Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
My husband of a few months thinks he married too young and wants a divorce. What should I do?
Question: My husband is much younger than I am. We’ve been married now for just a few months. Our relationship took off kind of fast. He is deployed now to another country and since has been going back and forth with the thought of divorce. I have kids, none of them are his by blood.…
Read MoreIf someone is in an adulterous marriage, what happens if his original spouse dies?
Question: I’ve got a scenario concerning divorce and remarriage for you: Jack and Jill are scripturally married. Jack commits adultery, and Jill puts him away for adultery. Both of them remarry, but Jill dies before Jack does. Question: Is Jack’s marriage no longer adulterous according to Romans 7:2-3, and would this equally apply if the original scenario…
Read MoreHow can a person living in an adulterous marriage still be in sin after baptism?
Question: I don’t understand how a non-believer, who divorced their spouse for reasons other than fornication and remarries, if they are born again, are living in sin. I thought when you are baptized all of your sins were forgiven according to Acts 2:38. Are only certain sins forgivable? Can you give me some more clarification…
Read MoreMy congregation is becoming more unscriptural. Should I find another one?
Question: My home congregation is slowly beginning to make some unscriptural moves. I have been told by another gospel preacher that my home congregation has a bad reputation. Our evangelist holds an erroneous view on marriage, divorce, and remarriage. He believes that Christ’s covenant is for Christians only and that since an alien sinner didn’t…
Read MoreIs a child bride really married?
Question: Recently I was participating in a discussion with several Christians regarding biblical divorce. One of the group members brought up the marriage of young girls in Third World cultures, such as Afghanistan or Pakistan. From what we have read these girls are sold into marriage by their fathers or extended families. One instance made…
Read MoreMy wife has been committing adultery with her step-brother. What do I do?
Question: Should I stay married and does my wife need to tell the truth? I have been married for over 15 years. I caught my wife cheating on me 10 years ago with her step-brother. She said all they did was kiss, but I knew it was not true. We reconciled to keep our family…
Read MoreWhat if your spouse left you? What do you do now?
Question: I have read your article about “Is divorce a sin?” I have one question: What if your spouse left you? I was not a fornicator and begged him not to divorce me. We were married for nearly ten years. I have been divorced now for over five years now. I was baptized last year and have been struggling…
Read MoreI need a dumbed-down version about divorce and remarriage
Question: I was wondering about a book called A Review of Homer Hailey’s The Divorced & Remarried Who Come To God by Weldon Warnock. Have you read it or know the author? He takes a stand against Homer Hailey’s, but I was wondering your opinion on it. I still need the divorce and remarriage issues explained to…
Read MoreIf a person is in an unscriptural marriage, must the person divorce before becoming a Christian?
Question: Do you agree it is scriptural if a non-Christian who was previously married but got divorced for unscriptural reasons and was re-married and wants to become a Christian has to get divorced before they can be baptized? Answer: Can a person become a Christian while remaining in their former sins? “Certainly not! How shall…
Read MoreI don’t know if I should remarry my ex-husband or another man who says he loves me
Question: I divorced my husband because he told me that I forced him to marry me and that he wanted to be free. He also committed adultery, which was the main reason I divorced him. We have two boys. We decided to get back together and save our family. We are now living together again.…
Read MoreDo I need to remarry my ex-husband?
Question: You helped me earlier with a problem I was having at work. (Thanks again) So I was wondering if I could ask you to assist me with another problem that has recently come up. I divorced my husband due to his adultery. He remarried and now he and his new wife have a son. My ex-husband has been…
Read MoreI caught my wife being intimate with another man. Can I divorce her?
Question: I caught my wife being intimate with another man. Can I divorce her? Answer: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery” (Matthew 19:6). If you decide that this marriage cannot work because of her on-going adulterous relationships, then you are permitted to divorce…
Read MoreIsn’t divorce a sin? So how can a preacher insist that two people, who had divorced and remarried, to get divorced before they can be baptized?
Question: This one is about marriage and divorce: Everyone is confused about this. The problem is a few people have been baptized and before they were baptized they had been divorced and remarried again. I have heard preachers telling them to get divorced. I personally do not see how that would be right because making them get…
Read MoreThough my husband is divorcing me in order to marry another woman, he is telling everyone that I’m the one who committed adultery. How can I defend myself?
