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Should I take responsibility for another man’s child?
Question: I have been going out with this girl for about five years now. Just recently she got pregnant with another guy. She confessed to me that she doesn’t love that guy and does not believe she can be happy with him. I later told her if the other guy does not take up his…
Read MoreI love your article on tithing
Question: I love your article on tithing. As someone who has faced financial hardship while raising 11 kids on one paycheck, I, as well as my husband, have felt like a failure for not giving enough. At first, we tried to keep tithing but our checks were bouncing, and why should God support a false belief…
Read MoreI messed up with sex. I know it is wrong, but how do I change the situation?
Question: Hi there, I’ve come across your site and read a few articles on what you’ve been writing on with regards to sex outside marriage and all. I have a little problem and I would like to discuss it with you. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost about half a year now. I take…
Read MoreHow do I teach a withdrawn-from family member who thinks God is directing her?
Question: I have a family member who was at one time in the Lord’s church. Recently she told me she is “rebelling” against the ‘church’ (was in a denominational church), so I finally asked what was meant by ‘rebelling’ and she said there were so many errors and problems in this church or that one,…
Read MoreI would like to take a girl out, but she has had bad experiences with guys. How do I convince her I’m different?
Question: How do you ask out a young lady who is so convinced that guys are all the same — i.e they are liars and cheats in relationships? She is a nice young lady, hardworking with a good character but seems to have been hurt from previous relationships. I know I’m not perfect. But I…
Read MoreHow do I forget an event which I’ve already forgiven?
Question: Hello, I would like to first say thank you for having a wonderful website. It helped me view matters in a different perspective. My question today regards letting go and moving forward. How do I drop my personal pride and move on? How do I forget an event which I’ve already forgiven? (This matter,…
Read MoreYour notes on the “Sons of Thunder” were particularly poignant for me today
Question: This morning, I read your notes on the sermon entitled “Sons of Thunder”. Thank you for posting them, as they are particularly poignant for me today. Answer: I’m glad it is helping you in your studies.
Read MoreThe Q&A is a great resource!
Question: I have been a member of the church for almost 30 years and attend regularly. Thank you for the service that you provide through your Q&A site — it really is a great resource! Answer: I’m glad you are finding it useful.
Read MoreI want to know God and feel Jesus’ love, but I don’t know how
Question: Am I worthy of God’s grace? If so, why is it that I am lost and can’t control my sins? My whole childhood was a mess during my parents’ divorce. I guess never having a father around made me blame everything on my mother. Getting older I followed what everyone else was doing. I got…
Read MoreAre the sexual things we do sinful if we plan on marrying?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating for over three years now, and it’s a given that we’ve faced sexual temptation. Though we have not gone “all the way” we have done mostly everything else. We’ve talked about marrying each other and think it’s a very real possibility. If this is the case, are…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My husband is a drug addict
Question: Dear sir, I have a question about my marriage. My husband is addicted to drugs. I’ve been praying and trying so hard to get him to stop. He keeps promising and goes back to it. We live overseas and things are getting so hard for me, more than I can handle. We have a…
Read MoreIs there a possibility of being kind to an angel or are we just entertaining for angels to watch?
Question: In Hebrews 13:2 it says we are to be hospitable because in doing so some have entertained angels unawares. I’m trying to understand if this means there is a possibility we could show kindness to an actual angel (appearing as a human), or if by “entertaining” it is talking about them being entertained (i.e.…
Read MoreCan a church buy and sell properties?
Question: I’ve been thinking a lot about authority and what ways the church is authorized to receive money into the treasury. Freewill offerings are the only means, correct? The church does not have the authority to open a business to support its funds, correct? If those are true, a question struck me: Does the church…
Read MoreI think my music is giving me bad thoughts
Question: Hello, I have been constantly having bad thoughts and thoughts about things that haven’t happened. I also have been having thoughts about past conversations and events that I don’t want to remember. I know we can sin in our minds, that is why I ask God to forgive me for the bad thoughts. They…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My parents won’t allow me to marry the man I love
Question: I come from a Christian family. I’m lost, I’m confused, I’m miserable. It’s a very long story, hope you can bear with me. I’m 29 years old. Two years ago, I committed fornication with my boyfriend, whom I had known for about two years at that time. We just started a relationship not long…
Read MoreIs it wrong to use instrumental music during a talent show at the building?
