Posts Tagged ‘sensuality’
Have I sinned sexually by grinding with my boyfriend? Should I stop wearing my purity ring?
Question: I don’t know if I feel guilty or not. Should I be wearing my purity ring? I am dating a man quite a bit older than me. We have known each other for nearly three years but have only begun dating in the past two months. I really liked this guy for a good…
Read MoreMy fiance and I engaged in foreplay. How do we answer the church if we are asked, knowing this will mean we cannot be wed in the church?
Question: How do we answer the church if I and my fiancé are asked if we have had sex before marriage when we have engaged in the foreplay of sexual activities? Knowing we cannot be wed in the church if we say yes, though we didn’t do the real act. Answer: First, there is no…
Read MoreSexting Is Associated with Risky Sexual Behavior
Source: Eric Rice, et al, “Sexually Explicit Cell Phone Messaging Associated with Sexual Risk Among Adolescents,” Pediatrics, 17 September 2012. Source: Genevra Pittman, “”Sexting” again linked to risky sex among teens: study,” Reuters, 18 September 2012. Source: Genevra Pittman, “Teen sexting: Strong link to risky sexual behavior,” Christian Science Monitor, 17 September 2012. Basic common sense has been once more confirmed.…
Read MoreWe started to have sex but didn’t complete it. How do we go back to purity in our relationship?
Question: My boyfriend and I committed a sexual activity, we started sex but didn’t complete it. We just were involved in foreplay. Anyway, I’m 19 and he’s 22. We are in a serious relationship and have been for almost three years. We met in college while taking the same program. I would say that our…
Read MoreWould it be wrong for my girlfriend to move in with me a few months before we get married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. We are engaged and about to be married in four months. We never had sex. We talked about it and the want that we have. But we have decided to live together because she turned 18 and was forced out of her house. She…
Read MoreI saw someone quote Psalms 37:4 to justify sexual foreplay. What does the passage really say?
Question: I read about foreplay and agree, but I was on a singles site and saw: “Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalms 37:4). So what does this mean? Thanks and God bless you! Answer: “Do not fret because of evildoers, nor be envious of the workers of…
Read MoreWe’ve been involved in lewd behavior in the past, which we know is wrong. So how do we stop?
Question: Sir, We have been in a relationship since childhood. We grew up together and we both are Christians. We are now in our early twenties. We have been kissing, fondling, and touching our private parts for the past few years. But we have kept it very strongly in our minds that we will never…
Read MoreCan you give some guidelines for how to behave in courtship?
Question: During our courtship, my girlfriend and I kept making small compromises that almost led to sex. We know we want to marry one another; in fact, it took us about four months to get to know each other because we wanted to make sure God is being glorified in the midst of our relationship.…
Read MoreWhat are all the types of sexual sins?
Question: What are all the types of sexual sins? Answer: “Truly, this only I have found: That God made man upright, But they have sought out many schemes” (Ecclesiastes 7:29). One of the problems with coming up with lists of possible sins is that men are too inventive in coming up with new ways to…
Read MoreIs giving a hand job sinful?
Question: I’m a Christian girl and I have been dating a Christian boy for almost a year now. We kiss and hug but now he wants me to give him a hand job. I know that he loves me for me not because of my body, etc. I’m truly afraid that if I give him…
Read MoreI’ve vowed to be celibate until I get married, but I masturbate in front of my girlfriend. Is this wrong?
Question: I have taken a vow, and I have remained celibate for a year and a half now. I have remained resolved to be abstinent until I am married, even though I am constantly presented with several opportunities to fornicate. However, one thing that helps me out is masturbation. When I masturbate, sometimes my girl…
Read MoreIs it a sin for my girlfriend to give me a handjob and for me to finger her?
Question: Is it a sin for my girlfriend to give me a handjob and for me to finger her? We’ve already done both, and I’m starting to feel kind of guilty over it. I don’t know if it’s considered ‘sin’ or not because it isn’t sexual intercourse. We’re both Christians too, and we’re just blinded…
Read MoreIs “dry humping” considered fornication?
Question: Is “dry humping” considered fornication? Does it count as sex before marriage? Answer: Dry humping is slang for rubbing or bumping the genitals against someone or something in order to gain sexual stimulation. It isn’t fornication, but fornication isn’t the only sexual sin that can be committed. Paul warned, “It is good for a…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I try hard, but we always end up in sexual situations. What should we do?
Question: My boyfriend and I are both Christians. We both try very hard to follow and do God’s will and word. So when I told him that I didn’t want to have sex till we were married, he was all right with it. Even though we have had sex before, I was at the point…
Read MoreHow can I restrain myself from doing foreplay with my girlfriend?