Question: My husband of 25 years has recently left me for another woman. He admits, to me, that he committed adultery with this woman and wants to marry her. OK, I’ll have to work through that. The problem is that he has told all of our extended family, none of whom live in this state,…
Read MoreShould we refuse to study with someone who is in an adulterous marriage?
Question: My question is this: When studying with someone who is not in the Lord and they have remarried and their first marriage was ended and not for fornication or death; is it right to refuse that person study unless they leave their present husband since their first marriage wasn’t for biblical reasons? Or, are…
Read MoreBecause I’m committing adultery, does that mean I can’t go to heaven?
Question: I was bought up to go to Sunday school every Sunday at a Free Evangelical Church. I don’t what that stands for, but I got lost in life with God and Jesus. When I was young I had a friend who was a Jehovah’s Witness and we were told we couldn’t play together. We…
Read MoreWas it wrong to leave a marriage when my ex-husband had tried to kill my son and me?
Question: Was I wrong to leave the marriage? My ex-husband tried to kill my son and me. He told me that he was a baptized Christian. Then he said he was Catholic. After that, he said he did not believe in God at all and cursed His name many times. I have since remarried, but…
Read MoreDo spouses who knowingly break their marriage covenant ever realize their error?
Question: Do spouses who break their marriage covenant knowingly (having true knowledge of what God says on the matter) ever come to a realization of their error? Do they actually regret what they did? I ask this because having read posts and articles on your web site about spouses (Christians) who are guilty of this…
Read MoreIs “Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the Bible” by Jay E. Adams biblically correct?
Question: Please, I would like to know if you have read the book “Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the Bible” by Jay E. Adams. Is this book by Jay Adams biblically and scripturally correct, especially in regards to the remarriage of the innocent and guilty party in a divorce? I will like to know your…
Read MoreIs it a sin to sleep with your ex-husband?
Question: My husband and I recently got divorced we have two children together. We still love each other very much and are still sleeping together. Is it a sin to sleep with your ex-husband? Answer: It seems to me you are asking the wrong question. I’m wondering why you aren’t marrying the man you claim…
Read MoreDo I need to leave my marriage?
Question: I need some advice: I met my husband through work when we briefly worked together on a project. He was recently separated and at first, we just talked but then he started to phone me every day at work and would chat for a few minutes just to say “hi.” I did not discourage…
Read MoreI caught my husband committing incest. We are now separated, but I’m being told I owe him sex. I don’t plan to return to this man, so do I owe him sex while we are separated?
Question: My husband and I both attend the same church but we are separated. I have no intention of reconciling with him. I have been separated from him before and took him back after he stated that he was born again and was a “changed man”. We moved back together, had rocky times, but I…
Read MoreMy husband cheated and I cheated. I lived with a man for years before the divorce was final. We eventually married, but did I have the right to marry again?
Question: As I read through some of your posts on adultery, one comes strongly out to me. I will explain my situation: I married a man. I didn’t talk to God or parents before it and we were kids, even as adults we were kids. Then we had a kid. He cheated, I cheated. We…
Read MoreMy husband claims he been seeing other women where sexual touching was involved but no intercourse. He thinks it is no big deal. Do I have grounds for a divorce?
Question: I recently found some inappropriate emails to my husband (of 15 years) from another woman. He admitted to me that he has been with four other women starting about 5 years ago. He says there was no intercourse only sexual touching. He touched their genitals and they touched his leading to arousal but no…
Read MoreWhy Marriages Fail
by Jefferson David Tant via Vanguard, December 1982 The failure of marriage has become the American way of life — a significant change from former generations. In 1870, one of 34 marriages ended in divorce. By 1900, the rate had risen to one in twelve, increasing to one in five by 1940. According to an article…
Read MoreMy ex-husband committed adultery, but I didn’t try to stop it. Do I need to leave my current husband in hopes of remarrying my ex-husband?
Question: I was married to my husband for over thirty years. We had both become unhappy, but I didn’t know that he planned to leave me the day after Christmas five years ago. I had not been thinking of leaving, I just wanted some problems resolved. He left for a week and we reconciled, so…
Read MoreI had an affair and divorced my husband. Now I have married again. Is it wrong to stay married to this second man?
