or decide to leave? What should the appropriate treatment of that child be? Answer: When an adult steals, you call…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a child to correct his parents?
Question: Hi. Your website has been very helpful and I hope that you keep it up. Thank you for putting all the time into it as well. I am a 16-year-old male (I am saying this so you understand how I am thinking) and of late I have been taking Christianity much more seriously. As…
Read MoreDo I have to have my abusive step-father in my life and in my daughter’s life?
Question: Hello, I hope you can give me some good advice. I am a father of a young girl. My mom divorced my stepdad when I was a young teenager. He gave all of us a pretty hard life, my mom, my brothers, and sisters who are his kids. I am the only one who…
Read MoreI haven’t been respectful to my parents in the past. Am I condemned because of this?
Question: Greetings to you. I thank God and the Lord Jesus Christ for His unending love and His grace and mercy that has saved me and had given me life, making me experience the greatness of His love and His righteousness in me. All the glory and honor and praise and thanksgiving belong to Him…
Read MoreIs disobeying my parents a sin?
Question: Is disobeying my parents a sin? What if I did something that’s not sinful (like daydreaming or not concentrating on school), but they told me not to do it. If I disobeyed them, did I sin? Answer: The commands are: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father…
Read MoreI want to be baptized but my dad won’t let me
Question: In Spanish class, we had a test. This guy asked me for the answers; he is an upperclassman. I knew it was a sin, and I didn’t want to do it, but I did anyway. I feel stupid and hate this blasphemous sin I have committed. Only now did I realize I could have…
Read MoreHow do you honor a bipolar mother and an autistic brother?
Question: I’m trying to follow the whole honor thy mother and father thing. My father is not around and my mom is hard to deal with. She and I argue sometimes, but she is also skitzo and bipolar. She seems like she’s a normal person, but she told me I have no idea what she…
Read MoreMy parents don’t like the guy I’m dating and I don’t know what to do
Question: Hi, I have a problem with my parents not being supportive when it comes to my relationships. They want to choose for me whom I date even if I hate the person. They don’t consider my feelings at all. I had to date one guy whom I will name Charles. I took him as…
Read MoreI know we’ve sinned, but my parents are controlling my life. Shouldn’t I be able to make my own decisions?
Question: I had sex with my boyfriend about 2 months after we got together. We were friends for about a year before we became a couple. I’m 28 and he is 30 years old. We are both Christians. I’m from a Christian family, but he is not. He has been a Christian for a little…
Read MoreI want to be baptized, but my parents don’t think it is necessary
Question: I lost a lot of my faith recently due to the fact that I realized baby baptism doesn’t count and nothing that I did concerning God counted. I can’t even be baptized again yet because my parents don’t think it’s necessary after infant baptism, so I don’t know what to do. I could have…
Read MoreMy mother told me my father has been having affairs for a long time. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I would firstly like to thank you for answering so many questions as your website has indeed helped me in many of my battles with my walk with Christ. Just a little background: I am a 20-year-old Christian who happened to stumble onto your website several years ago. It’s amazing how God could…
Read MoreMy parents are against my dating a man, even though he has now become a Christian. What do I do?
Question: Hi! I’m in my early twenties, and I grew up in a Christian home. I met my boyfriend when he was not a Christian because we work in the same place. He was divorced about ten years ago. Until then, my parents, who are strong Christians, told me they would disown me as their…
Read MoreDo I need to get her parent’s permission before marrying my girlfriend?
Question: I read the articles you had concerning “Fornication”. The woman I am courting is a virgin. I on the other hand am not. I was disciplined by the Lord on behalf of my actions from the flesh when I was indulging in pre-marital sex. My girlfriend and I know we want to marry, and we…
Read MoreHow can I get my mother to turn away from her sin?
Question: Hello, Your knowledge and answers to my questions have helped me so much. I can’t thank you enough, but I have another one to ask. My mother has been married and divorced five times, and I know most of them are not because of adultery. She is currently with a man who is still…
Read MoreShould I let my mom and her boyfriend stay at my house while they are visiting?
Question: Hello, My mom and her boyfriend are coming to see me for a few days for the first time, and, although my mom says she believes, prays every night for forgiveness, and goes to church she will not take what I say seriously about she is living in sin by sleeping and living with…
Read MoreYour Parents Can’t Make You Go to Heaven!
by Ted J. Clarke One of the greatest miseries of being a child is being made to do things that a child does not want to do. Eating vegetables, brushing teeth, taking a bath, cleaning one’s room, going to Aunt June’s, going to school, attending worship and Bible study — these all rate high on…
Read MoreThe Home: Preparation for Marriage, Preparation for Heaven
by Robert Speer April 1-6, 2012 God’s Creation and the First Home God’s Home and Ours Husband and Wife (Recording Failed) Parents Mothers Fathers (Recording Failed) Seeking a Spouse Preparing for God’s Home and Ours
Read MoreI want to marry my girlfriend, but her mother objects. What am I to do?
Question: My question is simple. My girlfriend and I are fighting some because of her family. We have been together for seven years already. We just become Christians a few months ago. We were growing together so much, but her mother keeps telling her that she hates me, and she doesn’t want me. I told…
Read MoreMy father is abusive and I’m afraid to leave my mother to go to college. What should I do?
Question: My mom says that my dad has changed dramatically since they had first married. IÂ don’t know how he was before because I wasn’t born, but I can’t imagine that he was anything like how he is now. He is easily irritable, violent, and constantly demeans her. He also tries to control everyone in…
Read MoreCan a daughter at 18 go to college without her parent’s permission?
Question: Would it be a sin to move out at 18 despite your father telling you that you will leave only when he approves? I know a father who will not allow his daughter to leave home until she is married. However, she is mainly confined to her house when she is not at school…
Read MoreI’m trying to do what is right, but my mother is spreading gossip. What do I do?
