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If someone wasn’t in a good mental state when getting married, is the marriage still valid?
Question: If someone was diagnosed with depression, and post-traumatic stress, and were put on meds like Zoloft and Lyrica for chronic pain, and the meds made them crazy, are they really responsible for their actions? If someone got married in that kind of mental state is that marriage still valid in the eyes of God?…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my boyfriend’s parents if we get married?
Question: Good morning, I have a question regarding my boyfriend and me and his parents. Both his parents have gotten divorced and remarried. His mother and her husband still attend worship. I don’t think his father does. We are a part of the Lord’s church. How is he supposed to interact with his parents (socially…
Read MoreMy husband was into pornography. He’s stopped, but I have no respect for him. What do I do?
Question: I am not sure who I am writing to here, but if there is anyone on that side please help me! I am married for almost ten years. I have kids. I am a stay-at-home wife and home school. My husband and I are both born-again Christians. My husband is gentle and kind, he…
Read MoreDo I keep going even though my heart isn’t in it?
Question: I found your website just a few weeks ago, and I can’t stop reading it. My husband left our children and me over a year ago. He was committing adultery with a woman at his workplace, I found out about it, and he left to be with this woman. They currently live together, exposing…
Read MoreWhy do I no longer enjoy sex and hate men?
Question: To whom it may concern, I’m in my early 20’s, and the purpose of this email is to ask for some honest advice. I am aware that the Internet is not the most proper site to ask for help, but I really don’t have any source and I happened to see your site while…
Read MoreShould we trust the translation of the Bible since languages change?
Question: Hi, I was wondering, should we be so confident to trust the translation of the Bible, seeing that language changes and the Greek spoken back then is most likely not the current Greek. Also with English and any other language, Language changes through time, words and meanings sometimes change and get obscured. How can…
Read MoreThank you for the entry on birthrights and blessings
Question: Hello, I want to thank you for your website entry that answers the question, What is the difference between a birthright and a blessing as in the story of Esau and Jacob? Our BSF leader directed us to this to help us in our Genesis study, and I appreciate you and her. l browsed…
Read MoreHow can people say that baptism is unnecessary? Where did this idea come from?
Question: How can some people say it is unnecessary to be baptized in order to be saved? Where did this idea come from? Answer: I suspect the roots of this come from a desire to claim that loved ones were saved even though they did not obey Christ. Early on there were those who changed…
Read MoreWhat if you didn’t know something was sinful before you were baptized?
Question: Hello, I have been baptized recently and but my mom has not yet. I have been trying to encourage her to get baptized and she has said that she wants to be baptized soon. However, I recently read some things on your website about repenting before being baptized that make me wonder if this…
Read MoreI have schizophrenia and I’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately
Question: Hello brother, I have written you on other occasions about dilemmas that I was facing. At that point, I was very new to discipleship. I had questions about a lot of things. I may have been overbearing on myself but I didn’t understand God’s expectations. I still don’t on many subjects, but I do…
Read MoreI am very impressed with your Question and Answer section
Question: Dear Minister, I came across your website. I am very impressed with your “Question and Answer” section. I truly appreciate the advice that you give! I hope to include the Q & A from your site as part of my daily mediation on the “Word.” I can only imagine how much time, effort, and resources…
Read MoreHow can we be given grace without repentance?
Question: What does this mean? Does this mean that we are giving grace without repentance? I’m looking at a church and I looked up their beliefs, this was one of them. “That God has given us all a measure of grace according to our gifts: Ephesians 4:7 “But to each one of us grace was given…
Read MoreMy problem is that I grumble too much at work. What should I do?
Question: Sir, I have been looking through the previous answers on public sin. But I could not find anything that was quite like my question. This is the best website I have found and I think it has helped me a ton. I think my biggest problem is when at work, usually, I will talk…
Read MoreIf both are committing adultery, could either one remarry?
Question: Hello, I was wondering if you could help me with the following: How would you respond to a man who was married, and after four years of marriage his wife committed adultery. He decided to move out. The two remained legally married for another whopping 8 years, but both ended up living with other…
Read MoreWho had the most children in the Bible?
Question: Who in the Bible had the most children? Since there was no form of birth control in the Bible days, the only way for women not to get pregnant is for the man to “pull out” (other than not having sex), but did any man fathered a child he didn’t know about or leave…
Read MoreWho is responsible for a child born out of wedlock?
Question: What if a guy has a child outside of his marriage with another woman? Is he still responsible, such as for child support? What if his wife knows but disapproves of the child growing up with their children? What if he has a child that he knows is his but refuses to take care…
Read MoreShould I end our engagement even though we’ve sinned?
Question: Hello, I am a 25 years old woman. I met my fiance about five years ago as a friend. Eventually, the friendship turned out to be a much-committed relationship. He proposed to me for marriage. We have been engaged for several years. We have been postponing marriage due to other issues with our families.…
Read MoreIs it wrong to change your mind?
Question: Hello, If someone stated they were never going to do something that wasn’t wrong can they change their mind and not be in sin? For example, if I said I was never going to get married and then change my mind and get married is that a sin? I kind of think it is…
Read MoreShould Christians support the legalization of marijuana for medical use?
Question: Hello, I am a Christian, and I do not imbibe alcohol or any other drugs for recreational purposes. I have in the past (my youth) partaken in sinful inebriation, but have been sober for several years and have since been baptized. My question is whether or not you think that Christians can safely support…
Read MoreCan a man be faithful in marriage after having a promiscuous past?
Question: In my years, I have heard many little stories about men who have sex with as many women as possible before marriage, but when he is married, changes and remains faithful. Some men call it “getting it out your system.” However, I have never met a man who was faithful to his wife after…
Read MoreHow do I let go of the guilt of having committed adultery?
