Is oral sex between a married couple a sin?

Question: Is oral sex between a married man and woman a sin and if so where can it be found in the Bible? Answer: The act of sex is to be restricted to married couples. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). Such acts…

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How do you build trust in a marriage?

Question: I thank you for the lovely rebukes and instructions. While the instruction lines up with the word of God, so do the rebukes. Perhaps I do need to be utterly disgusted with some chemical controlling my life. I Corinthians 6:12, I’m sure, will guide me there through a study of the Word and its…

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Should I marry the father of my son?

Question: I am 21  years old and I have a 4-year-old son out of wedlock. I have a relationship with God for about a year, but I am confused. His father wants to be in our lives. We want to get married and move in together, but he is not a Christian. I love him…

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My husband says I deserve to be spanked

Question: My husband says I deserve to be spanked and I better obey him. Answer: It appears you didn’t make a wise choice in husbands. See “Does a husband have the right to spank his wife?”

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If a man gets a woman pregnant, must they marry?

Question: A man in the congregation where I preach committed fornication with a woman who is a “pastor” in a denomination. She became pregnant. Should he marry her, even if he does not love her? Answer: First, let us make clear that this pregnancy is a distracting issue. What should or should not happen is…

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My wife and I aren’t talking anymore. What do I do?

Question: I think I’ve damaged my marriage so badly that my wife wants a divorce. I’m controlling and I’m hard on the kids. I need to act better to them and be less overbearing, especially to my eldest. But I do love my kids dearly. My wife thinks I’ve cheated on her, yet I never have. I called a…

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My wife no longer has a desire for sex. What do I do?

Question: My wife has an illness that has effectively killed her desire for intercourse. I’m certainly not going to force her to do something that does not feel right for her. However, I am at my wit’s end. I still have desires for intercourse and I don’t have any outlets right now for it except…

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Dying Wedding Vows

by Joe R. Price Remember when “honor and obey” was a standard part of wedding vows? Then, the feminist movement said, “No way will I vow to obey my husband!” Today, you rarely hear a couple using this worthy vow to recognize and accept the roles and relationships God established in marriage (Genesis 2:22-24; 3:16;…

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I don’t believe a woman gives up her body when she marries

Question: When a woman marries a man she becomes his wife; this does not mean that she gives up her body and mind to a man (her husband). Rape can occur in a marriage. If a wife does not consent to sex and she is forced to have sex by her husband, this is rape.…

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Where did Cain get his wife?

Question: Where did Cain get his wife? Answer: Genesis 5:3-4 tells us, “And Adam lived one hundred and thirty years, and begot a son in his own likeness, after his image, and named him Seth. After he begot Seth, the days of Adam were eight hundred years; and he had sons and daughters.” Though Cain and…

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Does the definition of marriage change?

Question: If you have another look at the Bible you would see there is no condemnation actually against same-sex marriage. Thankfully a lot of Christians are seeing this now and same-sex unions are at last being made legal. Here, on December 5th, in the United Kingdom, same-sex couples will be able to marry. Also, marriage…

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What constitutes a marriage?

Question: What is marriage to start with? It cannot be what it is today — a man-made ceremony. Answer: “Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the LORD has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant.…

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How do I deal with a financially irresponsible wife?

Question: How do I deal with a wife who forges my name on checks, applies for credit cards in my name without my approval, hides the bills when they come in the mail, and then makes it my fault for what is going on financially? I am torn because I have a 9-year-old daughter whom…

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What should a wife do if she feels unloved?

Question: What should a wife do if she feels her husband doesn’t love her anymore? He only touches me when he wants sex. He won’t talk or discuss things with me. When I talk about the situation, he says that’s all I talk about. He works all the time, does things for other people, goes…

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Is married love different from Christian love?