Question: How can I restrain myself from doing foreplay with my girlfriend? Answer: “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The simple answer is to keep your hands off of her body. Rather than thinking about your desire…
Read MoreRed, yellow, or green light?
Question: I love your site. I sent the link to my girlfriend. We are not romantically involved; we just only touch the upper part of our bodies, and we keep our clothes on. I asked the pastor where I go to church and he told me that it is a good question, but if she…
Read MoreWhat Boys, Girls, and Their Parents Need To Know
by Wendi Capehart The following is adapted from an old post the good blogger at Wit-nit wrote. He wished to illustrate just how heady and disorienting a brew lust can be, how dangerous in the hands of the immature, but he is not a believer and he wrote an R-rated post. He allowed me to…
Read MoreI’ve been having dry sex with my girlfriend. I know it is wrong. She wants to marry me, but she isn’t a Christian and I don’t know what to do.
Question: While researching sexual sins, I came across this web site. Some of the points mentioned in the answers regarding sexual sins have really touched my heart. As a brief background about me: I am 24 years old. I have been dating a non-Christian girl for the last several years. I realize that it is…
Read MoreIs it wrong that my boyfriend and I satisfy each other through touching?
Question: Help, please. I am an adult female in her early thirty’s. I am also a virgin by choice. I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend and I love him. He is a good, honorable man who is not a virgin and has changed his way of life and tries to live right.…
Read MoreWhat are your recommendations for teaching teens about the dangers of sensuous literature?
Question: I’m currently trying to go through a series of lessons with the church’s youth over media and what kinds a Christian should let into their life. I’m currently using a focus on Ephesians and Colossians regarding verses that tell us to “put away” sinful things from ourselves. Specifically, the first will be over music…
Read MoreIs it a sin to enjoy getting aroused from what I wear?
Question: I just enjoy wearing white nylon briefs. It makes me aroused, but nothing more than that. After arousal, I put them off and wear my normal shorts because it looks like a sin. Is it a sin or a psychological problem? Is it not normal? Answer: What you are doing is pursuing sensuality, which…
Read MoreWe keep going over our boundaries. How do we prevent pre-marital sex in college?
Question: I am a university student. I have a problem regarding sex before marriage. I want to have a healthy relationship with God and also have God be happy with my healthy relationship with my girlfriend. We try not to have sex even though we have done it. We pray for forgiveness each the time…
Read MoreDid my girlfriend and I sin by trying foreplay even though we will be married next year?
Question: Hello, I and my girlfriend tried foreplay a couple of times, but we have not had sex. She is not just my girlfriend, she is almost my wife. I will marry her next year; this will surely happen. Also, I didn’t have any sexual experiences before. I have gone through all the chapters in your…
Read MoreI wanted you to know your website helped me a lot
Question: I was just reading the section of your website Growing Up in the Lord, chapter 7. I am a 15-year-old male and have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now and things have started to go further than I want them to go. It is very difficult to stop from going any further,…
Read MoreIs it wrong to perform masturbation and petting?
Question: I read your sermon about masturbation, but I didn’t find a Scripture that says it’s wrong. Is it wrong to perform masturbation and petting? Is tongue kissing wrong? I am confused because does it mean that masturbation is a sin? Do you have any elders that you could ask? I am a member of…
Read MoreWhat does lasciviousness mean?
Question: What does lasciviousness mean? And does it speak clearly in the Bible about homosexuality? Answer: Lasciviousness, licentiousness, lewdness, or sensuality, depending on the translation of your Bible, means being wanton, lewd, or lustful. William Barclay described it as “a love of sin so reckless and so audacious that a man has ceased to care…
Read MoreWhy do I feel like I don’t deserve to be cleansed?
Question: I was baptized as a baby in the church and have always been a Christian, but I have not been actively involved in fellowship as much as I’d like to be. My husband and I engaged in sexual acts (not intercourse) before marriage which I know are wrong. I have asked God for forgiveness…
Read MoreWhen is it appropriate to start kissing?
Question: When is an appropriate age to start kissing from a biblical standpoint or is there one? Answer: Most people start at infancy. Okay, okay, I know that isn’t what you meant, but it does point out that it isn’t the kiss that is critical to the answer, but the intent of the kiss. The…
Read MoreIs foreplay wrong if it doesn’t lead to sex?
Question: I’m a 22 male and I have been searching for an answer on this site. Sex is not a problem before marriage for me, but what about foreplay if you are certain it will not lead to sex? It has never been a problem to stop before thinking about sex, but is foreplay really…
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