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Is it possible to step back after you think you are going too far?
Question: I’ve been reading this site and you give such meaningful advice to people, so I wanted to ask a question of my own: Is it possible to take a leap backward after you feel like you and your boyfriend have gone too far physically? We haven’t had any sexual contact, but I’m afraid that…
Read MoreDidn’t Jesus say we should tithe?
Question: I’d advise you to change your stance toward tithing. I think there is a passage in the New Testament where Jesus says, you tithe your mint, rue, and spices but you don’t practice justice. You should as you do the latter and you shouldn’t forget the former. Be blessed, man of God, and if…
Read MoreAre you supposed to acknowledge that you are quoting from the NKJV?
Question: If you quote from the New King James Version aren’t you suppose to include a proper acknowledgment? I think it can be found near the preface if there is one in your NKJV. If you don’t include the proper acknowledgment they want is that not breaking copyright law? Answer: Thomas Nelson Publishers ask: The…
Read MoreWhen Jesus was dying on the cross and called out Father why have you forsaken me, how could Jesus be God at this time?
Question: I was given a question that I really don’t know how to answer or at least the young man doesn’t want to accept my answer. His question was: “When Jesus was dying on the cross and called out Father why have you forsaken me, how could Jesus be God at this time?” Please help…
Read MoreAm I married?
Question: OK. Well, let me provide some background information. I am a believer. I met a girl who is also a believer. We became boyfriend and girlfriend. During the relationship, we would talk about marriage and getting married and the intent of the relationship was to one day get married. We would say things like…
Read MoreI’m sorry for the adultery I’ve done, but my wife is leaving me and I don’t know what to do
Question: I have been married for a few years. My wife and I have several children. About two months ago she filed for divorce, and it’s destroying me. I’m searching for God. I spoke to the Lord now and prayed that He may give me a word. He did: Proverbs chapters 2 to 5. I…
Read MoreCan you help me understand more about the Free Methodist Church?
Question: Can you help me understand more about the Free Methodist Church? Is it a charismatic church? I know of a church that has been praised for all the good it does in the community and the world. Does it teach faith only? Does it teach that baptism is a command? I’m not planning to…
Read MoreCan you explain some of the prophecies about Christ?
Question: The Bible says that Jesus committed mistakes; it’s in II Samuel 7:12-17. I’m guessing it was like, in the day that Jesus, when he was 12, went to the place to discuss with the wise men. His parents noticed He was missing when they were going back home already. I think they corrected Him,…
Read MoreWhy is Solomon hearing ants absurd, but Jesus turning water into wine or Moses parting the Red Sea not?
Question: The Qur’an said Solomon talked with ants and Christians claim this is absurd. But didn’t Jesus turn water into wine, and didn’t Moses divide the Dead Sea? Doesn’t all this fall into the same category as Solomon’s issue? Answer: The Qur’an claims that Solomon communicated with ants through the great wisdom that God gave…
Read MoreCan you explain to me what willful sin is?
Question: How would you describe willful sin? Can you explain to me what willful sin is? Answer: Willful sin is a purposeful choice to sin, even though you know God is against it and that you should not do it. It means you are putting your will above God’s. Parents often see this in their…
Read MoreIs Jesus God or someone God sent to earth?
Question: So who exactly is Jesus Christ? Is he the God, or someone whom God had sent down to this earth? Answer: According to the Bible, the answer is both, which confuses a lot of people. Speaking of Jesus as “the Word” John said: “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with…
Read MoreIt was good to read your message on your home page
Question: I wanted to drop you a line telling you “Thanks!” It was so good to read the message on your home page. In today’s society, it is so difficult to find congregations that believe as you do. I pray that God continues to bless you all. Answer: I appreciate the words of encouragement.
Read MoreWho will be held accountable for committing adultery? A single woman or a married man?
Question: Who will be held accountable for committing adultery? A single woman or a married man? Answer: Adultery is when a married person has sex with someone to whom he or she is not married. The act is called adultery, whether the married person is having sex with another married person or with a single…
Read MoreIs honoring another person’s request submission?
