I don’t know who the father of my child is
Question: Hi, I had lost a baby last May. After the miscarriage, I wasn’t put on any birth control. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex. He pulls out, but he pre-nuts a lot while we are having sex. One night, well OK, I cheated and had unprotected sex with a friend. I don’t know…
Read MoreIt seems to me that we have no choice but to live together
Question: I have lived in sin for as long as I have breathed, but I am now trying to get closer to God and change for the better, to please Him and do things His way. But only one thing is stopping me, I live with my boyfriend. We have one son and are not…
Read MoreDo I have to live with my parents until I get married?
Question: I am currently going to college, and I live with my parents. One day I will graduate, and I will be able to support myself. I would also like to move out of my parents’ house, but my mom told me that as long as I am not married, that I have to live…
Read MoreHow do I get over loving a boy who doesn’t love me?
Question: I met this boy at work. Initially, it was OK, but after some time, because of his good nature and politeness, I became attracted to him. I then found out that he had a girlfriend in the past and he loved her very much, but somehow their love did not end up in marriage…
Read MoreCould Paul have told Timothy to drink grape juice for his stomach’s sake?
Question: I just read your article online about alcohol and the Bible, New Testament Beverages, and wanted to say it is magnificent. I do want to point out something about a loophole you left for the drinker concerning Paul’s advice to Timothy about drinking wine. In the Greek book, The Learned Banqueters and other sources mention medicines…
Read MoreMy husband repented of his adultery, but he still works with the woman. What do I do?
Question: My husband committed adultery. He tried so hard to hide it and, honestly, if God didn’t declare that it was time for him to be exposed, it would still be going on right now. I do believe him when he says he’s repented, and he’s truly sorry. I have forgiven him with all my…
Read MoreHow can people with different views on the second serving of the Lord’s Supper worship together?
Question: I was recently reading your post about the Lord’s Supper being taken on a Sunday night. I have recently joined a congregation where they serve on Sunday nights to just a few people. I do not partake because I believe the Christians assembled did not meet for the purpose of eating the Lord’s supper…
Read MoreAm I doing the right thing waiting for my husband to come back?
Question: Am I right to stand for my marriage to be restored? My husband and I were 18 and 19 when we married. The first five years were hard on him since I had childhood issues and used them to push him/test his love. But he always told me he loved me and hung in.…
Read MoreCan a marriage be done by a civil official?
Question: If both a man and a woman love each other, is it OK to have a civil marriage done by our local public official to be able to save money? Answer: There is no requirement in the scriptures that a marriage must be done in church or by a preacher. A wedding before a…
Read MoreHow can a girl get over the disappointment that her boyfriend isn’t a virgin?
Question: How can a virgin get over the disappointment that her boyfriend isn’t a virgin? I am a female in her mid-twenties and a virgin. A childhood friend of mine moved back to the city we grew up in, and we became friends again, attending church and Bible study together. Over several months we became…
Read MoreWho Is Responsible for Sin?
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2006/05/WhoIsResponsibleForSin.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Ezekiel 18:4-20 I. A number of years ago, I couldn’t find a parking space in our lot because of some school function across the street. I finally found a spot on the side of one street among many other cars and walked to the building. When I came out,…
Read MoreCould Matthew and John not be eyewitness accounts?
Question: My friend sent me this critique on the gospels of Matthew and John not being eyewitness accounts. He said, according to the majority viewpoint, this gospel is unlikely to have been written by an eyewitness. While Papias reported that Matthew had written the Logia this can hardly be a reference to the Gospel of Matthew.…
Read MoreWhat would have happened if Satan wasn’t in the Garden?
Question: I was scanning around the web and found your article on the Tree in the Garden. Some brothers get together for breakfast and fellowship one day a week before work. This week we had both an elder and minister, two deacons, and another brother. We occasionally discuss issues that I would not normally talk about…
Read MoreHow are the age ranges defined in the Bible?
