Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
My husband abandoned me right after the wedding. Can I marry again?
Question: I married a man five years ago, only for the wrong purposes. He was born in another country, and he needed me to help him with legal documents. We married and never lived together because shortly after he was nowhere to be found. To this day I haven’t heard from him. I have a…
Read MoreMy ex-husband has been engaged in sex since our divorce. Is that fornication?
Question: I was in a physically and emotionally abusive marriage for 30 years and finally decided to divorce after I thought he was going to kill me in a fit of rage. Since leaving, he has engaged in intercourse with his first cousin and pornography. Are these acts considered fornication? Incest is a first-degree felony…
Read MoreIt is complex, but is my third marriage adulterous?
Question: I have a question for you. It involves a complex matter, but I trust your biblical response after having read your web page. I am married currently and was also married twice before this marriage. I have since repented and grieved over all of my wickedness when I saw biblically what I had been.…
Read MoreWhy did Jesus allow divorce when the Law had a death penalty for adultery?
Question: I’m trying to figure out how to reconcile a couple of Jesus’ statements in the Sermon on the Mount. First Jesus said, “Whoever then annuls one of the least of these commandments, and teaches others to do the same, shall be called least in the kingdom of heaven; but whoever keeps and teaches them,…
Read MoreShould I continue seeing this divorced woman?
Question: I have a question that is tough for me to come to conclusion on. I hope you can reply after careful consideration, but in somewhat of a timely fashion. I am dating a woman who has divorced her husband. Initially, she did not tell me why and over time she revealed that her ex-husband…
Read MoreCan we make things right after our adultery?
Question: Hello, I would like your advice on a matter that concerns me. I’m a young single woman who fell in love with a guy who was married. I’m not a Christian, but he is. He has children as well. When we first met he was married at the time, but his wife was abusive,…
Read MoreCan the adulterer marry again and that marriage be acceptable to God?
Question: Hello and God bless, I have some questions that I hope you can address. I am a born-again Christian who has suffered through a divorce. This divorce was not my desire, as I absolutely believe in marriage vows and the concept “until death do us part.” I want always to make the right choices,…
Read MoreI don’t know if I should wait for my wife to come back or move on
Question: Hello, I came across your web site while searching for answers on adultery. To try to make it short my wife and got married at a very young age. We felt that it was the correct thing to do because we had moved in with each other. A few months after getting married she felt…
Read MoreWhy can’t I remarry if I fought the divorce?
Question: If my wife files for a divorce and I fight it because she is not divorcing me for adultery and the courts give her her way, am I not allowed to remarry even if I fought it and was forced to allow her a divorce? Answer: There is only one exception given that allows…
Read MoreI recently found out my ex-wife was married before we married. Is my second marriage proper?
Question: Hello, I was married to a woman I recently discovered was married previously. She never told me that she was married, for if she had, I would not have married her. In less than a year, she divorced me for irreconcilable differences. About two years later, I married again. My wife and I have…
Read MoreWhy can’t my sister get baptized?
Question: In a second marriage where a non-Christian is wanting to become a Christian but was divorced for reasons other than adultery, is the sin the adultery or the remarriage? I am asking this in the context of repenting. Do you repent of the adultery in this second marriage or repent of the divorce and remarriage and…
Read MoreWe just found out that my wife’s first marriage was never dissolved. What do we do?
Question: I have just recently married a beautiful godly woman who totally fills my heart with love every day that we share together in holy matrimony. But recently we have found out that she is still married to another. Several years ago my wife was to be wed to another man but found out some…
Read MoreCan I remarry because my wife left the church and left me?
Question: When I met my wife we were both going to similar churches. About a year after we met, both of us stop going to church. We got married soon after we stop going to church. When then had a child. My wife decided on ending the marriage claiming that she never loved me and…
Read MoreDo we withdraw from sinners if they are only here a few months each year?
Question: Enjoy your site very much and has helped me more than you will ever know. What do you suggest if you have a couple up in years and have been married 4-5 times each, but they are summer visitors who are members of another congregation but are here four months out the year? Who…
Read MoreIs there redemption for a person who has been in multiple marriages?
Question: What’s the fate of a man or woman who has married twice, have discovered the church of Christ, and are convinced it’s the only true way? Can the person be baptized? Brethren in my congregation says there’s no redemption for such a person because of the person’s past marital life. Answer: Redemption is available…
Read MoreShould I divorce? Can I remarry?
Question: I am in need of your assistance, please. Your insight and views would be most appreciated with regards to my current situation. I will try and keep things as brief as possible yet provide you with as much detail as I possibly can, too. When I met my husband, he was separated from his…
Read MoreShould my friend leave her drug-abusing husband?
Question: I was Googling information on divorce for my best friend, and I came across this site with all of the women getting advice so I figured I would try to explain the situation as best as I can without leaving important information out. My friend got pregnant when we were in high school, with…
Read MoreMy wife divorced me. Did I cause her to commit adultery because I allowed the divorce to happen?
Question: My wife announced to me two years ago that she was done with our marriage and that she intended to file for divorce. To my knowledge, no adultery had been committed by either party at that time (certainly not by me). I initially fought to save our marriage. I suggested counseling and other solutions…
Read MoreMy husband and I lived a very sinful life, but now we want to change. Is our marriage still valid? Will God forgive us?
Question: I need your advice, please? My husband and I recently started reading the Bible. We were both members of our families’ churches, growing up, and had a Christian wedding. We seemed to have stopped praying along the way and stop going to church ended up with the wrong group of friends, drinking, and doing…
Read MoreCan the adulterer remarry after his original spouse dies?
Question: If a person, scripturally married, commits adultery and ends up divorced, can the one who committed the adultery remarry if the one who was innocent dies? Answer: “For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is…
Read MoreAm I doing the right thing waiting for my husband to come back?
