Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
I know God has forgiven me, but I had committed adultery and I can’t forgive myself
Question: I went looking for answers on the web because I too had committed adultery, but it was many years ago when I was young. I was a virgin at the time – very naive about matters in regards to men and women. I was born into a strict Italian home with a harsh Dad…
Read MoreI caught my husband committing incest. We are now separated, but I’m being told I owe him sex. I don’t plan to return to this man, so do I owe him sex while we are separated?
Question: My husband and I both attend the same church but we are separated. I have no intention of reconciling with him. I have been separated from him before and took him back after he stated that he was born again and was a “changed man”. We moved back together, had rocky times, but I…
Read MoreI married a woman in name only so she could become a citizen of my country. I have a girlfriend and a child by her. How do I fix this mess?
Question: I have a question. I married someone so that they might become a citizen of my country. I did not do this for money, but because I felt it the right thing to do at the time, although I was aware I might be misusing marriage as God intended. We have never been intimately…
Read MoreMy husband cheated and I cheated. I lived with a man for years before the divorce was final. We eventually married, but did I have the right to marry again?
Question: As I read through some of your posts on adultery, one comes strongly out to me. I will explain my situation: I married a man. I didn’t talk to God or parents before it and we were kids, even as adults we were kids. Then we had a kid. He cheated, I cheated. We…
Read MoreAre there such things as “mamzers” — good and bad seeds?
Question: I am confused about good seeds and bad seeds and the children produced from the joining of good and bad seed; called “mamzers.” Could you give me some help, please? If there are children, they are supposed to be void — neither good or bad. Would I be considered one for my father was…
Read MoreWill just one sin, such as adultery, keep you out of heaven?
Question: A lady with a Baptist background asked me if I thought one sin would keep her from Heaven. She said “suppose a person was living in an adulterous marriage, but done everything else right such as attending church, studying the Bible, etc. Would this person go to Heaven?” Could you direct me to a…
Read MoreI had an affair and divorced my husband. Now I have married again. Is it wrong to stay married to this second man?
Question: I know divorce is wrong. I know adultery is wrong. I have committed adultery, got a divorce and I have remarried to a man that I had an affair with. He and I both go to church now and we both know we have sinned and have asked for forgiveness from God and our…
Read MoreCan I marry the brother of a man with whom I had committed adultery 15 years ago?
Question: I entered into a long-distance relationship with a man who happens to be the brother of someone with whom I had sexual relationships with more than 15 years ago. I was never married to the man, although we lived together for a couple of months. We lived in adultery and fornication because the man…
Read MoreI was involved in porn and prostitution, but I repented since getting caught. My wife still wants to divorce me. Do I deserve a chance to show I’ve changed?
Question: I have been a Christian, a member of the church of Christ, since the age of 13. I also have been in the grasp of sexual addiction all that time. I married, almost a quarter-century ago, a beautiful Christian lady who deserved better. Through the years I have used porn and escorts to satisfy…
Read MoreI wonder if Jesus would approve my getting divorced and how do you forgive a husband who is an unrepentant adulterer?
Question: I am seriously considering divorcing my husband. We are separated and I have reason to believe he has committed adultery. I understand that if he has, and I divorce him, I am free to marry another. However, I see it is an option given to us in scripture under such circumstances. My dilemma is that while I feel it…
Read MoreI just found out my husband had an affair eight years ago. Am I free to leave this marriage?
Question: I would like some more information on fornication. My husband confessed to me this morning that he had a physical affair with a co-worker eight years ago. He said it just happened once and he has hated himself for it ever since. His behavior so long ago explains a lot of the way he…
Read MoreHow do you move on when your husband leaves you for another person?
Question: How do you move on when your husband leaves you for another person, and he is a Christian who knows better? Answer: I’m really sorry about your plight. It must be devastating. The thing to keep in mind is that you can only do what is within your ability to control. Your husband was…
Read MoreShould I tell my husband that I committed adultery?
Question: I’m a born again Christian. In the last two years my marriage was having problems. I knew my husband was cheating on me, but I didn’t have proof, so I in return cheated on him. I found out he cheated because the young lady texts him. But he never found out about my affairs…
Read MoreI’ve committed sexual sins, but how do I get past the feeling that I’ve ruined everything?