Question: I know divorce is wrong. I know adultery is wrong. I have committed adultery, got a divorce and I have remarried to a man that I had an affair with. He and I both go to church now and we both know we have sinned and have asked for forgiveness from God and our…
Read MoreIsn’t divorce for any reason other than fornication a sin?
Question: Where is the Scripture that God allows divorce for any reason other than fornication, such as drug addiction, or abuse? I Corinthians 7:10 is not giving permission to divorce. It is a command not to. If disobeyed, however, I Corinthians 7:11 says she must remain unmarried. There is only one scriptural cause for divorce — fornication. You said there…
Read MoreI was involved in porn and prostitution, but I repented since getting caught. My wife still wants to divorce me. Do I deserve a chance to show I’ve changed?
Question: I have been a Christian, a member of the church of Christ, since the age of 13. I also have been in the grasp of sexual addiction all that time. I married, almost a quarter-century ago, a beautiful Christian lady who deserved better. Through the years I have used porn and escorts to satisfy…
Read MoreMy husband has become distant to me since the death of his daughter. Now he wants out of our marriage. What should I do?
Question: My husband and I married seven years ago. A year after we were married, my husband lost his 21-year-old daughter in a car wreck. She left behind a daughter (our granddaughter) who was 18 months old and she lives with her father. I was also very close to his daughter. We had a wonderful…
Read MoreHow could my wife say she wants to repair our marriage when she has a court order against me?
Question: I am amazed at the way my wife asked you the question about us divorcing or not. On Feb 13, 2009, you received a question from her that left out everything that is important. I once served as a minister of a congregation. My wife and I did not have sex before we got married (and…
Read MoreI wonder if Jesus would approve my getting divorced and how do you forgive a husband who is an unrepentant adulterer?
Question: I am seriously considering divorcing my husband. We are separated and I have reason to believe he has committed adultery. I understand that if he has, and I divorce him, I am free to marry another. However, I see it is an option given to us in scripture under such circumstances. My dilemma is that while I feel it…
Read MoreMy wife is planning to leave me after the house sells and I don’t know what to do
Question: Hello, I understand the vows which I made to my wife. I honor those, but she emotionally detached herself from me eight months ago and does not respond to me in a loving manner at all. I do not withhold my love for her, yet I hurt all the time and have cried out…
Read MoreI just found out my husband had an affair eight years ago. Am I free to leave this marriage?
Question: I would like some more information on fornication. My husband confessed to me this morning that he had a physical affair with a co-worker eight years ago. He said it just happened once and he has hated himself for it ever since. His behavior so long ago explains a lot of the way he…
Read MoreIs it a sin to divorce someone because they were violent?
Question: Today I was researching on why people divorce each other and found your web site giving sound counsel to many. I do also have a question regarding marriage violence. I have a friend who had to flee home because her husband was violent, he had beaten her in front of her daughters. He had…
Read MoreHow do you move on when your husband leaves you for another person?
Question: How do you move on when your husband leaves you for another person, and he is a Christian who knows better? Answer: I’m really sorry about your plight. It must be devastating. The thing to keep in mind is that you can only do what is within your ability to control. Your husband was…
Read MoreCan a divorced person remarry if adultery occurred after the divorce?
Question: If two people are divorced for unbiblical grounds and there is no adultery at the time, yet one spouse after the divorce marries someone else or is sexually immoral is the other then free to remarry another? Answer: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another,…
Read MoreDoes a divorce because of forced sex in marriage allow for remarriage?
Question: I just read the article regarding whether marital rape is biblical grounds for divorce. This question is brought up at the end: “Meanwhile, what is the husband supposed to do? I think the answer is “wait.” If your wife were deathly ill, you would have no problem foregoing sex during her illness.” In my particular…
Read MoreDo I need to renew my vows with my current husband since my former husband has died?
Question: I have spoken to several sound brethren who are elders and ministers in churches of Christ in regard to marriage, divorce, and remarriage. This is the situation that I addressed to them concerning myself: I was in a previous marriage with a man for twelve years. The man I was married to had a…
Read MoreMy wife left me six weeks ago and I am at my wit’s end
Question: Hello, My wife left me six weeks ago. My life has been a living nightmare since then. I really don’t know the real reason for her leaving. When she left, she told me that she didn’t think she should be here anymore and she thought she was attracted to women. I found out bits…
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