Posts Tagged ‘lying’
I lied to my preacher about having committed fornication. Do I have to tell him?
Question: Hi, I started a relationship with a man about a month ago. One thing led to another and we had sex. I felt bad about it and asked for God’s forgiveness, but didn’t break it off with him. A few days ago I got a call from my pastor stating someone was at a…
Read MoreWe Lost the Surprise Somewhere
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton I remember watching Mayberry RFD and related shows most of my childhood. Poor ignorant Gomer Pyle who worked as an auto mechanic was a notable character. But I can still recall my shock when I found out that Jim Nabors, who played Gomer, could sing — not casually, but with a…
Read MoreMy husband says he wants to divorce me in order to have a polygamous marriage. What do I do?
Question: I am a Christian. I am writing because my husband wants a divorce. He has stated to me that he believes that he should be able to have more than one wife and live under one roof with them. I really think that he doesn’t believe that, but he just wants to be able…
Read MoreI didn’t want to start the year with lies so I told my husband about my past affair. How can I save my marriage?
Question: Hello, I committed adultery a few months ago, but I just told my husband because I didn’t want to bring the new year in with lies and deceit. My question is what can I do or say to make things work? I know I was wrong, but I want my marriage. I know it…
Read MoreI told my fiance the truth and he left me. Now, what do I do?
Question: I was going through your website and came across a testimony of how God restored a relationship. I am going through the same phase in life right now, and I need your guidance and advice. I was supposed to get married in a few months but everything got called off because of my lie.…
Read MoreI just found out my girlfriend lied about being a virgin. I forgave her, but I find it difficult to forget
Question: I am a 22-year-old guy and have been dating a lady for the past two years. Two days ago she notified me that she lost her virginity three years ago. To me, this came as a deep shock in that I had trusted her and had asked her if she had had sex before,…
Read MoreCan there be such a thing as a good lie?
Question: Good day, This issue of lying has been bothering me for quite some time now, and I felt I couldn’t keep it to myself. Jesus said in Revelation 21:8 that all liars will go to hell. Are there good lies? For example, if I am faced with a threatening situation in which a man…
Read MoreMy fiance and I engaged in foreplay. How do we answer the church if we are asked, knowing this will mean we cannot be wed in the church?
Question: How do we answer the church if I and my fiancé are asked if we have had sex before marriage when we have engaged in the foreplay of sexual activities? Knowing we cannot be wed in the church if we say yes, though we didn’t do the real act. Answer: First, there is no…
Read MoreI feel guilty that I didn’t tell my boyfriend that a year ago I kissed my ex-boyfriend
Question: I have been together with my current boyfriend for two years now. During our first six months together, there was one night I was out drinking with some friends when my ex, by surprise, was also there at the same place, and he sat at our table. We got to chat for a while…
Read MoreIs changing your mind a sin?
Question: I was wondering if it’s counted as a lie when I change my mind. This has been a problem for me lately. Let’s say I tell my wife “I’m having an egg sandwich for lunch” and then make a hamburger, is that lying? If I tell myself that I will not drink coffee ever…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend about being a virgin and it has been bothering me. What do I do?
Question: I have something that’s been bothering me lately, and I have to get it out somewhere. I started dating this girl four years ago for two years. While we were dating we were completely in love and agreed that we wouldn’t have sex until marriage. After we broke up my loneliness pressured me into…
Read MoreDo I need to tell my husband all the details about my past affair?
Question: I been married for about twenty years. Several years ago I had an affair with a man that went on for a few years. I gave myself to this man: mind, soul, and body. My husband found out, but I lied about the sex. He is asking me again. Should I tell him I…
Read MoreI confessed that I committed fornication before my marriage, but I lied about the details. What should I do?
Question: Hello Sir, I have done something terrible! Like others searching through your questions and answers section, I cheated on my wife while she was my fiance. The guilt of cheating and the guilt of cheating with this specific type of person is eating me away! I have always been close to the Lord and…
Read MoreI lied to my boyfriend about having oral sex with another man. What do I do now?