Question: Hello, I am a Christian. Here’s the situation that concerns me. My family and I, including my sister who is involved in an adulterous relationship, lived together in one house. My parents and my sister are not Christians. However, since my stand in the matter, things at home started to get out of hand.…
Read MoreI want to go to college, but my dad won’t let me. What should I do?
Question: Hello. I’m a senior in high school and I turn eighteen next year. I want to go to college next fall. My dad said I’ll go to college when he decides and in the meantime, he will probably want me to study at home to earn a medical coding license. Although I do not…
Read MoreDo I have to give my father a proper burial?
Question: Where does it say “honoring your father” means even to go as far as giving him a proper burial when he dies? Answer: “Then the men of Judah came, and there they anointed David king over the house of Judah. And they told David, saying, “The men of Jabesh Gilead were the ones who…
Read MoreDo adults need to honor their parents by obeying them?
Question: I read your take on the commandment Honor thy father and thy mother and noticed that you used the word “child” and “children” quite a few times. So is your interpretation to obey isolated to children who have not reached independent legal adulthood or does it imply that even the adults have to obey? Let me…
Read MoreDo I have to live with my parents until I get married?
Question: I am currently going to college, and I live with my parents. One day I will graduate, and I will be able to support myself. I would also like to move out of my parents’ house, but my mom told me that as long as I am not married, that I have to live…
Read MoreI don’t understand my mother, and it makes me mad. What do I do?
Question: Hello, First off, I want to say I love your site and appreciate your clear-mindedness, which is why I’m writing. I’m very frustrated about a personal matter in my life and I don’t know how to feel about it. I always try to be patient and reasonable, but lately, it’s gotten the best of…
Read MoreHow much control does a father have?
Question: Hello, I’d first like to thank you for this site. The question-and-answer format is really very good, being able to see the application of biblical principles in terms of case-studies, so to speak. I have enjoyed reading many of them! My question is kind of two-fold in nature, touching on both the topics of…
Read MoreIs it a sin to call Child Protective Services on your dad?
Question: Is it a sin to call Child Protective Services on your dad? I had like one beer and got caught by my brother who’s a snitch. He took me home and my dad got mad and slapped me, but it wasn’t as if I was drunk. He didn’t have to hit me. Would it…
Read MoreShould I stop talking to my mother?
Question: Greetings to you, I have been struggling with something for years. A bond between me and my parents that I really don’t wish on anybody. My parents have been divorced for almost 40 years. I used to adore my dad and hate my mom for things that she has done – like kissing other…
Read MoreHow do you handle a violent father?
Question: I am really disturbed. My dad who has been very violent since my mum joined him in a foreign country. He was broke and moved to this new country for business. Several years down the line, my mum came and joined him, but he has become proud and arrogant. Worse still there are rumors…
Read MoreMy parents reject religion. How can I become a Christian?
Question: My family wants to stay away from religion, but I want to go toward it. I want to embrace God’s love. I would go to church, but I am too young to drive or walk there. I have asked my parents to go to church, but they said “no.” So I have been secretly…
Read MoreShould a man search out the father who abandoned him as a child to remove a curse of a broken family from him?
Question: We were having a conversation about a man from a broken family, who is born again. Should he go to look for his dad who abandoned him when he was a child? We were divided into two camps. One group was of the opinion that this man should go look for his dad so…
Read MoreHow do you deal with an easily angered father?
Question: How should a Christian deal with a person who is easily angered? Well, let me rephrase that — how can a Christian deal with a very easily angered father, who is always speaking negatively about people, things, and me? Answer: I’m not certain how old you are, so let me cover a few points.…
Read MoreWhy don’t my parents treat me as an adult?
Question: I am planning to drive to a large city for a big lectureship at a congregation there. I have never driven in a large city. I am in my early twenties and still live in my parents’ house because I don’t have the money to rent an apartment. I am a recent college graduate.…
Read MoreHow do I honor abusive, ungodly parents?
Question: Our parents are abusive, ungodly people. I have forgiven them and continue to ask God to help me. My sister says I have to honor them by doing what they want because they are old. She chooses to subject herself to their verbal abuse. I struggle to do as God would want. I do…
Read MoreHow to Teach Your Father or Mother the Truth
Adapted from an article by Edward Good via Gospel Power, Vol. 16, No. 29, July 19, 2009. What a difficult thing it can be to teach your father and mother the truth of the gospel! There are so many Christians whose heart’s desire and prayer to God is for their father and mother. They either…
Read MoreHow do I relate with my mother who was withdrawn from years ago?
Question: My mom was withdrawn from about 30 years ago when I was around 5 years old. She was withdrawn from because she got remarried after an unscriptural divorce. I am a faithful member of the church and I have two young children. What kind of relationship should I or can I have with her?…
Read MoreIf I marry the girl I love, I will be rebelling against my parents. What do I do?
Question: I have some bad news. Over the past month, I had tried to convince my parents that the girl I love was the right one for me but all was in vain. And, yes, I would have gone ahead and heeded your advice, but the culture I belong to is very conservative wherein it…
Read MoreMy parents don’t think the girl I want to marry is good looking enough. What should I do?
Question: I’m 24 years old and a Christian by faith. I fell in love with a girl at my workplace. She, too, is a Christian. I thought my parents would accept her, but on the contrary, they did not. My parents have not even allowed me to speak my mind. I feel terrible within. After…
Read MoreA young man wants to attend church but his father is interfering. How do you handle the situation?
Question: In the youth Bible class, one of my students (an 18-year-old young woman) asked a question I wasn’t sure how to respond to. She has a boyfriend, who’s never been to the Church of Christ before and whom she’s been with for a couple of years now, I believe. During that time he’s shown…
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