Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
Am I married in the eyes of God?
Question: When I met my husband, he was going through a divorce from his former wife. She had been unfaithful. He moved out and the other man moved in with her. Before I met him, he had already begun the divorce papers. Because of his first wife’s unfaithfulness, I understand he had a right to…
Read MoreCan a married man have a female friend whom he prefers over his wife?
Question: My husband has a new “friend” (female) that he constantly chooses over me. He lies to me in order to be with this friend. He tells this friend things that I told him in confidence about her, such as that I am uncomfortable with their new relationship. He puts me down to this new…
Read MoreWhen the Vow Breaks
by Wilson Adams via Biblical Insights, Vol. 7, No. 2, February 2007 I am divorced. Like the alcoholic who finds the courage to stand at his first A.A. meeting and admit what he would rather hide and deny, well, that’s me. It’s not easy writing those words or even admitting them to myself. You may wonder…
Read MoreCan a man divorce his wife for not having sex with him?
Question: If a woman denies sex to her husband, is this unlawful sex and, therefore, fornication? If a twenty-year-old wife refuses to have sex with her twenty-one-year-old husband, does he have any grounds to divorce? Answer: As stated in a prior answer, when a person wants to do something, such as divorce their spouse in order…
Read MoreIs looking at pornography fornication?
Question: When a man is involved in porn on the net, does that qualify as fornication? May a woman put her husband away when this happens? Answer: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery” (Matthew…
Read MoreCan you explain the issue of divorce and remarriage more?
Question: First of all, I would like to thank you for writing back to me. I do enjoy and appreciate your website. I only wish your Church was closer. I am actually writing to you with a question that has been on my mind. I was born again in a United Pentecostal church. I was…
Read MoreMarriage and Divorce: The Good News and the Bad
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Psalm 50 I. An article came out in the paper in April of 2007 trumpeting the news that divorce rates are falling A. Divorce rates rose rapidly in the 1960s through the 1980’s with the adoption of no-fault divorce laws in the United States. 1. At its peak in 1981 there were…
Read MoreCan I remarry even though I also committed adultery?
Question: I have been separated from my husband for five years now. During that time I kept asking him for us to work our marriage out. But he has been very reluctant. Since our separation, he was seeing another woman and had a child with her that he has been hiding from me for a…
Read MoreIs divorce still valid for adultery?
Question: My wife admitted to committing adultery. I still had feelings for her, especially her soul. After an argument one evening, I tried to comfort her. We had intercourse, but then on the next two occasions, it was as if he was in bed with us. I haven’t been able to get it off my…
Read MoreWhat are the advantages and disadvantages of a broken marriage?
Question: What are the advantages of broken marriages? What are the disadvantages of broken marriages? Answer: “And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping and crying; so He does not regard the offering anymore, nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. Yet you…
Read MoreShould a member be disciplined for divorcing his wife?
Question: A member of our congregation has been separated from his wife for over a year. His wife just called to inform me that he has filed for a divorce. She says that the papers she has been served with a statement that the reason for the divorce is “for the betterment of the family”.…
Read MoreDid I have the right to remarry?
Question: When God forgives you does he wipe your slate clean? Several years ago I suspected my husband of adultery. His boss told me he had information about the situation and we agreed to meet at his house at lunch to discuss it. As we talked, I became emotional and he tried to comfort me.…
Read MoreIf one person was forgiven of adultery and his spouse later commits adultery, doesn’t it mean neither can remarry?
Question: I have been reading your scriptural interpretation on remarriage, and as a member of the church of Christ, I was surprised. You said that if both spouses had committed adultery, there was a possibility for remarriage. I was always under the understanding that if they both committed adultery, neither one could remarry. Is this…
Read MoreThey Promised to Put Away Their Wives
by Kent Heaton The book of Ezra is a remarkable book of “those whose spirits God had moved” (Ezra 1:5). The city of Jerusalem lay in ruins for seven decades and the house of the Lord was burned. Zerubbabel led the faithful back to Jerusalem and the Temple was rebuilt. The faith of the people…
Read MoreMust a couple, previously married, separate after they are baptized?
Question: If a couple consists of two divorced individuals, and they are converted to Christ and are baptized, do they need to separate? Answer: This question leaves out too much to answer well. For example, you did not mention whether the individuals had a right to remarry. The Bible speaks of divorced people who have…
Read MoreIf a woman accepts her husband back in desperation, can she later divorce him?
Question: First of all, I want to ask your indulgence as I address a “delicate” topic. I do not know how to propose this question without mentioning “sex” or “intercourse”. I do not want to offend anyone. I have come across this situation again and again and would like your input on it. (In order…
Read MoreCan I divorce my wife because she sees sex, even in marriage, as sinful?
Question: I have been married for over 30 years. My wife has a sexual dysfunction and is not freely willing to have sex. We have not had sex in a year. However, she masturbates alone regularly. It is a chore to her to have marital sex and it is something she does rarely, and when…
Read MoreHow do you distinguish between sin and areas for growth?
Question: Thank you for your reply. That was helpful. I agree we need to be mindful of differing levels of maturity. The crux of the matter comes down to this: (maturity issues aside) when is sin involved? Let me frame this issue another way: the brother in Romans 14 who abstains from all meat does…
Read MoreShould I divorce my wife?
Question: I was married a few years ago to my loving wife. I have been touched by God due to the level of faith and love in my Father my God in Heaven that lives in me. I had several spiritual experiences throughout my life that it is very easy to explain but very difficult…
Read MoreIf divorce is allowed, then shouldn’t polygamy be allowed?