Question: Good evening, sir, I was reading information from your website. I have a little problem and need your help. My boyfriend is always busy with work, and I have complained several times. Unfortunately, I ended up cheating on him by engaging in kissing and oral sex. I apologized to my boyfriend but couldn’t go…
Read MoreWhat was the first lie told in the Bible?
Question: What was the first lie told in the Bible? Was it the serpent talking to Eve? Answer: Yes, it was. God had said, “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you…
Read MoreWhat if a government gives false reasons for going to war?
Question: I am wondering what the Bible says concerning going to war for unjustified reasons? What if a country deceives its people and claims reasons for going to war, but there is evidence that does not justify war? How do Christians and Christians in the military handle this type of situation? Answer: A government’s authority,…
Read MoreIs it a lie to friend someone on Facebook that you don’t know?
Question: Hi there, Please tell me, if we have sent friend requests to people on Facebook that we had never met before and do not know that is like lying then what? Will we keep sinning by lying as long as we leave the friend requests stand to the persons we have sent to the…
Read MoreIf you say one thing in a joking manner, but then do the opposite, is it still a lie just because the other person missed the joke?
Question: I was wondering about lying. Let’s say my wife tells me just want to look at my hobby and my response is no, but I say it in a very playful way — a way that she knows that I am playing and that I really mean that yes I was wanting to look…
Read MoreMy wife asked me if I thought about cheating on her. I didn’t handle it well. What should I do?
Question: I’m a fairly new Christian. My wife asked me if I’d thought about cheating on her. I had sadly committed adultery at heart, but I told her I hadn’t thought about it. I had lied. I have repented of this, and am on constant guard to keep those thoughts out, but should I tell…
Read MoreI feel obsessed to correct any inaccuracies in what I say. Is this a problem?
Question: What should you do if you were talking to someone and you think you might have said something or explained something wrong? Couldn’t this be considered lying even if you didn’t purposely do it? And wouldn’t that mean that you should explain it better so you tell the truth? I think I get at…
Read MoreIs it wrong to report less than what something costs so as to pay less tax?
Question: I have some questions. Part of my job is running an importing business for my small shop. My supplier asked if she can lower the invoice price to make my tax smaller. Is this a sin? The people at the customs office offered me a cheaper solution to the taxes I pay. Instead of…
Read MoreIf you tell a lie to someone you barely know, will you go to hell?
Question: Well, I don’t know why, but I said I hated the Bible. Right after I said that I got worried and started to say I didn’t mean it! I feel so horrible and scared. The second is that if I lied to someone I barely knew, will God forgive me? Can I move on…
Read MoreSeeing Only What You Want to See
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/SeeingOnlyWhatYouWantToSee.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Psalms 50 I. I would like to share a portion of a letter I received: “I am in love with this girl who loved me too. We loved each other so crazily but at one point I realized that she had been lying to me for no reason to…
Read MoreWhy was Abram rewarded for lying to Pharaoh?
Question: I just read Genesis 12:1-20 and I’m a little perplexed by it. Abram bent the truth concerning Sarai by getting her to say she was his sister rather than his wife when they came into Egypt. I know she was his half-sister by his father, but it was still a lie. So why was…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend, telling her I was a virgin when I am not. What should I do?
Question: My girlfriend and I recently talked a bit about our past relationships, and the subject of being virgins slowly came up. Although I have tried my best to live a good Christian life, there came a point where under pressure I lost my virginity. It only occurred once and never again afterward. I realized…
Read MoreIs it wrong to leave out some of my employment history on a resume?
Question: I often struggle with discerning what might be God’s conviction over sin and what might be me worrying excessively. Recently, I filled out a job application that asked for a separate sheet for additional employment that was “relevant to the position” I was applying for. I held many, many jobs during college, some for…
Read MoreIf I don’t tell my wife I sinned, isn’t that lying?
Question: Hello. I’ve been reading through many of the posts on your site regarding adultery and lying. I have found much of it to be very helpful, but I am struggling with some of what you advise. In several of the posts on adultery, you advise the person who committed adultery that it would be best to…
Read MoreHow can I get to heaven if I’ve told a lie?
