Can a wedding include cultural singers and dancers?

Question: Good day sir! A minister of the Lord’s church made a post claiming that it is a sin to invite cultural singers and dancers to a wedding ceremony. He quoted the verse which says “in words or deeds do all in the name of the Lord.” With this, he claims there’s no authority for…

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Does it matter who performs a wedding?

Question: Hello, My fiancé and I have planned a destination wedding. The wedding package we purchased has an officiant included. I mention this because the planner stated that they have their preferred vendors meaning we potentially cannot reach out to the local church and ask a minister to marry us. We are members of the…

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Is it a sin not to get married in a church?

Question: I am in my late twenties and my fiancee is a year younger than me. We live in an African country, and we have been engaged for several years now. We have been waiting for the approval of my fiancee’s parents. They don’t want the marriage because I am a pastor and I’m not…

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Would you marry a couple who are committing fornication?

Question: My question is: If you end up counseling someone you are considering to perform their wedding and you find out they are currently living together, what do you do? I know you will discuss that with them from the Bible no doubt. But what do you do if they do not get that right…

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Should we confess our fornication?

Question: Good day sir. By God’s grace, we are a couple who decided to get married. Our church’s marriage committee has some rules that intending couples need to follow before marriage. We have known each other since last year but things got serious towards marriage beginning to this year. We were able to abstain from…

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Can I still have a church wedding if we committed fornication?

Question: I grew up attending Bible studies and was even a Sunday school teacher at one point, a choir member, and a member of the ladies association. But most of all I believed I had a good relationship with God. Then, I met someone at church and we started dating. After some time our relationship…

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Are wedding receptions based on scripture, or is it traditional?

Question: Are wedding receptions based on scripture, or is it traditional? Answer: The Bible records the fact that wedding receptions, or marriage feasts, occurred (Genesis 29:22; Luke 14:8; John 2:1-10; Revelation 19:9). The reason for the meals likely goes back to covenants. When two parties made a covenant, they would sit down together for a…

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We want to get married, but we can’t even afford rings

Question: My partner and I want to get married so badly, but we don’t have money for anything, not even rings. I have a six-month-old baby with my partner and refuse any longer to sleep with him until we are married because the truth about how the children of God should live has been revealed…

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Is a marriage still valid if it was done by a woman?

Question: Good evening brother. I would again like to commend you for the wonderful work you and the brethren are doing on your website on behalf of the Lord and His church. My question:  A friend of mine recently got married.  She and her husband were wed in a denominational church by a female “pastor”. …

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Marriage Covenants

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/MarriageCovenants.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Ephesians 5:22-33   I.         We’ve all talked about the changes in society we have seen during our lives             A.        One aspect is the rapid change in people’s view of marriage             B.        The number of divorces has sky-rocketed.                         1.         Marriages today can be terminated just because one person wants to end the marriage. No…

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Do you do weddings?

Question: I am interested in receiving information in regards to your facility for a wedding. Would you please let me know if there is a web site for pricing, availability, and requirements? Answer: I only do a few weddings each year, offering it as a service to the community for the most part. There is…

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Is it wrong to get married in a different church?

Question: I have a question. I took your advice and want to get married. My mum, my wife-to-be, and I are cool with getting married in a Lutheran church. Our bone of contention comes from our best man and woman who are born again, like ourselves. They will not do a wedding at a Lutheran…

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I want to get married, but I have no money. Can you help me?

Question: Thank you for the advice you gave in response to questions people have asked about how to avoid sexual immorality. According to one of your statements, you advise people to marry in order to avoid such sin. The issue is that I’ve reached the age to marry, but I have no money to accomplish that.…

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Should we marry now or when we are in a better financial situation?

Question: My girlfriend and I intend to get married in the future and want to wait until we are in a better financial situation to marry. Also being in a long-distance relationship would mean that if we did marry, we would be unable to live together straight away just yet. But I’m in fear of…

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Can my bride wear white even though we committed fornication?

Question: Please, sir, I need your advice on what to do. I have dated my partner for over a year. We trust and love each other very much, but we fell into the sin of fornication. My questions are: Can she still wear a white dress on her wedding day? Is it right to tell…

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Should the church building be used for weddings or funerals?

Question: A good friend of mine told me about your web site and that your material has been a wonderful resource for him. You have a wonderful article answering the question: “Is it scriptural to have recorded music (not vocal) in a wedding ceremony that is held in the church building?“ In that article you…

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Why do ministers hold a Bible during a wedding?

Question: I have seen many people married in my lifetime, where the marrying authority has read the vows, always having the Bible in hand and appearing to read the vows from the Bible. Are the vows in the Bible? And why do they do this? What does the Bible say about united in marriage? Answer:…

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How can dances at a wedding reception be bad?

Question: Hi, I am a young man who is going to be getting married. I would have loved to use the preacher at my congregation (a church of Christ) but he gave me a pamphlet of his “Do’s and Don’ts.”  Two things that he made clear of were no alcohol at the reception and no…

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Can instrumental music be used during weddings held in a church building?

Question: I have searched your website and didn’t find any information on this so I am submitting this question: Is it scriptural to have recorded music (not vocal) in a wedding ceremony that is held in the church building? There is a young Christian couple that has asked to have recorded music played only as…

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What constitutes a marriage?

Question: What is marriage to start with? It cannot be what it is today — a man-made ceremony. Answer: “Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the LORD has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant.…

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Should a preacher do weddings?

Question: I was recently asked to perform a wedding. I really prefer to let others attend to weddings.  What are your thoughts? Answer: Weddings are not a function of the church, but I consider them an opportunity to teach the gospel. Marriages are sanctioned by God (Matthew 19: 4-6), so I am willing to encourage…

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