Question: I’m replying to a question I asked earlier, to which you posted your answer as “If a country permits polygamy, is there a biblical reason not to have multiple wives?” You said this: “Mankind often practices things of which God disapproves. God regulates the practices, but it would be a mistake to say that…
Read MoreNEEDED: The Discipline to Do the Unpleasant!
by William C. Sexton Some years ago I heard a sermon by a young preacher who made some pertinent points relative to a passage from I Kings 20:42, which says, “Then he said to him, “Thus says the LORD: ‘Because you have let slip out of <your> hand a man whom I appointed to utter…
Read MoreMy wife and I aren’t talking anymore. What do I do?
Question: I think I’ve damaged my marriage so badly that my wife wants a divorce. I’m controlling and I’m hard on the kids. I need to act better to them and be less overbearing, especially to my eldest. But I do love my kids dearly. My wife thinks I’ve cheated on her, yet I never have. I called a…
Read MoreDying Wedding Vows
by Joe R. Price Remember when “honor and obey” was a standard part of wedding vows? Then, the feminist movement said, “No way will I vow to obey my husband!” Today, you rarely hear a couple using this worthy vow to recognize and accept the roles and relationships God established in marriage (Genesis 2:22-24; 3:16;…
Read MoreIs God cleansing the earth with these recent storms?
Question: Is God cleansing the earth with these recent storms? If so, is it because of divorce and the return of the Nephilim? Answer: While the Bible discloses that God has used storms in the past to accomplish His will, the Bible warns man not to try and second guess God. “”For My thoughts are…
Read MoreShould a husband leave a wife he cannot trust?
Question: I have written to you several times and each time you have given me helpful advice. A little background: I assaulted my wife and later my wife had an affair. I have been trying to move forward in our marriage, but I can’t trust her no matter how hard I try. I can’t believe the words…
Read MoreDoes it matter who files for the divorce?
Question: When you say that someone may divorce their spouse due to fornication, does it matter who actually files the papers? A woman I know moved out of her house, filed divorce papers, and then started dating another man. Her husband didn’t know for sure if she was committing adultery since he did not have…
Read MoreDoes my divorce mean I failed as a wife?
Question: Thank you, for your response. My pastor did not support my decision to divorce my husband. I was very active and have a deep spiritual conviction, but have felt like I am being condemned and told I am a hypocrite for deciding it was best for my family to leave my marriage. My ex-husband is…
Read MoreShould a wife leave because of sexual assault?
Question: My husband abused me sexually. I was willing to have intercourse with him, but he couldn’t become fulfilled unless he was hurting me. According to the Scriptures, I was to fulfill him, but was I to fulfill him when he was hurting me, both mentally and physically? I felt this was wrong in God’s…
Read MoreIs divorce a sin?
Question: I have been a Christian and a member of the church for ten years. I have been studying and I have some Bible questions: In Matthew 19:18 Jesus gives direct commands concerning murder, adultery, stealing and giving false testimony. Since Jesus gives us a direct command not to do these things, then failing to follow those…
Read MoreIs there a time limit on seeking a divorce?
Question: My wife had an affair about a year ago. She said she wanted to stay married and we should work on our marriage. I signed us up for counseling; she went to one session and has not gone back. She also seems to be doing some of the same things she was doing before…
Read MoreIs divorce only acknowledged when it is done for fornication?
Question: What do you think about this situation: Bob divorces Mary not for fornication (she gets fat, or ugly, or burns the cornbread). Bob and Mary have three children and she has always been a housewife with limited education. She begs Bob not to leave her, He leaves her and their children anyway. Two years…
Read MoreWhat is your stand on marriage, divorce, and remarriage?
Question: What is your stance on marriage, divorce, and remarriage as taught by Ron Halbrook, Tim Haile, and others? Answer: I find the current controversy on marriage, divorce, and remarriage sounding much like what Paul warned against. “As I urged you when I went into Macedonia — remain in Ephesus that you may charge some…
Read MoreDoes rape within a marriage lead to divorce?
Question: Does rape within a marriage lead to the marriage ending in divorce? Answer: Spousal Rape If by “rape within a marriage” you are referring to the recent concept of spousal rape, then I must object to the terminology. By the definition of the word “rape,” it cannot take place between a husband and wife.…
Read MoreShould I divorce my unfaithful wife?
Question: My wife had three children out of wedlock before we got married and has just informed me that she had sex with someone else during our marriage. I think I have the right to divorce, but my question is: what should I do? It appears to me that she cannot be faithful. Answer: “He…
Read MoreShould I leave this marriage?
Question: My wife had three children before we met and has now had an affair. Is she unmarriageable and should I leave this marriage? Answer: Unfortunately, there is insufficient information in this question for me to answer in regards to your personal situation. You did not mention whether your wife was married prior to your…
Read MoreIs spousal rape grounds for divorce?
Question: Does spousal rape constitute fornication, or sexual immorality, thus giving grounds for divorce and remarriage? Answer: Some questions are difficult – not because we cannot clearly state the truth, but because the way the questions are worded cause you to make assumptions that may not be true. A classic example is “Are you still…
Read MoreDoes spousal rape constitute fornication?
Question: Does spousal rape constitute fornication, or sexual immorality, thus giving grounds for divorce and remarriage? Answer: Some questions are difficult – not because we cannot clearly state the truth, but because the way the questions are worded cause you to make assumptions that may not be true. A classic example is “Are you still…
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