Question: I was friends with a married man. It was all very innocent until one day. I met his wife and children, and they were all so lovely. He dropped me off at home, and it just happened. I can’t believe that I allowed myself to accept a married man in my bed. I am…
Read MoreIs it a problem to marry a man of a different belief than your own?
Question: I’m 22 years old. The first time I was involved in sexual sin with a guy, I thought I would marry, but it didn’t work out. I have a different boyfriend now, and we have slept together a lot of times. But I decided I couldn’t continue this life of sin, and I decided…
Read MoreIf the other spouse refuses to reconcile, can he remarry?
Question: I have a question. If someone divorces their spouse and then tries to reconcile with them, and in the middle of reconciling, the other decides they wanted to be with someone else. Is the one who tried to reconcile able to remarry? Answer: The only reason given that allows for remarriage after a divorce…
Read MoreI really appreciate your work online
Question: Hello, I really just wanted to say I really appreciate your work online! I know many people need to read the information you provide! Please keep up this work! Answer: Thank you for the encouragement. I plan on continuing this effort as long as I’m able.
Read MoreI want to do something bad to the people who cost me my job
Question: Good day, I have lost my job, and I can’t stop thinking about doing something bad to the people who cost me my job. This thing is always on my mind, but I want to move forward, forget about it, and have faith in God that everything happens for reason. This situation is making…
Read MoreThanks for encouraging me to stay in the word. I’m trying to help someone else who is going through a similar struggle
Question: Thank you, Jeffrey, for the writings that you have shared with me. It is uplifting to know that I still have hope. I frequently get discouraged and I try to stay in the word. It helps me stay firm when I hear someone speak the truth in a sensible way. I think Satan has…
Read MoreIf a child is taught properly, he won’t depart from it later, right?
Question: “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). Given the fact that this is the word of God, He knows all, I think we overlook how and in what a child should be well trained. We try to bring…
Read MoreWill I be condemned for running off with another man?
Question: I have been feeling very convicted. I find myself questioning my salvation. I have been married for over five years and have decided to leave my husband for a man I met playing an online game. I know I am in the wrong. I have no doubts. My husband claims he loves me, and…
Read MoreHow do I straighten out the mess I’m in?
Question: Hi, I have a big problem and I need some guidance, please. It’s a long story, so please bear with me. I grew up in a church of Christ and got baptized when I was younger. I did not really have a full understanding; I think I may need to redo it. I have…
Read MoreI was involved in fornication with my boyfriend who is a preacher. We broke up, but how do I straighten out this mess that I got involved in?
Question: My boyfriend of 17 months and I recently broke up. There are many factors that contributed to our decision to end the relationship, but one of the biggest concerns was the distance and the inability or unwillingness for one of us to move in the near future. We still talk and deeply care about…
Read MoreWas Achan’s family destroyed along with him?
Question: Was Achan’s family destroyed along with him? I have found through other commentaries, Henry; Clarke; Jamison, Faucett, and Brown, etc. both yes and no answers. I’d like to know before this Sunday morning’s Bible class. Thank you in advance. Answer: “Then Joshua, and all Israel with him, took Achan the son of Zerah, the…
Read MoreYour website kept me from sinning
Question: I was searching on Google and found this website. I was scared that if I did something with oral sex or that other touching stuff if I would be committing a sin. Your website gave the answer and stopped me from planning or doing that stuff before marriage. So thank you for answering my…
Read MoreYour articles are very helpful when I am sharing the gospel
Question: Good evening, As your sister in Christ, I wanted to thank you for your articles. They are very helpful when I am sharing the gospel and contending for the faith. I hope that this email serves to encourage you to keep up the good work. Answer: Oh, it definitely does gladden my day. Thank…
Read MoreDoes a former homosexual have to marry a woman to prove he is no longer a homosexual?
Question: I have heard you say that homosexuality is not genetic and that the behavior can be changed. Does this mean I must become a heterosexual and prove it by getting married to a woman before God will let me into heaven? Answer: No. Marriage is not required of anyone. It is only required if…
Read MoreI ruined my reputation, and now I can’t move past it. What am I to do?
Question: Six years ago I ruined my reputation and many burned bridges; irreparable damage. To this day I haven’t forgiven myself and neither have those who I’ve offended and hurt. No one will accept my apology; no one. The gossip has gotten so bad, that I’ve relocated several times in order to start fresh and…
Read MoreMy heart was full of joy visiting your website
Question: My heart was full of joy visiting your website, and I was blessed and encouraged so much. Thanks. Answer: Thank you for the kind encouragement.
Read MoreIf I know someone is abusing the welfare system, should I report it?
Question: I am very concerned about our national debt, and the abuse of the welfare system. I am a Christian and want to know if it is my place to report the welfare abuse of two individuals who live in my area or to just let it go. Answer: I wrote the Welfare Fraud Department…
Read MoreHow can I be 100% sure?
Question: I am starting to build more faith but I am still not 100% sure that God exists. I go to church and everything and I feel terrible to admit this. How can I be 100% sure? Are you 100% sure? Will I ever get there? I’m just scared that I never will be able…
Read MoreWhat was the Lord’s reasoning for showing Elijah the wind, earthquake, and fire?
Question: What was the Lord’s reasoning for showing Elijah the wind, earthquake, and fire in I Kings 19:11-12? Why does the text say the Lord was not in the wind? Answer: “Then He said, “Go out, and stand on the mountain before the LORD.” And behold, the LORD passed by, and a great and strong…
Read MoreDo you have to believe in Jesus to be saved from your sins?
Question: Do you have to believe in Jesus to be saved from your sins? I mean, what if you were really trying to love your neighbor and do your best but you just kept looking at Christianity (very open-mindedly) and just kept thinking it must not be true? Could an all fair, all-loving God really…
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