I don’t know how to plan my life. Can you help me?


I am 23 years old. I haven't done sex, yet my friends at college enjoy their lives. I only study and listen to songs. I have no girlfriend.

My dad is in his sixties. He married twice, and I am the youngest in my family. My dad has big expectations for me, but I am afraid. I'm not so rich. In India, there is a lot of reservation for many types of people who can succeed in college and business.

It's really strange. When I was a child I dreamed that the world is beautiful. I feel very bad to see how strange the world is. Please help me plan my life. I also feel bad that India's population is rising rapidly. Please help me and bless me. I feel alone.


I'm very willing to talk with you about life and the problems you are facing, but I'm at a loss as to what your concerns are. That you currently have no girlfriend is probably an advantage as you can focus better on completing your studies. That you are not yet wealthy is also something one would expect when you are only in your early twenties. Soon you will be leaving college and establishing yourself in a business somewhere. As you show yourself able to support a family, you will find women willing to consider you for a husband.

I suspect that you have a typical young man's desire to have success and are just realizing that it won't come without a lot of hard work. It's scary because you aren't certain you can succeed. As hard as it might seem right now, you will grow to meet the challenges that you face. Growth is a part of life.

"Do not be envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them; for their heart devises violence, and their lips talk of troublemaking. Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. A wise man is strong, yes, a man of knowledge increases strength; for by wise counsel you will wage your own war, and in a multitude of counselors there is safety" (Proverbs 24:1-6).

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