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I’m not sure I understood the purpose of baptism when I was baptized. Should I do it again?
Question: I was baptized when I was eleven years old (I am sixteen right now), but I am not sure that I completely understood what the purpose of baptism was. It was my choice to be baptized, but at that age, I was aware that baptism brings me to God, but I was not aware…
Read MoreI’m living with my fiancee, but we are not having sex. Am I living in sin?
Question: Hello, I’ve been a newborn in Christ for about three years. Jesus 180’d my life. My problem is that I’ve been with my fiancee for ten years now. She is starting to get closer to God but not convicted as I am yet. She wants that relationship I have with Jesus. The problem is…
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by Jeff May Problems arise as we strive to serve God faithfully, but God has given us a tree – the tree of Calvary, to be used in such situations, just as Moses cast in the tree at Mariah to resolve the problem of the bad water (Exodus 5), and Elisha cast in the tree…
Read MoreWhat do we do if he can’t afford the dowry (Lobola)?
Question: I have been dating this man for the past three years, and I love him so much. We grew up together in the church but we started dating when I was in my early twenties. He was supposed to pay a dowry (lobola) but he lost his job. This happened again this year, but…
Read MoreWas Paul a false apostle?
Question: I have recently stumbled onto some information. Apparently, some Christians think that the apostle Paul was a false apostle and false teacher. They say that he taught Jesus “faith only” while Jesus himself clearly taught faith + works. I am deeply troubled by this and feel my world has been turned upside-down just when…
Read MoreMy best friend has started to smoke. How do I make him stop?
Question: I’m 14 years old and female. My best friend (who’s a guy) has just started smoking cigs and will start smoking weed soon. He doesn’t know how much I care about him. Since I am an only child, I view him as my older brother (he’s older than me by half a year). I…
Read MoreHow can you discount things like radiocarbon dating and fossils?
Question: First, what does this mean: “Faith is the demonstration of your prejudice”? Second, how do you discount things like radiocarbon dating and fossils? If God created Adam and Eve as the first humans, then where did everyone else come from after them? Was incest acceptable back then because if there was only Adam and…
Read MoreWhy is it so hard to get over an ex-boyfriend?
Question: Why is it so hard for me to leave my ex-boyfriend alone? I was involved with him at one time, but I came back to the Lord, got baptized, and am focusing more on Jesus. I thought I was delivered and set free it. There had been times I could do good when I…
Read MoreIf I dream a woman wanted me, does it not mean we are married?
Question: I was in a dream one night and saw a lady in my church trying to sleep with me. I ran away from her but she was desperate. Her younger brother, with her in that dream, was asking me why I don’t want to marry his sister. Physically, she was not the one I…
Read MoreHave I sinned sexually by grinding with my boyfriend? Should I stop wearing my purity ring?
Question: I don’t know if I feel guilty or not. Should I be wearing my purity ring? I am dating a man quite a bit older than me. We have known each other for nearly three years but have only begun dating in the past two months. I really liked this guy for a good…
Read MoreHow can I glorify God in everything I do but still have fun in the process?
Question: I’m a 14-year-old guy. Most guys like to play sports, games, computers, etc. Well when I’m taking part in these activities, I’m thinking to myself, “stop idolizing this stuff, you could be reading the Bible instead.” In other words, whenever I am doing something fun, it feels like I should be reading the Word…
Read MoreOnce again your articles are super helpful
Question: Once again your articles are super helpful. Today I was studying Romans 9. Thanks for all you guys do! Answer: It is good to hear that the efforts here are helping others.
Read MoreHow do I find a church?
Question: Hello, I really want to become a Christian and be saved, but my problem is finding the right church. By the way, to whomever this is going to, I found this website and don’t know how I have forgotten but I love it. I started to cry and I cry all the time when…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been cheating on me, but now he wants to get married and I don’t know if I should
Question: How do I continue with the father of my two children, with whom I’ve been in a relationship for 13 years and just found out he might be the father of a baby whose mother is the person I found him cheating on me with two years ago? Do I believe his story about…
Read MoreHow do you deal with a man who stinks so bad it is hard to talk to him?
