My ex-husband has been engaged in sex since our divorce. Is that fornication?

Question:

I was in a physically and emotionally abusive marriage for 30 years and finally decided to divorce after I thought he was going to kill me in a fit of rage.  Since leaving, he has engaged in intercourse with his first cousin and pornography.  Are these acts considered fornication?  Incest is a first-degree felony not to mention disgusting.

Answer:

You divorce your husband because of abuse, not fornication. Since you chose that route, it does not give you the right to marry someone else (I Corinthians 7:10-11; Matthew 19:9). What he has done since your divorce does not change the cause of your divorce.

Pornography is sinful, but it is not fornication. See: Is looking at pornography fornication?

His sex acts with his cousin are adulterous (Matthew 19:9), but they are not incestuous. While not advised, it is still possible for first cousins to marry. It is not a felony in the United States.

Your ex-husband is a sinner, you've known that for years, but it doesn't give you the right to marry another person.

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