Question: Is the love between husbands and wives any different from the love fellow Christians have for each other or for non-believers? Answer: Greek has three basic words for love, two of which are used in the Bible: Agape is a devoted love. It gives even when it is not returned. Agape is a love done on purpose;…

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I don’t need a piece of paper to say I’m married

Question: I could argue that God doesn’t recognize a piece of paper saying if you’re married. I believe in His eyes my girlfriend and I are married, and if we left each other we would commit the sin of divorce. If living in sin with my girlfriend is my worst sin, I’ll gladly take it.…

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What happens spiritually when a husband and wife have a sexual relationship?

Question: What happens spiritually when a husband and wife have a sexual relationship? Answer: When marriage was first instituted, we read, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). The phrase “become one flesh” includes the idea of sexual union,…

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Can you marry a near relative by marriage?

Question: Last night by a man came to the building after services. His wife passed away 4 years ago, and he has been seeing his deceased wife’s niece who is about his age. He has a son who is a member of the church who has told him that this is unscriptural. The only thing…

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How do I repair a damaged marriage?

Question: This is the third time I have written to you and I thank you for your previous replies, they have helped me a lot. I have a “What should I do now?” question. My wife and I have had a terrible year. Last year around this time I quit my job and we started to…

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Does a husband have the right to spank his wife?

Question: Does a husband have the right to spank his wife? Answer: Spanking is a form of discipline used by parents to correct their children, such as “He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly” (Proverbs 13:24). The rod is a reference to a slender branch used…

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Could cousins marry in biblical times?

Question: Could cousins marry in biblical times? Answer: The restriction on marrying near relatives changed as the world aged. In the beginning, the world was created in perfect condition. “Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good” (Genesis 1:31). There were no genetic defects to plague mankind at this…

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How do I save my marriage?

Question: You wrote that I could rescue my wife and my marriage. Please give me advice on saving my marriage and rescuing my wife. Answer: Many books have been written on this topic and trying to address an individual situation with almost nothing to go on is very difficult. The best that I can offer is…

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Should a woman deny her husband sex?

Question: Should a woman deny her husband sex? Answer: “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to…

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Can’t a wife abstain from sex for a few days?

Question: How dare you assume that a wife wishing to abstain from sex with her husband for one or many days constitutes ‘sinful ways.’ Sometimes wives are stressed or exhausted from caring for the children and the housework- asking for sex almost sounds like punishment. Once a man has raped his wife he is guilty…

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Why is sex a sin?

Question: Why is sex a sin? Answer: The short answer to your question is that sex is not a sin, but it can become a sin in certain situations. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). The Greek word koite is translated as “the bed” in…

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Is sex within marriage a privilege to be earned?

Question: Thank you for the timely reply. Though I do not agree with your comments, I find it interesting that you did not address the conclusion I stated about oral sex, cross-dressing, etc. being acceptable if sex is reduced to a physical level only (which is what happens when the situation occurs as I described). We…

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Is spousal rape grounds for divorce?

Question: Does spousal rape constitute fornication, or sexual immorality, thus giving grounds for divorce and remarriage? Answer: Some questions are difficult – not because we cannot clearly state the truth, but because the way the questions are worded cause you to make assumptions that may not be true. A classic example is “Are you still…

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Does spousal rape constitute fornication?

Question: Does spousal rape constitute fornication, or sexual immorality, thus giving grounds for divorce and remarriage? Answer: Some questions are difficult – not because we cannot clearly state the truth, but because the way the questions are worded cause you to make assumptions that may not be true. A classic example is “Are you still…

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Why Sex Outside of Marriage Is Wrong

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton In the United States, marriage is becoming increasingly rare. The 2000 U.S. Census found only 51% of all households are married couples, continuing a steady decline over the past several decades. Meanwhile, the number of unmarried couples living together has increased rapidly. In 2000, 5.4 million couples are living together without…

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Waiting for the Proper Time

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Few youngsters enjoy being told they must wait. When a thought enters their heads, they want to act on it right now. If they desire something, it must be in their possession right now. Any delay to a person who has not lived long appears to be impossibly long. Unfortunately, there…

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