Question: Hello, I have a question concerning a man who has been coming to the Lord’s church recently. This man has been coming for about three months now and does not seem to be all there in the head or he is just really weird. From what he has told us he has no family…
Read MoreIs it a sin to divorce someone who forces you to worship idols?
Question: I need to know something: Is it a sin to divorce someone who forces you to worship idols? I have been praying fasting for my husband to stop. He sees the light for a short period but he goes back again. This has been happening for years. His family wants to force me to…
Read MoreI started to engage in sexual talk with an old girlfriend, but I stopped. Do I need to tell my fiancee?
Question: I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman. We are engaged to be married. I am a man of God and I am very religious. Recently one of my ex-girlfriends contacted me and wanted me to offer some sexual services over the phone. I felt it was wrong but I was stupid and…
Read MoreMy husband doesn’t tell me anything until the last moment
Question: I was searching for questions and answers regarding marriage online, and I found your site very interesting. I am a Christian too, and I have a question. My husband and I have been married for over ten years. My husband is good in so many aspects, but in communication with me, he is not…
Read MoreCan the Lord’s Supper be taken to a shut-in?
Question: In our home Bible class last evening, one in the class asked if it is wrong to take the Lord’s Supper to a member of the church who is a shut-in if the one, who is a shut-in, requests it. Answer: I have difficulty with this because Paul stated, “Therefore, my brethren, when you…
Read MoreI’m worried because my husband is a drug dealer
Question: I am a 25-year-old mother of three. I am married. My husband and I have children, but he started caring for my firstborn, who was from another man, ever since she was in my tummy. I am a foreigner in this country, but we got married illegally in the country of my origin when…
Read MoreIs it wrong to take classes from a university connected to a denomination?
Question: When I was trying to earn my high school diploma I took five online high school courses from BYU independent study. BYU is a Mormon university, which I believe is funded by the Mormon church. Was it wrong for me to take these courses? Would it be considered supporting the Mormon church? Also could…
Read MoreSome people are treating me as if I’m not welcomed anymore. Should I leave or put up with them?
Question: Several members at my church are treating me like I’m no longer wanted there. When I try to talk to them they don’t want to hear it. It is really hard to think of leaving, I’ve been there all my life. My dad was a founding member of this congregation. Should I leave or…
Read MoreHow do I restrain myself with my girlfriend?
Question: Hi Jeffrey, I’m in a courtship with a lady and we both promised each other never to fornicate, which we have kept for three years now. But we do kiss and romance each other since a year into our courtship. I have tried to stop it but to no avail. She has self-control over…
Read MoreWhat do I do about a girlfriend who is being pressured to drop me because of “prophecies?”
Question: Hi, I came across your site while googling about prophets and marriage. I have been a Christian for over 25 years in a Congregational church. I met a beautiful woman on a social network. I wasn’t looking to hook up or anything bad. I was actually just looking for friends. She had her profile…
Read MoreIs it necessary for a Christian to marry a non-Christian?
Question: I am a member of the church of Christ, but I have a question. Is it acceptable for a boy or girl to have a girl or boyfriend? And is it necessary for a member of the church of Christ to marry someone who is not in the church of Christ? Answer: Much depends…
Read MoreIs it wrong to marry a person of a different nationality?
Question: My family believes that it is a sin to marry a person who is not of the same nationality as you. As an example, they believe that is wrong to marry someone who is Mexican, Italian, Indian, etc. Being white, they also believe that it is a sin to marry someone that is black. …
Read MoreIs it wrong for a Christian to visit a place of idol worship out of respect?
Question: Hello, I had this question in mind for a long time and I feel you would be the best person who could answer this based on Scripture. I stay in India, and we have a multicultural society with multiple religions and festivals celebrated among friends and neighbors. It is quite common to be invited…
Read MoreMy sister is involved in drugs and left the church. How do I deal with her?