Question: Hello, I ran across your web site some time ago and liked your responses to many questions – you tell it like it is. So now I have run across one of those same situations and I’m probably going to sound exactly like a lot of those other people. I guess sooner or later…
Read MoreCan a divorced person remarry if adultery occurred after the divorce?
Question: If two people are divorced for unbiblical grounds and there is no adultery at the time, yet one spouse after the divorce marries someone else or is sexually immoral is the other then free to remarry another? Answer: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another,…
Read MoreDo I need to renew my vows with my current husband since my former husband has died?
Question: I have spoken to several sound brethren who are elders and ministers in churches of Christ in regard to marriage, divorce, and remarriage. This is the situation that I addressed to them concerning myself: I was in a previous marriage with a man for twelve years. The man I was married to had a…
Read MoreMy wife left me six weeks ago and I am at my wit’s end
Question: Hello, My wife left me six weeks ago. My life has been a living nightmare since then. I really don’t know the real reason for her leaving. When she left, she told me that she didn’t think she should be here anymore and she thought she was attracted to women. I found out bits…
Read MoreI’ve committed adultery and I don’t know where to begin picking up the pieces of my shattered marriage
Question: I am a young wife who has committed adultery and I am unsure where to go from here. I have told my husband and we are trying to work through all of this, but I still feel like my husband and I are not meant to be together. I have just finished The Proper Care…
Read MoreIf a Christian commits adultery and dies without repenting of his sin, will he go to hell?
Question: Hypothetical: If a Christian commits adultery and dies without ever asking forgiveness of this sin (whether he lives 5 seconds after committing adultery or 5 years), does he go to Hell because he did not repent of this sin? Selected references: Galatians 5:19-21; Ephesians 5:3-6: I Corinthians 6:9-11. Answer: Jesus stated, “I tell you,…
Read MoreCan a person remarry if their spouse commits adultery after the divorce?
Question: I want to ask you about two people who have divorced. I understand they are supposed to remain unmarried, and if one of them does get married later, he is living in adultery. Is the other person free to marry, since in God’s eyes they are still connected to their first spouse, have broken…
Read MoreMy husband left his third wife for reasons other than fornication. What do I do?
Question: My husband has been divorced. I read some of the topics about divorce and it really scares me. My husband was divorced three times. The first two divorces were filed because his ex-wives were cheating on him. But the third divorced is different. It was filed because it wasn’t working between his ex-third wife…
Read MoreA Biblical View of Marriage and Homosexuality
by Doy Moyer Christians should be able to define clearly what the Bible teaches are marriage and sexuality, particularly in a cultural climate that increasingly defends homosexuality. This is really about what the Bible teaches, so let’s walk through this a little. Before looking at the biblical case, we need to consider a foundational disjunction.…
Read MoreWould I still have the right to remarry if I slept with another man before my divorce was final?
Question: Hi! I have a serious question: My husband walked out on me after 20 years of marriage. He has had numerous affairs. He has been gone for 2 years. I finally filed our divorce five months ago and it may be over within the month. For the past year, he has been living with…
Read MoreIf a person is married under false pretenses, is it still a valid marriage?
Question: Does the Bible mention false marriages or are all marriages valid? This year alone, three women who escaped from Michigan prisons more than thirty years ago have been captured and returned to Michigan. One woman who has received a lot of attention moved to California, changed her name, got married, raised a family, and…
Read MoreWhat can I do? I am new to this country and my husband is seeing another woman
Question: My problem seems to be really big for me. My husband doesn’t care about our marriage, but I want it. He wants me to leave, but it is impossible for me to leave as I have been in this country for a few months and I don’t know my way around. I left my…
Read MoreCan my husband be under the spell of a witch?
Question: I want to know if witchcraft really exists. My husband, I feel, is under a spell where he goes to this lady and they are having an affair. We have known each other for ten years and got married last year. Soon after marriage, he got involved with her. He was trying to help…
Read MoreAre you familiar with Jerry Bassett’s teaching on marriage, divorce, and remarriage?