Question: Good morning. I was reading your web page on submission. I am trying to find out more about submission and I have a specific scenario and I am wondering if you can help me. My boyfriend and I had an argument this morning about submission. We are in a committed relationship and seeking God’s will…
Read MoreCan a widow remain unmarried but have sex with a married man?
Question: If a widow does not want to get married, can she fall in love with a married person who will take care of her sexual needs? In the past, this was the duty of the deceased siblings. How should they go about enjoying life? Answer: Having a relationship with a man married to someone…
Read MoreHelp me understand more about the flaws in the Church of the Nazarene
Question: I am a music minister, called preacher and leader. I currently serve with the church of the Nazarene. I am shocked by the truth you revealed. I have been looking for this, but I really need help to understand it more. I have been feeling deeply uncomfortable with some things in this denomination, and…
Read MoreMust a person formally place membership with a local church before they participate in the work?
Question: What are your thoughts regarding “placing membership” with a local congregation? I understand the biblical authority for someone working under the oversight of the elders of a congregation. If someone has been attending a congregation regularly for a period of time, can it be assumed they wish to work under the oversight of the…
Read MoreIs there any scientific evidence that Christianity is the true religion?
Question: I am not a Christian! But I have been thinking about that religion. I would like to know more about Christianity. Is there any scientific evidence that Christianity is the true religion? And didn’t the church oppose science some centuries back? Thanks. Answer: “Scientific evidence is the result of objective testing of a theory…
Read MoreWould constant exposure to nudity reduce lust?
Question: A link to your survey was sent to me by a girl in Nepal who has been reading the arguments we’ve made on our anti-porn-addiction website. This is what I’m wondering: What would the answers to those survey questions have looked like from teens growing up in a “naked people group” culture? I believe their…
Read MoreCan you tell me your source for your opening statement in “Social Drinking”?
Question: I’m an addictions counselor. Having recently read your article “Social Drinking,” (Dudley Ross Spears), I have a question: How did you come up (substantiation for) with your opening statement: “We live in a world where social drinking is accepted by over two-thirds of our entire population”? Answer: One of the sources I used when…
Read MoreWhat happens to burnt offerings?
Question: During the dedication of the temple, offerings were brought. What happens to burnt offerings? Are they consumed by the fire, does the high priest eat a portion, is any eaten, or is it all consumed by fire? Answer: The Mosaical Law contained a variety of offerings (Leviticus 7:37). Sin offerings were given when a…
Read MoreWhat is the point of Lamech’s statement in Genesis 4, and what is meant that people began calling upon the name of the Lord?
Question: In Genesis 4:23-24, Lamech said to his wives that “If Cain shall be avenged sevenfold, truly Lamech seventy and sevenfold.” What is the point of this message? It is what Lamech said, instead of being from God. So should we understand the statement in Genesis 4:24 as having no authority at all? In Genesis…
Read MoreI found a woman whom I really like, but she says she isn’t interested in me. What do I do?
Question: Hi. I’m wondering if you can please help me with a struggle I’ve had regarding a desire for a particular woman. There is a young Christian woman who I really like, but she had told me a while ago that she doesn’t have a romantic interest in me. Since then we’ve remained friends, but…
Read MoreHow can I restrain myself from doing foreplay with my girlfriend?
Question: How can I restrain myself from doing foreplay with my girlfriend? Answer: “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The simple answer is to keep your hands off of her body. Rather than thinking about your desire…
Read MoreWhom do I marry, my current girlfriend or my former girlfriend?
Question: I have just been reading most of the answers under the topic of marriage and I have to say first of all thank you for answering questions from a biblical perspective. It’s all we need. My question is as follows: I got an older woman pregnant who is in her thirties. I am five…
Read MoreAre prenuptial agreements biblical?
Question: What is or is not biblical regarding a pre-marital agreement for handling money and possessions in the event of a separation or divorce? Answer: “And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a…
Read MoreWhat is meant by “although the enemy could not countervail the king’s damage”?
Question: In Esther 7:4, it reads: “For we are sold, I and my people, to be destroyed, to be slain, and to perish. But if we had been sold for bondmen and bondwomen, I had held my tongue, although the enemy could not countervail the king’s damage.” What did Esther mean when she said “although the enemy could not…
Read MoreWhat are some proper activities for a divorced woman?