Question: I know musical instruments are not to be used in the worship setting. But our leadership is too biblical at times. Some are so biblical that they rather call an event a Gospel meeting and not a revival. I know that we must obey those who rule over us, but you being a leader in the…
Read MoreShould the Lord’s Supper be passed forward from the back?
Question: I am concerned with the way our church serves communion. The elders decided to no longer place the communion plate on the table that says in Remembrance of Me and will pass it from the back of the church. First, they pass the contribution basket and then the wine and bread. It bothers me…
Read MoreAre you permanently defiled after fornication?
Question: Good day, I’m a 20-year-old female, and I’m a Christian. I got saved when I was around 13 years old but ever since then, I’ve never lived my life according to the principles of Christian. I started engaging in sexual immorality (masturbating and pornography) at an early age when I didn’t know what I…
Read MoreWhat do we do, now that a member has confessed to being a pedophile?
Question: A week ago a brother in Christ has confessed to his wife (our sister in Christ) that he’s been molesting several little kids. He came forward because he’s been caught. He repented in front of the church (not giving any details). He asked the congregation to pray for him regarding his sexual problems and…
Read MoreHow can I forgive my husband for his adultery?
Question: I have been married for almost 25 years and found out several weeks ago that my husband has had an affair. I knew something was wrong but was too blind to know what for the past two years and sought Christian counsel to help me. One person asked me if I thought he could…
Read MoreWho started the church in Rome?
Question: Hi Jeff, Got a quick question for you. Do we know who started up the congregation in Rome? Of course, we know that it wasn’t Paul from the way he words his epistle to them, but I wondered just who did or if we even know. Thanks. Answer: The quick answer is no; we…
Read MoreWhy does my wife despise me?
Question: I desperately need godly counsel concerning my marriage. Let me start out by setting up the scenario first. I met my wife at church when I was a teenager. We were friends for the first few years, then started dating, and then got engaged. She is the only woman I have ever dated or…
Read MoreShould we move near each other before getting married?
Question: Hello, I need some advice. You see, my girlfriend and I have been friends for a while. We prayed together and made sure we were the ones for each other before we did anything. Our relationship is definitely God-centered. It’s so amazing! But we are in a long-distance relationship. I live in a different…
Read MoreHow can I get faith?
Question: I really need some advice. You see, I’ve tried to follow the path of Christ so many times I don’t even think I can count. I have never been baptized, but I want to. I’m just scared “what if I get baptized and I backslide?” I want to follow the path, but I just…
Read MoreCan a former murderer be forgiven and be able to work?
Question: Dear Minister, I committed murder at the age of 19 and spent the next 21 years in prison. I was released several years ago. I have been trying to figure out if I can truly be forgiven for the murder that I committed, and if so, just how do I get forgiven, and attempt…
Read MoreThe man I committed adultery with is trying to force me to marry him. What should I do?
Question: I have a child whom I had with a man to whom I am not married. Actually, I’m still married to another man whom I left because of physical, and mental, and emotional abuse. My child’s father has since been confirmed to the Catholic church. He calls our child a bad word for illegitimate.…
Read MoreThe article “Command or Custom” is wonderful!
Question: Greetings! Thank you for this wonderful article! In my 2+ years of Internet research of I Corinthians 11, I must tell you this is the best article I have ever read that proves I Corinthians 11 is talking about a physical covering and not a woman’s hair as a covering and that it was not custom or cultural practice “back then” and that it…
Read MoreWhat do you do when the elders are not listening to the congregation?