Question: Can you tell me what the Bible says concerning growing into a man? I’ve heard that an adolescent or a child was from 0-19, and that ages 20-39 were considered a young man, and that 40 and over was adulthood. Can you help me with scriptures or even necessary inferences? Answer: As we look…
Read MoreWhy does it feel like I can’t stop myself from having sex?
Question: I am 21 years old. I was born into a Christian family and brought up with Christian morals. At the age of 19, I fell in love with a guy in my assembly who wanted to marry me. We started dating. After a few months, we fell into a physical relationship, and I gave…
Read MoreWhy is God holding us responsible when it is He who made us?
Question: Why does a perfect God, who knows all and sees all, create imperfect beings in the first place, then curse those people and all the people thereafter? Then we who were born into this world without a choice must obey all these things, meet every week, and if we don’t adhere to His commands,…
Read MoreIt is encouraging to see a positive attitude toward the mentally ill
Question: I cannot tell you just how encouraging it is to see Christians who have such a positive attitude toward the mentally ill. I am educated, have traveled, been a public speaker, and done all kinds of things, but I am mentally ill, too. It has kind of challenged my faith, but it is still…
Read MoreDoes Genesis 1:1 say there was nothing except God before the beginning?
Question: Here’s another question and it may seem silly but all I want is you to answer it in the best way you can. Genesis 1:1 “in the beginning there was nothing except God.” or “in the beginning God created the heavens and the earth” (different versions of the Bible) and I am confused about…
Read MoreMy son told me of his sins just before a car accident that looks like it will be fatal. What can I do for him?
Question: I am a father and my youngest, who just turned 16, has been in a car accident. He is in a coma, and the doctors tell me there is a very real probability he won’t come out. He is showing little brain activity and his organs have begun to shut down. The morning the…
Read MoreHow much did a shekel weigh?
Question: Hello sir, I used your commentary on Genesis 24, A Wife for Isaac. In the fifth paragraph, you state that the nose ring that was given to Rebekah weighed 6 ounces and the two bracelets weighed 120 ounces. Could you tell me where you received this information? As I shared that information with my home group,…
Read MoreHave you heard of “self-anointing?”
Question: I would like to know the Church Of Christ views on “Anointing yourself Daily.” I had not heard of this practice. You are called to die, just like Jesus. You may not be called to die for your faith physically, but you are called to die to yourself so that you can live once…
Read MoreAre Jews a race or a religion?
Question: Are Jews a race or a religion? Answer: In the Bible, the concept of “race” does not exist. The Bible talks about nationalities, but not “race.” See How did the different races come about? for more details. The word “Jew” is a derivation of “Judah.” When the kingdom of Israel divided, the ten northern tribes continued…
Read MoreHow do I help a friend who is blaming God for her mother’s death?
Question: A friend’s mother has died. The friend is approximately 40. She blames God for the death of her mother and is becoming more and more bitter about losing her mother. What can we share with her from God’s word to help her? Answer: While I considered your question important, I delayed responding because the…
Read MoreCan a church be wrong in doctrinal teaching?
Question: Can a church be wrong in terms of doctrinal teaching? If they are in those areas that are less fundamental, will it do them any eternal damage? Answer: The answer should be obviously “yes.” In the letters to the seven churches in Asia in Revelation 2-3, only one didn’t have anything said negative about…
Read MoreIf my husband left his improper second marriage, could he marry me again?
Question: I have been reading a number of your “questions-and-answers” on your web site regarding divorce and remarriage. Could you please shed your thoughts and opinions on the following for me? I am very confused. First of all, I would like to say that I agree with your view of divorce, remarriage being adultery, and…
Read MoreIsn’t it a miracle when a person sees an angel or receives the Holy Spirit?
Question: What about people who see angels these days? Is that not a miracle or are you teaching that is of the devil? What about receiving the Holy Spirit is that not a miracle? Answer: Miracles are alterations of natural events. The birth of a baby is a wondrous event, but it is not a…
Read MoreI keep falling into the same sin over and over. Will God forgive me?
