How do we keep from going too far?

Question: My boyfriend (21 years old) and I (20 years old) have been going out for almost 3 years now and were best friends for 2 years before that. Both of our parents have decided that marriage is out of the question until we finish our degrees, so we have about 6 more years until…

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Is it a sin to marry after having sex?

Question: I have one question for you because I’m really confused about what to decide. Please help me. My question is that my girlfriend and I plan to marry next year. We are both Christian, but we have already been having sex. I never had sex with another woman and she has only had sex…

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Do fornication and other sexual sins cause damage later in marriage?

Question: Do fornication and other sexual sins cause damage later in marriage? My girlfriend and I have grown up in Christian families, but we haven’t followed our parents’ teachings, and we ended up in sinful relationships. I had a long-term relationship with a girl and we have had sex. My current girlfriend had a few…

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What should I do? We keep having sex when it is wrong

Question: Hello, I am in need of your advice. I am in a relationship with this guy. He is a great guy, and I am so excited about our friendship. Initially in our relationship, I made him understand we weren’t having sex until we married, but somehow along the way, we started having sex. The…

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Is it possible to stop having sex until we marry?

Question: My girlfriend and I committed fornication. I want to change our lifestyle long before, but both of us can’t successfully do it. We did it for almost a year, but then we were tempted. I love her, but both of us are too weak to stay away from sex. Do I need to break…

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Can I really change after my past?

Question: Hi, I’ve been reading the questions and answers on your site recently. My problem, like a lot of other people, is about fornication and forgiveness. I’m in my mid-twenties, and every time I was involved in a relationship, I found myself becoming so dependent on the guy that I turned away from God and…

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We are already living together, so what do we do until the wedding?

Question: I have enjoyed reading the information on your site. I’m having a similar situation, but I still haven’t received the answer that I’m looking for, even after reading your site. Both my fiancé and I have been living together for almost a year now, and we are getting married. We both have strong believers…

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I got drunk and had sex. I don’t know what to do now.

Question: Well, here goes. My family members are Christians and when I was a kid I believed in it all. But in my late teens and early twenties, I got involved in the wrong things and hung around the wrong people. I was involved in a lot of drinking. My dad finally kicked me out…

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I don’t like the answers you give about sexual sins

Question: Dear Sir, I was reading on your website a letter that a young woman had written to you about feeling very guilty about going too far with her boyfriend. Being that she was away from home and at college with new friends she put God out of her life and that was how it was…

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We’ve been sexual. Are we going to hell?

Question: My boyfriend and I have done some sexual things. We love each other, and I know I’m going to marry him someday. We’ve been struggling to stop, but I think the time has come to give up these things, as I know that it is not right in the eyes of the Lord. Are…

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Should I take responsibility for another man’s child?

Question: I have been going out with this girl for about five years now. Just recently she got pregnant with another guy. She confessed to me that she doesn’t love that guy and does not believe she can be happy with him. I later told her if the other guy does not take up his…

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Are you permanently defiled after fornication?

Question: Good day, I’m a 20-year-old female, and I’m a Christian. I got saved when I was around 13 years old but ever since then, I’ve never lived my life according to the principles of Christian. I started engaging in sexual immorality (masturbating and pornography) at an early age when I didn’t know what I…

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What do we do, now that a member has confessed to being a pedophile?

Question: A week ago a brother in Christ has confessed to his wife (our sister in Christ) that he’s been molesting several little kids. He came forward because he’s been caught. He repented in front of the church (not giving any details). He asked the congregation to pray for him regarding his sexual problems and…

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Should I just stop asking for child support payments?

Question: I  am a single mother with a young son. The child’s father and I  are not on speaking terms. However, I have started growing closer with the Lord and looking at life differently. First, my child is an infant and the issue between his father and I began while I was pregnant. When my…

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I want to move on after my boyfriend left

Question: It’s been three years since we started dating. It all began because we had sex. We are trying to do the right thing by dating and getting married one day so that we would remain each others’ first. We couldn’t stop the sexual sin. Now we have broken up. I feel like I am…

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How do I get past my sexual sins?

Question: I read your article about the girl who committed fornication. You provided a wonderful answer for her. I was also was raised in the church. I have walked away and came back so many times I have lost count. I have committed way too many sins to even start to number. I do not…

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Could I go to heaven after committing all these sins?

Question: I have a bunch of questions, but please answer them. If you Have sex before you are married, Drink, smoke, or do drugs, Use God’s name frivolously, Steal, and Tell people that you hate going to church and it’s a big waste of time will you go to hell, or at least go to spiritual jail?…

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Should I marry the Catholic woman I’m living with?

Question: Hey, I’m having a hard time getting my head around a few things. First, I was brought up in a loving Protestant Christian home and lost my way through high school. I am now in my mid-twenties and I’m engaged to a Catholic. We’ve bought a house and are living together. We’re due to…

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More Children are Born Out of Wedlock

Source: Young Children and Their Complex Families: Facing Some Uncomfortable Facts, Child Trends, 25 March 2013. Source: Jason DeParle and Sabrina Tavernise, “For Women Under 30, Most Births Occur Outside Marriage,” New York Times, 17 February 2012. Source: “Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America”, 2013 “Today, more children than ever are born outside of…

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Will God forgive my years of fornication?

Question: Dear sir, I am a young guy in my thirties and have fornicated for years until I met a woman I cherish with my life. We have agreed to marry. Then she told me she can’t go out with me again. It is impossible for me to even eat. I just told God that…

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