Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
What can I do? My wife and I are drifting apart
Question: It has been almost a year since I first wrote to you about my thoughts on divorcing my wife. We have one child together. A lot has happened since then! I moved out of my house for two reasons: 1) because I had already planned to and 2) because my wife took out an…
Read MoreIf a person is married under false pretenses, is it still a valid marriage?
Question: Does the Bible mention false marriages or are all marriages valid? This year alone, three women who escaped from Michigan prisons more than thirty years ago have been captured and returned to Michigan. One woman who has received a lot of attention moved to California, changed her name, got married, raised a family, and…
Read MoreWhat do you think people did before marriage was invented?
Question: I think you should revaluate your teaching kids that they should wait until marriage to have sex. There’s nothing wrong with it! I’ve been having sex with my girlfriend for years. Besides what do you think people did before marriage was invented? Answer: The actual letter was vastly more rude and crude. I was…
Read MoreI already made the decision to wait until marriage to have sex, but your article made it seem even more sensible to wait
Question: Thanks for writing the article on waiting: “Waiting for the Proper Time.” I’m 18 and I’ve already made the decision to wait to have sex before marriage, but this article provided encouragement and also made it seem more sensible to wait. People at college are asking me why I’m waiting, and now I can…
Read MoreIs it a sin to choose to remain single?
Question: Is it a sin if a Christian chooses not to get married for his or her whole life? Answer: Getting married has always been an option and never a requirement. The apostle Paul never married and when persecution raised its ugly head on the horizon, he urged other Christians, if they were able, to…
Read MoreHow do you help someone who is being abused, but who doesn’t want help?
Question: How can I help someone who is being physically abused when they don’t want to be helped? I tried calling the cops in the past before with a former neighbor of mine. This woman was abused by her husband every day for over two years and acted as if no one had hurt her.…
Read MoreWhat Bible Passage Teaches Monogamy?
by George Hutto via Tidings, Vol. 23, No. 7, July 2008. Monogamy is the marital rule of having only one spouse. Polygamists say that a person can have more than one spouse at the time, such as the Muslim practice. The teaching of the Bible on this subject will be considered in a moment, but…
Read MoreShould I leave my unloving husband?
Question: I have been married for ten years now and I feel more like roommates than husband and wife. The problem is that my husband is not an affectionate person, never really has been. I just kept thinking he would change. The only time I get any contact from my husband is when we are…
Read MoreShould I wait until after my schooling to get married?
Question: Hello, I am in seminary in my first year. I’m 20 years old and I have been dating my girlfriend for 1 year and 3 months. We both want to get married, but my father believes that it is too early to get married because I need to focus my life in the seminary.…
Read MoreHow can I get my non-Christian husband interested in the church?
Question: First, I want to say I really enjoy this web site. I am a sister in Christ and have been most of my life. I happened to marry a non-Christian man. I would like to say to any of the sisters, or brothers, out there that are searching for a husband or wife, to…
Read MoreWhat does it mean for a husband to not honor his wife?
Question: “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered” (I Peter 3:7). I have some questions about this verse: If a husband is not honoring his wife, does that…
Read MoreWhy did God require the Israelites to leave their non-Jewish spouses?
Question: Could you explain why Moses gave the certificate of divorce? What I mean to say is when was it that God’s people were required to leave their non-Jewish spouses? What were the reasons for this? I am looking to use it for an example of commitment and covenants, such as marriage. Even if you…
Read MoreWhere does God promise a husband?
Question: If one is expected to wait for sex until marriage, where does God promise a husband? I’m tired of waiting for 37 years. I just had to fend off a married, now divorced, minister. He is still in the pulpit. He was separated, which I understood was meant for restoration. We have nothing in…
Read MoreWhy are congregations requiring preachers to be married?