Question: I keep falling into the same sin over and over. I never intend to do it, but it always happens. Can God help me? Will He forgive? Will you pray for me? Answer: Someone asked a similar question not long ago. See: How long does it take for God to forgive? Usually, when these things…
Read MoreI was saved once, but I’ve sinned so much. How can I serve the Lord?
Question: When I was 14, I was saved and born again. I immediately felt the power of the Holy Spirit enters my life. I got into the Bible, read it daily, and had a grave sensitivity to sin. I hated it. All the shows I used to enjoy I couldn’t bear watching because of all…
Read MoreYour answer regarding struggling against “fooling around” was just what I needed to know
Question: Hello! I don’t know your name, but I read a response you gave on the La Vista Church of Christ web site about a boy struggling with “fooling around” with his girlfriend and what God says in the Bible about it and some strategies to turn around, and I just wanted to thank you. My boyfriend and…
Read MoreDo I have to divorce my husband in order to be baptized?
Question: I was married to a man who would not make love, have sex, or be intimate with me. He said he preferred to masturbate and fantasize about my sister, neighbors, and the neighbor’s mother. This greatly distressed me. He was also abusive, holding a gun up to my head threatening to kill me. He was…
Read MoreCan a person who married a person who had no right to marry, divorce, and marry someone else?
Question: If a man marries a woman who was not supposed to remarry because she and her husband had committed adultery, can the man in the second marriage divorce her because of her continued adulteries during the second marriage and be able to marry again? Answer: When a person marries someone who has no right…
Read MoreHow do I go about having a relationship as a Christian?
Question: Hi, I want to start by saying how I appreciate your help to others as seen through your web site. My question is: I recently got saved and have been in secular relationships before. There is this lady in our fellowship group whom I am deeply in love with and would wish to start…
Read MoreWhat do you think of Songs of Faith and Praise?
Question: Hello, I am writing to you because I came across a blog you had on your website concerning your review of the Songs for Worship and Praise hymnal. I have owned the hymnal for a couple of months and also own Songs of Faith and Praise and Praise for the Lord. I am trying to find a good hymnal to…
Read MoreCan fear be a sin?
Question: I am trying to change my ways and live a better Christian lifestyle (a life more pleasing to the Lord). I know temptation will always be hounding me, but I know the Lord will provide me a way out. However, I want to know if fear can be considered a temptation? Like the fear…
Read MoreThanks for the ideas for class material
Question: Hello, I am a pre-teen teacher, and I look for lessons that will inspire the boys, but also bring it down to where they understand the importance of God’s Word. I often let the students teach a class and prepare a devotion on their own, but I also like to get different ideas for…
Read MoreWhy do you list cults among the denominations?
Question: I have just viewed your web site, and once again have seen cults included in a listing of Christian denominations. I fail to understand why church of Christ folk do this. I have emailed a few different ones, asking for an answer, but no one seems to want to respond. As someone who has…
Read MoreIf you are to love your enemies, why did David kill Goliath?
Question: I was listening to a sermon about how to be a man after God’s heart. He was speaking about love, and he said David loved Saul even when Saul tried to kill him and searched for him for years. Even if Saul became David’s enemy, David would never do the same against Saul. He loved Saul and he’d never become his enemy. Then…
Read MoreIf a spouse broke a breach of promise to marry someone else, does that mean our marriage isn’t valid?
Question: I have another question for you about marriage. While my wife has never been legally married, she was engaged in the state of South Carolina. I recently discovered a law in South Carolina called breach of promise. Are you familiar with this law? From what I understood from the law was that if a…
Read MoreWhich is better: to visit a prostitute or masturbate?
Question: Is it true that it’s better to have sexual relations with a whore than it is to masturbate? Some people refer to it as, “better in a whore than on the floor.” As a kid, I was taught that it would be better for me to masturbate than to have sex with a girl…
Read MoreMy girlfriend is moving back into a bad situation. What can I do?
Question: OK. This could take a while. I’m with this girl. She is by far, without a doubt, the love of my life. I’ve come a long way. Far enough that I can tell through some of my people they want what I got, though they won’t say that. But it seems I have done…
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