Question: I was pondering this question. Jesus states that those who are liars, murderers, etc. will not inherit the kingdom of God. In Revelation, it states “And nothing unclean and no one who practices abomination and lying, shall ever come into it, but only those whose names are written in the Lamb’s book of life.”…
Read MoreIs all lying bad?
Question: This question is about lying. Is lying in all views, such as white lies or small lies, a sin? Is there such a thing as using a lie to help someone? I can’t think of a good example now, but I do hope you know what I mean. There are also lies about even…
Read MoreLittle Lies
by Rusty Miller “Buy truth, and do not sell it” (Proverbs 23:23). Of all the things God desires most, none has suffered more in recent times than honesty. The lie is no longer something to be scorned; in fact, “everybody lies” is the most common excuse heard when someone is actually caught in a lie.…
Read MoreThe Worse Lies
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/WorseLies.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Isaiah 59:1-15 I. In describing Israel’s plight, God lists out the sins in which they had been involved in Isaiah 59:1-15 A. Repeatedly through this passage lies and a lack of truth is brought up B. Lies are sinful, but more so, sinners lie 1. How does the addict attempt to avoid…
Read MoreWho are those who love and practice a lie?
Question: In Revelation 22:15, John seems to be saying one last time who will enter the kingdom and who will not. All the other things I understand, but the last part when he says those who love and practice a lie is somewhat unclear to me. I understand the general meaning and how that relates…
Read MoreMy friend is planning to commit fraud. What should I do?
Question: I have an ethical problem. I recently became aware of a friend planning on committing what is basically insurance fraud with his car due to his financial situation and his car having so many issues. I know when and how he plans on having his vehicle “stolen” and stripped as well as what insurance…
Read MoreIf a person says “If I’m lying, may I go to hell” and then lies, will God forgive them if they repent?
Question: I can’t really remember if I have ever done this, but I am kind of sure I have. I hope I never said this, but if someone says to a person: “If I am lying, may I go to hell,” and then they lie, will they go to hell even if they repent? Answer: I…
Read MoreI lied in my earlier note to satisfy a spanking fetish
Question: The following email conversation was made up on my part. I have had a fetish of spanking since I was 4 years old as far as I can remember. I recently had a memory restored to me of being spanked at 1 1/2 years old. I established some dysfunctional associations with spanking and my sexuality…
Read MoreThough my husband is divorcing me in order to marry another woman, he is telling everyone that I’m the one who committed adultery. How can I defend myself?
Question: My husband of 25 years has recently left me for another woman. He admits, to me, that he committed adultery with this woman and wants to marry her. OK, I’ll have to work through that. The problem is that he has told all of our extended family, none of whom live in this state,…
Read MoreI married a woman in name only so she could become a citizen of my country. I have a girlfriend and a child by her. How do I fix this mess?
Question: I have a question. I married someone so that they might become a citizen of my country. I did not do this for money, but because I felt it the right thing to do at the time, although I was aware I might be misusing marriage as God intended. We have never been intimately…
Read MoreI’m carrying about so much guilt. I hide it from my parents, but am I wrong for doing so?
Question: For some time, I have carried guilt for many things; guilt which I am not often able to suppress. I am a fifteen-year-old girl and my life hasn’t exactly been a box of roses. Within the first three years of my life, I was fed lies by my aunt, by my mother, and I…
Read MoreWhy were the Israelites not to use diverse weights?
Question: In Proverbs 20:10 it reads, “Divers weights, and divers measures, both of them are alike abomination to the Lord.” This is also stated in Proverbs 20:23 with a reference to Deuteronomy 25:13 which reads, “Thou shalt not have in thy bag divers weights, a great and a small.” I know that “divers” means many…
Read MoreIf a person is married under false pretenses, is it still a valid marriage?
Question: Does the Bible mention false marriages or are all marriages valid? This year alone, three women who escaped from Michigan prisons more than thirty years ago have been captured and returned to Michigan. One woman who has received a lot of attention moved to California, changed her name, got married, raised a family, and…
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