Question: I have noticed on some web sites where congregations list qualifications for their new preachers. Most of them require their preachers to be married, which is absurd! Where in the Bible does it say that a preacher must be married to preach? I can’t find it and I’ve searched. What about I Corinthians 7:8 when Paul is…
Read MoreWould This Marriage Work?
by Bobby Duncan For some time the late brother G. C. Brewer wrote a series of articles in the Gospel Advocate in answer to questions received from readers of that journal. A number of these articles were published in 1941 in a book entitled Contending for the Faith. As would be expected, some of those…
Read MoreMy pastor says God told her that I shouldn’t marry my fiance. What do I do?
Question: Hi! I am 19 years old and I have been a Christian all my life. I am a Pentecostal. I have fallen in love with a man the same age as me and we both agree it’s better that we get engaged and seek the Lord in everything we do rather than falling into…
Read MoreWhoso Findeth a Wife Findeth a Good Thing, and Obtaineth Favour of the LORD
by Sally Anne Perz Text: Proverbs 18:22 Next to God, the most important person in a wife’s life is her husband. Often wives are guilty of holding their husbands to their own expectations and standards or comparing them to other men. Learn what kind of a man you are married to—and remember that you were…
Read MoreThank you for the great marriage study information
Question: Brother, I just wanted to thank you for the great marriage study information on the La Vista website. My fiance and I have read through much of it before deciding to get engaged. Answer: Thank you very much for your kind words. It is nice to know that the work is being used profitably. You and…
Read MoreIs it wrong to marry a person from a different race?
Question: I would really appreciate it if you could answer my question: Is it wrong to marry a person from a different race group? Answer: In the Bible, the concept of race doesn’t exist. There are nationalities, but God states that all of mankind is one race. That is because all of us descend from…
Read MoreWhat more should I do to be worthy of forgiveness? I committed fornication just before my marriage
Question: Hi, I was baptized in a local church of Christ a few weeks before I and my wife got married. But before our wedding day, we had sex (by the way she’s not yet a believer of Christ). I knew in my heart before we even had sex that it was wrong, but I…
Read MoreWhat can I do about my mother-in-law’s interference?
Question: I am feeling unhappy with my wife’s mother yet again. Why can’t she allow my wife and me to live our lives as a married couple? Yesterday, the three of us went to a family get-together. My wife had a seizure and her mother took control of the recovery of my wife. I am…
Read MoreA Question about Dowries
Question: I have a question bothering me and this issue is about tearing apart one of our congregations here in Nigeria. Please, is parental consent considered to be marriage; that is, the cohabitation of a man and a woman without the payment of a bride price or dowry? Since examples in the Bible state Christ…
Read MoreMy non-Christian wife led me to stop attending worship, but I’m trying to come back. Do you have any advice?
Question: Hi! I am a strong Christian husband married to a non-Christian wife. I realize I can’t change her or make her do anything. Only God can change her. I do have to admit that it really hurts me because before we got married she went to church with me. After we got married, she…
Read MoreMy husband supposedly stopped viewing pornography, but he has stopped sleeping with me. How can I trust him?
Question: My husband used porn. He says he quit over a year ago but still can’t, or won’t, have sex with me or even try. We averaged sex two or three times a month for the first couple of years of marriage; then it dwindled to once or twice a year. We’ll be celebrating our…
Read MoreMy marriage is not what it should be and I fear I’m losing my husband. What should I do?
Question: I have been reading your responses to the questions of others and appreciate the biblical approach you have taken, such that I feel comfortable in consulting you myself. From the outset, I will say that I’ve learned of your web site because my husband has sought your guidance about our marriage in times past. …
Read MoreIs my marriage before a justice of the peace legitimate?
Question: Please help me. I am a spiritual person who believes in God and Jesus and the Holy Spirit. My husband does not. That is OK. The problem is that we were not married before God nor did we invite him to our union in any way. We were married by the justice of the peace…
Read MoreShould I, as a Baptist, be in a relationship with a Catholic?