Question: Hello, I’m a member of the church of Christ. I just read the article “Majority vs Elder Rule”. Our congregation is currently going through something that. I, myself, personally have never experienced it. We have elders who are not really being the leaders they should be, and in this case, with the majority of…
Read MoreIf I want something so badly that I think I would be willing to go to hell to get it, and then I do get it, will I end up in hell?
Question: Hi, I’ve been very scared of not going to heaven and going to hell. When I really want something, I sometimes think I would burn in hell just to have it happen. It sometimes actually does happen, and it really scares me because I thought I’d burn in hell to have it happened. Does…
Read MoreWe haven’t done anything really bad, so why are our lives so difficult?
Question: Hi there, I hope you are doing fine. I am only 19. I’m married, my husband is 20. Neither of us has done anything really really bad in our lives, but yet we are suffering like we are the worse people on earth. Of course, we have sinned, but this is just ridiculous. I…
Read MoreWas I too impatient when I gave my mother constructive criticism?
Question: Hello, I am really into Christianity and trying to learn and grow, but they still seem to be rather worldly. I am trying to lead by example, but I wonder if that is enough. The knowledge that they could die at any time makes me want to be rather hasty and get on them…
Read MoreHow do you handle an annoying younger brother?
Question: Hi, I read one of your answers to a similar question, and I was hoping you could help me with mine: I’m 17 and I have a younger brother, age 14. The past few days he has been using really bad words –words that would make anyone angry. He has been avoiding me, constantly…
Read MoreShould a government legislate morality?
Question: I have had a question for some time now, and have found it difficult to find clear answers in the Scriptures. I know there are many Old Testament accounts, but as far as a New Testament church, it seems quite muddy to me: Should a government legislate morality? I attend a church that has…
Read MoreAre the teachings of the Christian Science church Christian enough?
Question: Are the teachings of the Christian Science church Christian enough? Answer: Christian Science only follows the teachings of Jesus in part. It denies that the Bible is complete (II Timothy 3:16-17). It doesn’t think the Bible has everything need for life and godliness (II Peter 1:3). It doesn’t think that God’s teaching was given…
Read MoreMust you marry in the church you attend?
Question: Is it compulsory to marry in the church you attend? Why? Answer: Marriage has existed from the time the world was created (Genesis 2:24). It is not defined by any church or denomination. It was given to all of mankind and existed long before the church. Where a couple gets married makes no difference.…
Read MoreI’m hurt that my daughter wants to buy her stepmother a gift, but never talks about getting a gift for me
Question: I’m hurt that my daughter wants to get her stepmom a gift for Mother’s Day. My daughter has never asked me to buy a gift. The step mom is my former husband’s mistress who is now his wife, but my daughter doesn’t know this. She and my husband were so opened with their affair…
Read MoreWhy does I Corinthians 13 list three gifts as stopping when I Corinthians 12 lists nine gifts?
Question: Mr. Hamilton, I have something that came to mind about I Corinthians 13:8-10, in these verses it names three gifts that ended but in chapter 12 there are nine spiritual gifts. How do I explain to someone the other six ended as well? Thank you. Answer: When we deal with a long list of…
Read MoreHow do you handle a 10-year-old making critical remarks?
Question: Hello, Your website is great and very helpful. My question is about my niece, who is 10 years old. She has had a sudden change in her personality in school, Sunday school, and at home. She has become critical of everybody and is commenting on everything, so as to make people around her laugh.…
Read MoreWhy does Peter say the Law was hard to bear when Moses said the Law was not hard?
Question: I would like clarification on Acts 15:10 where Peter said the Law was a yoke too hard to bear, and in Deuteronomy 30:11 where God said it was not hard. Also in Luke 1:6 where they followed perfectly the commands. Seems a conflict in thought that I can’t figure out. Thanks. Answer: “For this…
Read MoreWhat are endless myths and genealogies?
Question: Regarding I Timothy 1:4-6: In verse 4 what are the myths and endless genealogies being talked about? And in verse 6 and verse 3 who are the “some men” or the “certain men” who are teaching false doctrine? Thanks. Answer: “As I urged you when I went into Macedonia — remain in Ephesus that…
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