Question: My heart is heavy. My sister and her husband are no longer in the church. They have chosen a worldly lifestyle, and tell their children, one of whom is baptized, that they don’t need to go to church to get to heaven and that churches are full of hypocrites. Her heart has hardened and…
Read MoreI’m beginning to doubt the things I’ve been taught most of my life, and I’m afraid of losing my faith in God
Question: I have something I would like your opinion on. I was part of a church called the Shepherd’s Chapel from the time I was 13. Their ideas run parallel to some of the ideas of the Nazis and the Christian Identity Movement. My mind has been opened to the idea of entertaining these thoughts…
Read MoreIs not the homosexual act and the person one and the same?
Question: Please explain: “God loves the sinner but hates the sin.” Is not the homosexual act and the person one and the same? Answer: They are not the same because sin cannot change from being wrong, but a person can change from doing wrong. See: Should we separate a man from his deeds, hating his sins…
Read MoreI gave my life to Christ, but I can’t seem to stop sinning
Question: I gave my life to Jesus when I was 7 years old because I was very interested in Jesus, When I did I was filled with the Holy Spirit and bawled my eyes out. I’m in my early twenties and what a journey in between all those years. I watch a lot of sermons…
Read MoreYou are not supposed to judge and you did
Question: In regards to “Can a girl get pregnant before her first period?” I really want to say that by reading this, you can no more tell if this is the person who may have sinned or someone who is uneducated and has a child who has been sinned against. Just as it is written,…
Read MoreI am so thankful to have found another faithful church
Question: I am so thankful to have found another church of Christ that practices the doctrine of Jesus Christ in the New Testament. God bless you in your courage to present these truths to all who would read and listen. I am a member of the church of Christ in Mississippi. I will be accessing…
Read MoreIt was wonderful to know more about the gospel from your site
Question: Hello Brother, Recently I visited your web site. It was really wonderful to know more about the gospel. Thanks for doing God’s services. Helping, like us, to share more information with believers. Answer: I’m glad you found the site useful.
Read MoreGod wouldn’t put unnecessary restrictions on people
Question: Homophobia is such a joke. God, if He exists, wouldn’t put unnecessary restrictions on His people. Can you really imagine your ever-loving, ever-forgiving God being that petty? This is pathetic. Answer: It is interesting that you assume that anyone who disagrees with you does so without reason and only because of a “fear” that…
Read MoreWe want to get married, but we can’t even afford rings
Question: My partner and I want to get married so badly, but we don’t have money for anything, not even rings. I have a six-month-old baby with my partner and refuse any longer to sleep with him until we are married because the truth about how the children of God should live has been revealed…
Read MoreI sinned, but I’m afraid to tell my priests
Question: I am twenty-two years old, almost twenty-three. I did something a few days ago that has damaged my heart deeply and left a big emptiness. I have been dating a guy who is not a Christian. He started going to church when we started dating. I was baptized two years ago and had been…
Read MoreThanks for posting information on the history of the hymnbook
Question: I was looking up hymn book resources on the Internet and found the La Vista church’s page for hymn book history. Thanks for putting the page up there. Answer: I’m glad you found the material useful. There are several articles filed under “Music” on the history of the hymns we sing.
Read MoreIf a man married three times, but his wives are all now dead, can he marry again?
Question: If a man had three spouses, he divorced his first wife for adultery and he married an adulterer, divorced her for unknown reasons, and married a woman who was not an adulterer and divorced her to go back to his second wife, and all three spouses die, is it OK for the man to…
Read MorePeople stop being friends with me because of some nice things I’ve posted. Should I stop posting?
Question: So I’m in college right now, and I was finally making friends. I say finally because I’m very shy and have a hard time making friends. Anyway, I like to post things on Facebook about God — nice messages about waiting for marriage or pro-life stuff. I have noticed some of my friends have…
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