Question: I am a Baptist in a relationship with a Catholic. I don’t agree with a lot that her family does and it seems like I am an outcast because of my religion. Is there any advice that you can give me or links to where I can read on how to survive this? I…
Read MoreThe idea that a husband cannot rape his wife is a gross misrepresentation of what the Bible says
Question: In the chapter on Rape in your Growing Up in the Lord: A Study for Teenage Girls, you stated: “Recently, some women have tried to redefine rape as any time a woman has sex and the woman did not want it at that time. This is an inaccurate definition by God’s standard. In a marriage, a woman is…
Read MoreThe Lord of the Ring
by Kent Heaton “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). During the wedding ceremony, the giving of rings symbolizes the token of pledges made to one another for purity, fidelity, and honor. The circular nature of…
Read MoreWho was the only man in the Bible forbidden to marry?
Question: Who was the only man in the Bible forbidden to marry? Answer: “The word of the LORD also came to me, saying, “You shall not take a wife, nor shall you have sons or daughters in this place.”” (Jeremiah 16:1-2). The reason for this is that Judah was going to face gruesome death and…
Read MoreHealing Sick Marriages
by Allen Dvorak via Gospel Power, Vol. 14, No. 33, Aug. 19, 2007 Any marriage which lasts for very long will experience some rough times. If the physical attraction which dominates the engagement period and the beginning of marriage for many couples is not accompanied by an abiding love, the relationship is on shaky ground.…
Read MoreI think I’m getting too caught up in the “doing” parts of being a Christian. How can I improve?
Question: Since I have been baptized, I have really been trying to stay involved with church, tithing, and do all the things required of a believer. I have reached out to people and I think for the most part stayed away from sin. My struggles are probably the same for others but different, of course. …
Read MoreAm I supposed to try to convince my husband to stay with me?
Question: We have been married for close to 20 years and my husband informed me around our second year that he married me mainly because I was pregnant. Ever since then his relationship with me has been based around the family and not us as a couple. The other day he announced to me that…
Read MoreIs it right to marry a non-Christian if she is willing to convert?
Question: Is it right to marry a non-Christian girl if she is willing to convert? And can we marry a girl who is divorced? Answer: It is not wrong for a Christian to be married to a non-Christian. “For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the…
Read MoreMy wife says she forgives me, but she doesn’t trust me. What do I do?
Question: I have written before regarding my and my wife’s relationship. You mentioned that she has issues with forgiveness and I agree. I tried to discuss this with her from a scriptural perspective. Stating that we are commanded to forgive as God forgives, Ephesians 4:32 and Colossians 3:13 emphasizing the word “as”. I said that when…
Read MoreYour statement that a husband can’t rape his wife really bothered me
Question: I am a 40-year-old Christian woman who was looking for a specific discussion on sleeveless shirts and modesty to present to my 17-year-old daughter. She wants to wear sleeveless shirts. I’m having a hard time phrasing my language strongly enough to be accurate about the male perspective. Thanks to Google, I found your book…
Read MoreWhat can I do about my wife’s friends telling her not to trust me?
Question: I wrote last week concerning my marriage relationship. I’ve just found something out that disturbs me greatly. I overheard my wife talking to a friend about being convinced that I have had a sexual relationship with the woman that I had an emotional relationship with. This could not be further from the truth. This never…
Read MoreIs looking at another person and noting they are beautiful a form of lust?
Question: I have a question about living a Christian life and following the rules of the Bible such as those regarding lust. I just got married a month ago and I love my wife with all my heart, but sometimes we as people see other people in the world and we might look at them…
Read MoreAm I being selfish asking my wife for sex after having an emotional affair with another woman?
Question: Last year I became involved in an emotional affair with my ex-girlfriend. During that time I was very hurtful to my wife. The affair ended, I came to my senses and am in counseling right now. I know that I caused a lot of damage to our marriage and because of this, my wife…
Read MoreMust a Christian wife obey her non-Christian husband?
Question: The Bible states that a woman should obey her husband, but what if he is not a Christian husband? He believes in Jesus, God and the Holy Spirit, but he does not set forth a Christian lifestyle. I know a woman can still be religious on her own and believe in the Lord and…
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