Question: I am a divorced Catholic. After 40 years of what I thought was a good marriage, my husband abandoned me for another woman. I stay within all the guidelines of the Catholic church and feel ‘safe’ with activities within the church. I still act in every way as married since I don’t have an annulment, and I…
Read MoreRed, yellow, or green light?
Question: I love your site. I sent the link to my girlfriend. We are not romantically involved; we just only touch the upper part of our bodies, and we keep our clothes on. I asked the pastor where I go to church and he told me that it is a good question, but if she…
Read MoreI don’t know how to plan my life. Can you help me?
Question: I am 23 years old. I haven’t done sex, yet my friends at college enjoy their lives. I only study and listen to songs. I have no girlfriend. My dad is in his sixties. He married twice, and I am the youngest in my family. My dad has big expectations for me, but I…
Read MoreWhen should I tell my girlfriend that I’m not a virgin?
Question: Hello. I have been looking over your site and have been blessed by it very much. I was looking for a question but couldn’t find it, so I thought I would ask myself. I know that going into details about my sinful past with my current girlfriend isn’t necessary, but I do feel I…
Read MoreHow do I know my repentance is genuine?
Question: I have doubts about repentance. I suffer from depression. At times I feel really sad, at times I feel really angry, but at times I feel nothing — not sad, not happy or angry, just, an empty room. So I hope that what I’m going to tell you is caused by depression. My boyfriend…
Read MoreWhat do you think about people saying that Christ is going to come back on May 21, 2011?
Question: What do you think about people saying that Christ is going to come back on May 21, 2011? Answer: I had to laugh because there was an article on the front page of the paper about this very thing. This is just another prediction in a long list of failed predictions of when Jesus…
Read MoreHow do you prepare for missionary work?
Question: Recently I’ve really been wanting to die to self and my dream desire is to live in a really poor area, hopefully in China — not the U.S. It’s hard to be an evangelizing Christian in the U.S. where it’s so wealthy and most people already know Christ. However, I don’t know how to…
Read MoreShould I wait to teach until after my wife is converted? Is blogging a substitute for going into the world to teach the gospel?
Question: Thanks for all your scriptural answers to questions. They helped me a lot! My questions are: Is it wrong to wait for a while to teach (or preach) to other people while I’m still teaching my wife to become a Christian? I feel like a hypocrite to teach others without my wife becoming a…
Read MoreCan a woman be an Associate Campus Minister?
Question: I’ve been attending the church of Christ. I’m fairly new there. It’s almost 30 miles away and there is no other acceptable church that I know of. My concern is with their campus ministry. My husband only recently noticed a flyer in the church hallway announcing a woman as the new Associate Campus Minister.…
Read MoreAre elders responsible for the employment of preachers?
Question: I enjoyed and appreciated your article on the work of the evangelist. I find it quite different from many by what you might consider institutional churches of Christ. I am concerned about the final paragraph on the selection of the minister. As I understand first-century history, many preachers were involved in the establishing, building up,…
Read MoreWas the Titus in the Bible the same as Titus Vespasianus?
Question: Is Titus Vespasian, who was involved with Bernice, the same as the Titus who traveled with Paul? Answer: Then as now, just because a person has the same name, it doesn’t mean they are the same person. There is only one Titus mentioned by name in the Bible and he was a preacher and…
Read MoreHow do I object to homosexuality without getting fired?
Question: Currently at my place of work I have homosexual couples doing things that really disturb me. Is there not something wrong with homosexual couples adopting children, or female homosexual couples being able to get in-vitro fertilization to have children? I really desire to voice my opinion but I know that I will be the…
Read MoreIs there a non-miraculous form of prophecy?
Question: I’m having a problem understanding “prophesying.” In Romans 12:6 Paul said, “let us prophesy.” Is I Corinthians 14:3-4 teaching that during the days of the early church one form of prophesying was not in a “miraculous” sense but rather a “natural” ability (cf. Romans 12:4-6)? Answer: In Romans, Paul makes the point: “For as we have…
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