Question: I was talking to a preacher and he told me several things I had never heard before regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage. I would like to go into detail about this, but I am still studying what he told me. But I would like to ask you a question in relation to this. I…
Read MoreHow do you deal with sin in the church when the elders disagree?
Question: I am writing this on behalf of several individuals involved in this particular situation. We are having a very difficult time deciding how to deal with these problems and would appreciate your thoughts on the matter. A member of our congregation is living in an adulterous marriage. He was approached by two elders and…
Read MoreYou should stop bullying people about sexual sins
Question: Preaching fire and brimstone to young, confused and naive children when they turn to you for advice and help in what is surely a very scary time is despicable. I suggest in the future you direct their questions to reliable medical sites that might actually help them with their problems rather than scare them…
Read MoreWholesome Adultery?
by Sherman Wilson In the Saturday, June 24, 1995 issue of the Owensboro Messenger-Inquirer, our local daily newspaper, the entertainment section contained a capsule review of the movies currently showing in our city. I quote from the review of The Bridges of Madison County: “From Clint Eastwood comes a wholesome romance about adultery.” Now I ask,…
Read MoreDoes fornication include adultery, or are people only looking for another way out of marriage?
Question: I emailed you before regarding marriage and divorce and remarriage. I must admit I emailed hastily before reading your entire view on this. After reading more, I agree with most of what you said on this highly debated topic of the Bible. As a new Christian and one that is going through a very…
Read MoreIf a husband commits adultery after his wife divorces him, can she remarry?
Question: My sister has decided to leave her physically abusive, alcoholic husband. She doesn’t have plans to divorce him and is hoping that eventually, he’ll realize he needs help. She knows what a scriptural divorce is and that this does not constitute remarriage. I don’t think he will ever change, but it would not surprise…
Read MoreIf a person is in an adulterous relationship, must they leave their partner and children?
Question: If a person marries a person who had been divorced but not for a scriptural reason though he presented himself as having a scriptural reason for divorce and so they marry. Then later, the innocent party finds out that the other party did not, in fact, have a scriptural reason for divorce. What then?…
Read MoreWhy Sex Without Being Married is a Sin
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/WhySexWithoutBeingMarriedIsASin.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: II Corinthians 12:19-21 I. I received the following note: “Hi! I’m a 21 year old girl from Iceland, and I found this site by accident as I was looking for answers on the Internet about … contraception. I found the answer here and want to thank you for a good…
Read MoreWhat do you think about this divorce situation I ran into in Chile?
Question: I got an interesting question: In Chile divorce was illegal until a year ago or so. Well, divorce was allowed in Chile, but you had to have two witnesses say they saw the person in adultery. There’s a couple in the church who, about 20 years back, each cheated on respective spouses with their…
Read MoreIf the man I committed adultery with is getting divorced, can I marry him?
Question: I have committed adultery with a married man and now their marriage is breaking. This man and I have realized our mistakes and we ask pardon from God daily. But he is getting divorced. Is it right for me to marry him? Would I be committing adultery again? Answer: If he is being divorced…
Read MoreThe Lord of the Ring
by Kent Heaton “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). During the wedding ceremony, the giving of rings symbolizes the token of pledges made to one another for purity, fidelity, and honor. The circular nature of…
Read MoreDo I stay with my husband or run off with my lover?
Question: Thank you so much for responding to my email. This is truly a very hard thing for me and I hate even telling it just because I know how it sounds. I feel as if I could burst because I get so overwhelmed. This email may get long so forgive but I feel I…
Read MoreIs it a sin to have sex with my ex-husband?
Question: Is it a sin if you are having intercourse with your ex-husband? The reason for divorce is adultery. He has a girlfriend but denies it. He is a born again Christian. I still love him but he never speaks about making up, we only have intercourse. Is this biblically wrong? Answer: “Marriage is honorable…
Read MoreAm I being selfish asking my wife for sex after having an emotional affair with another woman?
Question: Last year I became involved in an emotional affair with my ex-girlfriend. During that time I was very hurtful to my wife. The affair ended, I came to my senses and am in counseling right now. I know that I caused a lot of damage to our marriage and because of this, my wife…
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