Posts Tagged ‘sexual talk’
Do we need to break up because we sinned?
Question: Hello, My girlfriend and I, are both Christians. and we consider our relationship to be serious because our ultimate goal is to get married. We have been in the relationship for over 2 years, and everything was great as a Christian couple, but a few months ago we started indulging phone sex/sexting. We understand…
Read MoreHow far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy?
Question: Hi Jeff, How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy? Answer: Let’s start with what most people would agree would be going too far: sexual intercourse or fornication. Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful and are covered under the word “fornication.” In Greek, the word is porneia. It is…
Read MoreI recently discovered that my daughter is sexting with a boy
Question: I am a Christian. I just found out that my daughter, who is also a Christian and almost 19 years old, is sexting. I found very sexually explicit emails between her and a boy who is supposed to be a Christian as well. This happened a couple of years ago and the boy’s parents…
Read MoreI appreciate your definition of course jesting
Question: I read your definition and explanation of coarse jesting on Google, and I appreciate it. It helped me to understand the term better in the context in which it is written in Ephesians 5:4. Thanks for your input. Answer: Happy to be of service.
Read MoreMy long-time girlfriend told me she won’t be marrying me. What do I do?
Question: Hello Sir, I am 23. I met a girl about a year before we entered college. She was a believer, which was what attracted me to talk with her, as my dad was ungodly and my mom tried hard to bring me to Christ. Thus, I was never exposed to powerful messages or deeper…
Read MoreI’ve been struggling with being sexually pure
Question: I am a 27-year-old Christian virgin male who wants to wait for marriage for sex. I have struggled with maintaining sexual purity, however. I have struggled and been addicted to porn off and on since I was maybe 12 years old. I remember the first time I ever masturbated to completion, I felt so…
Read MoreHow do we avoid the temptation to have sex?
Question: I am 23 years of age and a college student. I have been in a relationship for over a year now. My motive for being in the relationship is to be with my partner now and stay with her until God blesses us to marry. My problem is how do I handle my sexual…
Read MoreIs it wrong to talk about sexual things before we are married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have had a long-distance relationship for a while we really love each other. With God’s help and guidance, we plan on getting married in the future. But we occasionally like to talk about kissing and other related activities. We were feeling confident with each other and we even talked about…
Read MoreThe bishop at my church has been sexually harassing my wife
Question: Dear Minister, I came across your website, and really like your level of maturity in the way you are advising men in such intricate cases. First, please explain to me what was the context of I Corinthians 7:1? Secondly, my bishop, for a long time has maintained coarse jesting with women in our assembly.…
Read MoreI love my boyfriend, but he keeps hounding me about wanting to have sex
Question: I have been on and off with my boyfriend due to the fact that he isn’t God-fearing. I love him so much and want him to be the one I marry, but I asked God for a God-fearing man. My relationship with God has strengthened so much. I realize I can’t live or conform…
Read MoreSexting and Pornography Among Early Teens
Source: Daniel Martin, “Sex texts epidemic: Experts warn sharing explicit photos is corrupting children,” Daily Mail Online, 10 December 2012. The news merely confirms what we already knew: the age at which children are being exposed to sex is dropping. The following are interesting quotes pulled from the article. “Boys and girls as young as 13…
Read MoreI started to engage in sexual talk with an old girlfriend, but I stopped. Do I need to tell my fiancee?
Question: I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman. We are engaged to be married. I am a man of God and I am very religious. Recently one of my ex-girlfriends contacted me and wanted me to offer some sexual services over the phone. I felt it was wrong but I was stupid and…
Read MoreSexting Is Now Called “Normal Dating Behavior”
Source: Matt Roush, “UM Study: Sexting May Be Normal Dating Behavior For Internet Generation,” CBS Detroit, 24 July 2012. Source: Deborah Gordon-Messer, et al, “Sexting Among Young Adults,” Journal of Adolescent Health, 24 July 2012. “For young adults today who were weaned on iPods and the Internet, the practice of “sexting,” or sending sexually explicit photos or messages…
Read MoreIs phone sex with your fiance a sin?
Question: I am a born again believer, and I am going to marry a person committed to the Lord. We are engaged and we are waiting for the marriage. During these times we indulge in a little phone sex. It ends up with me ejaculating. Is it ok or is it a sin? We are…
Read MoreIs talking sexually through texting before marriage considered wrong?
Question: Is talking sexually through texting before marriage considered wrong? Answer: One of the mistakes the Pharisees made was to look at God’s laws so narrowly that they decided that only what was precisely mentioned was wrong. They understood that committing adultery was wrong, but they excused thinking about it. “You have heard that it…
Read MoreWhat are the definitions of “foolish talk” and “coarse jesting?”
Question: Ephesians 5:4 says that “neither … foolish talking nor jesting” ought to be found among the saints. However, I have had difficulty coming to the precise meanings of these words, or maybe I am afraid to. I see on your web site that you, and most others, define “foolish talking” as sinful or tasteless talk, for…
Read MoreShould I continue talking to a co-worker who only wants to talk about sex?
Question: People say I’m crazy when I say to them that married men should not think about the opposite sex other than their wives. As a single person, I can think of a person who is single like me, not in an unclean way of course, but a person who has husband and wife should be content…
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