Question: Am I right to stand for my marriage to be restored? My husband and I were 18 and 19 when we married. The first five years were hard on him since I had childhood issues and used them to push him/test his love. But he always told me he loved me and hung in.…
Read MoreIf my husband left his improper second marriage, could he marry me again?
Question: I have been reading a number of your “questions-and-answers” on your web site regarding divorce and remarriage. Could you please shed your thoughts and opinions on the following for me? I am very confused. First of all, I would like to say that I agree with your view of divorce, remarriage being adultery, and…
Read MoreDo I have to divorce my husband in order to be baptized?
Question: I was married to a man who would not make love, have sex, or be intimate with me. He said he preferred to masturbate and fantasize about my sister, neighbors, and the neighbor’s mother. This greatly distressed me. He was also abusive, holding a gun up to my head threatening to kill me. He was…
Read MoreCan a person who married a person who had no right to marry, divorce, and marry someone else?
Question: If a man marries a woman who was not supposed to remarry because she and her husband had committed adultery, can the man in the second marriage divorce her because of her continued adulteries during the second marriage and be able to marry again? Answer: When a person marries someone who has no right…
Read MoreIf an unbelieving spouse leaves the marriage, can the Christian remarry?
Question: I guess my question is about “wrongful marriages.” If a Christian is married to an unbeliever and the unbeliever does not want to stay married to the believing party, it is my understanding that the Christian is to let the unbeliever go and the “bond of marriage” is not binding anymore. Therefore, this bond is broken…
Read MoreMy husband and I are separated over his use of pornography. What can I do?
Question: I originally was a Baptist. I met my boyfriend at work as a friend. We started dating two years later. I moved into his house after dating him for two years on the pretense that we would get married. Once I moved in, I noticed pornography videos on his shelf in his closet. He…
Read MoreIf people are in a wrongful marriage, should they divorce in order to repent?
Question: I read your article, and I am asking if the people in this wrongful marriage with children should get a divorce in order to repent and go to Heaven? Answer: “What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live…
Read MoreBecause of my husband’s adultery, I committed adultery and then divorced him. Is my second marriage legitimate?
Question: I am desperate for your help. I am struggling in marriage. I am a Christian and my husband is not, but first, let me give you background information. I lost my virginity when I was 17 after I became engaged to my future husband. We were married for almost a decade. He cheated on…
Read MoreShould sex be expected when you are separated?
Question: Hi, and God bless you. Over two years ago my husband cheated and committed adultery with a married woman. After I found out, he was very mean about it and repeatedly humiliated me by saying that he loved her, and he never loved me. That all he wanted was to be with her. We…
Read MoreIs my marriage valid?
Question: First off, I appreciate you spreading the word on what people need to hear, not what they want to hear. I thank you for that, not many people in the pulpit do that anymore and cower to men. You recently wrote to my mother about her remarriage scenario, and I feet you spread the…
Read MoreI committed adultery, divorced my husband, and married another man. What should I do?
Question: I married in my twenties. We remained married for almost twenty years. I was the one who committed adultery and decided to leave my husband and pursue a life alone. However, I met a man, fell in love, and I divorced my husband and remarried. I am a born again Christian and knew I…
Read MoreCan I remarry if I have committed adultery with my first husband?
Question: Can I remarry if I have committed adultery with my first husband, and if not, what should I do to get it right with God? Answer: You are asking the wrong question. “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her…
Read MoreIf a woman left her husband because of verbal abuse, and he then becomes a Christian, does she have to go back?
Question: My friend has been through verbal abuse with her husband for years. She has prayed, fasted, and believed for him to come to Christ. A few months ago she confronted him on his behavior and left for a while to see what would take place. In that period he has repented, come to Christ,…
Read MoreThe woman I have been dating only just recently filed for divorce. Would she have the right to remarry?
Question: Hello, and thank you for your biblical answers. After my divorce, I met a woman online who assured me that she was in the process of getting a divorce. I told her that I did not get involved with married women, but we ended up going bowling anyway and continued to see each other…
Read MoreHow can adultery be an ongoing sin?
Question: I’ve read a lot of information on marriage and remarriage. I see the stand is being taken that God does not honor divorce; hence, will not honor a second marriage unless for the woman it was because of adultery. I would like to know your thoughts on the story of King David and his…
Read MoreIs it OK to divorce because of violence?
Question: Hello, My husband and I married less than a year ago. We are both young. Of course, when it happened I felt so happy and felt as if my life was complete, until recently. My husband and I get along for the most part, but the thing is when we argue we get into…
Read MoreHow do I move on after a divorce?
Question: I have written before regarding my divorce from my husband of many years. I am still a mess. I can’t seem to shake this man who cheated, lied, and treated me badly in the end. He has since moved on with the women he was cheating with. I don’t think they have married but…
Read MoreI committed adultery before the divorce was final. Do I still have a right to remarry?
Question: Your web site is teaching me so much. The Word is so powerful. I am really trying to get a good understanding of where I need to be. My husband committed adultery and I filed for divorce and ultimately divorced him. However, my divorce was not final before I got into another sexual relationship…
Read MoreCan I marry again after divorcing my husband for adultery, even though I once committed adultery years ago?
Question: My husband was grossly involved with and even addicted to pornography. His obsession with porn went beyond the normal curiosity that people have with it. We separated for a year. I had an affair out of foolishness and retaliation because he refused to put away the pornography. I repented and never had another affair.…
Read MoreCan I remarry?
Question: Can I get remarried? In my previous marriage, there was a time when due to certain circumstances we were living in two different states for a couple of months. When I returned home, I arrived early in the morning. He wasn’t expecting me until later, and I found him in bed with another woman.…
Read More